Why are you sad today /soc/?
Girlfriend dumped me this past week because I moved to a new city, finally found a job after 2 months of searching but have only $2 in the bank but I owe $700 of rent on Tuesday. Had a call with my mom and she told me I was an accident.
Come in here and be sad with me people
>>23411623
Due to emotional abuse by a girl in my tweens I'm mentally about 10 years behind everyone else my age in terms of relationships and flirting and as such I am completely oblivious to attempts to get in my pants in the moment making me badically incabable of getting laid despite having had more opportunities to do so in the past 7 years than mamy guys will have in their lives.
I'm probably gonna turn out to be a serial rapist/killer in about 20 years.
Fuck my life.
>>23411623
Well fuck..
>>23411664
That sucks man, I was like that for a while until my latest girlfriend bashed me over the head with logic
>>23411673
I know dude, Im fucked
>>23411684
>bashed me over the head with logic
Elaborate. Tbh every girl I've met so far that I actually feel comfortable attempting to get intimate with are in extremely stable relationships. I'm honestly real close to running out of hope and just spending the rest of my life jerking off to porn all day in my fucking basement.
Metastatic cancer. Got no one to talk about it with. The absurd thing is, I have no friends whatsoever and I'm posting on the Internet, knowing that people won't believe it.
Life is good so fucking good.
>>23411705
We were both single and she basically sat me down telling me she wanted me, I was comfortable enough with her at that point so that it wasnt awkward, and she taught me how to approach women and helped me get comfortable I guess
I'm being used by my roommate for sex, rent money, and food.
The sex is great, sure, but I care much more about them than they care about me, and after a few months of this same charade I'm starting to lose my mind.
'Make love to me... Okay, thanks, now I'm going to go hang out with 'friends' until 4am, come home super drunk / coked up, and beg for more satisfaction until I roll over and pass out. Oh, I know you have work at 6, but I don't really care. Did you pay rent yet by the way?'
>>23411729
my skype is Joel Jazzhands feel free to talk anytime man
>>23411766
Nothing is worse than the feeling of being used
>>23411623
The guy I'm interested in is busy flirting with someone else and completely disregards and rejects any and all signals I'm trying to send his way. He isn't interested, and I'm slowly losing hope for things to develop beyond basic stuff.
The other guy I used to be on good terms with now hates my guts after a dumb argument I caused and is avoiding and ignoring me everywhere and at all costs.
On top of that, a bunch of other life things will likely force me to temporarily abandon education stuff and get a job to sustain things with.
It feels like everyone I'm interested in isn't interested or gets scared off by me and everything is trying its hardest to work against me.
I just want to have someone right now, fuck. It feels like it's all going nowhere.
>>23411807
It sounds really stupid, and I'm sure as fuck not taking my own advice buuuuut...
Just work on yourself. Focus on making yourself happy, and this guy will hopefully want to be a part of it, or help you achieve your goals. If not him, someone will.
The one who is ignoring you will likely come back in some fashion, just be ready for when he does.
>>23411807
You shouldn't hurt yourself for a guy who isn't interested. Break it off, completely if you can't just be friends.
>It feels like everyone I'm interested in isn't interested or gets scared off by me and everything is trying its hardest to work against me.
100% feel you there
I'm worried about being alone forever
I'm not very smart and I'm not very good with people
never been approached by a man before. Except once in high school but that turned out to be a joke.
I really want a family, babies and stuff, but that won't happen if no one wants me, and even if I did I'm worried I would mess my kids up. I'm really really dumb and I'm also autistic, my brain doesn't work right
I feel like it's kind of too late, I'm too old to be this inexperienced, no one wants to have to teach me things
>>23411732
I met someone like that too. After only a few month we were both saying how glad we met each other and how amazingly well we got along. After she opened up to me about relationship issues she went through I opened up to her and told her my life's story, and she responded extremely sympatheticaly. Only issue is that she and her boyfriend's relationship was strengthened by the ordeal, and after I played on her admittly highly promiscuous past by asking if she could fuck me just once to help me get over my issues, she turned me down and said the only help she could offer was if I could ask her boyfriend for advice because apparently he's an expert at "playing the game". I spent the next week trying not to kill myself out of sheer hopelessness. And as I mentioned she wasn't the only girl I was extremely comfortable with but was also extremely unavailable.
