>girl asks me what music I like
>Everything but hip hop and country (excluding Death Grips and some classic country)
There ya go
>ummm indie rock
From experience
>>65722741
>talking to girls about music
"I listen exclusively to Tunisian throat singing. Literally every other genre is for fucking normies REEEEEE".
Radiohead, Sufjan Stevens, and Early Wilco
You don't sound like too much of a pleb but you're not intimidating her. If for some reason she's never heard any of them you can show them to her and she won't think you're too weird.
>>65722783
Is it bad that this is my exact opinion on music?
>>65722869
Yes
>>65722783
>>65722795
I fucked up
She asked what genres I like and I said mostly punk, psychedelic, garage rock, prog
When I saw her blank stare I said some indie pop
She asks me to talk about it
I go on about how I love the Vaselines, Cat's Miaow, Beat Happening
More blank stare
More panic
Should've talked about Game of Thrones
>>65722788
Shoulda coulda
>>65722854
I actually told her I like Sufjan because I plan to see him at Pitchfork this summer, played a fucking song on my phone and she just said "lol that's so weird"
>>65722869
Yes
>>65722834
pff! fuckin normie!!!!!!!! only tibetan throat singing bruh.
>>65722834
>tfw when someone asks what music I like I spout dank memes
>if they give me a look I say "I like weird stuff lol"
Works every time
>>65722927
Those genres you mentioned really aren't all that divisive. It must have been how you said it. Once you realized she didn't know any of those bands though you should have asked her what she likes
"I'll listen to just about anything" and try to change the subject
>>65723126
but what if you come across a fellow patrician and fight over which autechre album is best and go to festivals and concerts together ad develop a lifelong friendship
>>65723217
That'd be cool I guess
You have to remember most people care about music in the same way you care about sports.
>>65722741
Come on, anons this shit is not even hard.
"I'll listen to anything as long as it sounds good to me. What kind of music do you like though?
If you're trying to get some bantz or make a joke continue with something about her taste. Fucking anything.
"You're probably into some really weird shit.You probably only listen to dentist drills with electronic music in the background.
I can tell."
Just be honest, you losers. People (not just girls) can smell fear and insecurity from a mile away.
>>65723294
but that would never happen if you just say "I'll listen to just about anything" and try to change the subject
>>65722741
>pretty much everything
This and only this should be your only response.
>>65723084
I did
She said country, alternative and indie
I think I just got a top pleb and misunderstood her excitement as seeing I liked "indie"
>>65723217
onlyinmydreams.png
>>65723319
>implying anyone on /mu/ is normie enough to come up with that in a conversation with a grill
>>65723313
but I fucking love sports
>>65723333
Quads speak the truth
>>65723313
Fair play
>>65723333
Dank quads
And I was confident until I realized we were talking about two very different meanings of indie
>>65723350
I've may be met 2 women in the past 5 years who like more than 2 of the same bands that I do
I live in the suburbs though, I think once I get to the city I'll be fine
i usually just say animal collective and show her my girls if she hasn't heard of them
I tell girls i like this
https://thealaskanbullworm.bandcamp.com/album/dad-im-gay
>>65723453
Stealing this
>>65723377
I figured this board has to be less weird around people than others, since this is one of the few boards who's hobby has them leaving their house, to concerts and stuff.
Seems my hopes were a bit too high.
>>65723487
no we are definitely one of the most least robot boards on 4chan but that's really not saying much
>>65723313
it's an aight album
>>65722741
rock, metal, jazz, the list goes on...
>>65722741
"I listen to whatever you want me to babeh"
>>65722869
i wouldnt be friends with you
>>65722927
shes just dumb dude. shes not the one. dont fret over it.
>>65722869
>2016
>fell for the "hip hop is bad" meme
wew fucking lad
>>65723579
Thanks m8
And yeah, she was confirmed retarded
I talked to her about Game of Thrones later, and she said she loved it but didn't have HBO so she couldn't watch it
I didn't think people like that existed at our age
>>65723319
THIS
NIGGA
G E T S I T
E
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S
I
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Seriously dawg, how much pussy do you get on a fucking regular basis? Answer: so much pussy
>>65722741
A-a-ambient-t
Psychedelic rock and folk. Easy?
