I think a lot of trans women feel that way
I would guess it's just a trans thing since being trans sort of fundamentally involves self-hatred and stuff, but I could be wrong

>>5222511
You're not the only one

>>5222514
Well maybe, but I could imagine someone being gay or lesbian and not wanting it to define them, so not wanting people who specifically want to know them and talk to them because they kind of sort of share similar issues

good for you stay far far away from the crazies, they will only do you harm

>>5222511
I am trans but trans is not who I am.

>>5222511
for me, I'd gladly talk with them about it, but as long as she doesn't spread some rumors about me or something crazy like that

it's always nice to meet new people, especially if you have some common topics. who knows? maybe it can be a beginning of friendship, or romantic relationship

>>5222818
>especially if you have some common topics
But we dont. Thats what annoyed me. She assumed that because we're both trans we'd somehow have things to talk about. For pretty obvious reasons I dont want to talk about being trans, and other than that, nothing in common.

I think it's like having a singles table at a wedding. You put these people together because they have this one thing in common but it doesnt mean theyre anything alike or that they will want to talk to each other

Keeping a distance from the lgbt community is a good idea but sometimes you have to bite the bullet for a good friend in need of help.

>>5225165
Sounds like a story there

It's nice to know you're not alone IRL, but I agree, stay out of the LGBT hugbox. It will do you no favours.

>>5222511
Yeah something like this happened to me recently when I went to get my blood work checked on. The doctors office has several doctors who see a lot of trans patients who get referred there by gender therapists so I always see a few fellow trannies there. I pass pretty well so I don't usually get clocked by other trannies but that day one of the new nurses called out my male name which kinda made me cringe but I spoke up anyway and said "I'm here" while people there started staring at me. One of them was a trans girl who looked like she was early in transition and dressed like a dyke walked over and sat beside me. She leaned over and whispered "hey do you wanna go outside and talk, I'm trans too" to which I replied "no thanks" and she just gave me this blank stare and said "o-ok then". Honestly she had really bad breath and kinda smelled like cat pee.

I'm uncomfortable around other trans people.

>>5225328
this
other trannies make me anxious and i am glad if any tranny keeps their distance away from me

also the worst of them are hons/unpassable trans like eww i don't want to talk to you dude at all

>>5222511
Literally exactly this happened to me with an old hon.
>zero attempt at female voice
>transbian
>fat
>brightly-colored hair dye
>at least 40yr/o
>stubble
but i figured I would try to at least get closer to passing and stop making me (and all of us) look bad. try to teach her female voice & not dress like a freak

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>depressed as fuck about being trans
>decide to go to social place for trannies to talk my issues through with someone
>it's an old hon
>says she's been transitioned for years but hasn't made a single bit of effort on her voice because it's 'her voice' and it being manly doesn't mean she isn't a woman
>ok
>go into main room
>it's full of unpassing hons, both young and old
>I'm the only one there who actually passes
>most of them are transbians (i can tell because some of them are obviously dating each other)
>feel uncomfortable of fuck because some of them won't stop staring
>i need to get the fuck out of here
>"wont you stay for the party?"
>NOPE
>"we hope you'll come back some time... "
>yeah sure thing
>never go back
>never go to any trans meeting/group/social event/pride ever

It just reminded me of when I went to my uni's anime club with a friend just to see what it was like. Not even once.

>>5225622
Are anime clubs in uni really all that bad?

>>5225650
jesus christ yes

>>5225650
The one I went to was awful. It was full of loud, autistic, attention seekers constantly shouting Japanese phrases over each other in terrible accents, and quoting memes and other internet shit while we're supposed to be watching an episode of something (FLCL i think, it was hard to even know what was happening). Then to top it off I got hit on by some disgusting fat weeb girls with brightly coloured hair afterwards.

>"the people from the anime club all go to dinner afterwards, you gonna come?"
>"n-nope I've got work to do, sorry. Maybe next time"

Spare a thought for those who had to work in that restaurant while it was overrun by socially oblivious anime nerds drinking alcohol. NEVER AGAIN

>>5225559
>>5225622
>Hons
OP here, this one wasnt even a hon. She passed really well. I mean, wasnt attractive, but I dont find people outside of my race attractive anyway, so its hard to tell.
The only thing that gave her away was her voice and it wasnt that bad. I had to ask my friend that introduced her to confirm she's trans.
I could tell obviously, but thats because I know what I'm looking for and what its a sign of. It wasnt that she wasnt putting effort in exactly, I think she was just careless, her laugh wasnt very good and she didnt avoid raising her voice and being loud.
Even with a cold, I think my voice is okay. I just need to warm it up a little in the mornings it takes a few minutes to get it where I want it, and if I talk all day, when im a little ill it can get hoarse towards the end of the day, but mostly I think its alright, and my laugh is very feminine. When I dont have a cold, I can legitimately sing as long as I have time to hit a note, like longer notes are way easier because I can adjust to hit them if im a bit too low.

Just thinking about it actually, I was talkng to a friend of mine about this trans girl and how I could tell, and he said how my voice became more feminine after I came out to everyone
I really cannot understand people who cant get their voice in a reasonable place, and even consider spending like $10,000 to get some doctor to do it for them. The only benefit I can see of that is just not having to put in the effort any more, maybe screams and coughs sound more feminine too, I dont know. But I think its a waste of money

>>5225724
>I really cannot understand people who cant get their voice in a reasonable place, and even consider spending like $10,000 to get some doctor to do it for them. The only benefit I can see of that is just not having to put in the effort any more, maybe screams and coughs sound more feminine too, I dont know. But I think its a waste of money
It's really just being lazy. Like, you can't do anything about linebacker shoulders and super manly faces are really unfortunate, but if you can't be assed to get the voice right I don't know why you even bothered transitioning

>>5225760
>tfw the voice thread is ded and there are no foolproof methods to improve
>i would need to find a specialist to help me ($$$) or work at it more after transition and risk not passing
>my boymode will fail inside of a year
>my bf will probably dump me

I feel like theres two types of trans people. People that make trans their identity, and people who want to forget about the fact that they are, want to transition, and just fit in with other cis people normally. Me personally, I want to be able to pass and never think about it. I'm not a cis female and I know that but I'm not making being trans my identity either. Just more of a case of it comes up and I have to talk about it I will, but I never intentionally want it to or bring it up like others do.

>>5222511
>Is it just me?
No. Every trans girl is unique and special. It's not just you.