Have you given up yet on being in a relationship? I'm 20 and decently attractive and I think what's wrong is I simply don't know how to interact with people romantically. I'm not socially clueless but I did grow up as the ugly shy Kid. Nobody ever had any interest in me and when I got to the point of being attractive to some people I had no idea how to react. I still don't. Sometimes I'm so lonely it physically hurts. It's a sharp pain inside my chest. But What really hurts the most is I truly believe some people are just meant to be alone and I think I'm one of them.
> It's a sharp pain inside my chest.
i get this when I think about my ex, and how I fucked up. Never thought heart ache meant actual physical pain.
>>5330585
I can literally relate to all of this and I hate myself more than anyone else in the world.
We should fuck.
>>5330619
XD. I haven't even kissed yet but thanks for the offer
>>5330633
Me neither
You're just proving my point
>>5330585
>I think what's wrong is I simply don't know how to interact with people romantically
You're too autistically focused on your doubts and fears. Most people give zero shits about you. Even if they take the second to bully you, you're only a prop in their effort to feel better about themselves.
You don't need self esteem. You have to get humility. Perspective. You're one out of billions with a tiny slice of time before you die. So just fucking make yourself emotionally available to the other monkeys and have fun with it. If not even fewer people will be at your funeral to mourn how empty your life was.
>>5330633
Come onnn you know you want tooo
>>5330731
Where do you live?
>>5330742
california
>>5330750
Minnesota.
>>5330759
I watch the tv show Fargo.
I'm an expert on your people.
>>5330761
That's a pretty spot on represitation I'd say
>>5330771
how many times a day do you say 'o yah?' or 'aw jeez'?
>>5330784
Eh maybe about never in my life. Minnesotans accents are as natural as American English can get.
>>5330814
Nuetral*
>>5330759
I probably have relatives from both sides of my family in Minnesota, lots of scandinavians migrated there, two people in my family.
>>5330759
>>5330814
>>5330820
WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU? WHERES JERRY?
I GAVE SIMPLE FUCKING INSTRUCTIONS
Pretty much. I almost stumbled into something once in my life before, but that was short lived. Even as a regular guy I can never understand how people did this kind of stuff so easily. Now becoming a transbian I might as well just completely discard all hope.
if you ever need a friend im here
>>5330585
I know that feeling all to well. I also grew up feeling ugly and uninteresting, and nothing much changed at uni. I did manage to go out and experiment sexually a few times (nothing extreme or unsafe), but while that did slowly confirm me in my sexuality, it did not make me feel loved or wanted.
In any case, I now have it easy because my current bf chased me down, and I'd never have the courage to do anything like that on my own.
I would encourage you to get out there and experiment sexually and with chemical substances (not necessarily at the same time) at least (stay safe though). You don't have to continue doing either on a massive scale, but you'll at least get to make some connection, and if nothing at all, at least you discover your preferences.
>>5330585
I am 30 and in the same boat
Stupid fucking 20 year old
I feel like if you've truly given up then the sting of loneliness should just become a chronic murmur that you just ignore on the reg. 19 and kissless virgin and that's what I feel like after first year of college and not hooking up with any guys. sometimes I feel legit sad when I'm drunk but that's it and I don't get drunk that often
No, I realized that I can't get a bf because I never got out of my house.
>18-20 years olds giving up on 'love'
top kuk
what? You thought you were going to find the love of your life during high school?
>>5330585
You're retarded as hell.
Learning to "interact romantically" with people is an extension of social interaction. You're 20 years old; there's no reason you can't learn new things.
If you'd rather starve than try cooking for yourself because you're presently bad at it, then to hell with you.
Anyway, if you're socially competent, then you probably aren't half as bad as you think you are. You're probably just extremely neurotic and self-critical.
The people who are meant to be alone WANT to be alone. You clearly don't.
Get over it, for your sake, please.
Or you can stay the way you are now. But you've probably got a long time before you die a natural death. You're still very young. There are people all over the world who would kill to be young with a blank slate again.
Better take your chance and use it.
itt
Angsty, hormonal emo teens
>>5331933
How did you go so long without ever having a bf/gf? I don't get it.
Jesus it's not hard, especially if you're male.
Want to learn how to be romantic? Go on dates, hookups, whatever, to get used to interacting. If you're a dude, get grindr, if you're a chick, go to bars (and same if you're a dude)
Lose that virginity you've had for 20 years and learn to just calm down.
>>5331636
>Now becoming a transbian I might as well just completely discard all hope.
That's sad. What comes first? Going transbian or giving up hope? Srs question.
Have a couple of shots of liquid courage, then say hi to the person whose profile you most stare at on FB. If they're gay of course, otherwise that's a whole other kettle of fish.
>>5331636
>Now becoming a transbian I might as well just completely discard all hope.
Haha, I'm trans and was at a party and saw a cute lesbian girl with short hair, after dancing with her a bit I said "hey, I'm just gonna casually ask if you wanna have sex sometime?".
Shit worked! been dating since august.
>>5330590
I discovered this with my first love. It truly is hell.
>>5330585
I'm 22 and am going to lose my virginity when I meet up with my boyfriend in January. Don't give up hope
>>5330664
Self esteem is attractive to people. People do not like insecurity and they can smell it from miles away, don't kid yourself.
>>5330585
Yeah, but I prefer solitude to the company of others so it's okay. I know myself well enough to understand that a relationship is unlikely to work unless the other person is either a saint or another ghost.
>>5330761
That was North Dakota bruv.
