how the FUCK do i overcome that fucking social anxiety?
went once to my home town gym, it's pretty tiny and pretty packed with big guys at my age.
everyone was nice, helped me with form and shit.
yet i'm scared of not being able to workout because there might be a guy at the squat rack squatting 3pl8 or whatever.
fuck
the first step is deleting your pepe collection
>>35248961
only shitty pic i had , sorry for that
>>35248944
Fake it till you make it
>>35249140
probably the best advice i'll get....
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>>35249140
requires confidence
>>35249297
which i on one side have, on the side dont
>>35248944
Nobody cares about you. It's pretty selfish to think the world revolves around you. Grow up.
>>35249331
i know anon.
i'll start in 2 days, an excuse yeah, but thats when the gym will be more empty
>>35248944
Keep blunt forcing your way through the anxiety at the gym and eventually you'll just be comfortably working your routine. The shit is intimidating and there's no magic want solution, just like we can't wave the magic wand and suddenly be 50 pounds lighter or suddenly shredded. Anything worth having doesn't come easy. Work through it or bail and die mirin.
>>35249365
you're right anon.
totaly right.
my first experience was great, why the fuck am i sitting here and thinking about that shit
>>35249331
This, had to get myself to understand this.
I was always shy because I always thought I was going to embarrass myself and people would laugh at me, but in reality, no one really gives a fuck about 5 seconds after something embarrassing happens, and never gives a fuck if nothing happens.
Don't listen to the lies. They WILL remember your embarrassing moments and they WILL tell their friends who WILL remember every time they see you.
>they try to shake your hand
>>35249389
thanks man.
i know that too, through the training session, everyone was kind enough to show me how stuff works, form , unrack the bar etc.
fuck, im joining the gym on wednesday.
after that no excuses
>>35249399
nice dubs desu
don't forget, they WILL remember your face and they will laugh smugly to themselves every time they think back to that time you fucked up.
Despite going in compression pants I have no problem with people looking at me, it's just if they try to start conversation with me. I don't even carry my phone with me when i'm working out as I leave it at the desk. I think the only stuff I really say to others is hi.
>>35249464
i wore chucks at my first time.
was awkward
>>35249426
Dude wtf? People where showing you how to workout?
I'm completely comfortable at the gym, and I can't even pluck up the courage to ask for a spot. What are you even worried about man?
You just need to stop caring, like completely let go of giving a fuck, that is the best way to be confident trust me
Everyone starts at the bottom. Just take it easy. I've fucked up my fair share of times, but I feel no shame.
>>35249473
What did you do your first time in them?
I learned a really good technique for getting out of your head in social situations recently, and it's been a huge help. Especially if you've got any issues with social anxiety.
When you notice you're getting too caught up in your own head, naturally you start trying to reasonably calm down, telling yourself things you know are true like nobody is really paying attention to you, this isn't even a big deal, even if you do something stupid nobody will remember for long, etc. The problem with that is you're trying to be rational with irrational thoughts, trying to outsmart unreasonable emotions. You're also trying to get out of your head by getting deeper into your head. This is why that hardly works, if at all.
Instead, start intently focusing on the world outside you. Look at your surroundings and really see them. Look at what color they are and think about that color for a moment. See the textures, and the way things move in the wind. Don't just look at things though, use all your senses. Really smell the air around you, actually process it on a conscious level. Listen to your environment, pick up on all the little noises. Feel physically, the texture of your clothes on your body, your weight on your feet. If you're around other people you probably shouldn't just start rubbing things around you, for obvious reasons, but if you're alone and struggling with anxiety that may help.
>everyone was nice, helped me with form and shit.
are you retarded. everything goes great and you're still shitposting your worthless insecurities
>>35249476
>Dude wtf? People where showing you how to workout?
after me asking them to help me.
