I don't really know how to handle this and I'm at my wit's end trying on my own, I think I might be in shock, my bf went out friday night and didn't get home until 3 in the morning, and he went straight to bed, wouldn't talk to me, and he spent all day saturday in bed, he only got up to piss and get something to drink, didn't even eat, and I finally got him to talk to me and he said he got raped on friday night and wants me to leave him alone, he hasn't eaten anything since friday except for a protein bar I brought him, and every time I check on him to see if he wants to talk or try to sit there and just be there with him he covers himself up under the blanket and totally ignores me, I've been sleeping on the couch because I'm afraid of touching him right now, he seems really adamant about not wanting to be touched, I really just want to help him but I can't accept the idea that the best thing I can do is to leave him alone, there has to be something I can do
Just hold them down hiss at them. Maybe let some saliva
Fall on them from your mouth. Hold them still and enjoy yourself.
Rimjob
don't know what I expected from 4chan
I am a yaoi expert.
Rimjob dude!
You push him until he breaks down and start crying, then you lick his raped soar butt to ensure him that you still love him. Even though he is now diminished to a honor less rape victim, forever tainted.
>>6161089
Try making him talk about it, then when he starts talking you start rubbing your dick. That would be hilarious.
Well, his sexuality is forever fucked now, so you might as well rape him so that he associates the conflicting feelings of pleasure to you instead of some nigger in a club.
Just kinda rape him, but make it sorta romantic, like "oooh I have to have sex with you now, I wish I could quit you senpai!". He wants proof that you still love him and that he isn't damaged beyond repair. A good snuggle with a struggle would du that.
>>6161089
I think there are rape crisis lines people can call, try that. Make sure that you offer him food (just make his favorite) and leave it close to him so he doesn't have to leave the bed. Leave the house periodically and tell him you're leaving so he can get up and take a shower if he needs to. Idk that's what I think would help.
Perhaps getting him into a situation where the subject shifts to him being raped naturally.
Like, you make him food. Like saucages for dinner. And you just casually go:
"Hey, you know, this kinda reminds me of you being raped. What was that like?"
You've gotta surprize him man, that is key. He is expecting you to be all comforting and shit, he will be resisting that. But no one expects a rock hard hip shot from the psycho jimmies!
>>6161193
Oh yeah! Great idea Anon!
So, OP, do you have one of those phones where it is like a shared line so you can listen in? Then when he is telling his story being all like "and he held me down, tears was streaming down my face, I kept saying no" he just hears you in the background be like "Oh my god that is so hot!". He thinks he is dirty now, because he got raped, you've gotta try turning the tables. You know, make it into an advantage for him.
Positivity anon, positivity!
Be like:
I also got raped once.
Then make up a story about being raped that is way worse than his could possibly be, then he feels you've shared something intimate about your past and feel stupid for overreacting about his inferiorly gruesome rape. Maybe like some old gross neighbour took pictures of you and threatened to show them to everybody if you didn't crossdress, then he raped you while you where wearing girl clothes and you had never felt so worthless and ashamed in your entire life!
>>6161089
Make him feel sorry for you!
Make dinner in the kitchen, but make sure he is nearby so he can see you. Everything seems fine, you're just being supportive good you making his favourite dinner. Then out of fucking nowhere you just smash the plates into the ground, fall down and start crying. "I didn't deserve this, what did I do wrong! Why was i such a horrible boyfriend" be really dramatic about it. Then he will have to take focus away from himself and focus on you. Then you can feel sorry for each other instead of him.
Are any of my solutions doing anything for you?
I am certified sociopath doing this out of my own enjoyment of your sad sad situation, but still, a little gratitude would be nice.
Dude!
Give him viagra in his food bruh!
He won't know why he has it and try to find a reason. It will be like the funniest practical joke ever. Upload it to youtube man! It'll be better than that guy who got his WoW account cancelled.
Imagine this:
>Oh my god, my bf just got raped and I put viagra in his food
>Look at him man, he is just sitting there
>Look man, he is all like, why the fuck do I have a boner?
>Oh dude he is tripping balls man!
You'd get like more subscribers than anyone, and be on television.