>>5333845
You just skimmed for buzzwords. Once you realize how short and your life is and how silly your problems you can be humble. An amazing thing happens when you have perspective like that. You can laugh and dance and give no fucks. Self esteem is participation trophy nonsense that makes kids insecure about their specialness.
>>5333903
No I am not talking about some buzzword that killed the concept of real self worth. I meant the real damn thing. Pride and confidence that comes from you knowing that you can handle your shit. That only comes from real challenges and successes.
>>5333956
Sure. That's axiomatic. But lots of people here get impostor syndrome regardless of accomplishment. They are stuck in their heads endlessly obsessing over fear and shame. That's what I was speaking to. Getting over such indulgent neuroses.
Wow people get really aggressive about this and like to assume Im scum of the earth. I was Just wondering if anybody's sharing my situation.....
>>5333385
I don't understand how it all works. I have never seen another person and been like "wow I want to date that" or "wow I want to fuck that"
I just don't get it.
>>5330585
>20
>20
>20
ppppppppppfffffftttttttttttt
>>5333392
>learn to just calm down
I don't think anyone is calmer than me. I think that even the Buddha himself would pay me respect for how little fucks I give about people being people around me
>>5334946
You may be asexual friend
I just can't think of myself as being good enough, and I don't want to be the reason someone isn't satisfied.
>>5335178
>Guilt shame fear.
We all talked about this above. It's not an attack or judgement. It's a warm offer of IKTF, kid.
>>5335178
I think that's part of my insecurity also. It's like really how good of a boyfriend can I be. If I were in a relationship I would be clueless due to my lack of experience where everyone else has at least some. and sometimes it feels like my traits just wouldn't be desireable anyway which is reinforced due to the lack of people that have been interested in me.
fucking normies
>>5333385
I have tried many many times with both men and women, been dumped every time. I learned a valuable lesson everytime tho, but the pain overrode the reward. Now after 3 or 4 years I absolutely yearn for love. Something in my heart just hasn't healed enough yet, although i've made HUGE progress. Something i've learned is to follow my heart, somehow everything still seems a bit -- off about myself.
>>5330585
Are you me? I told my mum this literally yesterday. She found my anti-androgen pills so I confessed that it's to suppress my interest in women because being rejected for 23 years kind of makes you want to kill yourself. She was supportive
>>5335050
aka dying alone
>>5333392
>If you're a dude, get grindr
normies get out
>>5330590
The distinction between emotional, and physical pain is strange, seeing as all pains, emotional, or physical are felt in the body.
>>5330585
people on 4chan overestimate their level of attractiveness because they don't go outside and see how attractive the general population is.
Ask an a-sexual guy anything.
I've basically given up all hope at this point. I'm nearly 30, I'm 6'2" 300+lbs. Not at all attractive to either gender, but too picky to just give up and go after some hideous hambeast.
And yes I know the irony of my obese ass calling someone else a hambeast.
So yeah. Forever alone. Honestly though, it's probably for the best. I've got a weird fuck up of genetics that made me a mountain of a man with the sex drive of a porn star.
>>5330585
Alone isn't the right word.
I'm not sure if I can be romantically in love. I'm really good at faking it, in that I could marry someone and we would seem to have the perfect relationship (and they would think I was madly in love) but some days I'm afraid I just can't feel that way about people. I was with someone for 8 years and everyone, including him, thought we were perfect couple. But I don't think I ever loved him. He was just another friend that I was more committed to than the others.
That being said I experience EXTREMELY strong platonic love for people. I'm an extremely devoted and loving friend. I also experience sexual attraction, and can have sex with friends- It just feels more like I'm expressing platonic love. I have no desire to be poly though.
I know this doesn't make sense. Do you think you can platonically love someone, have sex with them, and not be romantically in love? Do you think some people can only love friends, not romantic partners? I never say this out loud but I worry about it a lot. Like I'm broken.
At least most of you fuckers are sexually attracted to other humans.
How am I supposed to connect to people, when on top of having zero self-esteem and gender issues, I miss half the point of having an intimate relationship?
>>5339436
>300lbs
>MUH GENETICS
ayy lmao, just get on a proper diet, its not that hard.
>>5339513
Well i am a straight white dude who is 27 and never had a gf.
But i kind of get how you feel, i rarely feel sexual attraction to regular females, because i have a size fetish. And i kind of lack the empathy for romantics.
Feels bad man.
>>5339624
> i am a straight white dude browsing /lgbt/
nice meme
>>5339673
I am though.
I just browse this out of curiosity here and there.
Just like i browse /pol/ and /x/ out of morbid curiosity.
My main board is /v/ though.
>below average at making friends but not terrible despite social anxiety
>within months of meeting them your friends annoy the shit out of you until its intolerable
>tfw your longest relationships, romantic or otherwise, only ever last a year because you get tired of people so easily
where did everything go so wrong, /lgbt/?
>>5330585
>Have you given up yet on being in a relationship? I'm 20
Stopped reading right there. Shut your young, stupid mouth. When you're 40 you can start complaining.
>>5339731
Nowhere.
It's all good if you're just like me: As happy alone as with friends. If you get lonely, well, I don't know.
>>5339768
I do get lonely but i feel happier alone than with people, especially after i get tired of them. I do enjoy the time between making friends and getting annoyed with them, but that generally doesn't last long.
Basically when I'm alone my only problem is that I'm lonely. When I'm with people I'm usually angry, annoyed, stressed, etc. more often than happy with their company.
It's bad enough I'm trans and gay where trying to get friends, especially of the non-tumblr variety, is hard as is. I should just kill myself and stream it. /blogposting
>>5337019
Your mother supports your continued life wasting misery. I'm gonna go ahead and say this started with bad parenting.
