How you holding up /fit/?
I'm good. Doing 5/3/1. Squats was saturday night, ohp today. Slept all fucking day sunday. Two 50 hour weeks must have made me lazy, but ive got some overtime coming on my next check. Flirted with lots of cashiers black friday.
I bulked too hard and got stretch marks overnight. I'm failing every course in uni. My waifu isn't real.
One of my best friends died today
Hold me fit
My life fucking sucks, my dad is trying to kill himself, i think i might be gay, i hate all my friends and my squat has stalled.
im not doing so great. I painted this earlier to pass the time a little.
>>35085752
Had a chance to hang out with some people and possibly make some friends over the weekend, but pussied out at the last second. It sucks because I would be so much happier with a small circle of friends to hang out with but I keep fucking myself over and wrecking any chance of making them.
I am going out again this weekend, maybe i'll make some friends this time
>>35085752
Fine senpai
Life has been great, not the best, but great. I'm going to ask this q.t.3.14 on a date tomorrow after class, and then hit the gym for pull day.
>>35085869
>"I think I might be gay
Do you even know where you are?
But seriously hope shit sorts itself out for you
Went on a date with a girl like 3 days ago before Thanksgiving. Dont really know how to strike up a conversation again besides: "So how was your Thanksgiving?"
I feel like things are so forced when you do online dating...
Coming down off meth
Still cant get over ex who left me 8 months ago and is having a great life without me
Dog got hit by a car this morning and ive cried all day.
Just kill me
> little voice in my head
> "come on just stop with the lifting"
> "you don't want to go to the gym anyways"
> "implying this will help you git gud with grills"
> points out ridiculously small achievements in my life to convince me i dont need this
> mfw i almost gave in
> mfw realizing i've been doing fitness for almost one year
> going from fat blob WoW all day mode to starting looking somewhat decent
> mfw last 6 months more random girls have come up and talked to me than in the last 14 years
I'm not there yet but I've come too far already to stop.
Best of luck bros, we're all gonna make it.
>>35085752
I got stood up by two girls and I cringe Everytime when I think about it. Funny thing is they wanted to get to know me bc I am pretty good looking.
>Autism as strong as ever
>Behind on school/job application shit despite working most of the thanksgiving break
>More isolated than I was in previous years in school, depression creeping back
>Tweaked my lower back in the gym today, might have to take a week off
So yeah, if anyone has some health and fitness tips for speeding low back recovery, shoot them my way, because lifting is the only thing keeping me going at this point.
>>35085865
Were all gonna make it
>>35085906
nah, it's always about the person you're dating man.
if you are both on the same wavelength conversation will be smooth as fuck
if not, whatever, next one, don't force anything
>>35085913
When you're at the bottom it's only uphill from there
>>35085906
Just message or text her with "are you free Friday?" then make plans bruh
>>35085941
I think things went alright.
Hour before she switched up the meeting spot. THEN she wanted me to pick her up. I said no because I have no idea who she is and if it went bad like hell would I drive her back.
But I think it went well. We had like dinner for an hour but ended pretty fast. Pretty new to dating, former fat to fit here.
>>35085952
Shouldnt I at least try some form of small talk first?
>>35085869
> i think i might be gay
jokes aside, what makes you think that?
>>35085967
> Shouldnt I at least try some form of small talk first?
Yeah, but focus on her. Ask lots of questions that makes her talk about herself.
A girl never comes home from a date and complains that she had to talk too much.
>tfw 220lbs down from 350, 6 foot manlet
>tfw very few friends
>tfw don't talk to girls outside work because I'm a loser who works, smokes weed, works out, and sleeps
>tfw 21 in less than a month
>tfw wanna punch that fucking V card already so I can stop feeling like I missed out on a cornerstone of teenage-hood
>tfw no idea how
H E L P
>>35085752
i just remembered that my last grandma died on the same night metal gear solid v came out
it's something that's gonna stick with me forever mang
>>35085752
I have a bad case of oneitsm.
Every lift, every workout i think of her, Thinking that one day i'll get to see her eyes filled with excitement as she sees how i changed.
Not that it will happen anyways, i'm just trying to lift the feels away.