Everytime I think I'm getting close and stop worrying about it I get put back to square one when I least expect it. Did I mention that I'm only 21 and passionately regret my high school years and everything afterwards because of the amount of sex/girlfriends I should have had?
I despise my life.
>>23411831
>Just work on yourself. Focus on making yourself happy, and this guy will hopefully want to be a part of it, or help you achieve your goals. If not him, someone will.
I'm really trying, damn it, but it just feels like a long downward spiral.
While I try to focus on one thing, other things end up getting pushed back and I feel awful for neglecting those, and then I'm trying to work on those, but more shit comes my way and everything crashes and burns.
Then the guy shows up and is like "Hey, what happened to this thing you've been neglecting?" and I'm all "fuck, I'm trying to get my shit together", and he thinks I'm just slacking off and being lazy.
He's currently telling me about this girl he's chatting up and plans to meet up with her sometime soon. How I'd love to tell him that I wish he'd be that involved when it came to meeting up with me and doing something, ANYTHING.
>The one who is ignoring you will likely come back in some fashion, just be ready for when he does.
I'm slowly doubting that. A friend of mine has been talking to him about it, and things basically summed up to a "I don't want to see Anon again, ever".
It was all so great and nice and then I just began being a bitch and made him hate me and throw lines at me which haunt me to this day because they are absolutely true and I will never be able to show him that I've been working on it because he refuses to acknowledge me.
there's a dog who came into work (animal shelter) that we may have to euthanize because he's so sickly. he's a purebred australian shepherd that's inbred as hell (his original owners were breeders that dumped him when they found out he wouldn't be useful for breeding) and born without eyes, which isn't that uncommon with the breed. he's also partially deaf and terrified of other dogs
but the biggest reason is that he has a some sort of neurological/spinal abnormality that makes his black legs move faster than his front ones, and can hardly walk or even stand. he gets so disoriented that we can't even take him out to shit without attacking anything that touches him, including whoever is walking him, it's even worse if he hears another dog bark. there's a surgery that could potentially help, but it's more likely to further cripple him than anything, and it's so costly we can't afford to do it anyway. been trying and trying other solutions, and nothing has helped. just got an email that he's being euthanized in the next couple days. would post a pic, but it's technically an open legal case
feels bad man. I normally love my job, but sometimes there's certain ones that just rip your heart out
>>23411859
damn but man youre still young, sex is just sex and women are just people, learn to treat it as such, it doesnt need to be what defines you, theres a big future ahead of you
>>23411871
Thats always tough, is there still any chance at just a regular friendship? this relationship pursuits sounds painful
>>23411856
>I'm too old to be this inexperienced, no one wants to have to teach me things
That's literally my exact problem. Only difference is that the inexperience stems from lost years due to emotional abuse. I'm a perfectly capable, intelligent, social, and interesting enough to get girls interested. I just absolutely have no fucking clue how to take it any further than a casual friendship and its fucking killing me.
>>23411887
Holy shit thats tough I have a soft spot for dogs ever since mine died as a puppy
>>23411871
All you can really do is just keep going. Again, I know how utterly stupid it sounds, but those things will fall in to place slowly but surely and you'll get your shit together.
What exactly did you do to him that was so bitchy?
>>23411896
I think that might actually be worse, to be so close and never able to go any further
sorry
>>23411887
Everyone has been yelling at me to start looking into animal shelter or vet kinda stuff, and I've been dodging my way around it precisely because of things like these.
I couldn't bear to look at my own pets without being reminded of whatever horrible things the animals I'd have to work with might be suffering from.
You've my utmost condolences, and as awful as it sounds, try to look at things in a positive way.
Letting them drag you down only makes everything worse. It's exactly what has happened to me ever since I stopped being optimistic.
