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>>5574418
seems counterproductive...
>>5574454
I tried cooperating, didn't do any good. Now I'm sick of the crap so I'm gonna be the angry bastard I am.
>>5574492
eh, there's more effective ways to show anger that aren't ignoring phone calls and not calling someone back... like actually talking and saying you have a problem with shit...
>>5574519
I'm seeing if actions speak louder than words. Got a session tomorrow anyway so this is a short-term freeze-out.
>>5574539
does she have any reason to translate you not picking up as anger? i guess it just... seems really passive aggressive, and pointless to me
>>5574740
She called back and I picked up this time. Looks like I'm seeing a more experienced person in a couple of weeks. Too broken for the newbie to handle, good to know.
>>5574838
eh you could also say she's too inexperienced to deal with you... regardless you're a bad fit for each other, and hopefully the new therapist works out
at least you know you won't have to be dealing with her soon
>>5574885
Yeah, something was going wrong there so might as well change a variable to see if it changes. Now I'm wondering if I should bring up the trans thing again with this new person...
>>5575221
hopefully it works out...
i don't think there's any reason to withhold the trans shit, cuz it's clearly affecting you and an issue you're having trouble with + you're here talking a lot so it's important...
it might be helpful if you wrote a list of things you told this therapist that you think are important and that you should've had help with, and then bring that with you to this new therapist... it'd make it easier on you with the switch, and it would help you sort out what you're looking for help with and rank things in your life based on importance... and it'd probably save time to have it all together rather than going through x amount of sessions bouncing around to get to the shit that's important to you...
and idk if it works like this for you, but for me writing shit down is an easier way to collect my thoughts and sort shit out... when i have to just talk with no direction i don't always think to say everything that's important cuz i feel put on the spot
>>5574838
Finding a good therapist is hard. Nearly every source agrees on this. The internet is full of people complaining about therapists not being able to help them.
Saying you're 'too broken' ignores all that evidence. Ergo, don't.
Who here is in school/classes/college/university this semester/term/period/quarter?
God damn I hate myself.
>>5578690
So do I.
Anyone else feel bitter towards irl gay men? I'm gay myself and pre-t and every gay man I've met irl has been a stereotypical drag queen flamer. When I tell them I like guys they keep misgendering me, it's like they can't accept gay ftms are a thing. Also "you don't seem gay" no matter how "feminime" i act.
Anyone else run into this problem? Though most online gay people I've met have been pretty chill. How the fuck do I find "normal" gay people?
God fucking help me I really need a fuck or a cuddle. Ideally both.
>chubby socially inept fuckface still looking femme as fuck
Fuck.
>>5579101
Same thing as when a butch lesbian misgenders MTFs. It's paranoia. The idea that we're posers who intend on invading their lifestyle for malevolent purposes. This person might have felt secretly trans at one point themselves, as is the case with many radfem butches who call themselves "dysphoric females" i.e. FtMs in denial. I'm bi so it's a little easier but I feel really bad for y'all completely trans gay dudes. Do you date other ftms, m8?
>>5579156
I don't date other ftms but I feel like a hypocrite for not, I mean I wouldn't feel bad if a gay guy wasn't attracted to me but I can't control what I'm attracted to either.
Just shaved my face for the first time, feels good man.
>>5577945
I am.
>>5579207
I love that feeling.
>>5579101
no, but i hate lesbians more than anything, they enrage me for some reason
I was just diagnosed with schizophrenia, and now I'm worried that my gender disphoria diagnosis is going to be under question. Anyone with similar issues? Does it really create a problem for transitioning, or is that just a rumor?
>>5579394
Actually in the same boat (schizoaffective, bipolar type). Docs wanna analyze everything. Just get on antipsychotics and hope for a progressive doctor. I haven't had a psychotic episode in well over a year and I no longer need meds (they make me sleep all day, and I can't have that for my job). Fear that the schizo will come back full force is the only real thing driving me from transition.
>>5579188
Totally understandable. Your best option is to probably seek out communities of trans inclusive gay men and you probably want to consider dating bi/pan/queer guys instead of 100% gays, depending,of course, on where you are in your transition.
>>5579380
I hate making eye contact with butches cause I either feel hate from them or they think I'm one of them.
>>5579101
I mean... do you pass? It's going to be hard to get even gay men to accept you as a guy and gender you correctly if you don't pass.
It also probably has something to do with where you live. I'm 110% gay and have not had issues finding cis gay men as friends or as sex partners. The okcupid has been great for me.
>>5579457
I'll hold out hope. My main doc thinks I'm a liar, and he already questions everything I say. He had me call my grandmother to confirm that I was telling the truth about my past. Other than that, they haven't mentioned transitioning yet. Aside from telling me that my antipsychotic could cause my breasts to grow back after top surgery, and I finally convinced him to change it to something else.
>>5578690
>>5578737
why?
>>5579101
nah, a lot of the gay guys i've been in contact with have been really respectful... and a lot of the guys who have asked me out have been gay (too serious about relationships though) in spite of me being pre-everything... they're usually more masculine and tops though, but i get along with really feminine, bitchy gay guys too without an issue they just don't ever want to date me (which is whatever cuz they're not my type at all)
i'm bi though, idk if that changes anything or not...
maybe the issue is how feminine you act? or the ways you act feminine?
>>5579141
come over...
>>5579482
For the latter point me too, but I feel bad about it because as far as societal disapproval goes we are in the same boat and unlike me they're stuck in that boat.
For the former point, I wonder what gives?
>>5579207
Holy shit same here man. I'm going to try and invest into good shaving products as well
>>5579141
post face, senpaitachi
>>5579207
Nice! I'm impatient as fuck to get to that point. I've only been on T for a month or so now. I haven't noticed any visible changes, except that I just woke up and looked in the mirror and my entire chin is a zit (seriously, biggest one of my life) and I have two more on my forehead. I've always had really clear skin and I keep it clean and shit...is it stress, or is it testosterone? I'd actually be happy about having a pizza face if it meant that the 'mones were starting to do something.
>>5579101
Gay society is pretty fractured. You'll find different 'types' guys will often congregate in different places.
But. also, talking shit is pretty common amongst all the groups. Saying nasty shit to each other is pretty normal for guys, and it makes it combative and manly, which is hot. Only like, 'young republican' gay guys are going to be totally polite all the time or whatever, and I imagine fucking one of those would be like having sex with cardboard.
I mean, ftm guys tick a lot of boxes for me - short, angry(but not thinking that anger = manliness), insecure, a bit jaded.. fits my preferences like a glove, and i'm attracted to people, not cocks, so a lot of ftm guys would have a fair shot. I can imagine that especially amongst pride groups and shit that are full of young, just-came-out dudes there'd be a lot for whom ftm would be entirely off the table, due to cock or trying to be as gay as possible because they've just come out, etc.
