How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
The sticky is divided like so:
>Recommended Readings.
>Some tips to get your life back on track.
>Study and Career.
>To-do list habit.rpg (If you’re TOTALLY Lost. Start with this one)
>Focus and meditation
>Finance
Basic Recommendations:
>Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going.
>Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO.
>Learn to focus.
>Meditate.
>Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping.
>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
>Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Resources:
arcitea.com/
>This is a good ‘sticky’ for self-development
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/blog/
>This one is a good blog for resources of this kind. I’ve seen annons give good feedback.
>Framework
http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY [Embed] [Embed]
>Motivation
http://youtu.be/ZtMm0swu5i8 [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/vH0nP4NzS9M [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/WxOFvpplvAM [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/ix4xSzkqwhk [Embed] [Embed]
>If you think there is material that should be added (Or taken off). Please say so.
>There is no central authority for the /SIG/, everyone could copy, modify and upload the info here in a latter post.
>To future curators of the /SIG/. Stray away from PUA, and avoid Fedora stuff please.
>If you try monetizing with this, I’ll cut you.
Material reading can be tricky. There will be trash here and there as we're not /lit/.
But we have to trust others.
Image related has a detailed list that an Annon provided on a thread a while back. If you got time to kill, click on the image, and read the descriptions
As time goes, the /SIG/ has had a couple of books recommended. I’ve done my best to try to get talks of the authors of such books so you can get a ‘piece’ before you commit.
Google a bit about the book, if you think you can get something out of it, watch the talk.
In my opinion, try getting the books “for free”.
If you read it and get something out of it, consider paying for the book.
>Michael Mauboussin, "The Success Equation”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1JLfqBsX5Lc [Embed] [Embed]
>Susan Cain, Quiet: The power of Introverts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4 [Embed] [Embed]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85s9wJlzkrk [Embed] [Embed]
>The Brain That Changes Itself, Norman Doidge
https://vimeo.com/14551296
>Antifragile, Nassim Taleb
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4MhC5tcEv0 [Embed] [Embed]
>One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way, Robert Maurer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWUDV6xJRPc [Embed] [Embed]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMQb5FJrop8 [Embed] [Embed]
>Mentally Tough, James E. Loehr & Peter J. McLaughlin
>Practicing the Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
> http://pastebin.com/x7BbYimv
Reading material needs to be added/edited
>http://4motivi.com/books/
Some free books for you to grab
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
Also, Project Gutenberg has Thousands of free books.
You could do lot worse than browsing their top 100
http://www.gutenberg.org/browse/scores/top
>Freedom is having control of your life
You should at least have 3 hobbies/activities.
-One that will pay the bills, gets food on your table
-One that will keep you in shape. (lower you faggot)
-One that you're passionate about and might be able to develop into a career.
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If you're into lifting, taking the tips to better yourself should be simple; as you already have built some self-discipline.
Make peace with yourself and the way things are right now.
Stop thinking the world owes you, how destiny ‘fucked you over’, how those guys have it easier.
Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.
Don’t focus in what was given to you, focus in what you’ll achieve.
Eliminate the things you dislike about yourself, about your life. Is as simple as, do you enjoy your job? No? Take steps to change the feeling.
How are you gonna make that? You either make your job more enjoyable, or you change jobs. Simple.
You want a girl? how do you plan to achieve that? Are you too socially inept? Work on that.
Are you piss poor and can’t afford a decent living? Work on that too.
No matter who you are, where you are in your life, or how fucked up you think you are.
You can improve your life. Take control. Move forward.
Dreams keeps us alive, fighting for them makes us feel alive.
About 5-7 years ago, I was a fucking train-wreck.
Right now, I'm doing fairly well.
Get some discipline, set some goals and a way to achieve them.
Cultivate yourself, learn stuff, get your shit together.
And realize, understand. None is coming to save you.
You got to make your way through.
You NEED to take CONTROL.
>>31489276
A month ago I shaved my head and bought some weights
If you're still in School. For fuck sake pay attention.
MORE than half of actually doing good in school is attending, the other half is paying attention in class. So then do it.
Or stop it altogether.
If you’re in college and you’re not feeling it, take a semester to think things through.
If you’re in high school, don’t think YOU NEED to enter college to be successful. There are other way
Google just started hiring people who never went to college.
WATCH this talk:
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY [Embed] [Embed]
Some learning resources, focusing in code since I’m an ‘IT’ guy:
>duolingo.com
First and foremost. Free language learning tool with a really robust app. THIS IS A MUST. Learning a new language will help you out no matter who you are.
>codeacademy.com
Teaches you the basics, from the ground up.
>codeschool.com/
Similar to codeacademy.
>youtube.com/user/thenewboston
Personal favorite. This guy step by step, learns a shit-ton of programing languages. Give this a check and start watching something you’re interested in.
>codeeval.com
This one I really like, once you get your shit going, it puts you ‘objectives’ to solve through code, last batch are really complex.
>coursera.org
It’s a really nice online-course platform. There are really good things here as well.
>openprocessing.org / processing.org / codepen.io
These sites display some really cool stuff, where you can also check the source code and modify it to see what happens.
For career options.
Choose anything you want, If you want to go into Philosophy or Social studies, That's fucking great. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll find a way.
You can always become a teacher or a writer.
BUT BE FUCKING AWARE THAT YOU WILL HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING MONEY. Don't get a loan to study shit that will be expensive to repay.
Other than that, don't enter into something soulless just because 'I'll get money'.
You only got one fucking life, don’t waste it doing something you hate.
You must have a to-do list, it's pretty essential.
As for which, there are several options
Google Keep, Evernote or whatever suits you.
But currently I suggest you use:
https://habitrpg.com/
There’s even a /fit/ guild created to keep us in check.
https://habitrpg.com/#/options/groups/guilds/eeb30614-2936-4f1c-9713-117248d10149
It’s certainly geeky as fuck. But Gamification has been proven to work when applied to certain aspects of human psyche. Helps you stay in check and keeping your eyes on the trophy.
Stupid trivial things I used to do, I stopped once I placed them as ‘Bad habits’.
It also has a mobile app, while it’s a bit limited and on construction, it is free.
There are three main categories.
>Habits. These are things you do by impulse, not under a schedule. Can be good or bad.
+Go for a jog
+Sleep early/on time Sun-Thu
+Walk the dog
+Go for a ride
+Cook something new
+Go out and socialize
+Spend time at the shelter
-Smoke
-Drink soda
-Drink beers
-Eat Junk/Dirty bulk
-Stay up late Sun-Thu
-Fap [?]
-Play 1.5+ Hours vidya a day
-Shitpost
>Dailies are things you ALWAYS do. Every day or certain days of the week. Planned, they are only good.
+Lift (m - w - f)
+Eat your macros(daily)
+Buy Groceries (Sa)
+Read 30 min (daily)
+Practice the Guitar 30 Min(daily)
+Study Video Editing 40 Min (daily)
+Cook (We, Sa)
+Do your daily points in duolingo
>To-Do are, well, things you must do. You can have a checklist within one To-Do.
()Fix the shelf
()Go to the post office and send the package
()Buy the ticket to the concert
()Pay the landlord
()Organize my trip to the moon
—()Get the rocket tickets
—()Get the reservation for the moon Hostel
—()Buy some moonars to have some local money
—()Buy a map of moon city
Seeing the numbers go up (or health go down) is a weird sort of motivation. I can vouch for it. Give it a try, if you have no idea where to start, This is a good one.