>>23411893
It's steering towards exactly that, but I don't want to give up just like that, even though there's little hope, if at all.
It's just... It's like salt in the wound when he tells me about these things, or when anyone I'm interested into starts losing interest and meeting up with others.
Whenever that happens, I just feel betrayed or put aside in favour of whatever looks more appealing.
It's happened often enough already and I can feel it nagging on me whenever situations like these occur, and even though friends try to assure me that it's nothing like that, it never lets go of me and I get pissy and all, just because I can't speak up my mind.
>>23411921
It's such an uphill battle, though. I just wish I could hold the stone in place for a bit, or just let it roll down and let it crush me or something.
>What exactly did you do to him that was so bitchy?
I got jealous at him for talking to someone and let it out in the worst way possible. He got angry at me and told me I'm an absolute chore to talk to because of outbursts like these, and things flatlined there.
Me being a stupid cunt resulted in lashing out some more when I saw him again after, and well.
Just kill me or something.
I've this urge to just go and write the guy that I want to go out on a date with him, but I'd feel as though he'd laugh it off as a joke in an attempt to avoid it. We've been talking too long and he'd awkwardly avoid the topic.
I have never had a grillefriend. My photo was rated low on /soc/ today. I have sore throat.
Git on my level
>>23411952
Find a better guy then it seems he doesnt really appreciate/care how you feel
I'm not happy. But I don't know if i'm sad. I've been like this for years. Maybe i'm just bored.
>>23411893
>damn but man youre still young, sex is just sex and women are just people, learn to treat it as such
The thing is when I do, any attempts to flirt with me go right over my head due to said inexperience. I'm getting more and more comfortable around women, but as I get older and older they assume I have more and more experience and therefore get more and more subtle, always staying just a few steps ahead of me. Worst part is that I usually realize that I fucked about 5 minutes after she leaves. And I make note of things I do wrong so I don't make the same mistake, but I've never been put in the same situation twice. Well I have, but the very few times it happened the girls were extremely different, so again the thought never crossed my mind. I just don't wanna be a fucking virgin till I'm 40 and start getting old, because I'm always losing this race.
And it very much does define me because for whatever reason girls are always showing interest in me, so it's extremely hard to just put it out of my mind. That and the porn addiction I acquired in junior high from having so much of said attention from females but not being able to do anything about it is starting to interfere with my schoolwork.
Sometimes I swear I'm living in a movie because of the sheer amount of coincidental, interconnectex events coming together to make the perfect recipe for a broken existence.
Trust me, if there's any mentality to try and get over this, I've probably tried it by now.
>>23411952
You're right, it's an uphill battle, but you can do it. You'll feel amazing when you do.
And write the guy, you have nothing to lose.
>>23411926
Thanks. No offence but your admittedly mediocre personality at least means that there's a greater chance of you meeting somebody that gets you who isn't already taken.
I wish you the best of luck.
Im sad because I'm old and my life is based around my sex addiction, and I cannot function within the confines of a normal relationship. Eventually I'll be too old to draw in the kinds of women that turn me on, and I'll die alone and unloved and probably wont be found until the mailman notices the mail piling up.
>>23412023
At least you can satisfy your addiction with actual women.
I feel incredibly shit too tonight and this thread isn't doing me any good either, does someone at least have any kind of success story?
I feel shit because my two year long relationship has been a lie. Few months back we broke up violently. I learned a month or two later from a girl that my ex never existed, that is, she was an alias of the actual girl who never had any real interest in me but I was useful to keep around and do things for her. Anyway we talked the other day and she sort of insults me for still being a virginfag. Feels bad yo.
>>23412061
:^)
>>23411983
I wish he'd reciprocate things, like he did when we began writing. He seemed far more interesting and interested back then, compared to now.
I don't want to just give up. I've always done that.
>>23412009
I'm working on it. I just hope it'll work out eventually, somehow.
The urge to make the circumstances more favourable by unspeakable means are there, but I refuse to act upon them.
>And write the guy, you have nothing to lose.
