How do you learn to accept being an LGBT alphabet soup?
I'd be ok with being trans. I could be ok with being gay, too. I could still be loved. But being both is just not fucking fair.
I don't want to kill myself but I want this bullshit to stop.
>>6558539
Why do you have trouble accepting both? Accepting being bisexual was effortless compared to accepting being transgender for me.
>>6558579
Because if you're gay, 10% of people are also gay and would date you. And if you're trans, there's still 10% of straight people who'd date you.
Who the fuck would want a horse who's both ugly and unrideable?
>>6558539
So are you a trans guy that likes guys or a trans girl thar likes girls?
>>6558618
I'm ftm and into guys.
I've considered just finding some girl who's ok with no sex at all ever but I encountered one this summer and I was just like "no".
>>6558645
>I'm ftm and into guys.
>aka every ftm ever
>>6558645
Oh yea that's harsh. I don't know for sure what the dating pool is like for gay trans guys, but I'm a lesbo trans woman so I can sorta see where you're coming from. Your best bet is probably with bi men.
Have you had any luck with dating men in general?
>>6558739
According to this, 63.6% of trans men have sex with men.
http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15532739.2013.791650
It might be good for OP to read it too.
>>6558748
>Have you had any luck with dating men in general?
No. Not even when I was presenting female and dating straight men.
>>6558781
>can't date on easy mode
just how fucking ugly are you?!
OP have you considered getting with another ftm? Automatically will need no worries about their opinions on trans shit. I imagine more likely to view you as a real man than the general population.
There is a reason trans people often get together. Sex might not be ideal but it makes life go much more smoothly. Plus ftms imo are not nearly as prone to being batshit crazy in a really cringey way like mtfs can get. Maybe even more likely to work, then.
>>6558859
Being a manlet with no dick isn't ezmode.
>>6558869
>Plus ftms imo are not nearly as prone to being batshit crazy in a really cringey way like mtfs can get
What about tumblr bullshit?
Tumblr bullshit is a dealbreaker.
I'd be ok with no dick, but I'd be willing to get up and ditch my date mid-sentence as soon as any made-up genders come up.
Also, trying to apply american racial politics in Finland.
I can deal with almost anything and I know I'd be lucky to be tolerated by anyone, but people who go full retard with tumblr activism are below me.
>>6558894
Oh, are you that same Finnish FtM? Any success with getting T? You seem less anxious.
>>6558949
They tried to put me in some *group therapy* with seven cis women. My next appointment with the actual psychiatrist is on the 22nd of this month, and I expect he expects me to have made leaps of progress with my ~*anxiety*~, and I will again have to somehow spoonfeed him in the information that experiencing anxiety from having my time arbitratily wasted by a bunch of incompetent jackasses is a perfectly natural reason to experience anxiety. They're not letting me back to the ACTUAL PROFESSIONALS IN THE REAL TRANS CLINIC before "anxiety" has been "treated".
I've been trying since last autumn and if I haven't gotten into treatments by the end of this year, I'm going to figure out how to get them abroad.
>>6558645
I would totes date an ftm. And I'm mega - homo.
So there's me, and other me's are out there, for you, I'm sure.
My only issue is being a complete fucking introvert with no drive to physically meet new people.
>>6558585
>unrideable
are you a top or a bottom???
>>6558996
That's not a problem unless you have a problem with your partner going out and meeting people by himself.
I used to date someone like that, and the worst of all was that he was paranoid about cheating (100% of his previous partners, some of his coworkers and his mom were all huge cheats) and it was a long-distance thing. So while I was out socialising and having a great time, there was a constant awareness that he's sitting at home dreading me riding a million thousand dicks on another continent.
I was sometimes tempted to ask him whether I'd really bother with dating him if I could get the attention of literally anyone else.
>>6559010
I hate sex but being the passive party makes it easier for me to disassociate and wait for it to be over.
>>6559018
>the worst part
Trust me I know. My friends hate me for being unconditionally sceptical of anyone I meet, despite having no reason. And it really gets in the way of potential relationships, and has ruined so many opportunities to pass on my v-card. I don't have trust issues though. I just have an issue with going out too often or spending a lot of time with another person at once.
Makes me feel horrible because I sometimes just want to have some alone time when it's really not convenient for others.
It's something I really need to improve. But I think dating an ftm would be cool. Preferably one with a hyper masculine sexual drive.
>>6559021
>tfw no ftm bf to explore sexuality with on a fundamentally personal level while we fall in love wordlessly day after day
Life sucks, and then you die.
>>6559071
Okay. That's not going to be me.
Especially if you won't move to Finland and learn finnish and actively avoid growing bitter and always silently resenting me for making you get trapped in this shit country forever.
>>6559083
Are you fat and willing to move to Finland?
Realize that no one is "normal", people that hate you arent worth your time, and that life is too short and precious to not accept its just who you are
>>6558739
Nah. I'm straight.
>>6559090
>>6559085
Haha, I just have really specific sexual fantasies. I think I'd even prefer to never have to talk about them, and never have sex with someone in the first place.
Not fat in the slightest, although I think I'd be willing to move to scandinavia for someone I love.
I just want a guy I connect with on a personal level. Someone to argue and discuss with. Someone to listen to obscure music with on cold days in front of the fireplace.
/itsthatkindofsappyfantasy/
>>6559096
I don't get hated. I've never been treated poorly. I just want to be universally approved and supported, having people reassure me that it's ok and my problems are valid and something sane ordinary people can relate to.
It'd be exhausting telling someone about the weird noise your car's engine keeps making if their first question is "what is a car?" and then having to go through the extensive history of cars and how a basic gas engine works (drawing charts is recommended) and how it is not a flesh-and-bones creature and entirely unrelated to the horse.
And why just walking 12 kilometres there and back every day is simply not a realistic option, even if you physically *can* do it.
I just want to feel like a valid human being, you know? I don't want to justify all the choices I haven't had the choice to not make.
>>6559130
>Finnish
>Scandinavian
>not Mongoloid
OP probably has the chinkiest monolid eyes you've ever seen.
>tfw think I might be a tboy chaser
>tfw like Colorado and don't want to leave
>>6559170
Are they?
>>6559193
>vertical pictures appear horizontal
>horizontal pictures appear upside down
I fucking give up.
>>6559151
>>6559170
I know very little about Finland. And I don't really care about looks, as long as someone is clean and we connect personally.
>>6559193
I don't see it.
>>6559170
>Thinks Finland is part of Scandinavia
Wew
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Faggot
>>6559272
Educate me instead of insulting me.
>>6559347
Finland is actually a part of eastern europe, but everyone is embarrassed to admit that (or refuses to aknowledge it) so we made up this term "fennoscandia" which basically means "scandinavia and finland", and it's always used to refer to finland.
>>6559367
That's retarded.