>>65722741
>>65722927
just say what you actually like. people are drawn to others w/ passion. you guys are obviously pretty invested in music-- so if someone asks, share with them. they'll be intrigued at least (and maybe, they'll know what obscure shit you're talking about, and it will lead to a genuine connection).
any dweeb can say 'oh yeah, i like indie too'. you guys spend to much time curating your taste in music not to share it with other people, or even just say it in front of cuties. don't pretend you have run of the mill, basic taste-- at best its a lateral move, but its milquetoast and weak. fuck.
>>65723868
well put
>I like a lot of things, mostly ambient, jazz, and metal, particularly black metal. I also really like classical, mostly modern shit.
that was hard
>want a gf
>no identifiable personality traits detached from the media you consume / music you play
All I can talk about is music, film, and lit.
What is wrong with me?
>>65723918
get /fit/ then talk
If they're a total pleb I usually just say "you know all that music that critics write a lot and stuff about but no one actually listens to? I'm that guy that reads critical reviews and actually listens to that stuff." It's not necessarily true but it gives a good description of why I dont listen to like Katy Perry like everyone else and it's better than going on some pretentious rant about my favorite bands that leaves them really confused and them thinking I'm pretentious as hell.
>>65723927
I'm in good shape. It's good for casual sex but I want something long term.
I guess I have really callous / cold mannerisms b/c I have difficulty relating to anyone outside my circle of friends.
>>65723918
find a girl who likes music, film, or lit (or all three?)?. How is this hard?
>>65723952
take note: this is exactly what you don't say.
>>65722741
>is a pussy
>>65723980
I would hope my foundation for a long term relationship be more substantial than just liking the same movies or whatever.
I don't understand how other people do this dating stuff.
>people are actually saying anything other than just what they like
jesus fuck, what is wrong with you people?
>>65724018
>I think a relationship should be built on something other than one of the only things i can talk about
sounds like a good plan sport, good luck finding a lasting relationship when you can't talk about any of your main interests.
>>65723969
ah fair enough then. a lot of people on here complain about similar things as you and a lot of their problems could be solved by becoming aesthetically pleasing to look at
>>65723952
t. 16 year old virgin
this is an utterly retarded thing to say
>>65724018
don't worry about what you bring to the table (you're money). just casually date girls, and discover what kind of girl clicks with you.
date more.
>>65724018
>am I really all the things that are outside of me?
yes. unfortunately
>>65724096
ha. its like people listen to it-- but they don't get it.
>>65724041
I mean, the ideal is that you talk about yourselves, right? Like your feelings or something? I'm not sure.
>>65724042
I'm not super good looking or anything but I'm above average.
Sex isn't the problem. The affectionate relationship dynamic is just totally alien to me.
>>65724080
>what kind of girl clicks with you
(none of the above)
>>65724096
:(
>>65724124
>Like your feelings or something? I'm not sure.
me neither, full disclosure im a kissless virgin, but i guess talking about that kind of thing comes later. you dont start talking to someone about your hopes and dreams and fears.. that comes after you've been dating for a little bit
I think anyway
oh my actual real fucking god it doesn't matter, if your personalities line up and you are interested in each other then it's fine
which isn't to say either of those are easy
>>65724068
Well. Only half of that's true
>>65724124
get a dating app and date many girls. if you can get laid, they should be easy. learn about yourself, be emotionally open, get out of your head.
if its harder than this, you should see a therapist or analyst, who can help you work out your bullshit. (and don't think this is a sign of weakness-- its empowering)
>>65723980
You have no fucking idea
It really depends where you are though, I connect with girls from the city almost immediately, but in my small suburb there's fuck-all
>>65724161
I guess I should start by stating that I feel like an alien everywhere I go under looming clouds of subtle anxiety and hope to find a girl with the same idiosyncrasies (ha ha).
>>65724197
I tried Tinder. I don't like it. I don't like therapists either.