Fill your bad habits, put the to-do’s and take it from there.
Meditation and focus is taking a Long fucking while. While I do meditate, It's not my strongpoint, so It doesn't come as easy.
Boils down to, meditation is really advisable in today's world of instant gratification.
It's important to listen to your own voice from time to time.
Mediation will help you focus on the long run, as you gain control of yourself.
Some (non-curated)resources I've been mentioned on the way:
https://www.rescuetime.com
http://buddhaimonia.com/
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL603BD0B03E12F5A1
If you have any recommendation, idea or something along the lines, Please reply to this post. I'll check them out.
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As for Finance. That's also under construction.
But managing your own money is fucking important.
I'm just scratching the surface on it. I advice you check this:
http://www.investopedia.com/university/beginner/
And read the following advice from finacebrah
PERSONAL FINANCE
To get started, you obviously need to get an income sorted, now, there are 2 main ways to make money, work for somebody else, or earn money yourself.
Working for somebody else is self explanatory, you go out and get a job, busting your balls, normally for peanuts if you don't have a great career, and doing that day after day, year after year. Is this always a bad thing? No, most people start here in fact, it tends to be a good, at least consistent way to make money. People do it there whole lives, and that's up to them.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, I DON'T WANT TO BE BUSTING MY BALLS TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE A LOAD OF MONEY, I hear you say.
Earning money for yourself.
Again, there are two ways to do this. Firstly, is ACTIVELY earning it, creating a business, that you work at and it provides you with profit, and PASSIVELY earning it, meaning you put money you already have to work.
I can't possible cover off every single way to actively make money in 1 post, but if it interests you, look into it. You can start an online business while you already have a job, if you still want the security. You can start a side gig on the weekends, you can import and sell at markets or online.You can jack it all in, and start a physical business (please don't do that without serious thought) Actively earning money is one of the most rewarding things you can do, IMHO
>Earning online
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/24-easy-ways-make-money-the-internet.html
>Low start up cost businesses/part time
http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/201588
http://www.thesimpledollar.com/50-side-businesses-you-can-start-on-your-own/
There are hundreds of articles out there, have a look, see what you think, and do your research.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, NOW I'M EARNING ALL THIS MONEY, WHAT DO I DO WITH IT, SHOULD I BUY A FERRARI?
You save it, live within your means, don't go into high interest debt, keep expenses low, the more you save, the more you can put to work, and the more you can earn.
Passively earning money.
I like to call this putting your money to work for you, it's takes money you have saved, investing it, and getting a return on it.
I CAN MAKE MONEY WITHOUT WORKING FINANCEBRAH? ARE YOU FOR REAL.
Yes. This is how most people become wealthy, saving money, and getting a big return on it. How do you do that? Again, there are hundreds of ways. As a general rule, the higher the risk, the higher the reward. What you invest in depends on your investment strategy.
http://www.wikihow.com/Create-an-Investment-Plan
Read it and create one, it should tie in to your long term goals that you set and have written down.
Again, too many different kind of investments to cover in one post, here is a good overview of them.
http://www.investopedia.com/university/20_investments/
This is the risk order:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Risk%E2%80%93return_spectrum
I personally prefer Real estate, forex trading, and stocks. There is so much information out there, I can just encourage you to read and learn as much as possible. See what suits your life and where you live. And never stop learning.
FINANCEBRAHS RULES ON HOW TO BE FINANCIALLY SMART
>PAYING OFF HIGH INTEREST DEBT IS THE BEST FORM OF SAVING THERE IS, payday loans first,credit cards, ect.
>NEVER GO INTO DEBT TO BUY THINGS THAT DEPRECIATE, IF YOU CAN MANAGE IT
>LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS. THE BRAND NAME BAKED BEANS COME AFTER ALL THE HARD WORK
>AVOID ALL LATE PENALITIES ON DEBT
>BUDGET WISELY
and finally, the most important one.
TRY AND SAVE SOMETHING EVERY PAY PERIOD. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF ITS $1, SET A GOAL OF HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO SAVE AND FUCKING HIT IT, PUT IT INTO AN ACCOUNT TO BE USED ONLY FOR INVESTING.
Put just on a personal note, the whole point of /SIG/ is to make life more enjoyable for you, and not to please other people. By all means, use the resources we have shared, but please don't feel like you need to achieve everything we have to feel like you have made it, these are all just suggestions.
And on that note, please let us know how we can improve the sticky!
>>31489489
>the sticky!
Are you attempting to get this stickied?
Nice resources, but why not make it a website? Just keep it simple and post it there, then try to get it linked in the already existing sticky.
You should post this in /r9k/ most of them are lost souls but I believe there may still be hope for them. I'll upload some resources here when I get home.
>>31489497
>This may sound stupid, but I worried I won't be able to. I sorta have a problem with letting go. I did learn from this if it makes any difference. And I think I won't make this mistake again. But who knows?
don't be a bitch homeboy
Just reposting this again in case anyone wants to answer here:
>>31488737 #
He was everything I wanted to be: calm, cool (both as in "cool kids at school" and "cool under pressure), confident, relaxed, and collected. He was also more talented than me and more popular (though he admitted he wasn't popular still felt like he was). Everyone thought he was talented and wonderful. I figured "hey seems like a cool guy to hang around." I just wanted to be like him because he had everything together.
>>31488699 #
>look forward
This may sound stupid, but I worried I won't be able to. I sorta have a problem with letting go. I did learn from this if it makes any difference. And I think I won't make this mistake again. But who knows?
>>31489588
>You should post this in /r9k/
kek
>I believe there may still be hope for them
double kek. they don't want any help.
I don't want to say they are doomed, but if you post /sig/ on /r9k/ they'll just post frogs and call us normies.
/fit/ is the perfect place for /sig/ since fitness is self improvement.
/r9k/ is self destruction.
>>31489588
>should post this in /r9k/
>>31489598
Okay where and how do I start?
>>31489624
>they'll just post frogs and call us normies.
Made me legit laugh out loud. It's so true.
I've seen /self-improvement/ type threads posted in there and they generally either 404 or get a bunch of frogs, as you said. No help wanted.
Random question, are any of the /SIG/ browsers religeous or do you pray at all? Just out of curiosity. Do you feel it helps your /SIG/ gains if you do?
>>31489239
>I think the point behind the thread
something something about always being in a room with your betters
I hang out here because I'm a fuckup who needs to get his life together. I reckon I need some kind of social interaction, hence why I come to 4chan in the first place; it's more of an urge than an actual rational decision. Way to borken to have any real, meaningful, relations atm, so 4chan is alright as a substitute, I guess. Its a hell lot better here in regards to ambition as compared to say, int. You need a constructive atmosphere and way of thinking, not a toxic and destructive one. The links and "lifehacks" can be useful sometimes as well, but I honestly consider it secondary to just seeing someone post about making advances in life and using that as inspiration
>>31489767
Awesome point anon, Never thought about it like that, but I'm just glad we can help people in whatever way.
Someone better save the stuff that one anon posted about sleep/meditation/nootropics etc.
>>31489767
Same here, in terms of life situation, why 4chan, why /fit/ rather than other boards. I used to go to r9k, I'm a robot trying to get out of a pretty bad rut. Just started lifting four weeks ago...
