ITT: ask the opposite gender anything
>>22994270
ITT: Betas asking confused betas sex questions
Why do white men pretend to like Asian women?
>>22994301
Because they have this idea in their head of pure and innocent asian cuties even tough women are the same all around the world.
Asked this in the old thread, but got some good feedback so I'll broaden it for the sake of the new thread.
GUYS AND GRILLS:
What do you wish the opposite sex knew about your bits? What is a common mistake you see or hear about when they're dealing with your junk? What advice would you give? Etc.
>inb4 Everyone's different anon,
I know, just tell us about your junk then so we can tally up the data and get a general on average tip.
>>22994411
Frenulum. Read up on it.
>>22994270
M'ladies. How do you want to be hit on?
> inb4 not at all
>>22994411
Femanon answering my own question:
This is pretty obvious and most of you I'm sure are aware, yet surprisingly still happens quite a bit. If you're going to finger a girl, please check the status of your nails. I've been wolverined from the inside out too many times man.
Only other thing I've got is pay attention to the whole thing, not just the clit/gspot. That's like the girl version of "don't ignore the balls" I guess lol.
>>22994428
In the correct setting (I.E a social setting where it's reasonable to expect to be hit on) and casually but honestly.
Like your opening line shouldn't be "aye baby want some fuck?" but don't beat around the bush with your intentions and what you want either. Subtle enough to not be creepy/look pathetically thirsty, but confident and direct enough I don't have to guess what you want from me.
Start conversation with something relevant to the setting, work up from there.
>>22994270
I'm 90% sure my girlfriend is bi-sexual, she watches all girl porn, comments on girls asses as they walk by, she goes to strip clubs with me and we comment to eachother about the cheerleaders at NFL games.
Should I press her to experiment like a FMF threesome type deal or could this backfire into full on lesbianism?
>>22994411
To guys: What do you want girls to do when you're banging them?
>>22994456
Fem anon: ask her if she's curious about sex with another woman, then the threesome if it's appropriate.
>>22994466
Go with the sensations, I can't tell if you like what I am doing or not if you suppress what feels good.
also if Doggystyle (fucking shit we need a new name for that) arch the back.
>>22994466
Let me tie them up. Whine. Perhaps struggle a little. :3
Oh, and have a positive attitude towards clothespins. :3
>>22994411
This was covered a little in the other thread but go easy on the tip since too much attention makes it over sensitive, so focus on the shaft especially and of course balls. Also after cumming, the tip is extremely sensitive to the point of pain so go easy on it or just leave it alone after. Also light teasing like hands moving along the thighs and that sort of thing.
>>22994466
Wrap your legs around us and really hold onto us for dear life. It's really hot if you're really into it.
>>22994485
That is my plan, I'm just worried about if she tries it and then decides there is no place for dick in her life any more.
>>22994301
>why do people pretend asians aretn grossssssss
>>22994498
> after cumming, the tip is extremely sensitive to the point of pain
What. Are you cut?
Dudes, are you intimidated by a woman who drives a stick and most likely knows more about your car than you do?
>>22994513
No. I'm intimidated by a woman who can beat me in a fistfight. Or possibly by an aggressive CEO type or something.
Mechanical knowledge is 2 qt.
>>22994513
Not really, I like most guys am not a faggot who finds cars interesting. I'd just find you really fucking dull, sports on the other hand, I can't date a girl who doesn't love football.
>>22994508
Uncut so very sensitive. Cuts don't have a problem with it mostly.
>>22994513
Nope. I'd find it pretty refreshing and I'd probably help out and learn stuff from her.
>>22994455
After spending 10 minutes of thought on this I think you're asking for the impossible here.
To what degree is failing to meet these standards acceptable?
>>22994411
I like a firm squeeze of my tits with light nipple play/sucking. I don't want my nipples to be twisted like radio dials. I don't want someone kneading my tits like a kitten trying to get milk from its mother. A good solid squeeze, light nipple play, and some caressing will get me there faster than anything else you could possibly come up with.
Thoughts on if I ask a guy to take photos of us with my phone or fool around and make a video/stream it with my computer? What if I make it known that I will share these videos or photos?
Everyone: Any benefits to LDRs?
>>22994301
No idea
I think they're ugly
>>22994544
Depends if you want a committed relationship, LDRs die real quick if you aren't meant to be because there is no sex to keep you in the game.
>>22994513
No that'd be preferable since I know fuck all about cars
>>22994540
>Thoughts on if I ask a guy to take photos of us with my phone or fool around and make a video/stream it with my computer? What if I make it known that I will share these videos or photos?
It depends on where you'd be sharing the photos/videos. I guess I'd be cool with it if we were in a relationship or just fuck buddies, but not if I was a one nighter.
>>22994544
I guess if you're lonely it might help you feel better but a general rule is that LDRs will always fail eventually.
>>22994513
No, that's actually really awesome. I'd find it really attractive and assume that you're too cool to have any interest in me.
>>22994556
Not always, me and my girlfriend were LDR for a year and a half before I moved over to be with her and we are still going strong 2 years later, you just need an end game planned out.
Are there women who find the idea of being prostituted by their bf arousing?