>>65724228
What city's suburb do you live in?
>>65724239
Chicago suburbs
Lots of people but very different culture
>>65724124
more: girls are just people you can have sex with. just treat them like a new a friend.
if its hard, it because you don't know who you are or what your attachments are. developing these is what young adulthood (and life really), is all about.
think about how you are greater than your taste in entertainment. if you think thats all you are (i've been there), work on yourself.
>>65724238
>looming clouds of subtle anxiety
>I don't like therapists either
try a different one. could help you a lot
>>65724228
then look you idiot, don't just stop doing something because it's hard, it's hard because it's worth doing.
>>65724124
>I'm not sure
just literally be yourself and do whatever you would normally do, but do it politely. If you don't connect, you don't connect, it's not the end of the world, a failed date isn't a disaster, it just means she's not for you.
>>65723333
long cat is certainly long
>>65724238
you would seriously benefit from seeing a therapist.
>>65723453
nice one
>>65724248
>more: girls are just people you can have sex with. just treat them like a new a friend.
I have girl friends / friends who are girls. I'm capable of being a friendly person, I'd just like someone I commit to or something like that.
>you don't know who you are of what your attachments are
I don't know what this means but I suspect it's true.
>>65724260
Not in the medical sense, just in the pragmatic / everyday / self conscious sense. I'm not medicated or anything, I'm just often nervous.
>>65724289
>just literally be yourself
I sincerely barely understand what that entails.
>>65724312
: /
Let me tell y'all a story
>be me
>freshman in high school
>in advanced biology class
>pretty chill everyday in there
>i'm wearing a shirt with pic related on it
>classmates include a fucking chad dudebro athlete sophomore (who's also an asshole), and a 10/10 sophomore girl who thinks i'm somewhat chill
>dudebro sees my shirt
>says something along the lines of, "Melvins? What's that mean?"
>i explain to him that they're a grunge band, and go so far as to pull up the lyrics to one of their songs ("Hooch")
>for those that don't know, their lyrics are total fuckin' nonsense
>dudebro reads them aloud, is having a gay old time
>10/10 sophomore girl overhears this and says, "This reminds me of a Sims conversation!"
>laugh nervously
Was this a win or a fail, /mu/? I never played the Melvins to her, and she probably doesn't remember the scenario, but I sure as shit do, because she was fuckin' smoking
>>65724338
>I sincerely barely understand what that entails.
How do you normally act?
>>65724338
>just in the pragmatic / everyday / self conscious sense. I'm not medicated or anything, I'm just often nervous.
sounds like you could use a therapist bro. they're not just for psychos
>>65724357
I don't know, good? I try to be polite / friendly / nice but introspectively I don't see any characteristics within myself that would seriously distinguish me from any of my friends or anyone I interact with on sheer incidence.
I feel like I just exist more or less.
>>65724361
I don't have the means for that right now.
>find girl who's into the same music as me
>she's ugly as sin
e v e r y t i m e
>>65724414
>means
$25 for an hour every week? every two weeks is fine too. It's not that expensive
>>65724353
i mean, she didn't like you.
but you have a strong, indelible memory of being a dorky high school kid, which is part of growing up, and is a win.
>>65724443
This
>>65722741
>garage rock, microtonal death metal, shakira
Doesn't reflect my tastes very well but can get a laugh out of some normies.
>>65724443
>find a girl who's not into the same music as me but I find that it doesn't matter because there are more important thing to a relationship
>she rejects me anyway
I'll never win
>>65724448
Different here.
>>65724414
if you are going to university, they have student resources. if not, and you are covered by your parents insurance, that could cover it. you're making excuses.
everything you're saying (i just exist, i don't see any characteristics in myself) is a big deal. you're expressing it to a message board because its easy, but we can't really help you. we can only suggest you share this with some one in real life-- and the best person for that is a therapist. its tough, but it will really help you.
>>65722788
Best answer.
>>65724535
>everything you're saying (i just exist, i don't see any characteristics in myself) is a big deal. you're expressing it to a message board because its easy, but we can't really help you.