>>31489823
Here is something good on sleep:
www.digitalnoesis.org/sleep/
I've been actually doing that stuff and it's been helping. Takes time though...
>>31489823
I put it in a notepad, ill put it in sticky or wikia tomorrow
>>31489903
cheers man. SIG wouldn't exist without you.
>>31489600
Tl;dr for stupid reasons. Also the poster of this.
financebrah i love you make love to me n-no homo
>>31489941
Ha, not sure about that, but I appreciate it, as long as it's helping people, I'm enjoying it.
>>31489980
Man I'm feeling the love tonight, of course n-no homo.
I always wanted to start like a self help/improvement site or blog just for fun.
>>31490043
Why not do that?
Can still have the sticky, but, to make a website that you could update as needed and have a url to paste around would be good too.
Sort of like: http://liamrosen.com/fitness.html
>>31489903
nigga where wiki at, ain't no link to wiki in sticky
>>31490091
You think I should? I've got a couple of months and nothing to do, and I've made a couple of sites before. Would you guys be interested?
>>31490101
Shit it got taken out a couple of threads ago on accident and I kept forgetting to put it back in
http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky
>>31489734
I go to church coz i feel like i need some spiritual help
But then again im poor and up and tising. If i was rich, probably wouldnt have a lot of faith. I faith. I dont know.
>>31490113
Yeah. I mean I post that http://liamrosen.com/fitness.html and and other stuff on /b/ and /r9k/ and other places all the time. Could do the same with this. Gives it a wider audience. A good link is nice because people will bookmark it or whatever. Plus then you have more control over it. Hosting is so cheap now too.... if you want to hide your identity a bit get a domain with domain privacy (most offer that).
>>31490191
I'll have a look into it, thanks man.
How do I stop comparing myself to others? It never works out and I always end up on bottom. Plus it makes me depressed.
>>31489276
>Share your successes
Just got a job at a fitness clothing chain store, free 100$ pair of shoes first day of training and 7 days of full pay for just listening to different brand ambassadors. Life is good brehs, also thanks for putting this up man gotta learn how to save!
tips for improving public speaking skills?
>inb4 take a class
fuck that shit
>>31490772
Practice in a mirror, just talking shit. Being bad at public speaking comes from a fear of messing up or being judged, the more you practice, the more used to speaking to nobody in particular you get.
>>31490723
Gj anon, keep up the good work.
>want to be frugal and save money
>also want to spend a year or two travelling
>>31490772
film yourself giving a presentation. Then watch it. several times. You'll see several places where you look like a moron. You'll notice all the times you say "umm" and "uhh" and other bullshit filler.
Work on it and film yourself again. watch it again. improve.
>>31489276
How do I just become more charismatic in social situations?
>>31490841
Yo financebrah what do you think about splitting my paycheques in this sort of way;
one third of money goes into current a/c (weekly spending, clothes, necessities etc.)
one third of money goes into short term saving a/c (saving up to get a car, holiday etc)
one third of money goes into long term saving a/c (rainy day + mortgage) bear in mind that I'm only 21 and still in full time education, job is part time
How do I stop being a cuck in social situations?
I have trouble putting words together sometimes in social situations although when typing on a computer I can vividly talk about things descriptively while in real life I occasionally sound like a toddler
>>31489276
>Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
Just got off psych meds, spent most of last year withdrawaling - that was self improvement of sorts (quit amphetamines, benzos, and two anti-depressants).
Now I'm on nothing but have no energy, super depressed, pretty suicidal too.
To try to combat the depression been trying to get /fit/ for the last month. I've read it helps with depression. I'm currently 5' 9" 215lbs, I want to get down to 172-lbs by late November (30th birthday) and get some strength.
It's really hard to go to the gym since I'm so tired (maybe the depression), but I got a personal trainer (I live in Miami, so they aren't bad here) and been doing cardio outside of that.
Outside of that been watching my diet... I weigh myself every morning.
>>31490919
It's good to save early. I started saving at a young age and since interest compounds it really helped me now that I am older. Even that bullshit job money I made in like high school but stored some away became at least semi-valuable since it has gotten interest for so long. So, for sure keep that 1/3 long term savings going as long as you can. well done.
>>31490952
Good job on the getting off of all that shiiii mang
Stick with the gym, once you get into a routine there's pretty much nothing more satisfying than seeing those numbers go down on the scale
Don't forget to use MyfitnessPal and a TDEE calculator to work out cutting calories
Take it from an anon who's beginning to see his abs after being a fat as fatass, nothing compares to this
>>31490919
That's a decent start, although I'd take your paycheck, take out the necessities, then split the leftover 1/2 1/2, if you have enough discipline to just buy the necessities.
>>31490952
There's a light at the end of the tunnel man, my depression got heaps better this past year.
>>31490896
Practice talking, a lot.
>>31489903
Thanks man. I only have a couple of likeminded colleagues, exbosses and friends who share these interests, so this thread is honestly a blast to be in.
This thing has been made into something really good. Thank you for that.
Also, I think this guy hit the nail on the head >>31489767
>>31490952
Cold showers. Some dude posted about it before. Every little bit helps,
but ik some of those feels. Was really down, before. Pretty strong suicidal thoughts (it's pretty bloody bizarre when you think back on it), barely got out of bed etc. for like 2 months. Gotten better since, but still the damn sense of tiredness lingers on. Sleep like 12 hours a day. Could easily sleep more if I wanted to
>>31490990
I really don't have the discipline to just buy necessities unfortunately, I like having some money to just do what I want.. I'm not a huge fan of being frugal it's going to be hard saving at all! Thanks for the advice though breh
>>31490974
Thanks man
>>31490990
Financebrah I got a question.
A bro of mine is offering to hook me up with a web developer job, I've been neet for like 2 years now so this really might be the lottery ticket to a non-shit life... But I don't really know too much so I don't want to fuck it up
What should I do? Should I go for it and try my best without knowing very much? I'm thinking worst case scenario it doesn't work out but at least I learn a bit and know how what to learn more.
>>31491103
If he knows you don't know that much, read up as much as you can and go for it.
Gotta take whatever opportunities you can man
>>31490981
Thanks, I'm going to stick with it, I'm hoping to see some results soon so I can get bits of reinforcement.
I'll try that MyFitnessPal, thanks. I already did the TDEE, but with oddball foods or home cooked stuff can be hard to judge - I think that will help.
Congrats on your success! I hope to get there too!
>>31490990
Yeah I think also coming off these depression meds made me rebound depressed, hoping it'll start to get better this year. Sucks waking up in a panic, terrible way to start every day. Depressed a lot.
>>31491051
Yeah I'm still very tired, but I just have been pushing through. I'm hoping it passes, because it's exhausting and hard to get better when there isn't any energy too. Basically, hard enough for people to get good at going to the gym, then you add on top of that waking up feeling like crap every day and it makes it that much harder.