>>22994513
nope
>>22994553
>>22994556
Yeah, that's what I've thought. Doesn't matter though it's making me feel good atm :)
>>22994577
Not a girl myself but this a common fantasy my girlfriend likes to indulge in so I'd say yes.
just to add we just role-play it, I would never share her.
>>22994569
I'm glad it work for you anon. It's just with some LDrs they either met once or only met over the internet and then it failed or they finally met IRL and were awkward and then it failed. I know a few friends who had that and it was just sad and uncomfortable.
>>22994569
how long was the distance may I ask
>>22994596
I was in Adelaide and she was in NYC. I moved over to NYC, I miss my country but this place isnt so bad.
>>22994601
Adelaide is in Australia btw
>>22994601
oh holy shit, that's pretty far away
like I'm not in one atm but could be close desu senpai
similar distances too
>>22994577
Interesting, yes, but I don't think I'd do it in a committed relationship. If I had a fwb who kind of suggested or brought over guys for me, I probably wouldn't mind terribly.
>>22994466
Well, honestly feels better when the lady is active and looking for her pleasure. I have encountered so many times that they just expect to be sexed up, and I really get turned on when I see initiative and passion. Who knows, maybe it´s me not turning them on enough for such passion...
Do you agree?
>>22994683
100%
>>22994301
Same reason non whites like whites. Culture and media brainwashing. Since it's 4chin, a lot men here are weeabo scum and wantssome asian chick.
>>22994430
Why the fuck would you let men who can't take of their nails near your pussy?
>>22994466
Everything besides dead fish mode is fine.
>>22994513
No, that's cool.
>>22994535
Because hitting up on people is absolutely retarded and annoying if the condition she named aren't met. Just don't do it if you can't do it right.
>>22994544
You can pretend to have a relationship without ever being in one ... but I guess you'd get that with own imagination too, so no.
>>22994683
Oh yes.
>>22994652
But what does that exactly entail? I would normally hold onto the guy, nails slightly digging in as my legs wrapped but that still feels too little. I don't want to be a fish, but I'm not sure if I'm doing it right or not.
>>22994499
Don't be insecure about it hun, you don't even know what she wants!
But if it *ever* comes to that, don't think negatively about it. Could even be a fun little joke between the two of you.
>>22994742
Eye contact.
>>22994724
I can. But it's still impossible.
>>22994742
Sort of match his movements as he thrusts, make a little noise and kind of throw your head back a little too. That kind of shit makes us diamonds.
I know that girls can tell when a boy is a virgin. How, and how could you hide it.
Also are there any signs to look for that might give away that a girl is a virgin
>>22994577
If I had only a fwb and no bf I'd so be into that. Degrees cost heavy money.
>>22994466
To tell me how good it feel, that im the best, i want to hear her moan a lot, stuff like this... :)
>>22994513
I'd say a bit, but i'd avoid the subject in conversations.
>>22994544
None
>>22994763
>How, and how could you hide it.
Don't bitch about being a virgin 24/7.
>>22994763
How to hide it? Be fucking confident. Don't hesitate when you lean in to kiss or when you thrust in. Another obvious thing is not knowing what a vagina is compared to the anus.
Girls:
I'm moving cross country for a job next month. Only person I know in this city is my ex. Is it alright to call her? We left on semi-ok terms.
>>22994763
I think the only tell for both sides if they're inexperienced in flirting, making moves and relationships in general. I was awkward as shit until my first girlfriend, then after that I grew pretty confident and knew how things work and it's been simple ever since.
>>22994411
>>22994424
This. Be aware that if he has it, don't literally choke the chicken.
Otherwise, start gentle, work your way up based on hardness/thrusting motions.
>>22994466
Being vocal, or if not a vocal person, verbal encouragement when I do something that feels good. Touching - anywhere you like really. Feels really good when rubbing my back, or down my sides, etc. Try to feel good - the one time I've had a "I don't really care just do your thing", I couldn't cum.
No dead-fish. Please no dead-fish.
>>22994513
No. Why on earth would I be?
>>22994683
Now I'm not a woman, but this is a) obvious and b) seems like an oversimplification of the issue.
If a guy told you he had never had sex before would you be more likely, less likely, or chances unchanged, to have sex with him?
do guys care if a girl is a virgin or not?
>>22994879
I don't care either way, don't know what the others think.
>>22994879
It's a small turn off but not something I care about too much.
>>22994742
>>22994742
give yourself into it, do whatever enhances your feelings, express yourself, be assertive. I think is more than being fish, is to be fire, in other words, opening yourself to pleasure, and trying to look for it. I don´t know if it happens with the rest of the men, but I really get turned on as more pleasure my couple feels, and when she is flowing with the passion. Trusting with your hips as he trusts yours helps, rubbing your clit as being penetrated, kissing with intensity, specially when you feel close to the orgasm, changing the positions, specially facilitating those that stimulate you more, watching in the eyes, voicing your desires. letting yourself go...
>>22994879
Depends on the guy really.
For me is a turn on. But probably because I'm a virgin myself.
Girls : what would you think about a guy that you know/are interested in, confess to you that he had some minor cosmetic surgery (bags under the eyes, gummy smile, let's say 2-3 things like this) just because he felt really self conscious about it and wanted to show the true potential of his face without major change, just to correct some little flaws...?