Was he raped by a guy?
What has he told you?
It's probably important for him to get tested if he was anally raped by a guy
It could had been consensual, now he's regretting it
Is your bf uke or seme, because we all know ukes are pure angelic creatures who always tell the truth. If he is seme he probably fucked some guy at a bar and regretted it later, semes are the worst!
>>6161221
Yeah, don't do this
>>6161193
>leave it close to him so he doesn't have to leave the bed.
also make something that doesn't lose flavor if you live it there for a few hours.
>>6161447
all the joking aside, it would be a good idea to go see a doctor for any std and maybe internal infections festering.
Take, two socks, one on each hand and hide behind the bed. And do a thematic puppet show.
Puppet one: I got raped!
Puppet two: Oh, how cool, I was raped too!
Puppet one: No waaaaaay
Puppet two: Yeah, but it is okay because I'm still a valuable person
Puppet one: I feel horrible, I haven't eaten in days
Puppet two: Cheer up friend! Let's sing the rape song together!
Puppet one: Yay!
One two, a one two three four
EVERYBODYS GOT AIDS!
NANANANANANA
EVERYBODYS GOT AAAAIDS!
Be like:
"Hey man... we have to talk about it, this isn't doing us any good. I feel horrible, I haven't been able to do anything else but being worried for the last couple of days. And you don't have to tell me everything right now, shit like this is gonna take, I'm willing to wait, but please give me this one thing: Was his bigger than mine?"
>>6162762
This is a pretty good solution
>>6161089
Don't force him to talk about it. Just be there and try to help him in small ways. If you do leave, try not to leave for very long as it's obvious that he's dealing with something very, very traumatic and you can't be sure he won't hurt himself.
Seconding the idea to make him food and leave it for him. Also make food to leave in the fridge for him to reheat.
Right now he's processing what happened. Give him a little bit of time before you start prying about it, but once he starts coming out of the room again try to encourage him to seek help-- without insisting that he tell you about what happened. What matters is that he gets help.
The guy is probably in a hypervigilant state, the longer he stays there the more likely he is to get severe PTSD.
I suggest you get him some nervecalming meds. In hyper vigilant state he wont eat or sleep, this is not healthy for him at all. Get him meds OP, and make damn sure he takes em.
Alternatively you could hold him down and order him to breathe slowly, 4 seconds in, hold 4 second, then 4 seconds out, hold 4 seconds. But he doesn't sound like he is open to that now. He need mindfullness.
Your friend sounds very depressed. The world is a horrible place if you're gonna have that attitude. You have to be able to turn things like this on their head, say: well, at least I'm pretty enough for a rape! Don't let your bf mess with your mojo, stay positive. Remember, someone out there escaped a rape somewhere in this world today, now, how you choose to focus is up to you! It is your attitude that determines your altitude. Let him be himself and see how far that gets him, just be yourself and do your thang man. He'll soon discover how far being negative gets him!
>3 serious replies in 25 posts
>one of them includes ilegally getting drugs and forcing him to take them
>one of them includes forcing a rape victim to stay down
>general concensus on making food
>>6163005
Yeah, you need to tranquilize that boy OP. He is clearly in shock and had been for days. Get the drugs legally if you can, but you have classic case of shock going on, and unless you wanna pin him down and dominantly guide him through mental relaxation, wich you have zero training with, I suggest getting him some drugs.
>>6163083
There's training for that?
>>6161089
This thread is trash. here's some actual advice for you. I'm going to list things, you don't have to do all of them if you don't want but just use this as a reference:
>Clean his surroundings if he lets you, ESPECIALLY the bathroom if you can. Make it organized, smell good, clean the shower, leave a towel on the counter, etc. Bathrooms and showers are stressful to people who have been raped sometimes, so just try to make it clean and private.
>Do some laundry and leave some clean folded clothes on his bed. Don't even ask him to wear them, just leave them there. they should be comfy and long sleeved/thick. You can also swap out his blanket for a clean one IF he lets you. this helps more than you think.
>Don't manically clean everything around him, since he needs privacy, but the bathroom and laundry will help.