>>31489276
>success
I managed to reconnect with an old friend and it went way better than I expected
I-I-I'm getting better at drawing
I found out why I have a hard time accepting compliments
I still have a job and the people there like having me there
I feel more confident about driving
>failures
I ruined a relationship I wanted to work out real bad but got needy (yeah I'm this faggot: >>31489600)
I still have shit self esteem
I can not focus on the positives
I'm still self conscious
still compare myself to others
>methods
decided to try and hangout with people who want to improve so no wizardchan or /r9k/ but instead /fit/
talking to therapist
talked about my problems with my friend and he has done similar so he helped
may consider taking an art class just to meet people
take notes on advice I get
>everything in between
still feeling rejected
uh...I'm here I guess
>>31491165
MFP is godly for losing that weight, once you use it for a week straight (on every single thing you eat don't skip! even an estimation and tracking is better than not tracking) It'll become second nature, I'm on a 45 day tracking streak of tracking everything I've eaten sure enough lbs are coming off
>>31491191
>/r9k/
Fellow r9k refugee here. Hard to stay away though because some of it is so funny... robots have good senses of humor, but it is just so depressing..
>>31491136
Ay bruh I'm gonna go for it.
I'll just explain to him that I'm not too knowledgeable but I'm good at learning and that I appreciate the opportunity and would love to learn more.
Maybe they'll pity me and I'll gain experience and then start making the big bucks
>>31489734
Though I'm not at all religious, a muslim friend (even mentor) I have huge amounts of respect for agreed to take me to a mosque and share his religion (plus we where in the Middle East at the time learning arabic) and I was astonished. The prayer cycles (98% of the time in the mosque) where just like meditation. Transcendental meditation with some extra Allah's and a khutbah on friday's. Meditating in plenum 5 times a day with a time to internalize gratitude (towards a god, but gratitude is gratitude all the same) and a time to consider if the actions you are taking are virtuous.
It struck me as not quite unlike Seneca's obsessive quest to philosophical "betterment" with some authoritarian structures slipped. It was rather pleasant, and I can definitely see how you could benefit a lot from the rituals.
This is ofc disregarding "church politics" (for lack of a better term) and their macro level moralisms. This is the view I got looking purely at the inner personal thinking and the (very meditative) rituals they call prayer.
>>31491253
Thanks, yeah, I'm playing with it now already adding what I ate and did today. Thanks! Seems really good - huge food database.
>>31490990
Practice how?
>>31491309
No problem friend don't forget before pics for some encouragement later on!
help me sig it's my first term back after a leave of absence and i think my gpa is going down even more i think i failed a class i've failed once before
instead of cramming for my calc exam tomorrow i'm cleaning and watching hannibal buress standup and shitposting on /fit/
nah but for real how do yall monitor your internet useage
>>31491269
I may be depressed but I'd rather hang out with people who aren't depressed. A group of depressed people is no help at all.
Thanks financebrah, i was going through a really shitty day and this left me enthusiastic
>>31487831
The rule of thumb is that your internal clock can swing an hour a night in a sustainable way. That being said, jumping straight to the new time and taking Melatonin consistently for at least as many days as you have shifted hours is faster way of going about it though the first day or two can still be a bit rough.
This is all assumed no computers or screens in bed, or right before going (at least no screen emitting blue light, f.lux fixes this).
I've also read about taking ice baths prior to bed to really facilitate falling asleep, since we know changes in temperature does it though it is unclear exactly why. Haven't tried this so I don't know. I do take cold showers, but I do it in the morning after lifting. And in the morning it just wakes you the fuck up.
>>31489577
Nice doubs, Its a stikcy in a wiki, chek soeone on the first or second post the link
>>31491321
Talking to people confidently, especially small random encounters like shop assistants and stuff.
>>31491456
Good, thats what /sig/ is all about.
Goodnight /sig/, Gotta be up in 4 hours so better get to bed, keep this thread going overnight, if you want me to answer any questions, tag this post and ill get around to them. Might stay on lurking for a while from my iPad.
>>31489276
Hey Financebrah, my father is giving me ownership of the house, and I don't know jack shit about housing and neither does he. Anywhere I can learn on my own, or would that be here? >>31489432
If so, what books?
Or websites?
>>31491343
WasteNoTime for Safari. Made my friend make the password (I have 1 day with free access to all sites a week) and told him to charge me money if I asked for it. Then he moved away to a place with patchy internet (hardcore job) at best and I haven't asked for it since.
StayFocusd for Chrome.
Also I've heard good things about RescueTime, it apparently also tracks time spent in other applications.
>>31491562
Hey Financerbrah, i think you should stop posting this threads so constant because they might lost its value and their general interest.
Since SIG take time, the same things should happen to the post, so people could achive thing and could post them.
Slds.
>>31491587
What do you wanna do with it? Live in it, rent it, do it up and sell, or do it up and rent?
>>31491603
I'm not sure. The value of the property has gone significantly up, so we're planning on selling, but we're just so god-damn ignorant that I feel there might be better options.
>>31491596
Yes, like one thread per week.
>>31491776
yes
>>31491768
Property is difficult with so many variables, like location, your goals, the market ect.
Most property books will tell you the same, it's mainly math so just pick up a highly rated one off Amazon.
If you want a lump of cash, sell it. If you want an income, rent it out. If you want a free house and half a lump of cash, finance half of it, use the rent to cover the mortgage. Obviously you can do improvements to make it worth more.
>>31491881
Thank you, I appreciate the advice.
I want to suceed but that's quite a lot of reading
>>31492056
i'll fix my self-discipline tomorrow
How to exactly start this? I have tons of life changing SI material on my computer and i always think about starting , reading and getting a routine but it's so fucking hard to start it and keep up without seeing good results
one thread per weekend seems like a nice idea.
but /sig/ always hits the replies limit.
and /sig/ should always be "open" for help and advice.
why are we worrying about making too many threads?
if we hit the reply limit or a thread is kill, why not make another one?
the non-extant mods seem cool with sig for now
Will this stuff work with the intention of manipulating people? Just asking cause I want to know, not cause I want to manipulate people.
>>31492307
Made me kek hard
I have had dark circles under my eyes for my whole life and was wondering if there is anything that can fix them besides surgery. If it helps I have allergies regularly and I don't go out that much in the sunlight.
>>31492990
get better sleep, take a multivitamin, and don't rub your eyes
>>31493124
I get good sleep. I will do the rest though. Thank you.
Yeah yeah everybody is happy and positive here because everybody live in USA or other first world developed country, with mom and dad paying your education and giving to you good contacts.
I would love to live a life in easy mode too
>>31493170
you still have it better than 99% of everybody who ever lived
don't cry because the grass is greener
>>31489598
>ITT: OP doesn't know what sticky means
>>31493193
Come here and live in Argentina without the possibility to go to university,studying everyday by yourself, reading the same books that university students read but knowing that in the future you will not have a degree or any paper to prove your knowledge..
>>31493239
that sucks dude but there are people in the world that don't have the luxury of time or money or internet to access 4chan
make the best of it
>>31492990
Stay hydrated, it thins the mucus and helps with sinuses
Also make sure to eat fiber, when I get constipated the circles under my eyes get darker - they get much better when my bowls get moved regularly.
>>31493239
so what do you want us to do?
Why would people compare themselves to someone who has it worse in life?
Oh I was born with a normal height and working limbs, damn that person was born with mutated legs. guess i should stop lifting and become like him
>>31488700
How many months of trining till you start feeling confidence?
>>31493296
wut
>>31493278
>make the best of it
I will try anon
>>31493239
argenniger here
are you literally poor? are you literally retarded?
>but knowing that in the future you will not have a degree or any paper to prove your knowledge..
that's onto you faggot
>>31493407
Why you ask if I'm poor or retarded?
>that's onto you faggot
Really? well.. I will make grow a university in my garden then.