>>22994763
Dude to dude: Well, you can learn from intercourse without participating, so when you get the chance you make her have an experience she won´t forget. Be confident, honest, direct, polite, and respectful. Kissing is specially important, don´t be too wet, and don´t stick your tongue too deep unless she starts playing with your tongue. Study some anatomy, remember that the whole body of a lady is erogenous if properly touched, don´t rush to penetration. Study the sex positions and their advantages and disadvantages, taking account on the size of your genitalia (you have to do different things whether you are smaller or bigger). When you masturbate, don´t rush into ejaculation straight away, take your time, train how to contract your pelvis muscles, test your mental strategies. That sort of stuff makes that your first sexual relationship won´t be a total disaster as usually is.
>>22994411
Uh, I've generally actually been pretty lucky when it comes to partners. I would say if there's anything - it's that the glans is by far the most sensitive part. This can be both great and terrible .. Great to focus on, but can also be super fucking overwhelming sometimes immediately post orgasm.
>>22994430
Terrible habit that it is, things like this make me glad I bite my nails. Generally are too fucking short to ever scratch someone.
>>22994466
Be eager. Seriously - eagerness is by far the sexiest trait, and it's something I've always assumed why dudes tend to say they want "slutty women". Don't worry about how you look, or what you sound like, or what weird noises are happening - it's sex, it's awesome, messy, ridiculous. Be loud! Go with it! Have fun!
Similarly, be able to be light hearted about the bedroom. It's not all serious all the time.
(OH, FUCK, THIS REMINDS ME:
If you're feeling a terrible urge to pee suddenly, and logically you shouldn't have to fucking pee, just relax and go with it. The amount of partners I've had who 'never have had an orgasm!' before and I got them comfortable enough to not ACTIVELY fight against their own orgasm, jesus.
Besides, squirting is awesome. Destroy my bed. Go for it.)
Outside of that: At the moment I would prefer partners to be masochistic sub/bottoms, but it's not something I *expect* so much as a particular flavor I am enjoying indulging at the moment.
>>22994456
>>Press
Don't pressure her on it. Ask her if she's interested in ever pursuing such things, but don't apply pressure over it.
>>22994513
No, not in the slightest. One of my current partners is pretty much a mutant (in light hearted terms) and can probably out muscle me. If that doesn't impinge on my masculinity, why would being able to drive stick?
If she knows more about my car than I do, fantastic, I will probably consult her on things.
To everyone:
Why are you incapable of saying 'goodbye' or 'sorry, I have to go' or anything along those lines? Why do you just stop responding? If you got suddenly distracted by something and forgot, that's fine, but a friend of mine and I can't find anyone (regardless of gender) that bothers to say anything when they leave. And eventually, they all just stop responding altogether. No complaints, no arguments, no hints of negativity in the conversation, they just stop talking. Forever.
This is getting really Goddamn frustrating. What's the matter with you people?
>>22995109
>Why are you incapable of saying 'goodbye' or 'sorry, I have to go' or anything along those lines?
If I have the time, I tend to do this.
>Why do you just stop responding?
Sometimes you don't have the time to say anything. Why the fuck would you even care about such shit?
>they just stop talking. Forever.
Even if you write something to them? In that case it just didn't work out and they prefer to ignore instead of telling you, how boring you are. Not the most elegant solution for sure but nothing worth caring about.
>>22995109
You should be able to understand when the topic is over and the other guy simply doesn't have nothing to add in the discussion. But if you ask a question/bring out a new point and they refuse to reply it in any way, then I agree to you that it is rude and I also hate when it happens.
>>22994535
People do this all the time dude. It sounds tricky, but it's the nature of the beast - it's not about lines or structure, it's about being able to read social environments/situational cues and go with the flow.
Basically think about it like this:
If you're approaching a woman, she knows you want to fuck her - it's the automatic assumption on why the fuck you'd approach her in the first place; she's attractive and you want to get involved in that.
She knows why you're approaching, you know why you're approaching - but it's a game. It's a dance. It's whatever the hell metaphor you want to use; it's talking to the person and being open with your intentions/thoughts/desire without actually being DIRECT with them.
>>22994544
LDR's annoy me, I've done them briefly before but, no, I don't see any specific benefit to them what so ever.
>>22994540
Uhh, I would make sure you're dealing with a fairly sex positive person. I've done it before with a number of partners (yay for being involved with cam girls), and I personally don't really give a shit, but yeah, some people can get really weird about that and decide they want to out you/share this stuff without your consent.
As an additional note, if you're talking about camming versus just sharing nudes/videos, they will have to also sign a contract with the streaming site.
>>22994879
Not in the slightest - though I would prefer to know if someone is a virgin. One part so I can make sure I make some extra check in's to make sure she's comfortable, and one part because I don't need someone becoming explosively clingy and therefore need to feel it out.
>>22995109
Ghosting is really fucking shitty, but if it's not much of a relationship (in the broad sense, including friendships) I don't see why the person has to go out of their way to say goodbye.
But yes - actually just ghosting on someone is shitty, and I recently had a really terrible situation with a partner doing that to me. *Shrug*
>>22995150
Yes. I know. I can do it when I don't actively try to - somehow I get girls to be attracted to me. But in theory it is an impossible request.
