Does anybody else here hate being asked the question "What do you identify as?"
Yes, yes, I know that this is a liberal town and that I'll be accepted no matter what my approved four-letter personal identification acronym is.
It's still a bit of a personal question, don't you think? It seems pretty presumptuous to approach a stranger and ask an intrusive question like that.
"Why do you ask?" I say. "Am I obligated to out myself?"
"Some people..." they say in a huff "like to share their identity so they can feel a sense of belonging to a community!"
"So... you need to know if I'm an 'us' or a 'them'?"
These exchanges bother me. I wish people wouldn't ask me about my sexual identity. (Unless they are interested in fucking, I guess?)
>>6493829
yeah
i don't "identify as" anything
>>6493829
Maybe think of it more as "who do you identify with?" surely you identify with some people more than others right?
This is why I can't stand liberals tbqh.
everything has to be identity and labels.
Fuck that, no one cares.
People actually ask you that in real life?
>>6494273
I have in fact been asked what that on numerous occasions in this town.
"Oh, hey! I just realized I don't know what you identify as."
"So, we'd like to ask you some questions to get to know you better. First, what pronoun do you prefer, and what do you identify as?"
It's a college town.
Also, I am getting sick of the pronoun thing. Let's just drop pronouns altogether and call people by their names!
>>6493829
>be passing ftm for over a year
>lucked out with gender neutral name
>meet new group of people at a lfg night at lhs
>college aged, dyed hair, alt looking, not unusual for my college heavy area
>middle of sentence girl looks at me
>"What are your pronouns?"
>all eyes expectantly on me
>time stops
>pit falls out of stomach
>blood rushes to head and face
>deer in head lights
>shitshitshit
>whatisthenormalresponsehere.avi
>'um, oh, he?'
>time starts up
Fuck, out of nowhere with this 'politeness' and political correctness sucker punched
This asking for pronouns shit really piasea me off. I've never personally been asked, but the idea is infuriating. Like, and trans person is gonna be uncomfortable in the situation, hesitate, and then be outed, or think that they were just clocked and feel like shit. Who is this meant to help? Is it just to earn oppression points and feel superior, or...?
>>6494553
>Typos
I can't type for shit on mobile
You can thank the globalists for turning your sexual identity into a weapon, wait till everyone learns that Gender = fetish, people are then going to turn [popular fetish] into a political identity.
Now, here's another punch in the gut.
I was briefly homeless when I moved to this town. I was staying with a friend briefly at first while I searched for a place to live, but they weren't going to suffer my presence for too long. They begrudgingly agreed to have me over since I was an old friend, but they were really insistent on knowing the intimate details of my sexual identity. It was really creepy the way they would interrogate me about it, and between that and having to sleep on their couch it was a really degrading experience.
Trying to find a place of my own in this town was really rough thanks to the soaring rent and the college students. It was quite discouraging to see such a large homeless population in this town.
I applied to a number of these cooperative housing places and went through their membershipping process. Membershipping entailed an interview process with me being questioned by committees of coop residents. The interview included a lot of really probing questions on the topic of my sexual preference and identity. It felt really dehumanizing.
Fortunately, I was able to find a place to live (after a month of bouncing around between hostels, AirBNB, and couch surfing.) But it was a really shocking, eye-opening experience for me.
>>6494553
Bun/bunself
It's meant to help everybody, but it benefits most those in the trans* community and those who don't identify within the traditional binary. It's simply a matter of being polite!
>>6493829
I feel people who do this are going out of their way to earn "progressive" points, it's ridiculous and intrusive
>>6494634
Im sorry for you anon
But if you don't mind me asking, which country are you talking about
>>6494634
Portland?
I'm a hormone popping femboy and I've been asked this before from this tranny at my work. They had potential, and were young, but had clearly just started hormones, had a really shitty voice, poorly fitting girls clothing, it seemed as if they had been brainwashed by the local hon-filled support group.
It went like this:
>sitting in break room
>tranny comes in
>awkwardly says hi and sits down
>says "sooo you don't exactly look cis. . . what are your preferred pronouns?"
>fuuuuggggggg
>act like I have no idea what they're talking about
>they start explaining
>say I'm just a normal guy
>shit remains awkward between us from then onward
>leave and get a different job eventually, never see them again
I live in a pretty conservative area so I don't worry about just anyone coming up and asking such things, but I do worry about trannies doing it in the right settings. Sometimes I encounter trannies just walking around in day to day life doing whatever, and they always stare at me really hard, even harder than people normally stare.
>>6494792
People can smell the estrogen on you lad
>>6494792
>hormonally transitioning
>Why does everyone think I'm trans* lol
YOU ARE THE ASTERISK
>>6495219
Not really. I'm not transitioning into anything, I'm just going about life as usual. I'm pretty much a guy with rock-bottom test levels who is taking a low dose of estrogen for health benefits (over taking just AA alone) and some aesthetic bonuses. I look pretty odd and androgynous now but that's how it goes. I'm not trying to be seen as some other gender, I'm just some boy who likes things better without normally functioning testicles.
"identity" is a coping mechanism for cognitive dissonance. Only bisexuals identify as gay or straight, the rest just ARE.
i identify as a cishet male despite being a disgusting tranny
>>6493829
>sexual orientation
>identify as
Absolute cancer, it doesn't matter what you identify as, sexual orientations are objective.
>>6493829
My default response is generally 'none of your fucking business', because I don't have a list of sexuality labels.
What they WANT to know is if you're a weak-minded socialist liberal commie nut like them. Which I'm not.
And, frankly, anyone who can't discern what I identify as from looking at me isn't worth my time. So convenient that it drives away people who feel the need to 'identify' as something.
>>6494553
a lot of this supposedly LGBT-friendly stuff doesn't seem very helpful. personally i would be uncomfortable with someone (especially someone i don't know well) asking how i "identify"