Yeah so got diagnosed as intersex a few days back.
I had my blood tests to check my bloods were all within normal levels to be put on testosterone in April, and it came back I had way over normal levels of active T in my blood.
Got called back to see the gender clinics endocrinologist and he said I'm most likely intersex or have some sort of chromosome related issue.
Any idea how/if this will affect my transition?
For the of you not on T/early on T, what changes are you looking forward to the most?
>>5581907
super strength and telepathy
>>5581907
unassisted flight
x-ray vision
I almost came out to my parents on the phone this morning, but pussied out.
Why couldn't I fucking do it
>>5577945
I am, semester just started yesterday.
>>5581966
Because it's hard, even if you know they'll be okay with it it's terrifying.
You'll get there eventually though, don't force yourself to do something you aren't ready for yet. But if you're ready to just get it over with and if it's too hard to do it over the phone, email or letter might work better.
>>5581966
It's kinda like launching an earthquake without knowing what magnitude it will be. It's only natural to be apprehensive, even if you think it will turn out fine down the line.
Best of luck.
>>5581907
I hope my voice takes after my father's - that shit's 2deep.
>>5581907
The possibility of not being so baby faced, and facial hair is something I'm really crossin my fingers for.
Even when someone clocks me as female I'm asked how middle school is going. Sick of it.
>>5581966
cuz you're a pussy...
really though, that shit's scary, and you never know how someone is gonna react, and you're putting yourself on the line with something deeply personal... and that's not an easy thing
writing it all down might help, like someone else said a letter would probably work out better than over the phone... can't be interrupted, you can look it all over before you give it to them, and you can be sure you've said everything you need/want to + you don't gotta be there while they read it just in case...
>>5581570
Not the guy you were responding to, but I'm glad there are people like you out there. Kinda gives me hope, haha.
>>5582185
Also, a lot of bi guys that I know are super chill. Some people don't really care about gender much, and those seem like a good choice.
I... do ftm get like, straight guys going after you claiming they're bi to get laid with someone they think of as a woman? I just thought of that and it fucking.. wow, makes me angry.
>>5582660
I have once, but he was a real weird guy and thankfully I never followed through with his proposition, and we ended up fighting instead.
I imagine that's how it'd go down in general if a straight guy approached an ftm treating them as though they were a woman. Probably get knocked out for it or at the very least verbally abused.
>>5582814
>we ended up fighting instead
Nice.
>>5579101
Nah but for a while I absolutely hated lesbians
>>5581387
it's definitely testosterone.
>>5579394
Not schizophrenia, but I very likely have BPD. Supposedly fake gender dysphoria is a symptom, which worries me a lot.
>>5581907
upper body muscles and facial structure change, for sure. not super excited about being hairy (although a beard might be nice) and i'm a little anxious about my voice changing. i guess just because that's the point of no return, and i'd have to come out officially.
>>5582814
>we ended up fighting instead.
like physically fighting? who got the worst of it?
>>5582814
Not like, calling them female or anything, but saying they're bi when in reality they're straight and just think of ftms as female.
>>5581387
Welcome to being a boy. A teenage boy.
>>5582660
Yeah, in my experience bisexuals with a "whatever" approach to gender are less fuss.
>straight guys going after you
Yes, a few times:
>at a friend's party
>cute guy talks about attraction and how gender doesn't matter
>I pick up kinda off vibes from his spiel
>the more he talks the more I'm thinking he's saying this exactly because he doesn't believe it but wants me to think he does
>well whatever, he's just being nice
>suddenly proposes that we get in the shower together and "touch each other"
>Nah, dude.
Another:
>A piece of shit friend outs me to our significantly older mutual acquaintance and weed dealer
>the dealer then begins to hit on me relentlessly
>dealer tries to sound mature and profound
>more "gender doesn't matter" shit
>oh, it doesn't matter AT ALL now that he sees me as female
>I still just want some weed dude
>he starts calling me
>from his burners like I'm some 3rd rate hooker
>he doesn't stop calling until I switch numbers (actually happened for unrelated reasons - I tend to let myself get used to unhealthy situations)
>welp. he sold schwag anyway.
>at some point I ask my piece of shit friend why he would out me
>he did it "to see what would happen :^)"
>what happens is he loses friends
I've had two closer friends try to tell me that I'm their exception, but being in early transition and being someone's "exception" - NO.
>>5583063
Sorta yeah, it was kind of pathetic honestly mostly just pushing and shoving and a few real lousy punches were thrown between the two of us.
and eh, I'd say I probably walked away a little more battered, no real injuries though a few bruises and a scrape or two.
If there was a guide for sex with ftms, what would you want it to include?
>>5583204
This is exactly why I'm terrified of ever being out to anyone. Too bad I don't pass, so I'll just be a friendless shut in forever.
Why does life have to be so hard?
>>5581616
It most likely won't, aside from having a head start T-wise. But without knowing your specific condition it's hard to say. Whether you're ftm or a cis guy with low test, testosterone will effect you the same barring effects on organs you don't have.
>>5583465
just one page that said "everyone is different, ask" i think that'd be all it needed to say...
>>5583204
>talks about attraction and how gender doesn't matter
Shit, I talk about that sometimes. Not to get into people's pants, though. Just because it's interesting, these built up and learned behaviours mixed with ones actually caused by hormones and whatnot.
>>5583245
I actively avoid fights because I take it too seriously and have had some blackouts where I don't remember anything I did after getting hit in the face.
That's kinda a horrible situation for me, that you're describing, where someone lousy at fighting is coming at me. Terrified i'd really hurt them thinking they were serious.
How hard would it be going through life if I only legally change my name, and not my gender marker? Name changes are pretty easy to obtain, but gender markers are a minefield...
I'm planning on working in academia, so I don't think my trans status will hurt my employment chances much, especially because I live in a fairly progressive place.
>>5581616
it will give you a head start, for sure. i'm sort of in your opposite situation. intersex, assigned male, during puberty discovered womb and developed periods, put on testosterone due to assigned male, partial insensitivity, kept up taking T due to family pressure, 10 years later, judging that amount of T I injected, some legit, some self med, I shoulda become a body builder, became a wide hipped femboy with a half-broken voice, a micropenis and a male receding hairline instead. i hit my mid 20s and snapped, i was a girl, being told i was a guy wasn't enough, i was my own person. transitioned female, had trans friends say i looked like a cis woman within 4 months.
all i'm saying is you'll suprise yourself. expect things to happen really quickly. it won't feel fast, but compared to other people's transitions it could be light speed in comparison. T is crazy anyway. it changed my face and nose shape completely within a year.
I have a job interview tomorrow, and I'm not sure how to handle it, since I haven't had my name or gender changed legally.
I pass only sometimes, so the person who interviews me would probably believe that I'm just a really masculine girl if I don't say anything.