>>31493501
>another mexican becomes a farmer
What a surprise
>>31493572
>doesn't have any argument
>lel you are a mexica farmer XD
fuck off
>>31493572
lmoa
>>31493596
>>31493572
>>31493407
same retard without arguments
>inb4 paint.jpg
>>31493170
You can still make it brah, just try to not stay so negative and don't listen the haters
>>31493647
>same retard
yeah whatever dude
>>31493701
you are proving my point
you are retard and a samefag :^)
Just went full BETA on my oneitis. Needless to say, there's no redeeming myself.
Thing is I was feeling more confident lately. I just relapsed really fucking hard.
How do I permanently rid myself of this beta curse?
>>31493724
Stop all communication with her, really, there's no other way.
The moment I got over my oneitis I got a gf.
(But I still miss her sometimes)
>>31493701
This is a shop. I can tell from the pixels and having seen a lot of shops
>>31493925
still buthurt? :^)
speaking of improving the sticky: why isn't there anything about intermittent fasting, which I've just gotten into? periodically letting your body exhaust all the glycogen in your liver so it can metabolize fat and make ketone bodies is a really good idea, for reasons that go well beyond aesthetics.
>>31494011
about what
>>31494040
So why don't you contribute something? Write up a few paragraphs.
bump for tomorrow
>>31489734
I am religious in a sense of culture but i do have a faith and i follow it by personal terms
i have found that it has indeed been helpful in my personal /SIG/ progress so i stuck with it. Going to a church helps you stick with it and maintain a sense of community that you find later in life is much needed because as most would know, feeling alone in any part of your life is depressing and discouraging. In very dark times i have found that the meditative value of prayer has helped me reach a better understanding of things i normally wouldn't have seen. That peace gave me a sense of control over my problems that allowed me to step out of the shoes of anxiety and look into my life in third person.
>>31496289
i am not**
>>31489734
I was raised in a religious family, but I am not religious myself (Aren't I a special snowflake, eh?). I do, however respect a lot of religious people and don't hate religious people in general. I am more or less a non-practicing atheist.
>>31490772
Why afraid of taking a class about how not to fail in front of other people? Afraid of failing in front of other people in the class? If you want to improve public speaking skills, taking a class is the best thing.
>>31493170
That is not true. I am from Europe here, living with four siblings and a widowed mother. This year, every month has been a struggle with money, but we all know the importance of education and doing our best with studying. I am in the best school in the country, and I am planning to go to MIT after that, since they offer full need blind admissions. I know that I am aiming high, but hell, who else will do it? I have a decent chance in succeeding.
I do CLBSA. Each letter is a different body part for a different day.
Chest, legs, back, shoulder, arms.
Try to space the chest workout far from the shoulder and arm workout to let it heal properly.
>>31490723
Nice work. Fuck You Money became my biggest motivator in the beginning for saving seriously (that, and a cold hard slap in the face when the first time I moved countries and to an internship with shit pay)
jlcollinsnh.com/2011/06/06/why-you-need-f-you-money/
Now I'm more and more working towards FI, a la:
mrmoneymustache.com/2013/02/22/getting-rich-from-zero-to-hero-in-one-blog-post/
>>31490772
Also, depending on where you live, involving yourself in politics gives you a forum to learn it. Especially if they have weekly policy suggestion forums inside the party.
>>31490860
Make it your goal to become a digital nomad. Check out /r/digitalnomad/ (IT-related studies also helps), or just be super aggressive at saving money (75% or more)
>>31490896
Get involved in places where that shit is encouraged. Politics, drama (maybe even dance?) or go traveling to countries where the locals are outgoing. South America, Thailand & surrounding places, and the Middle East (here language is a bigger barrier than some of the other places) are good places. Even Spain has a more extroverted culture than most of the west.
Hey /SIG/,
Which video games do you recommend that would help with self improvement?
Must I cut them out of my life completely?
>>31490919
>one third of money goes into short term saving a/c (saving up to get a car, holiday etc)
A great start at a way younger age than most!
Obviously your preference may wary, but really consider when and IF to buy (+what type and how old) a car. They cost way more than most people think.
mrmoneymustache.com/2011/10/06/the-true-cost-of-commuting/
A bike (and moving closer to work if necessary) often generates way more "returns" than any investment vehicle ever could.
mrmoneymustache.com/2011/04/18/get-rich-with-bikes/
>>31497355
Yeah, this is good advice. I bought a 60k car that gets 12 mpg and costs me 4k a year in insurance, and sometimes i regret it xD
>>31491051
Have you had your blood work done? It may cost a bit depending on where you live, but cronic fatigue can be cause by a lot of different nutrient deficiencies.
Is there any way to get the "natural charm"? I've noticed I really lack this, specially when trying to pick up girls.
I have no problems with speaking to other people, I'm pretty outgoing. My face is ok, I dress well, my body is ottermode-ish and I'm pretty well off in terms of money (For an 18 y/o in the last year of the gymnasium. I will be even better off when I've graduated). I have to 95% a permanent well-paid job after school, my grades are good, but I really lack any kind of charm that attracts women, both long-term and short-term. I'm 90% sure that this is my problem
Is there any way to practice this specifically? What should I think about?
>>31497368
I've always sort of had a natural charm but I credit it to watching a lot of shows and comedians. I emulate, but make it my own with my own charisma. People find me hilarious because the humor I use is usually using wit, ,sarcasm, puns, or often speaking about something completely ridiculous but with an absolutely stone cold serious tone.
>>31493170
+ if you want free education (and not an online one) but from a good institution, learn a Scandinavian language (not Swedish though. Will make you more homo than even /fit/ can. And they charge money for foreigner who come and study there) and apply for uni here.
In Finland you even have english Bachelor Degrees (both for business and engineering), though you will need Finnish to get a job, so since Norwegian is easier to learn it's probably best to just learn that first and apply straight to a Norwegian bachelor degree. Some Norwegian Uni's even give you an extra year just to perfect your Norwegian skills before starting the rest of your studies.
Then you only need to save up for flights + a couple of months of minimal living before getting a shit local job (which will pay more than 10-15 € an hour anyway, double if you are working nights in a bar). I know a bunch of people who have done this.
Solve your problems instead of complaining about them.
>>31497447
>they charge money for foreigner who come and study there
doesnt everybody?
but y, we sure as hell dont need more foreigners here
>>31493239
seriously man. If my fucking VENEZUELAN friend can do it (now he has management experience, Finnish salary & he's considering free grad school which can be done while working).
He even got his first job without good Finnish skills (which take a bit of luck in Finland).
Argentina should be at least easier mode.
>>31494040
What this man said: >>31494624
Including LeanGains as a resource is probably a good idea. He (and the subreddit) actually have some decent information
>>31497320
Video games are not self-improvement, unless you are playing actually educational games. It's been studdied, and doing puzzle games doesn't make you smarter, it makes you better with puzzle games, giving you the illusion of being smarter.
The hand-eye coordination benefits are miniscule and you would be much better off doing a martial art, but that doesn't mean you have to cut them off completely. You could listen to a podcast while playing something, if you can split the attention. Alternatively, it is just a nice way to reward yourself for doing well at something, but be careful not to go overboard.
>>31497394
I have gotten most of my friends due to my humor, but my humor is kinda messed up and I know it won't appeal to women so I don't use it.
I guess it might be a immaturity issue, but I know a lot of people I would consider more immature than me(With par/subpar looks etc) that picks up girls easily. I guess their charm doesn't come from humor.