If I actively do it - which I've never done - I'm 100% sure I'll come off as mr tie-you-up-in-my-abbatoir level creepy.
>>22995169
I fail to see what the problem is. You admit that it can be done, and that you've done it, just you have problems doing it in an *active* fashion.
There's part of me that wants to argue it's not really intended to be an 'active' action in the sense of you trying to mentally check off things. The expectation, to some degree, is that you're going to be comfortable and well socialized enough to just ... Do it.
Femanon with more of a PSA than an ask: please please PLEASE don't pressure me to cum. Nothing is a bigger turn off. I know a couple other girls I've talked to have said the same thing, that it can be very pressuring. I don't always cum from sex, it's ok, don't act like I killed a puppy and guilt me. Some girls cum easy, some don't, I don't.
>>22995201
Not doing it in an active fashion implies that I can never take the initiative. That's the sole issue.
Girls:
Should a 31 year old virgin give up on the whole dating/relationship thing? Women dump guys for being virgins at this age so is it even worth trying anymore?
>>22995229
AH: Okay, no, I see what you mean here now. I was kind of thrown off in regards to the idea of 'actively' doing it, and had assumed you meant the whole checks and balances thing. No, you can totally take initiative - she's outright saying there to go for it.
BASIC BREAKDOWN?
You see someone you find attractive. You approach them, because of said note. They know that's why you're approaching them, the assumption is though that you won't just outright tell them you want to fuck them because its crass and minimizes them, and that you won't just awkwardly standing about until they are wondering what the fuck you're doing and get unsettled.
If you're in a social situation, it gives you easy commentary to riff off of - the shared situation, your experiences during the night, and whatever observational things are relevant. It's part of that whole "you're approaching because they are attractive", and it's important to differentiate you from the "dudes who just wander around trying to pick up absolutely every fucking woman in the bar until someone says yes."
Basically it's: Approach person, show them that you're interested in who they are and that the attraction isn't JUST that they have a vagina, and be comfortable with yourself and social situations so that it's not a fiercely awkward exchange.
I don't see why it robs you of the ability to take initiative.
What does a girl want for christmas these days?
>>22994490
Maybe not the whine, but I'd so let and beg you do that to me. Where are you?
>>22995281
Sweden. :(
>>22995098
Thanks for the heads up! Maybe you should try looking for a switch girl, too?
Girls, what's your opinion on a 21 year old who is balding?
>>22994787
Go for it. Nothing to lose right?
Just stay cautious. She's an ex for a reason.
>>22995287
Nah, I'm not one to bottom/sub for anyone. One of my partners (said mutant one) is actively looking for someone to bottom for her, and she would be thrilled, but it's not my cup of tea.
>>22995299
Dude here: My hair started thinning around that age. I just shaved the fuck out of my head and have continued to do so for the last six or so years. Rock the bald.
>>22995299
None hair doesnt define a person
Besides get some stubble or a beard ans bald looks pretty good
>>22994867
Wouldn't change a thing.
>>22994933
I'd probably shrug? Tell him he looks great the way he is if I was attracted to him, or if he was a friend.
>>22995236
You're self conscious about it, and we can see it. If you're confident, you might get laid more. Talk to girls, get rid of a filter.
>>22995236
I'm a 24 year old virgin and what I plan on doing is just telling her I've "had a dry spell" ahead of time to explain why I'm nervous/last 5 seconds, just don't tell her there's no way I would.
Male 18
I'm like 5'5" and dress like a hillbilly (from the South).
The thought of having sex is totally disgusting to me, but the only thing I have going in my favor is a 7.5inch dong.
Am I doomed to be forever alone?
>>22995317
Not necessarily meaning you to sub or bottom. A lot of subs are meek, and thought you'd like a more passionate time. From what I've seen around switches, they're more confident.
>>22995286
:c whelp. If you come to California keep /soc/ in mind?
>>22995431
Final Destination: asexual edition?
>>22995477
It kind of sucks. I've had several girlfriends who literally begged for sex.
Now I'm in College and I just have 0 interest in it.
>>22994301
The individual often desires the exotic and unnatural. We have an innate drive to diversify and spread the gene pool, it's why many people develop a fascination with all sorts of races.
However, socially, most races, when paired with whites, are not so compatible. In western societies, black people are both poorer and culturally portayed as aggressive, dangerous, and prone to acts of abandon. You can pick your poison on why, but most people want a relationship that doesn't involve lower their socio-economic status. Hispanics are also a grab bag, but often it's the same, poorer, and more religous values white men don't want to bother with. Native Americans are either too rare or too afflicted with drug issues to want to tap, so asians seem like a fair deal.
They generally are from wealthy or wealth-aspiring families and are intelligent, or considered so. Whites and the East have spent so much time interacting, sharing and competing, that China, Korea, Japan, and other countries that meet their women's aesthetics are generally accepted. There's also the assumption that asian women generally want to embody more traditional gender roles. Of course, they forget that means you working your ass off while they give you an allowance, but a romanticized version is romanced for a reason. Women in western cultures have an independent aggressive streak that is more visibly present in the culture than with asian women, and it's not attractive.
tl;dr Physical attraction, socially acceptable race-mixing, and misguided expectations.
>>22995472
Absolutely.