It's at one of those hip consignment stores, so the person interviewing me will probably be some hipster who's not much older than me. I also live in a fairly progressive city. Should I bring up that I prefer to be called a different name, or just avoid the subject entirely?
>>5583739
I would do it if/when you are told you got hired, not during the interview.
>>5583739
Did you apply with your preferred name? In the future you probably should, they don't need your legal name unless they say they need to do a background check or need it for tax forms or something.
>>5583802
That's probably the best plan, especially because I'm going to look significantly less female pretty soon. The only problem is that I have no legal recourse if I'm fired for it, because my state's equal opportunity laws don't cover gender identity.
>>5583856
I might do that, since all the jobs I'm applying to right now are entry-level positions that require no background check, and by the time they're doing my tax forms I'll already be hired.
>>5583506
9 personal preferences from bi/straight/gay ftm's? Everyone's different but that's exactly what people want to know. It could be like a tiny ebook, and the last page is like "here, i've given you some responses, now ask whoever the fuck"
>>5579156
My experience dating other transmen has largely been other trans dude using me as emotional/financial support and then bailing when they don't need me anymore.
Experience with cis men has been weird fetishizing or assholes wasting my time.
T b h people are garbage
>>5583204
>>5583522
I've gotten interest from mostly gay guys(i'm taking 4 or 5 on kinsey scales) who don't realize I'm trans, and when I do tell them they go "Oh, it's okay I'm actually pansexual" and go on about how what's in your pants doesn't matter and shit...
bitch i'm still a guy, and you're still gay. I'm not like a third gender.
>>5584480
Yeah, their hearts are in the right place, but that's crummy. I hate it when people find out I'm trans and start treating me like a unicorn or a kid with leukemia.
>>5584480
Well no shit. If it barks like a dude and calls itself a dude it's a dude, how is that not obvious. Also, thanks ftmg. I've been thinking about short angry ftm dudes now, and gotten all hot and bothered by it. Thanks a lot, you assholes.
>>5584616
I wish you'd go kill yourself
>>5584881
you're probably turning anon on with all this lashing out yanno.
anon, i am short and ftm but very peaceful. namaste bro.
I have been talking, he is really cute and shy guy. He has only been with one other guy before (also an ftm.) I am trying to be supportive and make sure we can have fun together.
We have only been talking for under a month, and we have talked a lot about what we want to do with another.
So anyways, couple things. He has never taken a cis penis before and he wants me to rim him. Any tips? I know that I should pack lube just in case he has trouble getting wet or we have anal sex.
But as far as rimming, how can I ensure that it is safe and clean for both of us?
>been swearing at my stupid malfunctioning phone all morning
>come here
>someone's getting hot over short angry FTMs
Oh.
>>5584250
people don't really need a book telling them something that should be common sense...
>>5584480
i've never had a gay guy talk to me like that... i've been told me being trans doesn't matter, but i've never been treated like it was a big deal, or i was something else, or it was even something to have a real conversation about etc
though i'll be honest the third gender mentality doesn't bother me anyway, i get why people think like that and it's better than being thought of as a cis chick (which feels like a lie + awkward) + being trans isn't exactly the same as being cis... even post everything it's not, so i can't fault people for not seeing it as exactly the same...
>>5585247
never been on the giving end of rimming, so can't tell you what that's like... but as long as he's keeping himself clean it should be fine... cuz i've been on the receiving end and there's never been an issue, but i also keep myself extremely clean all of the time...
>>5585487
By clean, do you mean outside or also on the inside? Not sure how to word it.
He told me that he would shower in front of me so I can rim him, but I am worried that I will stick my tongue in and...well it could be gross.
>>5585495
lol both, but if you're worried don't stick your tongue in... never had anything gross happen personally, but i'm sure there's some horror stories... and desu i don't know if i'd rim someone, i'm just alright with it if someone else wants to do it to me...
>>5583522
I'm definitely not a good fighter. I probably should be seeing as I grew up duking it out with my brothers, but that really only taught me to take a hit and stay on my feet.
But I kinda get what you're saying, if someone eggs me on enough to the point of getting physical I have a hard time stopping, whether I'm winning or losing.
Does HRT destroy you guys' butts? I'm a trans girl and it makes ours bigger so I was wondering if that worked in reverse and gave you all manbutt.
>>5585495
oh man i love rimming. this thread is making me desperate to eat some ass.
honestly as long as he's taken a shower (cleaning outside and a little bit inside) and doesn't need to take a shit it'll be fine.
>>5586456
>tfw into rimming in theory
>tfw hairy butt
Dammit.
>>5586553
mmm i love rimming hairy butt :3
smooth is great too. all types of butts are great. <3
>>5583522
I'm >>5583204
I totally agree that gender and attraction is an interesting topic. The problem starts when it's used by dudes to put on a smokescreen of being worldly and progressive, their real purpose being to get in my pants... People who give off this vibe where they think I'll be happy that they'd deign to fuck me - nah.
>>5583477
I don't get that much bullshit actually, but what I get stings much less now than it used to. You learn to identify the strain of shit and then let it go.
If you're thinking about my asshole friend, it soon turned out I wasn't the only one he'd fucked for the hell of it. I'm as certain as I can be that he was a sociopath. Again, it stings, but you learn.
>>5586514
bet it is when people just stop and think of us as any other kinda person... or if they actually just stopped and thought for a second at all...
i could give someone a rundown of the shit i like in bed, but that doesn't mean all transguys are gonna be down for bdsm and that should be obvious... or i can say any hole is fine, but that doesn't mean anyone else is gonna feel that way... cuz that's like expecting every guy or chick you fuck to like the same exact thing in bed just cuz the last one did
that should just go without saying shouldn't it?
>>5586640
Most trans people don't like sexual touching in the way cis people do. I think you are an outlier.
I do wish chasers would already know that if he talks to a trans guy, that guy is most likely not interested in the role of submissive little girl.
>>5586666
lol well i'm not into the role of "submissive little girl," but that was my point... someone like me answering shit isn't gonna do any good, but there are transguys like me... just like there's others who feel differently, which is why a quick conversation with the person you're fucking or just responding to their individual cues is all that's necessary when it comes to doing anything with someone trans
same as anyone else...
>>5586713
+ but that's what i meant about how that should go without saying... that all people are varied and a book filled with transguys talking fetishes and what is/isn't ok isn't gonna do shit for someone other than tell them about those particular transguys...
so an actually helpful book would only need to be a sentence long... and well, that's not even short story length...
>>5583465
Something with anecdotes from straight, bi, ans gay ftms just so it isn't centered on solely gay ftms or straight ftms
>>5584616
i'm a short and angry ftm
>>5586768
yeah i'm going to have to agree with this anon. obviously everyone is different but we're not THAT different. i think we can all agree that it's very valuable to know that you're not alone and there are other people who feel similarly about their bodies and their relationship to sex – even if the only similarity is a feeling of confusion or whatever.
it would be nice to have something, ANYTHING for both trans men and their partners to be able to read to help them feel more normal and more comfortable with sex and sexuality. there is really nothing out there and i know that i would have benefitted a lot from a resource that talked with clarity and honesty about the role that sex plays in dysphoria, transition, and trans relationships.
