Gays and trans, what is the source of your daddy issues if you have them?
Big admiration for my dad and never being able to show him I was capable of anything before he died.
Also, consider that most transgirls just have their edipo towards the dad instead of the mom.
tranny here
My dad would always try to "man me up" and call me a "poof" (British version of faggot basically)
When I was 14 he tried to give me hetero porn DVDs to straighten me out coz he's a weirdo
Transgender (male). I don't believe my Father had any effect because he wasn't in my life past the age of 5.
>>6105375
I mostly watch straight porn and imagine myself in the girl's place. It was a pretty bad idea I guess.
Gay male
I have no daddy issues. Me and my dad are the closest of friends. If I have any issues it is with my mom.
>>6105379
that's how most daddy issues start, you try to find something missing in yourself by unconciously completing things you think were missing before.
Like someone who starved as a child eating too much as an adult.
>>6105355
Gay here, I have none. I do have mommy issues though.
>>6105391
Well, I dunno. There are so may stories here you can't generalize. I personally retreated into books, speciically to do with marine biology and geology. That gave me a very masculine outlook on life compared to my sexuality and disired exterior.
>>6105409
How is it possible that marine biology could be such a manly science?
Similar situations don't result in the same results all the time, much less when it deals with such complex elements as infantile influences. Generally people who lose a familiar conection as a kid tend to try to complete it in weird ways even if doesn't really make sense to the concious mind. It's the kind of problem that traditional psychology can really help out, since it's about identifying evident conections that the person isn't aware of.
Of course, as a femfag I really apreciate social sciences. Such a stereotype.
>>6105454
Well, we have to remember transgender people are humans too, with all the emergent phenomona that come with it. I'm transgender towards female but it hasn't done anything to erase the scientific hunger or desire for something more than materialism, or even my desire to mate with a women. I like men mostly, but I won't hesitate to go mwith a women if I feel like. Everyone's different. Its just some people trend towards certain traits.
A gay
Dad was gone for most of my life but I had a stepdad and older brother who were more like fun uncles than father-figures but there were a lot of women in my life. As a result I'm a bit intimidated and uncomfortable around men that are older than me or overtly macho/loud/aggressive. I don't really think it's out of fear of them but unfamiliarity. I have one friend who has a temper and when he yells I sort of freeze even though I know he won't do anything. I enjoyed typical boy stuff growing up, I'm outdoorsy, and not really shy but going out for a boys' night or to sports games makes me clam up and nervous
he ded
>>6105487
It's important to diferentiate degrees of generality. For example, the correlation between a broken home and a strong edipal complex is much more frequent than "girls like soft science boys like hard sciences". One is a clear tendency and the other is more of a slef fulfilling stereotype.
>>6105355
I don't have 'daddy' issues as such. I'm bisexual and see the whole 'mummy' and 'daddy' thing as part of a power dynamic, synonymous with 'sir/master' and 'boy'. I like being the Sir/Master in fantasies and sexual situations. Daddy/Mummy only appeals to me when they're verbally dominant (but sexually submissive).
I'm a dom, total top bi.
Disregarding my sexuality, is anyone like this?
I have a fine relationship with my parents, so I know it certainly doesn't stem from that, and incest itself doesn't appeal to me.
>>6105375
>My dad would always try to "man me up" and call me a "poof"
Iktf. If I or if any male around him did anything remotely feminine he would laugh at them for being a poof or a queer. Any time something about gays or trans came on TV he would call them all 'a bunch of poofs' or make fun of the way they speak. He was distant as fuck and we fought a lot (fucking alcoholics) yet I loved him so much that I would try as hard as I could to fit in and join in when he made fun of people, even when it became apparent to me that I wanted to be a girl myself.
And now I almost exclusively fuck older men who look like him, and kinda dress slutty to get attention from guys like that (as well as trying to get it from him too). It's funny after all the things he said as I was growing up that he completely accepted my transition.
I was raised as a good boy, and my dad loved and still loves me. However he's also alcoholic and I've always tried to fix him, to cover up for him. Because I thought it was my fault. And now I have codependency issues, I always go after guys who are "weaker" than me so I can try fixing them and they could depend on me because I'm so desperate for affection. If I fall for guy who's strong and independent my heart breaks because I'll feel like he doesn't want or need me around. And I have no self-worth. But it's often guys who are total wrecks and kind of socially awkward who crush on me.
>>6105355
I hate my father for being a mindless piece of shit regurgitating his millenia-old anti-tranny memes without any critical or original thought.
>>6105375
>>6106267
Thankfully, my father didn't try to get me to man up. Though he expressed lamentation that he and my mother didn't try to push me onto girls more.
>It's funny after all the things he said as I was growing up that he completely accepted my transition.
Surely that feels like a bunch of wasted years of your life.
>>6105366
The Electra complex is the female equivalent of the Oedipus complex.
Mtf here. Honestly kinda afraid I'm not "trutrans" or whatever and that I'm just mentally fucked. Hopefully (lol) it's just that I'm both.
My dad's second wife, after my mom, decided early on that I was fat and lazy. I remember once her taking me in the bathroom and holding me up in the mirror next to my father to show me that my ass was as big as a middle aged man's. I was eight.
I don't speak to my father anymore.
Honestly I think the fact that I'm trans is separate, but undeniably intertwined with my body issues. I feel like unless I'm thin and pretty, I'm worthless.
Gee, wonder where THAT comes from...
>>6105355
Transfag here, mtf. Getting ready to move out of town.. I decided to spend a few weeks at my dad's house to say goodbye. We're gonna go hunting deer soon, just got done working on my car, and he's helping me get my concealed handgun license.
Gender roles a shit. If you transitioned and changed all of your behaviors and interests because of it, you're AGP-tier.
I was miserable and depressed most of my life before transition. He doesn't always understand it, but I pass and he can see I'm happy.
I'm sorry your dads suck :(
Also don't beat em up for trying to "man you up", they were just trying to be good parents, and you likely didn't tell them you were trans until much later.
Gayfag.
No daddy issues.
My dad has been here for me all my life.
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>>6105355
mtf
Not sure if daddy issues, but I just want some man that is a little older than me (not necessarily by much), and mature.
Want it so I can feel relaxed and do things in my own phase, and get some rest after transition. Also find it really hot if he would blatantly show how attracted he is to me, and being a little pervy.
Bi mtf
I love my dad. I've fantasized about being with him, even when I was younger.
However, he's extremely cold and distant and bitter. I learnt at a young age that he would never love me back.
I can count the times he's hugged me on one hand.
It's something that eats away at me constantly.
Sexuality wise, now I like men and women who act and look like him.
Gender wise, I don't think it affected me
nb here
father was kinda distant, always working. kinda transphbic, sort of racist, fairly conservative,
then he died. that was a bit of a bummer.
Are mommy issues real? What are they?
>>6105355
>Gayfag
My dad is black so naturally he's not in my life, he also used to hit my mum and shit
>>6105355
Gay male
I get along great with my dad, he even knows I'm gay and is fully supportive.
But is being attracted to older men a sign of daddy issues I'm not realizing? I'd never go through with it for safety reasons but 40-ish men get me off way more than guys closer to my age.
>>6114002
Mommy issues is actually what people mean when they say daddy issues.
Mommy issues manifests in two ways, one way where the mother smothered their child with attention and the child seeks to find someone to keep reassuring them with that attention.
Or in the case of girls, where mother and daughter competes because mother has lost her sexual appeal and wants to control her daughters sexuality through a strong regiment of rules so daughter can never outshine her (and potentially steal her husband by being more youthful).
No one here really understands what daddy issues are and the mean mommy issues.