>>22995490
You should see a medical professional. You might have a hormonal disorder or something.
Do you masturbate?
>>22995507
Nothing wrong with my hormones as far as I can tell.
Yep, but in an actual physical setting sex is abhorrent to me. I've fooled around with my girlfriends and all, just no sex.
>>22995517
That does sound like "true" asexuality as far as I understand the concept.
But what exactly is it about sex that you find abhorrent? You're sure you're not gay?
>>22995586
100% sure I'm not gay.
I never called myself asexual; I know I'm heterosexual. I've made my girlfriends cum without using my dick, I just find sex unattractive/I'm incapable of doing it.
>>22994535
Oh I mean of course there's wiggle room. At least for me, I'm rather reasonable. It's a fine balance, I understand. I just see many dudes go about it too aggressively making it obvious that to them the chick they're talking to is nothing but a walking vagina to fuck, and others too wimpy/shy to voice what it is they want or worse lie about it or feed women lies.
Like, just make it clear even if you're only looking for a one night stand that you actually care theres a woman attached to the vag but don't imply its anything more than what it is ya know?
>>22994683
This is exactly what I've been saying lol. It's ok to just want to hookup and shit, and I for one am not going to think of any guy as gross or bad for it so long as they actually admit it and are honest about it. Just ask, be tactful about it but really just fucking ask. Worst you're going to get is a dirty look and told to fuck off.
It's not for me personally, so I'm going to politely decline, but I'll wish you luck in your pussy finding adventure. Its the ones that pretend like its not what they're after, hook me in thinking they are what I'M looking for, just to find out I've been baited and switched, that piss me off. Everyone loses in that situation. I'm not going to have sex with you, therefore you just wasted both of our times. You could have found a chick who actually wanted to bang in the time you spent lying to me.
>>22994724
Because I don't exactly think to carefully inspect a dudes manicure before sex lol. I guess I should start.
>>22994763
>I know that girls can tell when a boy is a virgin
I wasn't aware we had this super power. Srsly if you don't act like an autistic fuck the first time you see a vagina no girl will actually know. Its easier to tell if a girl is a virgin than a boy. The only sign that tells girls you're a virgin is this>>22994773
>>22996551
>I should start.
Yes. Make a checklist.
>>22994867
mm Probably unchanged, since if I got that far I'm probably going to be too horny to care.
But for real guys, (yall too >>22995236>>22995413)
I'm in the boat of you really do not need to disclose this information. It'd be a slight turn off to me to hear it, you'd probably just be better off not mentioning it if it's not brought up or asked. Because she's not really going to know.
Like, >>22995413 is this really why guys feel the need to tell women they're virgins, like as an excuse for being shit in bed? I'm genuinely asking because I don't get it. I personally think itd be better to just get the experience and let a handful of random women just think you're lousy at sex than close more doors for the excuse.
Also this is the best advice >>22995345. Fake it till you make it, if you go into it thinking "I'm going to be bad" then you will be, 100% of the time no exceptions. You choose your own experience man.
>>22994933
I wouldn't care. I'd get some work done myself if I could afford it. Though if it is little minor things like that, it says a little about your self esteem, which isn't necessarily a dealbreaker or anything. But if you get the vibe of "They're never happy with their appearance" that can be a bit of a red flag, but if you had some work done to boost your self esteem, and it actually worked and you're now genuinely happy with yourself I don't see the problem.
>>22995098
I'm a nail biter too haha, though I don't tend to masturbate that way so it doesn't matter. But yeah, its just one of those small overlooked things you forget when getting dirty.
>>22995266
I want a beautiful azn boyfriend but I think that's a gift Santa can't deliver lol.
>>22995220
Male here: I've heard this a lot. My thinking is that "I'm here to help" - somewhat. I've gotten very comfortable pulling out the Hitachi for my gf and molesting her, kneading her tits, and talking dirty to her before and after I cum. Not all the time (boring), but definitely frequently.
A banal question for women, and one that is probably boringly retrodden: Anal sex, is this something that you are really submitting to just to amuse me? Would you choose anal over vaginal usually?
>>22995431
Sounds like you're asexual or some degree of it. It's not a death sentence but like any minority sexuality your dating pool is going to be smaller, though not nonexistent. Frankly though, there's plenty of girls who don't get off to penetration so if you're not opposed to getting sexual in other ways your chances might not even be as small. Do you like to get off? Like do you like handjobs/blowjobs and its just penetrational sex you find offputting? Or is it the whole shebang?
>>22995220
I have to say, this is the only reason I've ever really faked an orgasm. Because I didn't want my partner to feel guilty or inferior because I know I'm a near impossible person to please. I can't get myself off half the time. I'm still having fun, but I probably won't cum.
But kind of what anon>>22996633 is saying
I also think guys should also put in their best effort. Def pull out those toys and give it a go. But its ok if it doesn't work. For me at least
But as for the anal question, I can't do anal at all personally. I'm sure there are some women out there who truly enjoy anal sex, but I really don't see how.
>>22996659
>I'm sure there are some women out there who truly enjoy anal sex, but I really don't see how.
I am beginning to feel like a rapist when women let me do things to them... I don't think men are well-trained in knowing the power of coercive behaviors, and the negative feelings they can generate.