>>5586798
i was thinking all that'd be good for was jerk off material for anyone into that, but you took that shit to another place...
>>5586814
the original comment said "sex guide." idk who it was that posted that comment but "sex guide" to me is far from jerk-off material. "guide" == educational
>>5586798
>>5586824
A highly insightful and empathic resource that hit all the right notes might do something like that.
I uh.. more doubt that... the skill to write it would be there, rather than that it's possible for it do good. There's a lot of things like that, mostly for general trans, or specifically aimed at mtf, and they are generally awful. And generate huge amounts of arguing and bitterness.
>>5586847
guess i half read that... my bad
>>5586889
+ to be fair though i was figuring if they were stories somebody would probably get off to them...
regardless i probably wouldn't bother reading something like that, or get anything insightful out of it if i did...
i just don't think reading is a substitute for just doing shit and figuring it out as you go...
>>5586921
The entire point of advice is so people can avoid having to attempt to figure out things as they go and largely fail at it. If you have had success with that method, that's fine, but most people do not. You're an outlier in that regard.
I don't think necessarily this 'sex guide' is a good idea, or even if it's a good 'idea', will ever be something that's good in practice, but saying that 'figuring it out as you go' is better than any advice or information is just not applicable to most people.
>>5586940
i was just talking about me personally... i don't give a shit what other people wanna spend their time on... that wasn't me giving advice, that was just me stating my opinion...
talking about the way i see shit, and my thoughts on something doesn't mean i'm offering advice or telling anyone they should do the shit i do or need to operate the way i do...
if someone needs something i don't give a shit... i was just saying that the best way to find out about the person you're fucking is to talk to and/or experiment with them... people are always in here asking about what to do when it comes to fucking transguys like there's some blanket advice that works, and there isn't
that's all i was saying initially... and it turned into a bunch of other shit
other people are free to disagree though or have a different opinion, most shit is subjective... so yeah...
>>5586975
If you're putting something up in the general case, how are people supposed to know you're only referring to your own personal stuff and not recommending it to others?
>>5587029
well i said "i just think," i thought that was good enough... also at some point i said i wouldn't have gotten anything insightful out of something like that, and said the other anon (you? someone else? fuck if i know) took it to another level... which i figured showed that i was acknowledging their opinion as something valid i haven't thought of...
when i speak i tend to just say generalized shit, i also rarely thinkly deeply on much before i say anything, consider the words i'm gonna say, i'm usually high... and you're likely not used to me, for some people i take getting used to...
you just took me wrong, and too seriously... though to be fair, if that was advice it'd work for some people, i'm not so unique that it only works for me... it just wasn't, i was just talking cuz i'm bored and that was what was being spoken about, don't take me too seriously or literally...
>>5587053
- haven't + hadn't*
>>5579380
Because they tell butch AFABs that you can only be super masculine if you're attracted to women and dismiss the existence of bi/gay FtMs as snowflakes or anomalies. All in all, they hate trannies and are dually perpetuating trenderism.
Why is this board so shit? These threads can be fine, but goddamn. I mean it was bad years ago, but it just somehow keeps getting worse.
>>5587369
No idea. My theory is that people said a bunch of stuff to be edgy, and then complete idiots thought it was all serious and started posting here, and it blended into the noise, and now 4chan is mostly right-wing /pol/acks saying clinically insane things and no-one realized until far too late that they actually meant it.
>>5587369
it's exactly as bad as it's always been, you're just sick of it...
>>5587391
It also really doesn't help that the right-wing autistic self-hating lgbts are congregating on this board, like the pressure on conservative people has eased enough that they can admit they are gay, but yet still be shrilly anti-gay/trans/anything non-hetero, monogamous, married and economically republican. Drawn by the polacks or something, I don't know.
>>5587418
If you believe this, you're genuinely blind. Stuff people used to say as an extreme joke is now said entirely seriously. Discussion is almost completely absent - now you have oldfags arguing with literal insanity in threads with premises like 'trans people are just psychotic' and 'us gays spread aids and molest children, and should have to wear gps tags at all times' and 'how much are you looking forward to trump as president? He'll be so good for lgbt!' and so forth. And it's not trolling, it's all serious. People saying that in the past - even a year ago - would have been obviously trolling - in fact, the trolls were much more skilled than creating things like that.
>>5586774
Not going to say i'd automatically be into that, because other stuff does depend, but those are both in the plus column. And i'm not alone in liking that kind of guy, either.
>>5586573
Yeah, a lot of the things people do to get laid really annoy me. If that's your major goal in life, then your life is pretty much a barren husk. Sex is good, sure, but if your self-esteem relies on tricking people into having it with you, you're probably a broken individual.
>>5587464
>but if your self-esteem relies on tricking people into having it with you, you're probably a broken individual.
>trannies saying this but not disclosing when they date people
oh the irony
>>5585487
>>5585592
>>5586456
Thanks for the advice guys! I think Any tips on how to rim? I am confident the booty will be clean and ready to be rimmed.
He just asked if I wanted to be rimmed. I am a bit hairy and i have never been rimmed, so I nervous to let him try.
Regarding the short angry ftm thing. My last ftm partner was short, under 5'5 and he always wanted to playfully wrestle me, like a kid brother or something. It was cute. I am just under 6ft. :P
>>5587439
Honestly, if any place doesn't bring down the hammer on the worst of the bullshit, eventually the non-masochistic veterans start leaving and you're left with a self-perpetuating scumhive propelling itself into ever more ridiculous depths. Containment boards don't cut it.
It really is becoming less palatable which is sad because the format is otherwise good.
>>5587560
Also, after playing around with a few ftms, I kind of developed a fantasy where I am in the center of an ftm blowbang. Just sucking all of their trans cocks. First time I ever had a fantasy like that..
>>5587439
nice, i wrote a response that didn't go through... trying that again...
i was half joking... some things are definitely shittier, and others aren't really all that different... and i do think people tend to think shit that sucked at any given moment sucks less in retrospect while the new shit that sucks becomes more of a priority...
like it never occurred to me that i'd have someone jump down my throat here for saying dysphoria was necessary for someone to be trans... that was pretty damn surprising and way different than the old "cut your hair and be a real man" and all the "you're too effeminate" comments i used to get that were followed by the reasonable "oh wait... dysphoria yeah that sucks" kinda shit that was more the mentality when the threads first started... and like having someone tell me i thought i was superior or some shit for having it and being bitched out for being "truscum" lol that was pretty fucking weird... i guess anyone who ever argued with me in the past about how that mentality wasn't just a passing tumblr phase that would die off and not leak everywhere was right... my bad (if you're here i guess you can say "i told you so")
and the trump shit is just cuz of the election it'll die off... though when he was first running i said i wished i could see him with sarah palin, cuz i thought it'd be funny as hell... and i got to live that dream, and i was right so... something good has come out of him running
>>5588434
On top of being nervous about being rimmed, I am also afraid I might like it, I feel like it would emasculate me. If that makes any sense.
