>>5058611
Well there's surely some stuff that either you or him ain't telling. No one simply gets more withdrawn and bitchy.

>>5058816
i am an open book
i cannot quote him exactly as i no longer have the chat, but he said something along the lines of "sometimes i just dont want any affection physical or otherwise, i just want my isolation"

After the argument yesterday cooled off we talked more and he said that he just wants to be alone for a while.

But giving him that time alone makes me alone and its driving me insane.

>>5058832
Have you ever seen him personally?

>>5058611
Look he isn't giving you what you need and it's questionable if he will ever be able to.

I dated and loved this real great girl that had horrible depression and really anxiety. I've had some ugly depression too, still do but I think her issues differed in that she was just also incredibly insecure.

Shit just sucked because of that. I mean it was just this feeling like I was loving a brick wall. I'd pour myself into it, love and give for her and just got kinda nothing back. Not that she hated me or didn't return any feelings it just wasn't possible with her shit. I'd push her into counseling and meds because that's what was helping me but nothing.

And it just stretched on like that for too damn long. I ended up being the one to break up despite her being the one emotionally unavailable and it just wrecked me. Still burns tbh.

So that's just something to think on I guess but I'd figure a way to get out if I were you. Especially if it's been long distance for the full 3 years. A long distance relationship should never really last longer than a year. You can meet and date online but after a year if you two aren't making a real attempt at getting to each other irl it's just not gonna happen and is wasting you.

There is nothing wrong with him wanting to be alone. Being clingy when someone needs their alone time will result in them hating you.

Thats my biggest gripe in relationships. I'm very up front that sometimes I need some days with no or minimal contact and it always backfires with the other person bugging out about how they think they did something wrong, so I have to comfort them and not get my alone time. I fucking hate clingy motherfuckers who need attention 24/7.

>>5058859
no, but a visit is planned within the next few months
>>5058882
this terrifies me =(
>>5058904
but its not like i dont give it to him, seeing as im not physically there.

I think what i am feeling is that its just not fair... i dont like that word "clingy". it berates one for wanting to be with ones lover.

I dont have the strength to break it off though either. I feel it would wreck me.

would any of you ride it out for love? or would you run if you felt that alone despite having a lover.

>>5058938
I can feel alone without having to deal with as much bullshit as this "lover" that you haven't even fucked with yet. I'd just break up.

Life's too damn short to just settle on something as half assed as this.

Thanks for ya'lls input

>>5058882
Are you me? I'm going through this right now.. 2 months she's been gone but at least she's going to therapy.
I just feel betrayed but I know it's not her fault.

Life it's hard. But you're gonna be fine.