Women: when you feel like you have been sexually used/coerced, but the man is otherwise fun/generous/sharing, how much does it feel like rape/abuse? How would you go about trying to change/inform the relationship to reduce those feelings?
Just saw a relatively good looking waitress and it got me thinking. How the hell do I approach a girl in that position? It's her job to be nice, so I'm not saying I got signals, I just always feel like opportunities are there that I pass up.
>>22996744
When paying for dinner or when she's obviously not busy, just ask her what time she gets off work and if she wants to get a coffee with you. The worst that can happen is her saying no, so it's worth a try.
If you were married to a guy, and one time he physically overpowered you and fucked you even though you told him to stop, would you leave him? Would you contact the police?
>>22994270
Male horndog
Not many partners about 6
Have been having sex since the age of 8 {now 40} molested by some neighbor guy across the way. The guy sucked my dick for months I liked it as it was grand. Life has been majorly screwed up.
Have a regular lover is a slutty whore who I accept as is even though lots of shit she does hurts me I know I'm just another lover of many.
I have an issue with cumming, basically I cant unless I entirely focus on busting a nut =/ what fun is that right
My stamina is pretty good it seems as I can easily fuck for 30/45/60/90 minutes, still without busting a nut, It seems that once things get heated up I can't nut without making it a major effort. After such extended sessions walking is rough, im dizzy, as well as fulfilled yet not satisfied.
ask away
>>22997220
I'm not a girl. But, I'd say absolutely fucking yes. What you're describing is rape. If you were saying to stop and trying to get away (and this wasn't something you have done before role play wise) then that's shitty. Idk if I'd contact police but I'd leave them.
>>22997229
Why are you answering if you're not a girl. Fuck off.
For girls,
Can you twerk?
>>22997375
Yes
>>22997220
>>22997233
I'm submissive, masochistic, into rape play, and I 100% agree with the other anon. Being legit raped isn't sexy, if someone I was with did that I'd leave.
>be me
>18 y/o
>male
>Virgin
Is that normal as a asian ?
>>22997220
That's definitively a rape, yes. Don't know if I would contact the police right away, but I would have a serious conversation with him, and yeah, probably leave him.
Why do you ask ?
Why are you so focused on your social status.
>>22995472
Ah, okay, I see what you're getting at. My subs are plenty confident hahaha, no fretting with that there. I only really indulge in 'passion' with one of them though; for 2/3 the primal element is a huge part of the encounter, yes, but for the one I can be fully unfettered with.
So the commentary is appreciated, but fret not, I'm doing solid on that. :p I would certainly enjoy more pets, but due to some circumstances at the moment, I've fairly limited mental/emotional resources to give.
>>22997227
Commentary as a dude here:
A *lot* of women I know don't want to fuck for 30/45/60/90 minutes ... Assuming you're talking purely penetrative thrusting. On *average* the ladies I've spoken with about it probably prefer to actively fuck for 10-15 minutes, with the rare going 15-20.
I'm all for hugely extended fuck sessions, but just hoping you're offering more than jack hammering someone for an hour and a half.
>>22997456
Because it's important? But that's vague, so I don't really know how to answer that. In what context?
everyone itt, if I feel kind of attracted to a girl who's considered unattractive (she's been the first to give me butterflies in years), should we start going out?
would people think I'm just doing it out of pity?
I've read loads of advice saying to make your feelings heard and not to just sit in silence
>>22996630
I'm just trying to be realistic, to see it from the girls' perspective. Honestly a girl my age in her mid twenties has been having sex for a decade with a dozen boyfriends and even more one night stands, she's going to expect something I just can't deliver.
>It'd be a slight turn off to me to hear it,
Exactly. You don't want to hear it, but you'll probably still be able to tell anyway.
>you'd probably just be better off not mentioning it if it's not brought up or asked. Because she's not really going to know.
But, I think she is. Which is why I said I'd lie and just say it's been a while. I don't even know how to kiss, I'll be fumbling around like a 15 year old, of course you'd be able to tell.
> is this really why guys feel the need to tell women they're virgins, like as an excuse for being shit in bed?
Well yes, like I said there's going to be a huge difference in expectations, how experienced your average girl in her 20s is VS someone who's never done anything.
>>22994456
I'm a girl and I do the same things as ur gf.. I'd like to do a threesome, but not with my bf. If in my future i'll be single again I'd surely fuck a woman, but now it would seem like cheating....
>>22995299
Shave your head. Look tough without necessarily being so. Never get mugged again.
>>22994763
>Girls can tell when a boy is a virgin.
Huh, stone the crows, really? People are always in disbelief when I tell them.
>>22996740
Lol I'm not the best one to ask this since I have a slight rape kink kek.
But, I've been molested as a kid and used for sex in what I thought was a loving relationship before.
The molestation doesn't really apply here, because I was molested by a girl who was also my age, but the other one was basically the age old story of "Dude feeds me lies, tells me what I want to hear, makes me believe he actually loved me like he said he did but in the end it was all because I was the 'virgin challenge'"
Glad I didn't actually give it up to him, because then I think it would have fucked me up.
But all in all, I never did anything I wasn't comfortable with, and the one thing I will give that guy was when I said stop he stopped. Guess he respected me that much, then again I don't think his little game he was trying to win would have counted if he just raped me.