>>5587560
different people like different things so try for variety and see what gets the best reaction. i dated one guy who liked it when i shoved my tongue as deep in his hole as physically possible. i've been with others who preferred light teasing instead. so try to switch it up a bit... move your tongue in and out, just the tip or the whole thing; lick around his hole; flick his hole with your tongue; tease it, blow air on it, kiss it, etc.
personally i always like to mix in some fingering with the rimming. nothing too extreme, but teasing with a finger + a tongue feels way better than teasing with only one of them.
i'm a total top and i do not like getting fucked at all but even i like the feeling of getting rimmed. it feels damn good and can be very relaxing.
relaxation is really they key to any and all butt stuff. you are way way way more likely to enjoy yourself if you sit back, stop worrying, and relax. :)
>watch wrasslin documentary
>realize i'm basically abusing steroids
i don't want to kill my wife and child and then myself.
>>5587528
>trannies saying this but not disclosing when they date people
Unless they're planning to fuck someone soon into the relationship why should they disclose?
Disclosing in the first few dates is dumb
>>5590299
it doesn't cuz it wouldn't, something that feels good is just something that feels good, and it's only normal to enjoy it...
>>5590449
the chris benoit shit was crazy... wasn't there something about him being in the house with them after they were dead for a bit or some shit? like the whole thing lasted a weekend?
>>5590477
it's really not at all dumb... it lets you know right away that you aren't gonna be rejected after investing time into this person,why would you wanna date someone who you don't know from the beginning is gonna be accepting about something like that? and it gives people a chance to not feel like you're dumping shit on them, being dishonest, or tricking them somehow cuz they know what they're getting into...
so that shit + just in case you end up having sex on the first date or messing around at all...
Guys, I don't know what to do. I've been on T for just a few weeks now, and I'm desperate to try to lose some of this disgusting body fat (I'm not overweight - 5'4" and 100 lbs. - but I can't stand my "curves") and build muscle. I just moved into an apartment complex that has a private exercise room. I've never had a gym membership or anything before, and I'm extremely anxious about the idea of exercising in front of other people. I had some pretty traumatizing PE experiences in school that left a bad taste in my mouth. Also, I'm so self-conscious about my body right now that I can't bring myself to wear anything more revealing than an oversized hoodie and sweatpants, and that shit gets hot if you actually work up a sweat.
They offer a free initial session with a personal trainer, and I really want to take advantage of that, but I have no idea if they're trans-friendly or exercise-noob-friendly or anything. I know I'm overthinking this and that I need to just bite the bullet and try going in there, but it's making me so fucking anxious...I'm weak as fuck right now, and it's going to be really embarrassing to start out being able to lift like 10 pounds. And what if the personal trainer asks me to take off my hoodie? What if they ask me what my fitness goals are? Do I tell them I'm trans and on T or just act like a butch lesbian (what I look like right now)? I'm a shut-in autist and I have no scripts for these situations...
I also don't know whether I should be eating to lose weight right now or not. I'm hungry all the fucking time, but I want to cut down on my body fat %, but I also want to build muscle...I probably should start lurking /fit/, eh?
>>5590449
Anon Chris Benoit wasn't just crazy from the roids he had suffered severe head injuries over the years and his best friend Eddie Guerrero had just died recently causing him to snap.
RIP Eddie ;_;7
>>5591848
https://thepiratebay.se/torrent/6493213/Convict_Conditioning
This is a book that teaches you how to exercise without any equipment, just using your body and the wall. Is very beginner friendly and has multiple steps you can work your way up if you're weak.
But yes, all personal trainers are noob-friendly and are used to dealing with nervous beginners.
>>5591977
Ahhh thank you so much anon, this is awesome. I had started looking into bodyweight fitness shit a while back, but I never followed through on doing anything but push-ups.
>>5591848
>is underweight
>I also don't know whether I should be eating to lose weight right now or not.
no
wowee these gc2b binders are fucking awesome
Up until now I've always worn underworks just because I didn't want to spend the money and risk getting something I couldn't even use. Right out of the box the binders were the right amount of binding to tightness. I would even go so far as to say I look at least a little flatter with a little less pressure. The pressure itself is nicely distributed, so no weird bulging under or out of it.And the fabric doesn't feel as unnatural as underworks do.
I'm so used to the breaking in period with underworks, where it's painfully tight for like two weeks. But this has about the same amount of binding as my current best underworks without being broken in.
I'll have to see how holds up over the next few weeks. My most comfortable one is still the lesloveboat v neck velco I bought AGES ago. The dont even make it any more and it doesn't even bind enough for anything other than lounging around.
>>5592739
Oh yeah I want to mention the only thing was that I couldn't step into it and pull it up over my hips like I do with the underworks ones. But it wasn't painful to pull over my head like the underworks ones are so I don't know.
>>5592739
I read this and really want to get one now. Mine is gross and tattered and probably not very good but I've had the same model for years. I can probably handle an over-head one after all these years.
>need to get my measurements again
Sigh.
>ran out of T
>doc won't refill prescription without a follow up
>need to wait two more weeks until the appointment
I hate this because if I go too long without T, I get emotions back and want a baby. I can feel it. Does anyone else get this problem? I don't even like kids but it's like some stupid animal instinct that claws at the back of my brain and it's only suppressed by listening to babies crying and T overriding this damn estrogen.
>>5593426
It's your dumb fault for not scheduling it sooner. You should have planned for the supplies you had.
>>5593499
Get angrier.
>>5593426
Did you know having a baby actually permanently changes your mental structure? The dad's structure too, no fucking idea how that works. Not your hormonal balance - your actual neural structure modifies. Makes you 'settle down' a bit, changes some of the ways you look at things, the effects aren't entirely understood.
Lot of things change your neural structure, just aging does too, but it's still a creepy thought.
>>5592739
I could really use a new binder. I own two from underworks, one white and one black - the white one being inexplicably tighter and it digs into my sides more.
I put on some weight recently (fat and muscle) and I hope to keep some of it, so I'm looking for a new one. Not super into underworks after that inconsistency. I mean, I won't know what I get with a different brand either, but still.
I'm working on getting my name changed finally. Is there a chance the judge will refuse my petition based on my trans status?
I live in Travis County, TX, if that's relevant.
>>5574433
Babyface manlet guy here
Do any FtM like guys like me?
>>5594773
No. We only like the cold embrace of the void.