Except for the hope of things going somewhere, as well as a more or less developed friendship, which I really don't want to burn down without getting anything out of it whatsoever.
But you know what? Fuck it.
I'd rather be honest and get rejected the harsh, classic way, than not try at all and become more of a depressed slob than I already am.
Worst comes to worst, he's grossed out and stops writing me and I got my peace of mind, up until the point where my mind wonders what I screwed up.
I'll ask him if he'd like to go out one of these days and be blunt, and if he rejects it, I'll probably be reduced to a crying, sobbing mess, but at least I'll have tried.
I'll have failed, but that's better than refusing to acknowledge failure. Or I might not, and everything suddenly becomes amazing and perfect.
Here's hoping I won't ditch the thought over night.
Take care, and thanks for the support. Sorry for blogging it up in here.
>>23412074
Don't apologize. It's much easier for me to use my energy caring about other people than my own garbage. Good luck. We're rooting for you.
GF skipped town on friday. Not a word from her, she just up and left, ditched her phone and told me she wasn;t talking to me anymore.
I tried to kill myself, actually.
Now I'm at the point where they're forcing me to be alive, and I've given up on life, so I'm just sitting on the net trying to hit up sluts to fill this existential void.
>>23412088
What the fuck? Thats really super uncool
>>23412074
Well consider would it be easier to let go now?
>>23412088
>Not a word from her, she just up and left, ditched her phone and told me she wasn;t talking to me anymore.
I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. I fucking hate that more than anything. Why is simply letting somebody know what went wrong so fucking hard? Do these psychopathic bitches even realize how fucking damaging this is? If they can't handle it and hide from confrontantion how the hell ddo they think we're supposed to deal with it?
>>23412088
Seriously can't imagine how I'd handle that situation. I guess maybe about the same. Did anything lead up to it?
>>23411623
A very important friend/ex of mine got married and emigrated to Norway to start a brand new life. This life doesn't include me in any way.
One of my closest friends is in serious shit with his job and I don't know if I'll be able to help.
My last serious relationship ended horrifically, and now here I am, alone, a borderline alcoholic living in an apartment the two of us shared together.
There's a girl who really, really cares for me, but because of what a mess I am emotionally, I can't reciprocate, and because I'm a coward and I need human contact, I can't break it to her.
Yet another ex of mine from about 6/7 years ago has come back into my life properly, although she's still been a presence over that time in varying degrees. She's flying over here in a month to spend a week with me. We're going to do typical boyfriend/girlfriend things, because we're doing a stupid online fuck/fling/friend thing, but the thing is, she is deathly afraid of relationships, and doesn't want one. I don't know if I do, but even if I did, it'd be impractical.
The sad part about this is that she's basically the thing holding me together, because it was when I was with her that I really started getting a handle on my identity and who I was, and having someone from back then around is helping me build myself up. I know it's going to end terribly, but I don't want to do this alone.
i feel despair, but also a love for the universe that keeps me alive. i've been a shut in for the past couple years, it hasnt been nice. darkest time of my life. i'm trying to pick myself up out of it, but i just cant. i dont know what it will take for me to finally get it together and get back into the world. i know i am capable, but my motivation is just gone. i cant talk to my family about most things. the only friends i have are online. i'm broken
>>23412210
/thats rough man it sounds like you have a lot of serious thinking ahead of you
>>23412168
She was gone for 5 days, but she's always been passive aggressive and would ignore me for seemingly no reason at all. But when she wasn't at school I got super worried, rushed to her house, and she wasnt there, and then to her work and I found her. But she wouldn't say where she'd been.
I just chalked it up to her being stubborn at the time...
>>23412250
Yeah, I do. I mean, I know what I have to do, but doing it is a different matter.
My support network isn't what it used to be, and after living with someone for so long, it's hard to go back to feeling comfortable being alone.
>>23412272
Yeah its a shitty situation, you just gotta find good people wholl support you and just be encouraging the rest is really up to you
>>23411623
Because now I have to wait 3 days to deadlift again