In a purely roleplay like kink setting, I love being used, but that's not rape since it is actually consenting. If a guy was really pushing something I didn't want though I have no problems with speaking up. And any girl who doesn't do that is stupid as fuck. Basically, if you ever even get the feeling what you're doing is wrong, assume it probably is and talk about it. And if she says yes and tries to take it back after and cry rape tell her to go fuck herself because she's a cunt and regretting it after is not fucking rape.
>>22997220
This however, is 100% rape. and Yes, I'd be leaving immediately and taking your ass to court. Thats an immediate dealbreaker/relationship ender, that's fucking rape. And this is coming from the chick with a rape kink.
>>22996744
>>22997157
I'd say this is a safe thing, though only thing I have to say about approaching someone at their job is they are heavily pressured not to upset you in fear of getting in trouble with their job. "The customer is always right" after all. I'd just give her /your/ number and if she calls you, she calls you. If not, then oh well.
>>22997542
So far the whore/sluts I've ran into have not had any complaints, aside from having other things to do as the sessions are pleasurable and desirable as they may be just too time consuming altogether. Watching the clock at a hot tub was funny one evening /a minute passed by as if it was 5-10 seconds. As for just thrusting like a jackhammer, NO! NO! as a lover I usually pay very much attention to my partners desires and likes, dislikes even moreso those aching pleasure gestures which I look for, just let them say slower and right there even stop and I allow them to fuck themselves with real dick. For me to cum within 10-15 minutes takes an enormous effort nearly as tiring have a 4/5/6x as extended session, although these short session are the ones where I can cum at all. Regularly I'm just going soft after 45 minutes, thing is eating a bit of pussy as does having my dick bitten makes me hard quickly where I can continue until I'm too dehydrated to continue usually after a hour of lovemaking.
>>22994879
i'll just say that virgin or not the best woman to be dating/courting would be one who has no other present sexual relations. If they do, then you're just part of the casual fuck train and I don't see a good relationship stemming from that.
>>22997418
>18
>virgin
Yes. It's completely normal for any 18 year old to still be a virgin if you ask me, regardless of race. I think you start getting into danger territory after 25, but that's just my opinion (and even after it still doesn't mean you're a lost cause)
Also are you a cute Asian? I like Asians, and I know a lot of other girls who do. I don't see why this is necessarily hurting your chances, unless you're just unattractive in general but that applies to any race.
>>22997456
Not sure who or what this is directed at but it is important man. Might not be the most important thing ever, but your social status feeds into a lot of other important factors. It'll help you get more money and better pay, which lets face it nobody wants to be scraping pennies at mcfats to make rent all their life, it improves your relationships with friends and allows you to have a good support network for when hard times inevitably come, etc.
>>22997594
Dude, if you think shes hot shit then go for it. Fuck everyone else. The only thing I really have to say about the "pity date" thing is that is a real concern, but it's not important at all. I think if anything if she is what is socially accepted as unattractive, and you truly arent, she's probably going to be the one thinking that. At least that's what I do. I'm generally given a solid 5/6 on soc where they tend to rate girls higher than they actually are. So in reality I'm sure I'm lower, therefore when I'm dating "out of my league" I tend to think they're pity or joke dating me. But I also had my first "love" do just that to me in the past too, so I might just be scorned and untrusting about it. If she thinks that, just prove her wrong.
>>22998108
Eh, but that chick most definitely did not 100% of the time have great lovers. She's definitely going to have had bad ones too.
I mean, idk maybe it's just me but I don't think the process is really rocket science. Like when I got into my first experiences with a dick and the guy I was with at the time was experiencing vag for the first time too, he sure didn't act like it. Sure we both had our minor moments of stupidity, like me not knowing precum was a thing and almost blueballing him because I thought he was finished, or him and the fingernail thing, but it wasn't bad either. If anything I think my fuckups screamed virginity more than his.
And I'll admit to being a virgin myself (jn the sense of PIV sex.) so maybe I don't even know what I'm talking about. But thinking back, even knowing what I do now, I don't think if a dude did those exact same things to me now I'd immediately peg him as a virgin. You gotta understand that every dude and every chick is different. There's no 1 universal sex experience. In this sense, we're all virgins. I may know how his dick worked, but I have no fucking clue how any other dude's dick works, ya feel me? What he liked isn't going to be what all dudes like. Same applies to women. If anything, if your "virginity is showing" she's probably just going to think that's how the last chick you were with liked it. (Actually that may be a better excuse than the one you're providing. And it opens up the opportunity to actually ask what she likes so you can actually please her instead of just accepting you're going to suck)
but like I said. I think it's better to just get the experience and let a handful of women just think you're shit in bed. It's not the end of the world, especially if they're 1 night stands. and then you don't have to say you're a virgin anymore. That's just my 2 cents on the matter though, by all means you guys do you.
FEMALES:
If you play with a large dildo before having sex with a guy who's dick is average, is that going to affect the sensation of being fucked? Are you going to feel him less?
My girl wants a large dildo and I think that would be fucking hot, but we use our existing one as part of foreplay, and I can see us doing the same with a new big one, and my dick then being a disappointment.
>>22997220
It's rape. He's not even trying to listen to her, and relationships need communication.