>>5592739
What size are you getting, anon? I was considering a 5X half binder. Because I'm a fatass and wondering how well they work for a bigger guy like me.
>>5594777
Want to talk about it anon
>>5594773
I like anyone who can make me laugh. Laughter is all I have in this world.
>>5594836
Are you a sub?
I got a couple funny stories from when I was a little dude for y'all.
>be me when i was a toddler
>was adopted. brother wasnt
>me and my brother were less than a year apart in age. sometimes mistaken for twins
>our parents would potty train and bathe us both at the same time to save time
>according to our mother, i used to complain and question fairly often why i didnt have the same parts as my brother
>this was back in the 80s and didnt raise any concern beyond being an embarrassing baby story to tell relatives
>be me a little older this time. about 8 years old
>was always a bit of a tomboy but still a good kid for the most part. i was mostly quiet and liked to draw and solve puzzles
>had a weird quirk where i liked to run around shirtless
>one day my mom sits me down and explains that im starting to get boobies and i cant be running around shirtless anymore
>offered to let me pick out my training bra to make up for the disappointment
>says i should be proud of becoming a pretty young lady
>instead i crawled under my bed and cried
Any funny or odd events in your childhood where you looked back and realized it was something that pointed to you being trans?
>>5594720
I just got mine changed up in Denton County. You shouldn't worry too much. For reasons for the change, just put something along the lines of "common usage" or "to create less confusion for friends, faculty and employers". They deal with name changes all the time, you should be okay.
I live in Hays Country for school, and most people I've encountered are pretty good about everything - pharmacists, bankers, staff/teachers/faculty, they've all been nothing but respectful, if not downright supportive. Central Texas can be pretty great sometimes.
Oh, and be prepared for the cost. In Denton County, the filing fee for my name change petition was 273 dollars :/
>>5594847
For the most part, unless you're more a pansy than I am.
>>5594996
It's entirely possible
I wouldn't mind being dommed though
>>5594773
absolutely. i love seeing cute manlets bent over or on their knees for me. ;3
>>5595052
L-Lewd
where are you
>>5595052
NYC baby. all ready for dat blizzard, oh yeeeah
>>5595081
I'm in the same state
I'm a sub but cant enjoy any penetration, it's horrible.
>>5594955
I just put "because I don't like my given name" as the reason. I think that should be sufficient.
And that's really reassuring. Thanks for the information!
>>5595081
>>5595104
>>5595123
I'd like that tbqh :3
>>5595104
upstate somewhere? i grew up in the hudson valley.
are you ready for the snowstorm? qt little manlet anon gonna get all bundled up in his blankets? :3
>>5595157
I live close to Cortland
I'm skinny too and it's going to be cold ;_;
I wish I had someone to cuddle
>>5595160
oh you are way up there. i've never been to that area of the state. i grew up in orange county.
i would be your big spoon if i could anon <3
>>5595173
Come take me away please
I don't like it here ;_;
>>5595192
>are you in college rn?
No
I'm a wagecuck at a college though
I can't even drive though
I can't move ;_;
>>5595081
NJfag here. I hope the power doesn't go out, then again I'll probably be too busy shoveling half the neighborhood since there's so many old people here.
>>5595245
nothing exciting ever happens in the city when it snows. i don't even have to shovel sidewalks or anything like that. i miss living in the boonies where snowstorms were an actual big deal.
>>5595253
>tfw no qt FtM to rim and then get dommed by
I'll keep at it ;_;
>>5595268
I am looking forward to rimming and getting rimmed now.
If you were here we could rim each other. ;) jk
>>5595284
I'd be open to something like that, but someone needs to live relatively close and be willing to drive
It'll prob never happen
>>5595294
Unfortunately it sounds like all of the ftm cuties on this board are on the east coast. I am on the west.
I do have a car, but not sure if you can even rim someone in a car? ;)
>>5594917
I was secretly wearing my uncle's ties and my aunt's heels. They found out and only remembered the heels, that made me quite upset.
>>5593426
Kinda in the same situation.
Last time I had that horrifying biological urge I got kittens. Being a cat papa now kinda helps.
>>5593499
Yeah, I at least definitely should have. I need to get labs done, but I'm supposed to do them at a trough, and now I'm just out of syringes and SOL.
I'm still pretty crap at adult ing. But getting better.
>>5594917
Honestly, I don't have a lot of stories like that, but I know why
>Hate the way I look growing up
>Fat, go through puberty kinda early (I started wearing a bra in elementary school)
>Always thought I hated myself because I was fat and ugly
>Fast forward to high school
>Get skinny and hot
>Still hate myself
>Whoops
So a lot of my memories of dysphoria in childhood got "misfiled." I don't really remember knowing I wanted to be male until I was about 14. I mean, I always admired/indentified with men more, but you could chalk that up to internalized misogyny...
>>5595106
No prob! Good luck with everything!
>>5594917
>one day my mom sits me down and explains that im starting to get boobies and i cant be running around shirtless anymore
>offered to let me pick out my training bra to make up for the disappointment
>says i should be proud of becoming a pretty young lady
>instead i crawled under my bed and cried
Ha fuck, I had the same reaction when I got the period talk at 12
I was super upset about having to wear a bra at like age 7 though
I need a haircut that doesn't make me look like a butch lesbian you guys
I'll post pics of myself if necessary if that'll help anyone
>>5595802
post away. I will give you my two cents.
>>5595802
Ref pic of some haircuts to avoid (a couple are okay)
>>5595904
What other haircuts even are there? I'm trying to think of a short haircut not in this picture and I'm failing.
>>5595904
Traditional boy cut, bottom right above black girl
I'm a cis dude
>>5595904
>>5595909
Here are some medium ones that help downplay the feminine head shape getting a too close buzz can show
>>5594917
I cried too when I couldn't be shirtless anymore but I think those stories aren't uncommon for cis women either. My mom also stopped bathing me and my older brother together once we started bringing up our differences, however my brother did teach me how to pee standing up despite I didn't have the parts. I mean, I couldn't write my name in the snow but I'm accurate and clean. Too bad it's really only a drunk party trick.
As for other stories possibly relating to trans, mine aren't too interesting. I did cut off all my hair, tried to change my name to a boy's name and threw a fit if I couldn't stand in the boy's line for school but one always stuck out to me.
>be 5 or so
>mom got me a frilly easter dress
>it was soft but not itchy or scratchy
>found myself in front of our full length mirror
>twirling around with it smiling, remembering looking very intensely and careful at my reflection
>slowly fade into a blank stare at it
>suddenly go into hysteric rage mode
>screaming, crying, trying to rip it off and kicking the mirror in a full blown nuclear meltdown
>get taken out of dress, throw off my shoes and pantyhose
>go back to being oblivious kid in my underwear
There's photo and video evidence of it somewhere at my parent's house, it was a pretty sudden reaction. It's possible I was just having PTSD flashbacks from a previous easter, where I was thrown into a lake of hay to find easter eggs and whew, boy. Let me tell you that rolling around in pantyhose and hay do not mix. It still makes me itch thinking about it.