I'm just talking. These aren't conversations I have in real life. It would grant me the same satisfaction to say this aloud with no one to hear.
Also, I'm not in uni.
>>65724353
total and absolute fucking win. she wet her melvins underwear but your beta-ass didn't call her out on it
>>65722741
>e-experimental
>>65723521
That's probably soc and fa
>>65724528
Come on, it can't be that bad. It's an expense just once every week or two, and trust me it's worth it.
>>65724599
>one of the
>>65723217
hey anon ;)
I usually just say fuck off, I don't want people knowing things about me
>>65724611
Appreciate the concern but no, it's not feasible. Not something I'm particularly interested in anyhow.
>>65724571
i know these aren't conversations you have in real life. its self-pitying navel-gazing.
look you're bemoaning not being able to share things with people (friends, colleagues, gfs), but you aren't making the effort. if you want to actually feel better about yourself and who you are, you need to share yourself with people and be vulnerable.
>>65724653
Alright man. Well good luck
>>65724632
>meh
>>65724672
>its self-pitying navel-gazing
I mean, I'm not pitiful of myself or anything. I live a good / comfortable life.
>you aren't making the effort
>be vulnerable
I don't know what that looks like in application. What is it people are sharing?
>>65724674
Thank you. :-)
>>65724761
ask a therapist or your friends. (how novel).
later wimp.
>>65724780
>later wimp
Rude.
>>65724353
I'm taking a giant risk posting her pic here, but this is the girl, to provide context
>>65722741
>music asks me what girls I like
>>65724799
i bet you fap to her pics constantly
>>65724799
>10/10
You live in a flyover state by any chance, Anon?
>>65724834
Her and all her friends
>>65724867
Ohio... why?
>>65724799
She's plain as fuck
>>65724799
stop posting my pics on 4chan you fucking weirdo
also I'm 8/10 at best
>>65724799
Kevin I know it's you
Fucking weirdo
Also I fucked your best friend
>>65724925
She's very cute, but would not be considered close to a 10/10 in any major city or state. Actually, I think she's a strong 7/10 in most places, I'm just being judgmental.
>>65724961
>>65724949
>>65724799
>that nose
>>65723333
long cat
long string of digits
long correctness
>>65724988
She was pretty high up there at my school. No fuckin' playboy playmate or swimsuit model, but certainly in my top 5
>>65725024
lol Ohio doesn't have very many hot girls
>>65722927
just rape her
>>65722783
>not listening to hip-hop but enjoying death grips
>enjoying death grips
>>65724353
Huge fail. Everything about this is prime cringe thread material. Wearing band shirts anywhere but a concert, explaining your crappy grunge bands that no one outside of indie blogs has ever heard of to other people, expecting Chad and Stacy to understand their stupid lyrics, not understanding when others are making fun of you. Thank God you didn't play any music at least.
>>65724353
do you have the autismos?
>>65722741
honestly, every time ive ever talked to a girl about music I feel like I come off as a giant autistic faggot. So I typically just say "I like (Insert band im really into at the time here)" and then go on from there. If I hang out with her more than once ill show her some other stuff im into and try my best not sperg.
>>65725162
How is this bait? Did I offend you because you actually do these things in real life? What that anon did was a complete lack of self-awareness on his part. Reevaluate your life, my man because you might be autistic.
>>65724799
Even in NZ that's about a 4.
>>65725199
I sure act like I do, I'll tell you that much
>>65725231
Let me break it down
>Wearing band shirts anywhere but a concert
The people I knew couldn't give a shit less what I wore, unless they saw something they liked
>explaining your crappy grunge bands that no one outside of indie blogs has ever heard of to other people
1. Chad noticed the shirt, I didn't shove it in his face
2. The Melvins were Kurt Cobain's favorite band, and Buzzo (the singer) was his mentor
>expecting Chad and Stacy to understand their stupid lyrics
Even I don't understand them. They're complete nonsense, and I expected Chad and Stacy to laugh at them
>not understanding when others are making fun of you
All publicity is good publicity in my eyes. My name wasn't slandered or anything, and we talked afterward
i listen to radiohead a lot but i usually say i listen to coldplay or arctic monkeys
>>65723622
What if I said I like some hip hop but dislike most rap
>>65722741
>"Anything except really trashy country"
Works for me every time.
