hey /lgbt/ how much do you hate your body?
i literally find my body so disgusting because it's nothing like guys from porn industry, i grew up thinking i don't deserve to have sex with anyone if i don't have the body like them. Now i'm 20+ virgin and still have the same problem, i literally cant get undressed in front of anyone. btw i don't have any abnormalities beside red spots and hair (which is mostly removed but still feel gross because i'm not hairless)
Get buff Faggit
>>6435565
Porn is fantasy you retard. Do you also go around bitching that your life isn't exactly like a sitcom?
Get over yourself. You don't look like the people who's job it is to look good having sex, and the person you're going to have it with probably won't either. Sex isn't a fashion show.
Porn is entertainment fantasy. It's often no more realistic than Lord of the Rings. Look at it for what it is.
>>6435585
>Porn is fantasy you retard. Do you also go around bitching that your life isn't exactly like a sitcom?
i know, but still i can't control how i feel. I have eyes i see people around me naked all the time and i do know they don't have perfect bodies tho! Anyway nothing changes how i feel about mine, i started feeling like this from the very early age so im kinda screwed. btw there is no need to be rude to me :<
>>6435631
thanks anon
>>6435647
>i started feeling like this from the very early age so im kinda screwed
No, you aren't. I promise, there is a man in your area who would love to fuck you. Find him, meet up with him, and get your self-esteem back in shape. I just hope you don't have the same standards for other people that you have for yourself, because if that's the case then you're fucked.
>>6435666
nahhh, i don't expect anyone to be perfect, but im not really into hookups so i don't think i'm gonna ever do that. I don't know how will i get over that because if i dated someone and had to get naked in front of them i'd literally die of shortness of breath lmao
>>6435565
MtF here. I don't really hate my body at all anymore. I used to have terrible dysphoria but it slowly peeled away after a few years. I have always been into fitness and lately I've been running at least 4 times a week. My body has become tan and more toned than it's ever been. People literally cheer me on or catcall me or smile as I jog past them. It's stupid but it really does feel good. My sense of style has also slowly improved, and that's a big part of looking good.
I can breathe much easier, too! If you hate something, just push yourself to change it. The right approach could change the game for you. Seriously!
>>6435647
>i know, but still i can't control how i feel.
Then you need to grow up. I'm sorry if this comes off as rude, but it's honestly trying to help you. Your only problem is one of a twisted unrealistic expectation of how you should look. One you don't even hold other people to.
It's a problem, sure. But it's far from insurmountable. Stop being such a drama whore and accept that you're not a supermodel. No one else is realistically expecting you to be one, so just be yourself.
Also, when you do get to your first time or two keep the lighting low to keep your insecurities in check.
Seriously though, from someone who's watched a fuck load of porn and had a lot of sex, they are very very very different. But that's hard to understand still being a virgin. Once you actually jump in and have some you will realize how silly you're being now.
>>6435565
whats ur skype
I totally hate the way i look
>but im getting over it because
>people say my face is cute, but im fucking hideous
>my bf tells me he likes my butt, How?! im a bear
>my bf tells me he like me hairy; when i mention i should wax my back
Its all in your head
>>6435737
i look good with my clothes on desu, im always dieting, never work out though because i wanna keep this feminine looking body i currently have.
>>6435743
i know no one expects me to be a supermodel but if i am dating someone i wanna look good for them i don't want them to think im disgusting the same way i do.
>>6435758
i don't use skype anon :(
>>6435783
You're right that these arent big problems as scoliosis or something like that but if it stops you from doing normal things and makes you feel frustrated and hating yourself then you can't say that it's not a problem or that it is shallow, that would be the same if you told the person who suffers from ED's that they are shallow for going through that.
>>6435866
>but if i am dating someone i wanna look good for them i don't want them to think im disgusting the same way i do.
Then you just have to learn to trust people. You are being a harsher judge on yourself than other people. I too used to feel ugly, but you see yourself differently than other people do. If someone says they like you and want to get with you then take yes for an answer.
Porn is almost all visual though, this is an important thing to keep in mind. You're looking at perfectly sculpted people with huge rockhard cocks doing all sorts of things. And the visuals and their beauty are what you're focusing on because that's what's there.
But actual sex is far less visual. You are looking at each other, certainly. But it's very different from bright lighting and and a removed viewing angle like you get in porn. It's far more about touch, communication and physical presence. It's nowhere near as much about looks as porn makes it seem. And being attractive doesn't necessarily make sex good.
If I could go back and have sex with any of my old partners again, the ones I would go to first aren't necessarily the ones who were the most physically attractive. It would be the ones I had the best connection and times with. Hotness is nice, but it's far from everything.
>>6435947
> If someone says they like you and want to get with you then take yes for an answer.
yes but it's not like they've seen me naked when they said that, thats the problem. And i totally agree with you about connection and all the stuff you said. And yes i'm tough when it comes to myself but super accepting when its about others, idk.
>>6435565
If it makes you feel better, I feel that exact same way you do. 6'2", 205 pounds, almost all thighs. But the hookup scene is strange to me, and I keep working out think that I have a weight problem when I know I dont.
Just a self esteem thing... Avoid the hookup scene if you want. I'm living with an older more adjusted gay next year (and we have a strict no sex agreement) but I'm hoping I'll turn around having him as my example.
Any way, you definitely aren't alone.
>>6436014
I disagree, dont just sleep around. You're a virgin, and there's no race to loose that. Take your time, look at the field. Wait until you find someone who can be patient with you. You'll feel bad giving the v card to some stranger.
>>6435947
Oh, nevermind. Senpai is giving good advise here, the quote made it seem different. Carry on.
>>6436014
Yeah, but the same way you're not expecting someone to be a 10/10 ripped sex god when they take their shirt off, the same isn't being expected of you. I know it can be hard, I used to feel ugly as well. But it's really not worth holding you back.
A bit of faith, a bit of low lighting and a boy you connect with and like and you'll be amazed looking back at how you were thinking. I wish you all the best of luck. You can do it!
p.s. For all it's perfectly crafted hotness, porn is nowhere near as good as sex with someone you like.
>>6435565
I've always been a true bottom at heart.
Sadly I am 6'4 270 and due to my physical job, have big arms and a barrel chest.
I have always been the biggest, I've always been the strongest but when it comes my personality I've always been the meekest and the most shy.
Who wants a 6'4 bottom? I have only got to bottom once and that was to some 5'7 guy who looked like Kanye.
Honestly I think I'm going to force myself straight, I live in the deep south so coming out would fuck my life up anyways. I only met that guy at a club when I went with my two les friends.
>>6436234
I love topping taller guys but I'm 5'7" myself. If you don't like shorter guys you need to get over that because a lot of short tops get really turned on at the thought of dominating a a much bigger guy. Height doesn't matter once you're doing the horizontal tango
>>6436234
:(
I'd think someone in this world would want to top a big burly man like you. Not all bottoms have to be little twink boys.
Im 26 and have viewed myself as ugly since highschool. My appearance has only become worse. Had I known about anti androgens back then I would have gotten on them.
>>6435565
Do the right stuff and you'll feel better about yourself. I kinda felt similarly last year, but I've been working out and I'm pretty fit now. I've also had a small support group who've stuck around forever now.
>>6435565
I hate my body too. I hate that my face looks more and more like my dads as I age, and I hate the extra pounds I let sneak up on me these past couple years.
I wish I could be a slimmer guy, but my body would rather pack on muscle and fat than be lean.
I have a massive fucking mole on my lip and I'm getting it removed in a few weeks. Other than that, being skinnier would help alot.