>>5595959
>my brother did teach me how to pee standing up despite I didn't have the parts
I wish I could do that. I'm always scared I'm gonna get outed in the bathroom because people will notice I'm sitting down in the stall... I guess I'll just have to get one of those stand-to-pee things.
>>5595970
Hey I'm still getting one too so I could use a public urinal. Otherwise I just sit down in the stall. It's not like I do it on the regular, I reserve it for being drunk in a city or deep in the woods. Plus I worry about UTIs or accidentally rubbing some gross thing into my junk so I don't like to grab myself all willy nilly.
Worst case scenario for having to sit in a stall is if you have to wait in the bathroom for one to open up, people just think you really have to shit. Anyone waiting for a stall is just pretending to check something on their phone anyway.
>>5595970
My transguy friend got one. I helped him get over the fear of using it in the public restrooms, although he can only use the urinal if no one else is around.
Also, he said it was hard to train yourself to pee standing at first.
>>5595802
post face. It actually does help in selecting haircut to know what someone looks like.
>>5596240
On tell him to post a pic of his butt!
>>5596422
Not saying I wouldn't appreciate it, but it's less relevant to haircuts than face. Unless you're getting a really weird haircut.
>>5596427
This thread was talking about getting rimmed/rimming. Some people need to shave the booty.
>>5595940
>>5595802
3rd row, second to last is the one i have and it works, but i had that problem for a long time. Don't get anything trendy, or anything too traditionally masculine.
>>5595802
poast it. it's helpful to see your face shape, because if you're overweight and you get anything short, you will look like a lesbian
>>5596616
>Some people need to shave the booty
>Shaving glorious, flowing, manly rugged arse hair
>>5596705
>prickly butt stubble
It's... unpleasant.
>>5596728
That's why you don't do it son, Jesus. Let that shit grow and take control. Your butt stays warmer during the winter.
>>5596729
Don't worry, I won't be making that mistake again. I was young and confused but now I just let my ass do what it wants, I know how to pick my battles.
>>5593426
idk what being on t is like, but i've never felt that ever... i don't even get how that works...
>>5594773
i'd have to see you and know you better to tell you...
>>5594917
when i was little i just thought i was gonna grow up and be a boy, i cried when i found out about how puberty was gonna work... i was like 3 or 4... something like that, i know i wasn't in school at the time and i started at 5 (never went to pre-k)
i suppose the humour in that is debatable, but yeah...
>>5595081
i'm already sick of the snow, this shit is depressing...
>>5595802
probably should, easier to tell someone what to get/avoid if you can see them...
>>5595245
>>5595081
fellow jerseyfag
just buy a flamethrower
>>5596910
now i feel like watching the sopranos...
whats everyone eating/drinking? im going to be living off of ice-cream and soups for the next week because i got stabbed in the tongue and had a piece of metal jammed in there.
>pic unrelated
>jasper keeps trying to sit on my pillow whilst my head is on it though
>>5597061
just had coffee... i'll eat eventually, idk what yet...
how bad did it hurt in comparison to other piercings? i imagine the healing must suck, i only have a monroe now, but i had 3 piercings in my bottom lip and the week after sucked more than the piercing...
gypsy was trying to bite snowflakes through the glass, but i couldn't get a good pic of it...
>>5597273
it was relatively painful. i think on the same level/a little less as having my lip done, but i have a weirdly short and thick tongue so the needle had more to go through and less area to work in (and on top of that, it was already burnt from too hot food a few days before).
ive had it for like 3 hours and cold has kept the swelling down a lot, and i think the main problem at the moment is trying to swallow while your brain is saying "wait shit dont swallow that thing is on your tongue you cant swallow". i didnt get dizzy or nauseated from the pain though, which is something that usually happens after a piercing so it can't have been that bad, really.
at the moment it feels like ive got climpies (really small boiled sweets) stuck to the top and bottom of my tongue, and it aches like i bit down on it really badly. kinda weird but everyone says itll be worth it.
>>5596910
The way this house is built, the blizzard tornadoes snow in front of the door. So instead of a foot of snow, it's more like three feet of snow in front of the doors.
I had to climb over the counter and through the kitchen window to get outside.
>>5597339
Nice.
I've always wanted a tongue piercing but I'm worried about smashing it against my teeth.
>want more piercings
>get job for money for piercings
>dress policy at job means I can't get more piercings
>>5597504
>be 16
>think piercings are awesome as 16 year olds do
>my friends are getting them, I want them
>get scaffold piercing
>constantly bleeding/crusting/borderline-infected
>4 years later
>take the fucking thing out because it's shit and I hate it and everything is terrible
>21 years old and don't care about piercings anymore
That was the closest thing I got to teen rebellion, being a complete square, and it didn't fucking work. My body has always been my enemy.
>>5597339
i just imagined it hurt like a bitch, i've had a lot of shit pierced but i think ear cartilage might actually suck the most (i had more ear piercings now i just have one in each ear lobe but they're stretched to 1") in my experience, like that shit was worse than my fucking nipple...
i could see how that'd be weird to get used to, just having it there, i had a smiley at one point (most painless piercing ever, but i was really anxious as fuck while the guy put in the jewelry) and having something in my mouth all the time was annoying for the first 2 weeks and then i just didn't at all notice it...
i've never gotten dizzy or nauseous from a piercing... the tattoo on my foot made me feel a little sick though, and my palms sweat a bit i could feel it in my chest and head, it was weird and kinda shitty (great rush after though)
>>5597535
those tend to get really fucked up... i don't know many people who were able to keep then for very long, me included...
>>5597693
them*
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAhQzXpBTfA
>>5597339
>i have a weirdly short and thick tongue
You must eat the pussy like a madman.
>>5597996
I love that song.
>>5595802
I got a hell of a headache last night so I never got to drop pic
I have a more recent photo but it's in cosplay
I've taken to slicking my hair back lately because it's gotten a lot longer and idk what to do with it
>>5598108
Giles Corey is a legend of music, love all the stuff he's put out but that's just a special song.
If you like his more ambient/drony stuff, Tim Hecker is a great shout too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RtAvSkIPkg4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MeRkQbC5FGM
>>5598234
I mean I'd eat your front hole until you squirted pussy mucus everywhere
if you know what I mean
>>5598393
l-lewd
>>5598234
how long are the shortest bits now? how long is the rest? knowing what you currently got going on would be helpful...
>>5598234
Buzzcut and lift weights. This is my prescription.
Anyone else go through a phase in their teen years where they pretended to be a girl so much, as if embracing femininity would somehow get rid of these feelings. Now I'm thinking of transitioning, but I'm afraid my friends just have that image of me from that phase, and would never really accept me.