> What are you even worried about man?
i dont fucking know man.
probably just breaking my head about going alone there, the first time i went with a buddy but he cant come with me for about a month
>>35249561
To get out of your head, you've gotta get into the world around you. In a social situation, also really pay attention to whoever you're talking to. So often conversations are just thinly veiled narcissism where everyone is waiting their turn to talk about themselves. All you have to do to be a good conversationalist is actually listen and give a shit about what people are saying. Think about it, and talk about them with them. Don't just wait for your turn to speak, agonizing over exact phrasing and how they might respond and what you'd say next etc etc. Just listen, actually really listen and people will enjoy talking to you.
>>35249529
i did workout A from SL.
2 days after i still feel sore muscles.
but it was awesome
>>35249580
>after me asking them to help me.
Not sure if you're on the same page as me, but that was the point I was trying to make. I'm comfortable and I enjoy going to the gym and I don't even like asking for a spot. You've been approaching people and asking for direct help, way more than a quick spot. You sound like you'll be fine bud, and now it's time to get swole.
>>35249575
just the fear of going alone anon...
>>35249612
yeah man.
guess i just needed some kind words from random strangers.
>>35248944
Overcomming anxiety is the same as getting fit
You work through it, no matter how unconfotable it is
>>35248944
Honestly I've helped train a lot of my friends with this mindset. It doesn't take long for them to get used to it and soon they'd go without me. You start to realize everybody's only there for themselves and they're too busy focusing on their image in the mirror or lifts to even give you a second thought. Plus, the more you go, the more you're seen as a regular and you get a bit more respect for that.
>>35249709
only thing im thinking about is, what if the squat rack is being horded by a guy?
i cant start my workout without doing squats first
if i ask to do a set inbetween, i would have to unrack his shit, do my set, rack it up again.
thats wasted time
>>35249726
Most people don't care, and if they do, sit and stretch while you wait. Don't stare at the rack until they're done though, that's fucking annoying.
>>35249746
so i should just randomly stretch or look at my phone while standing right next to the rack?
isn't that unnerving
>>35249597
Chucks are a great lifting shoe though. I don't understand how people are comfortable DL and squatting in running shoes.
>>35248944
just lift, it honestly changes you
the better shape you get in, the more you feel better than other people, and the easier it gets in social situations.
fitness = no insecurity
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>>35250036
never blieved it but true shit he says
>>35249760
No, go to the area of the gym usually dedicated to stretching or an empty spot not near the rack and stretch out, warm up, and wait. Or do another exercise first, squats don't HAVE to be #1
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> social anxiety
> a thing
This is what happens when you have a generation raised by tvs with no male role model, america
>>35248987
Next step stop apoligizing over trivial bs
>>35248944
Delete your frog folder for starters.
>>35248944
>3pl8 squat
>big guy
lol
>>35251558
Op this is essential. Start respecting yourself. Think about Ned Stark, you wanna be like Ned, right?
Christ /fit/ is full of some beta faggots
>>35251713
That would have been extra funny if it weren't the exact fucking comment as the first comment in the thread
>>35251761
but ned got killed
>>35248944
Fucking loser
>>35248944
noporn
>inb4 meme
>>35248944
do drugs. not cocaine or ghb tho. just find some legal anxiolytics, they're pretty cheap and often sold with workout supplements
>>35249331
pretty much this. If people cared about what you're doing they'd probably ask.
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>>35249585
Saved. Thanks man.
>>35248944
The guy squatting 3 plate might be scared of someone squatting 4. Everyone's there for the same reason, just enjoy it for what it is.
Remember, if you're the weakest person there, that's a wealth of knowledge you can soak up.
>>35251377
you may think your trolling but youre absolutely right. lack of guidance and a father figure is what fucked up me my friends lives.
years later we're either dropouts or felons.
>>35250185
This, just make sure to cycle it though. If you don't, you're in for one hell of a ride.
>have social anxiety, used to be really intense
>people say lifting weights helps and I'm willing to try anything
>buy some equipment and get to it
>put on a lot of weight, turns out my body is pretty well suited for it
>helped 0 with the anxiety
>now actually feel it worse when people look at my body or comment on it