I've been working on becoming generally more mature the last half year or so and I feel like I've improved a lot. I started doing this primarily because I work with people that's older than 45 (I'm the youngest in the company and It's pretty big). I guess my time will come too as I continue to improve my weak spots
>>31497320
The best thing I ever did was stop browsing /v/ daily and stop playing games. I read on my kindle instead.
>>31497360
It's never too late to sell and buy a more efficient one. HOLY SHIT 12 mpg.
>mrmoneymustache.com/2012/09/04/its-never-too-late-to-ditch-your-gas-guzzler/
>>31497368
It often comes down to eye contact & mood. Before approaching, get into the mood by literally imagining fucking the girl aggressively. Being halfway hard and feeling the blood flow is the mood you want to be in when flirting for giving off a sexual vibe. By changing your mood you will change hers, assuming basic attraction. I see charm as just being attractive, funny (disarming) and sexual at the same time.
Consider getting a song that you associate of this feeling (for me it's usually: The Age of the Understatement by The Last Shadow Puppets) and routinely listen to this while going to the party or club.
This is a habit I made without really being aware of (the song part, the mood is talked about most places) for many years, and when I read the Art of Learning by Joshua Waitzkin he talks about for improving job performance in meetings, negotiations and doing well for the whole day. He writes that starting to meditate yourself into that feeling and slowly making the meditation shorter and shorter and using the same song until you can just take 3 minutes in the office and listen to the song and be on top of it like you normally would after a long meditation session.
>>31497463
No. In Finland it's free, in Norway it costs 80$ a semester. I've been told Germany is also a good place to do this.
Sweden and Denmark are the ones that charge money. You guys so scared of other cultures instead of using it as an opportunity. Not realizing inviting arabs into your country and learning arabic from them from an early age is the best way to do well in oil. Ditto for Persian and Telecommunication Technology, and Pashto for military and diplomatic stuff. Also Chinese for shipping and IT.
Only African languages are useless though.
>>31497320
habit.rpg
>>31497965
NEVAR. Cars and trucks are the only think I really ever waste money on, and considering I'm buying an auto repair shop, I think it's okay =D
Pic related bumper will be the next waste of money =D
>>31497360
>Yeah, this is good advice. I bought a 60k car that gets 12 mpg and costs me 4k a year in insurance, and sometimes i regret it xD
>>31497965
>It's never too late to sell and buy a more efficient one. HOLY SHIT 12 mpg.
When gas prices went up a while back, a lot of people sold their gas guzzler and bought something more efficient. But for many, once they factored in the loss taken on the trade in and the expense of the new car, it would take a really, really long time for the higher gas milage to pay off.
Depends on your commute, obviously. But, just something to think about/calculate.
1st, get rid of that how to talk like a man youtube.
2nd, move this whole thread to /adv/
>>31498028
>this is the manchild you are taking life advice from.
>>31498399
I forgot having hobbies makes you a man child. Sorry.
>>31498028
I don't browse >>>/o/ much but there is a meme of a truck just like that on there...
>>31498449
The angry tooth truck?
>>31498418
I was judging your hobby, not hobbies. Scratch that trucks are cool, making them look like kids trainers tho.
>>31498480
Ah yeah, nah I don't want the neon on it, I don't even want that exact bumper, It was just the only pic I had on the comp I was on.
Actually, pic related will probably be the next mod.
>>31498449
it's here
>>31498028
Of course ft's fine. People indulge in different things, and based on your info you're already pretty set financially, but holy fuck unless you are literally Stringer Bell, an Arab sheik or Vladimir Putins best childhood friend that is fucking insane!
I'll take a nice thin-wheeled bike, European level public transport and a couple of flat shoes to walk in any day.
First time ever paying attention to this thread and I just fucking lold at what I witnessed
>has a link to "How to Hold Conversation Like a Man" video
>uses emoticons like "=D" in this thread
Welp, thanks for the laughs.
>>31498599
It's too much fun to pass up, Eh, I might regret it when I'm older but at least I had fun.
Considering building a jeep as well so I don't ruin the truck.
>8am and I'm awake
>need to do cardio today
Going to get to gym before the normalfags wake up. Earning lots of good boy points today.
>>31498773
Gj anon, get that cardio in.
ups
>>31489276
Financebrah, how can i get invited to parties/enjoy them/ fuck girls? Keep in mind that in my country people don't date, they just hook up.
>>31499971
which country?
EPIC IMAGE TO IMPROVE THE STICKY
Huh, didn't see a general. Ignore thread I made, apologies for wasting space.
So I've FINALLY gotten my self into a pattern I can actually get myself to stick with. Been running the elliptical ~400 - 600 calories at a whack, been sticking with it pretty well. Finally started a reduced/improved diet that's been going pretty well too.
Only problem is with the elliptical, I'm not sure how light of resistance i need to run to avoid ANY bulking of my legs. I read it does do it just a bit, but my thighs are already up there from cycling for exercise/commute/recreation in a fairly hilly town, and the muscles used to be bulbous.
Trying to get in shape, but don't want to bulk up my legs, will doing 30 to 45 minutes on the elliptical at a lighter resistance setting do a lot of bulking, or am I good?
>>31500131
Running on the elliptical won't bulk your legs up, no matter how much you crank up the resistance.
>>31500131
Don't feed the trolls.
>Just come out of a spell of depression
>Feel happy and motivated to exercise and right again
>Start doing these things
>Still have anxiety
>Invited to a party tonight and I am fucking bricking it, I have no idea how to talk to new people at parties anymore and I don't know most people who are going
>>31500371
>and I don't know most people who are going
that might be a good thing
>>31500371
Decide whether you want to go or not, then stick with your decision and don't feel bad about it and let it get you out of your spell of motivation.
>>31500404
I want to go because it'll be better than sitting at home doing nothing and I'll regret it if I don't, but I'll also not have that great a time there because this lot are all proper hardcore and "the cool kids" and don't they fucking know it
>>31500424
you gotta start somewhere, the fact that you got invited means they're cool with you and enjoy being with you
just drink alcohol, don't overdo it and drink too much, just get to the point where you don't give a fuck and you'll have a blast
>>31500446
>just drink alcohol, don't overdo it and drink too much, just get to the point where you don't give a fuck and you'll have a blast
See this is the flaw in your master plan, I don't drink and haven't in nearly two years. It didn't used to be a problem because I had insanely high confidence and didn't need to drink to have fun sober at a party, but now I don't know how to get the confidence back
>>31500277
Not feeding the trolls, legit question. I want to lose weight without gaining Arnie Schwartzenegger legs, I've heard that elliptical are pure weight loss but also that they build a bit, I'm trying to see what's what. Is this a contentious issue?
>>31500178
That sounds to be exactly what I'm after.
How do you tackle bad habits?
>>31489588
>mfw I have /r9k/ running on another tab
>>31500647
earning more GBP by working out today, Anon?
>>31500689
>>31489432
Rich Dad, Poor Dad needs to be on here. It discusses the wageslavery trap that professionals (college grads, making 50-150k a year) fall into.
Intermediate microeconomics doesn't help with shit. Source: currently taking it. It's all theoretical bullshit that doesn't much apply to real life, unless you're managing a business and need to decide labor/capital ratio and optimal size. It's not gonna hurt, but is largely a waste of time.