>>5598813
Yup. Overcompensating and trying to fit into your assigned gender role (and still feeling dysphoria/getting worse) is a very common trans experience.
If your friends are really your friends, they'll accept you and adjust. If not, then they aren't worth having.
>>5598813
yeah i did that for a bit, i felt like people could tell (and since i surprised pretty much no one by being trans i suppose i didn't just feel it) and i wanted to just hide it and be normal so i figured that'd keep people from seeing it... but it made dysphoria and depression etc worse and i ended up having to admit shit to myself when i was binding privately and then putting on a costume to go outside and be around people...
no one mentions it or anything at least, though i'm not particularly embarrassed by it... it pushed me into a place of self realization, and i was better at being a chick than cis girls usually are... so it's just... idk... a vaguely awkward memory that doesn't really matter at this point
>>5596790
Waxing works. But if you think prickly butt stubble is bad, be thankful you don't have curly hair. Ingrown hairs on your butt is probably the actual worst.
>>5598234
Hrm yeah you've already got stuff going on, that means you just can't get certain looks.
What kind of area do you live in/kind of look do you generally go for? The more I look at your face, the more i'm thinking you could actually get a brosnan-style mancut and it would work. But if you're going for a more gaydar vibe something more complicated might be called for.
>>5598813
Yeah that's pretty common. I was really bad at it though.
I got much more enthusiastic about looking good once I realised I could be a boy.
>>5598813
Yep, age ~15-17. I don't keep in contact with anyone I knew from back then, though.
>>5598813
If they are genuinely your friends, they will put in the mental effort to do so - and that's if they haven't already realized this, at least on some level, and have prepared for it.
It's likely that since this is important to you, you're fearing the bad outcome enough to skew your perception of the likelihood of the results.
And if they aren't able to accept it.. then they just aren't your friends. It's kind of inherent to the term that if someone is actually your friend, they're able to accept things about you. If you 'change' and they can't accept you anymore, then you're just not friends anymore. That's how it works.
>>5597061
I just made black bean empanadas
>>5598234
you're so soft looking i feel so bad for you
>>5598813
I mean, I've never self identified as "female";
I definitely dressed the part when I had a gender policing autist boyfriend. I would go clothes shopping with him because I cant dress myself for shit. Would constantly talk myself into gender roles and expectations. I cut my hair off and he couldn't stand it, kek. Cut him off a few months after and became increasingly andro.
>>5599524
I know a guy who looks pretty much exactly like that, except for a few angles in the face.
>>5599494
That sounds fucking amazing. Bring some over here. We'll have some beers and discuss life.
Anyone here ever go through a "nonbinary" phase? What made you realize that you were actually a guy?
>>5599674
There are some inbuilt things in your brain and body that relate to gender behaviours, but most of them are learned. 'Guy' or 'Girl' are mostly packages of societal behaviours. If the package fits, dressing/acting as it will give other people easily recognizable cues that they can use to more easily relate to you. It also gives the individual a big framework of cues and behaviours to use to structure their interactions with the world - and as the two most dominant tropes of the world, people often imprint on one of them and develop some kind of emotional attachment. There's obviously huge amounts of subvariations, and physical cues can become associated with them, etc, but the basic thing itself is just a bundle of behaviours and ideas.
Ergo it's not really crazy that someone who has rejected living as a female would think of themselves as nonbinary and then later decide that 'male' fits them better. You can have inherent predispositions, but ultimately it's not decided by a god in the sky or something. It's a matter of neurochemistry and thought processes.
>>5599606
nah that does not look like a man
>>5599733
A cis guy who looks pretty much exactly like that except for a few angles of the face.
You can't tell me that i'm wrong about what a guy I know and you don't looks like, bud. I mean, maybe you're dysphoric or something, but bro, c'mon.
>>5599733
don't call him "that" ... no reason to be shitty about his looks... yeah yeah 4chan, but still...
>>5599758
If you're talking about someone in the third person, which is probably okay on an anonymous forum where you don't know the person pictured, 'that' is not necessarily derogatory. It could be referring to the photo.
Dude comes across like a bit of a cunt though.
>>5599811
eh i don't lie to people, but i don't treat them like shit either... being trans sucks enough without being treated like shit
>>5598234
I like your face, when you go on T yer gonna turn into an elf.
>>5599811
self-hating tranny dysphoria
>get some therapy bro
>>5599674
i thought i was agender for awhile just because i didn't mentally "feel like" a man. i didn't really know what that meant but i thought that if i were really a man i would understand and feel that way too. i wanted a male body, wanted to live as a man, wanted people to perceive me as male, etc, but because i didn't feel a strong mental gender i thought it meant i wasn't a man.
i realized i was actually a guy when i started to more deeply examine gender in general, i guess. it was kind of through talking to cis people about their gender that clued me in. most cis guys don't "feel like" guys, they just feel like people who are at home in male bodies. that's what i felt like. it took me a while to realize that it's okay for me to feel that way too, and that it's okay for me to define my gender through my relationship to my body like that.
>>5599674
I couldn't determine the quantifiable difference between ftm's and dysphoric non binary people, met people who id as genderqueer and ftm (or nonbinary transmasculine) who have a male body preference but don't feel fully male. Accepted myself as one of those, but then realized that using stereotyping to define male and female genders as solid immutable concepts with strict rules and differences is definitely a flawed way at looking at a transient, cultural concept.
I've heard nonbinary people claim that they are what they are because they have dysphoria toward fully having a male or female body. If you go on T and this starts happening to you, I guess that sort of proves or disproves it.
>>5599886
Just for the record, again, there's a cis guy I know who looks nearly the same as you (facewise), just slightly less feminine features.
And a buzz cut is imo going to make you look like a butch lesbian. You want a variation on short back and sides, the sort of slightly longer haired, tousled version.
>>5598393
Jesus christ
>>5598813
I did that, too, and even still a lot of my friends weren't surprised. In high school I had this thing where I overcompensated by wearing really feminine clothes, but still rebelled against femininity by having masculine mannerisms. I never sat with my legs closed even though I only wore skirts.
>>5600059
>never sat with my legs closed even though I only wore skirts
Haha, fuck. When postgenderism becomes and cis men start wearing skirts i'm going to have to get used to this
>>5600092
Pfft
I'd like to think it wasn't that gross when I did it, because I often wore really big skirts with petticoats, ergo you couldn't see up there at all.
>>5600092
gay guys wear skirts
also, there's kilts
Also, we will all likely die before the genders stop being sharply defined and defended to the death by /pol/-alikes. Hundreds of years into the future.
>>5599886
eh it's not that i think you need defending or can't handle it... i don't know you to say either really or judge, i just don't like that kinda shit so i said something...
i'm high and drunk, and i just say exactly what i'm thinking as i think it