>Leave a drink with electrolytes, like gatorade for instance where he can get it, but don't force him to eat it. You can put some snacks there too, but nothing that you would want to eat if you were nauseous.
>Let him know that you're there for him, but that you won't force him to talk about it if he doesn't want to.
>Let him know that you love him, but you'll give him space if he wants that.
>Don't nag him about stuff besides a few reassurances and what I said before.
>Make your house or apartment fairly quiet, leave his door closed, close the blinds/curtains, etc.
>Don't make him talk to family members or friends or professionals UNLESS he seems suicidal.
Above all, don't touch him or pressure him about things. Depending on the kind of person he is, it could take time to get over. If you act frustrated or exasperated, even in a well-meaning way, it will take longer. Just give him space.
>>6163290
I should also note, it will take a while of simply being alone and processing his emotions himself before he wants to talk to you. It's not abnormal for that to go on for a week or more depending on how violent what happened to him was.
Once he starts interacting with you again, keep in mind that most if not all rape victims experience feeling:
>dirty or repulsed by their bodies
>shameful or guilty
>fearful
>anxious of being touched
>depressed
>inadequate
He might go through cycles of depression after this, and don't expect affection to go back to normal immediately. Even if it's not rational he might feel like he somehow is inadequate or disgusting to you now, or like he cheated. Just make sure he knows right from the start that you don't see him differently and you just want to help him. A therapist might help also.
Just generally, take things slow and listen to him. Don't worry too much about him being catatonic for a week, just make sure he gets water and electrolytes at least, but if he doesn't eat within two or three more days that's not a good thing.
the main concern at this point would just be making him feel safe, and letting him de-stress.
good luck
>>6163230
Yeah, at mental hospital, shock induced fractalization. It is a fast form of hypnosis that involves scaring a person to get their heartrate up so that they can focus on their tenseness in order to relax it. It works a lot faster than guided relaxation, and better with people resisting relaxation, like people in shock.
Here is what to do OP, say this:
Oh dear you, won't you please eat or sleep, because you're loosing hair crazy fast. You might be going bald!
Here I made you some food, I'm going down to the drug store to buy you something relaxing okay. Imma take care of you I promise, Imma take real good care of you.
Then you go down to the drug store and you buy some relaxing drug, but you also but viagra and you replace the drugs so he takes viagra.
Then, he probably opens up and you use that opportunity to talk about whay happened. And as he talks about how he got raped he gets a huge boner! And you start touching him like Ouuh I think someone needs to get raped a little bit more. And he will be crying like "No! It was horrible!" and you start stroking his dick and say "But what is this? Huh?".
>>6169142
Oh yeah, then you rape him. Because fucking someone who is crying is like the best thing there is.
>>6161089
Oh OP... You know, you should try doing something nice for him, to get his mind off himself and remember the outside world.
I recommend that you buy him an hour at a spa or something. Meanwhile he is out you and a couple of friends set up a surprize party. With nachos or taco, cake and maybe some gifts. And big banners with his name on them.
So when he comes in the door everybody shouts "Happy post rape party Anon!!!" and you'be made a pinata made out of a sex doll with ketchup in his anus and people are slapping it with a huge black dildo. And on the cake you've written "Happy rapesday". And you sing songs about how he used to be innocent and pure, but now he has been raped and is a real man.
I think you should connect on a whole other level. Like you should make a paiting of him being raped by a monster and say that you have channeled your feelings into it and want it to hang on the bedroom wall.
Try healing him like in the green mile, just grab hold of his dick and refuse to let go. Then vomit flies!
I think you should try exponating therapy. Expose him so much to the unpleasant stimuli that he grows used to it. Hang up post it notes all over the apartment with "YOU WERE RAPED" on them.
Also, stop treating him like a victim. It plays into his psyche like a self-fullfilling prophecy. If anything you should rape him while shouting "I WILL NOT REWARD THIS VICTIM BEHAVIOUR!"
Question him about the rapist, find him and kill him.
>>6161089
Write a seinfeld episode about how George would handle his boyfriend being raped.
Then act it out with your boyfriend.
>>6184238
And bring him his penis on a silver platter, then demand he eats it!