Ben Franklin? Haven't read it, but that shit is probably long out of date by now. The game has changed.
Anything "for dummies" is shit. I've read several, and they're all cringy babby-tier wrongfag sewage.
>recommending Marx
Fucking communist hipster.
>>31501764
Or just buy one share of VOO every month.
>>31497227
>>31497355
>mrmoneymustache
My negro. His blog is my inspiration for biking for all short-distance (under three miles one-way) errands. It's fun, relaxing, and gives me a cardio boost. Traffic causes anxiety, biking reduces it.
If I get my ass a job, I want to get a proper roadbike to extend my effective radius of travel options. Though my mountainbike handles offroad "shortcuts" and going off curbs damned well. Also rips snow apart like a beast. Biking on ice is ridiculously fun.
>>31497624
Yeah, for you. But most don't find reading very relaxing.
>>31501871
I have not seen a single person who doesn't consider reading relaxing. I mean it.
>>31501927
True. Reading your regurgitated bullshit is putting me to sleep.
I changed the light bulbs in my bathroom.
Only took me a year, but, finally got the energy to do it.
>>31489276
Trying to get a new haircut before I go for a job interview, what should I get that is fashionable yet tasteful? Also should I lift before to get a good shoulder pump? I do sweat a little after I workout but a pump might help give confidence and a better look but I worry about the sweat.
>>31502390
>walks in, chest pumped out, arms spread from his sides as though he has big arms
don't be autistic
>>31502390
get a side parting and have good posture
>>31502390
Are you the person that asked for advice before? There are tips that we could give you,
>>31502424
>side parting
>>31502390
Get this
>>31502390
get this haircut
brehs I have a bag of salt & vinegar chips in the cupboard and I'm feeling pecking at 1:30am, should I eat them?
>>31502654
Peckish *
Stupid tablet.
>>31502654
Nah fuck em have some malt loaf
>>31502390
>Do a normal haircut, traditional, standar in the industry.
>Get the job
>Work thre months and then get a more fashionable haircut
Easy as sunday morning
>>31502677
Some what mate
It won't put me over my calorie limit and I haven't had any since 2014, it's tempting
>>31502390
Ivy league haircut. Always.
>>31489276
>Stray away from PUA
This. Fucking PUAs.
>kycklinglår, ångad blomkål+broccoli och guatemole
Så jävla enkelt, så jävla gott
>>31502819
To be honest, I've always found them incredibly good looking. I've never cut my hair like that, but I think that they do work.
hey guys, I need an advice.
How much should I sleep? I know that both too much and too few hour of sleep/per day are harmfull, but what is the goal number?
>>31503909
Around 6.5-8.5, try getting into a routine of waking up at a similair time each day. Rather than getting up at 7 on weekdays and then sleeping in till 12 on weekends
Hi brehs, I have a problem and need your help.
I got a gf a week ago, she's my first gf ever (18yo) and everything is fine, but the problem is that her life has been really hard, but she's not depressed or anything, she seems to be doing perfectly fine.
The problem is that she always tells me that the only person that knows all her life is her best friend (a male friend), and from what I've seen, their conversations seem to be much more than friendly, and even more "romantic" than ours.
How can I overcome my insecurities and stop being jealous /fit/?
>>31504761
>How can I overcome my insecurities and stop being jealous /fit/?
oi m8 u avin a giggle, no trollins allowed here savvy?
hey finance Brah, need recommendation on which IRA I should get.
Traditional or Roth? I want to start one before april 15th.
27, make 50k a year.
>>31504761
maybe stop being such a massive cuck
>>31505169
Theres a lot of different variables, have a read through this http://www.rothira.com/traditional-ira-vs-roth-ira
Let me know which one you think and WHY, and I'll be able to help you better.
>>31505169
join the RA, UP THE RA
>>31505246
>>31505246
I'd say I'll go for the Roth IRA over traditional. I'll type it out in my own thoughts rather than copy paste so you can get an idea of what is going through my head:
The reason I want to go for a Roth IRA is because its already TAX deducted, and I don't have to worry about taxes when I take the money out. HOWEVER, I must wait 5 years for a disbursement. Seems like the better choice for someone like myself.
>>31505371
forgot to mention, I also want to buy a house sometime when I'm 30.
>>31505371
Good call, I've always thought Roth IRAs were better for younger people
>>31505466
>>31505466
what's another way to invest money for the future other than an IRA? I've heard about stocks and bonds, but not too keen on that.
>>31504761
Since you only got autistic replies, here's when I think.
If you want her to tell you things, get her to a calm place, perhaps go on a walk along a river, if that's possible, and then sit down and tell her some of your life, and after that, just casually ask her about her experiences. It would be only natural for her to share then.
To feel less jealous, you should probably get in a one-on-one conversation with her male friend (note that he might be friendzoned, look for signs of that), and if he's cool, just ask him about when they met, what was she like when she was younger (this helps hide the true intent) and other casual things regarding her. You might even try pushing a bit to trigger a reaction about how he feels about her, and if he's not interested in her in a romantic way, he will tell you. This is a bit harder though, and I can't help with that if I don't know any details.
>>31505426
Yeah, you get the $10k penalty free for a first home after 5 years too, Roth seems like the best choice
>>31505486
Mutual funds are managed funds that invest in stocks and bonds for you. Real estate trusts too, forex. Depends what kind of investment goals you want to achieve.
can't stay motivated to study.
If I spent as much time studying as I do in the gym I would be top of my class
>>31505466
what are some stock picks you suggest?
>>31505514
what makes roth great also is you don't have to pay taxes on the gains.
>>31505486
Why are you "not too keen" on that?
What do you POSSIBLY know that the worlds millionaires and billionaires don't?
You know nothing. You have no foundational knowledge on which to base your "feelings." You obviously haven't even taken the slightest bit of effort in learning the basics. So why the fuck would you think you know what to be "keen" on?
I'm going to help you out because I'm a nice guy. But don't ever say something that dumb again. It's literally like a hungry skeleton saying "I'm looking to build some muscle but I'm not too keen on lifting weights or eating."
Here. One of the best, no bullshit learning resources out there. Read this or may god have mercy on your soul.
https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Bogleheads%C2%AE_investment_philosophy
FinanceBrah
First off thank you for all your tips
My question is
My life has been pretty straight foward for 18 years. I started going to uni thanks to all your tips i finally made friends but my question is
Everytime they invite me to a party i usually say no. So they dont really ask me. I usually spend my night smoking weed and trying to improve my mental health. Is this killing my social gains?
How do I enjoy life finance brah?
Do i have to live to society's definition of a successful life?
I really like trying new things my friends say i have to many goals? is that good or bad
My final question is
How do i keep promises to myself?
I dont think i have the will power
How do i focus on one goal?
>>31505701
that's a horrible analogy, nigga
>>31505701
you're not a nice guy.
you're a faggot who thinks that you know my assumptions based on me using the word 'keen'. You're probably a pretentious fuck in real life. So pedantic.
Go fuck yourself; saying you're a nice guy and then being patronizing. It's faggots like you who trigger me.
You're not a nice guy faggot.
>>31505626
Not a fan of picking stocks for others because they don't learn anything, but heres a protip, buy Amazon, they are saving and reinvesting a buttload of cash.
>>31505649
That's true, but also the contributions aren't tax deductible like a traditional IRA
>>31505768
No problem
Yes, it is killing your social gains.