>>65724799
already found her ig senpai
>>65725875
Link or no you didn't
Black metal
>answering with a full list of genres
Unless the girl in question works for the Pitchfork HR dept and you're there for a job interview, don't.
>>65723319
Electronic dentist music sounds rad, has anyone made this yet?
>>65724799
Underage OP confirmed. There's no way you aren't in middle school or early high school.
>>65725927
This, OP.
Real talk, mention two or three genres and use terms everyone knows. "I like indie and weird psych rock".
>>65726018
Hit the sweet spot between being too boring and being too dorky by starting with just band names:
"I'm a big fan Of Montreal and Deerhoof. You never heard of them ? It's like indie mixed with weird psych rock lol"
>>65723364
Did she name any bands in particular?
>everything except modern redneck, trucks and cousin fucking country
not hard son
>>65726018
>>65726167
I've never heard anyone use the term "psych rock"
>>65723377
>>implying anyone on /mu/ is normie enough to come up with that in a conversation with a grill
>implying that "You're probably into some really weird shit.You probably only listen to dentist drills with electronic music in the background." is in any way good bantz or clever or witty
in fact, it sounds like the dumb shit an average /mu/tard would say
Whatever I find interesting at the moment.
>>65722834
>>65723025
Mongolian throat singing got you beat.
>>65723579
>>65723660
she doesn't sound dumb, she's just a normalfag
>>65722741
Tango. Step it up.
>>65723660
>liking game of thrones
>>65722741
when they ask you what music you like they pretty much always mean what artists you like, at which point you say "drake, kendrick lamar, and biggie smalls/tupac" if she's the type to listen to that kind of stuff, if she's more, ahem, 'white' then rattle off names like 'daft punk, deadmau4' or whatever. you DON'T list off 'indie' or 'alternative' bands or rappers, you don't want to immediately damage her 'special snowflake' image that she has built for herself in her head, later on, if you have successfully built off a relationship off of a bullshit boring conversation about music, you have a chance of discovering her 'unique' taste in music (music that you no doubt have extensive knowledge in, because it's probably pleb asf, and patricians know all about pleb music) and bonding over having 'mutual special snowflake' tastes in music.
>>65726807
I really hope this is a pasta I don't know about.
>match with girl on tinder, bio says "judging based on music taste"
>she likes shoegaze, midwest emo, and doom metal
>make her into full patrician
>she's a music writer now
feels good to be able to share my taste with someone who appreciates it
>>65722927
Looks like a giant pleb OP you dun' good.
Y'all think to much about this shit
Just tell her what you've lately been listening too, something like: "That's a hard question because I'm really into music. But lately..."
The only important thing is that you should ask her what she's into, she wouldn't have asked you the question if she isn't passionate about music to some degree.
A girl asked me what I was humming and I told her "you wouldn't have heard of it."
>>65727057
this is legitimately good advice
>Be at Uni a couple of years ago
>Mett pretty cool girl on Campus
>See her a few days later and she asks me what music I'm litening to
>Seen all the dumb meme threads of /mu/ about this and think fuck it why should I lie
>Tell her I'm litening to Toots and the Maytals
>"It's like ska/reggae but not shit"
>She looks at me like I'm insane
>Never talks to me again
I should have told her I was litening to Muse, she would have fucking loved that
>>65722741
"You probably haven't heard of it, anyway."
>>65726807
>you don't want to immediately damage her 'special snowflake' image that she has built for herself in her head
This is honestly good advice. In my experience it's fine to gradually start talking about less mainstream artists and kind of make it a thing to discover each other's taste in music or whatever. If she's genuinely interested in music at all, that is. If not, who gives a shit? Just tell her you listen to "a bit of everything" and avoid the conversation completely.
>live in Aus
>say you like local bands
like fish in a barrel m8