If this was in a roleplay position, they should have safe words. If the safe word's used, then you NEED to stop, no matter how close you are to climax.
>>22997542
Ah. I see! Well, good luck to you anon, hope everything goes well for you!
>>22997594
Dude, just do what the fuck you want to do. Stop worrying about your perception - if you're obviously hugely into the chick no one's going to think you're doing it out of pity.
Females of /soc/!
Let's take a hypothetical situation, which may or may not be based upon a true story.
You're in a long-term relationship, but you flirt pretty hard with one guy (to a point where the flirting is pretty erotic), but no touching or anything else happens, just talking.
You are meeting said guy in a couple of days for lunch, and you specifically ask whether or not you should bring your boyfriend.
Am I right in thinking she might sway (not best case scenario, but Ill take what I can get) or is she just being a goddamned cocktease?
>>22999125
Could go either way to be honest. I don't think anyone can really answer this for you.
Though personally, I think cheating is really shitty, and if you knowingly help her cheat you're kinda shitty. Thats all I really have to say about that.
Though honestly I'm confused why she would even bother asking if she should bring her bf or not if she was really going to cheat. I honestly have no clue what the motive behind that question is.
Is it already obvious you know about her relationship, or could she have brought that up as a hint of "Hey, I actually have a bf" and is the flirting really as obvious as you think it is/is she instigating it?
I had a friend who was trying to be polite to this dude hitting on her (who he could have seen her politeness as flirting back) and was asking me for help tactfully bringing up her BF so he knew of the BF's existence and that she wasn't interested.
Or maybe if she was actually flirting she started to feel guilty, and asking to bring her bf is her kind of putting her cards on the table and seeing how much you want her.
Or she doesn't have any feelings for you at all and just wants to hang out with her BF too. IDK that whole bit just confuses me. Not gonna lie OP, there's a lot of variables that could make this go literally in any direction.
>>22999165
>Could go either way to be honest. I don't think anyone can really answer this for you.
Heh, figures. Thanks anyway.
>Though personally, I think cheating is really shitty, and if you knowingly help her cheat you're kinda shitty. Thats all I really have to say about that.
Can't argue with that, still has me a bit conflicted desu senpai. Changes the perspective of her a bit.
>Though honestly I'm confused why she would even bother asking if she should bring her bf or not if she was really going to cheat. I honestly have no clue what the motive behind that question is.
>Is it already obvious you know about her relationship, or could she have brought that up as a hint of "Hey, I actually have a bf" and is the flirting really as obvious as you think it is/is she instigating it?
I *had* known about it previously, but she mentions it so very infrequently and the way she behaves sometimes, it'd be hard for me, let alone the average bloke to tell sometimes. Honestly, this is the first time she mentioned it to me in months, same guy though..
>>22999189
hmm Yeah I don't got much for ya friend, sorry. It's just a very unique personal situation.
If you aren't certain /she/ knows you know about the BF, I'd take that as a hint personally to be safe. But I can't offer much advice outside that. If she is after the D, I'd just tell her to break up already.
>>22996740
If you are second guessing if your partner is enjoying everything you do, you're already a step above lots of guys... Sadly. Also, start asking for enthusiastic consent. Nothing wrong with that.
For your question...
I've been in two relationships with guys who gleefully used me sexually and otherwise, but also blinded me with their charisma and all sorts of 'nice things' to make up or make me forget the abuse.. The otherwise fun/generous/sharing aspect of their personalities can overshadow the bad...but then I got out of those relationships and holyfuck I wondered why I even put up with that shit. Now, I put my foot down and refuse doing shit I'm not into. I have hard limits and if they're not respected, I will leave.
>>22997220
Your husband raped you. He is also a piece of shit. Drop that fucker like a bad habit. Sadly, I doubt the police will do anything beyond dismiss it due to marriage but...it's serious talk time because any guy who would do that has some issues with empathy for their partner.
>>22997375
I can't into dancing.
>>22997418
It's normal at your age, yes.
>>22998594
Vaginas don't stay stretched out. Playing with a larger dildo won't 'mold' her to the larger dildo. Take it from someone who owns a dildo that actually tears my insides due to how girthy it is. Using it doesn't prevent me from enjoying sex with guys, or having trouble fitting my MUCH thinner dildos later.
Also, if we're talking large by length? There is a limit on how much a woman can fit vaginally.
>>22999125
Uh. If I had a boyfriend and I was flirting someone else up to the point of erotic talks? I'd consider myself cheating. This girl might play with you, but do you really want to hook up or even possibly date someone who cheats effortlessly?
>>22999287
>Vaginas don't stay stretched out. Playing with a larger dildo won't 'mold' her to the larger dildo. Take it from someone who owns a dildo that actually tears my insides due to how girthy it is. Using it doesn't prevent me from enjoying sex with guys, or having trouble fitting my MUCH thinner dildos later.
Thanks, that's helpful. I understand it won't stay stretched. I'm more worried about the immediate contrast. She's dripping wet and enjoying the big girthy dildo, then we take it out and in goes my dick instead. I worry the feeling for her will just be disappointing.
>>22999965
Dildos don't feel hot. Dildos don't fill you with warmth. If you're using it for foreplay, you'll be teasing her more than actual thrusting.