You enjoy life by finding what makes you happy, and coming up with a plan to achieve that.
No, you define your own successful life.
Good, as long as your goals are all specific, measurable and achievable.
It varies for everyone, have a look around this thread and the web for some resources, find one, and stick with it.
>>31505867
If he doesn't want to invest in stocks and bonds he doesn't have too, he will probably make more in a mutual fund, probably an index, than picking them anyway.
>>31505976
Index funds and mutual funds ARE STOCKS.
>>31505867
Cry more and stay poor then, faggot.
>hurr I wanna invest my monies but I don't want to invest in the most tried-and-true asset classes!! I know better than the world's billionaires!
Dumbfuck
>>31505976
when it comes to buying stocks what strategies do you use?
I go with intrinsic investing.
>>31506184
I use intrinsic usually too, I like going through financials. Sometimes I go with gut picks though.
>>31506182
But you aren't picking them, so you don't need near as much knowledge. An index fund performs better than most actively managed funds, so it's not like all the studying helps you beat the market much.
>>31506285
I took some accounting classes, helped my gains immensely. I'm going with strong oil companies with strong competitive advantage. energy as a whole is undervalued at the moment. I usually look for a dividend too.
>>31506339
I've not been following as closely as I usually do, I cashed out all my investments to buy a business.
what kind of returns are you hitting on your portfolio?
>>31506471
last year was 23%, this year 15 so far
>>31494040
I did intermittent fasting. Honestly, I think I looked more cut while doing it.
But I got tired of eating for 50 minutes at noon-ish. So I quit it.
>>31506182
u mad faggot?
dumbfuck
>>31506552
Nice man that's decent, it's so fun right?
>>31506567
Many ways of doing intermittent fasting. Only main principle you need to follow is that your body is in caloric deficit for an extended period of time, alternating that with periods where you are not. One frequently recommended in mainstream health (at least here in Sweden), is 5:2, wherein you eat like one normalsized meal on two days, then eat normally on the rest. I find mostly abstaining food for an entire day is easier than trying to cram at a certain time of the day. Also read some study that found that CV markers etc. actually got worse with the later method
Financebrah, okay I ruined a potential friendship with someone and now he won't respond to me. I am realizing how this was for the better (it was me being star struck basically) and decided to move on. But a part of me still wants to try and reconnect with him. I'm giving him space atm and stopped talking to him. But what do I do about the part that wants to make it up to him? I want to be his friend but he most likely doesn't. Thank you.
>>31506712
honestly, I just enjoy finding something undervalued. I like getting the most bang for my buck. so, stock picking is fun to me. I spend my time trying to find those discounts.
>>31506869
I've loved doing that for ages. I used to buy things at police repo auctions and sell them online, whenever i made a profit i was so happy haha
>>31506806
It's simple anon, you can either try and make it up, the worst he can say is no, or you can just try and forget about it, knowing you didnt want it anymore.
>>31489941
Im the creator of that OP pic, Im happy it sticked around
>>31493170
I'm one of the major contributors to the post.
And I think I said it a while back.
>third world country
>learned English on my own
>work since middleschool
>never learned to drive, because fuck it if you for thinking I could get a car
>shared a tiny ass room with my brothers while growing up.
>For weeks we ate sandwiches because that was the cheapest thing we could make, since they cut up the gas.
>Sometimes no milk. We never had bread.
>Seldom had new clothes.
>Was a parasite to my friends growing up.
And yet I AM the one that wrote:
>Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.
For years, I victimized myself.
>If only I had been born in "Insert country"
FUCK that mindset. Consumed to many years of my life....
I Payed my way trough college.
I got my shit together.
When I started lifting, it was with some dumbbells I made.
Then I made my own Squat rack and bought a barbell and weights.
I got my shit together.
I'm currently working on a so-called first world for one of the two biggest IT companies in the world.
Want to keep being a victim? Suit yourself.
You're not going to make it, it seems.
I plan to make my grandfather proud when I see him again.
eheuheuheuheuheuhee
>>31507111
Trips confirms Steamer being fucking awesome.
>>31505504
I always tell her about my life, but she only talks about her family and not even his close family.
And I would like to know her friend better, sadly he's from another city (as my gf) and it would be weird to ask my gf for his phone or something.
>>31507135
A shitload of spelling errors in that comment.
But that kind of mentality hits close to home. That was me 10 years ago.
One should not be entitled, one should be grateful.
Others have it better. Sure they fucking do.
Complaining is free.
But so is dreaming.
>>31507111
>I plan to make my grandfather proud when I see him again.
well fuck, this hit deep on me
>>31508567
>tfw grandparents are dead
>tfw he never got to saw me become the man he taught me to be
These feels are too much
>>31508567
>me and my dad go to meet up with my grandfather (we started to do this every year around Christmas)
>told my grandfather I'm enthusiastic about programming
>that look of disappointment on his face
>I was later told that he really wanted one of his children/grandchildren to become a chemist
I don't think I'll ever forget how disappointed he looked, I hope I can somehow make it up while he's still alive
Feels bad man
>>31508717
>chemist
kek. Did he have any background as a chemist himself? My grandmother wanted my brother to become a priest, for some strange reason, and me to become a doctor. I'm studying medicine, so at least she got part of her wish fulfilled
>>31508717
well, at least yours is still alive, while mine still was, he always told me that he wanted me to learn many languages, and go visit the president or something like that.. meh the feelings
>>31508820
>Did he have any background as a chemist himself?
Yep, and so did his father (who I was named after lel).
Goodnight anons
What are some good books to read, boys? Some literarature that can give you a wider perspective on life. Got my eyes on The Way of Men by Donovan Jack but I don't know what else.
>>31509541
>>31509541
last I read was Book of Pook, gives you a wide perspective on how to threat women and behave around them
>>31503484
Hur jör du din guatemole?
>>31503909
Are you under 30? If so, try 9 a night for a month and if you feel like less would work then go for it.
The older you get the less sleep you generally need (at least correlation based research would suggest this).
>>31507020
I've decided to make it to him. But only after a certain period of time (a month being the minimum) so he can cool off. In the meantime I'm gonna work on improving myself starting with my confidence. Where do you recommend I start boosting my confidence and self esteem?
>>31509541
Tao Te Ching is pretty based.
>>31503909
>>31509849
Most people need between 6.5-8 hours as adults (~21+), younger is more like 8-9. Sleep needed is based on sleep efficiency, which is highly individual.
It's also easy to influence via medications or drugs, for example if someone drinks their REM and deep sleep are suppressed causing them to require a longer duration of sleep to feel rested since the most restful cycles will come later in the night. Same with narcotics like benzos.
Does anyone else keep their anger or attitude in-check by pretending there's a beautiful woman in the room at all times?
>>31502390
do the alpha pose, look relaxed, it will make you relaxed. Your body language will dictate your feelings to you.
>>31507111
You are the hero we need
can someone help me i get depressed sometimes yesterday if went like 2500 calories instead of my normal 1500. :( i feel ashamed that i didnt keep to the routine its like my 4th day.
>>31514158
how do you fatties fucking have trouble you just have to not eat for fucks sake
I should be eating 2500 and I already struggle eating 1500
>>31514383
how do you skinnies fucking have trouble you just have to eat for fucks sake
Don't be a moron, anon. People are different, and not everyone is the same as you are, it might be the time to realize that/