>>35085752
>got dumped by gf
>can't contact her I'm blocked on everything
>failing uni
>lifts have stalled
>insomnia
Not well tbqh
>>35085991
You are an adult. You have a job. AND you are not living life to the fullest? You will be in your prime in a few years. Better pay yourself a bad bitch and get the fuck off 4chan or just blast yourself.
>>35085916
this has inspired me because I'm in the same boat almost
keep it up man, I'll see you in hell when we both make it
>>35086033
Man there are 100000 girls better than her out there. Dont waste your time with some bitch that i bet is swallowing someone's load right now. Man up
>>35086045
You completely lost me after your third sentence, f.am. Rephrase pls?
>No job with shit prospects
>2 useless degrees with no skills/experience
>Couldn't finish workout because too many feels
>Hardcore oneitis, have been living in the friend zone of pain for about a year with no end in sight
>Feeling out of place and awkward when hanging out with lifelong friends
>Soon to be 27 year old loser having achieved fuck all in life
Feels bad man
>>35086033
it will get better bro i know you hear it alot probably but it will i was there
Better than ever!
>be me 4 months ago
>lonely bitter virgin, no real friends in college, only really have one friend I regularly talk to
>quietfag with no motivation in life and barely passing my courses with Cs
>new semester starts
>oh-boy-3rd-year-college-still-friendless-virgin
>decide to pledge for frat because lonely
>make best bro ever
>he completely changes my life no homo. He finds me new threads, a bomber jacket, a snapback, gets me to cut my hideous gangly hair
>I get this skinny fat mother fucker into shape
>he teaches me the game
>we're spitroasting sorority chicks left and right because all of our fratbros are skinnyfat as fuck
>we quit frat because of gay shit like fundraising
>I get my first long-term gf, qt pothead chick
>girls finally miring me during class, not because of how /fit/ I am but because I don't carry myself around like an autist anymore
I think I'm finally normie-core, /fit/.
Pretty good considering.
Didnt go anywhere for thanksgiving (no friends that good or family i associate with).
Had a turkey sandwich instead (whole wheat bread ofcourse).
Got completely ignored by a girl who said she loved me (can confirm shes seeing other guys/girls, but whatever).
Going to gym 3 times a week now, i lost 10lbs already!
Hair is growing out nicely for my challenge, when i lose a full 50lbs i can cut it.
Finally paying my due rent, phone/internet, car/health insurance.
Neck pain has gone away and the knee is feeling better.
Started talking to a chunky but cute-faced, blond blue eye girl (im an extreme snob with faces, will not date an ugly girl).
Made a new little friend in my old mmo i play off and on.
Actually enjoying that mmo again.
Qt at work i was interested in told me she's back with her ex, i shrugged it off.
Got tagged in a FB pic that my cousin put up with my abusive adoptive parents whom the whole family loves along my 2 other siblings (left that life behind long ago).
Untagged myself (they cant hurt me anymor).
Not too bad /fit/ :)
>>35086045
>better pay yourself a bad bitch and get the fuck off 4chan or just blast yourself.
Is this even English? Anyone have an ebonics-to-civilized-speech translator?
>>35085752
Long story short the qt grill that I've been talking to online who wants my dick(badly) hasn't responded to my most recent message because she's busy 24/7 with exams but my insecurities mean that I can't help but fear that it's really because she's lost interest in me, usually I'd just go
>lol who cares
And move on with my life but this is the first girl that's wanted to touch my benis since I broke up with my fiance at the start of the year so I'm feeling more beta than usual
Halp /fit/
>>35085752
My dog, which I had for 13 years died 2 hours ago. I hugged her for the entire day up until the moment she gave up and died, I'm still fucking crying my eyes out. Had to dig a hole and burry her myself, watching life slowly draining out of my best friend for the past 13 years, she watched me grow, we had plenty of good memories together.
I feel awful /fit/.
Day 22 of nofap. Constant diamond status. tfw no gf. Fucked up and ate too much this weekend. Could be better.
>>35085865
We're still here. Always.
>>35085874
Serious question: where do you go out to make friends? I assume you are going out alone.
>>35086159
haha i know the feel
girl not responding within 1h usually means
> she hates you
> she died
> she didn't get your message
> earthquake has destroyed her internet connection
> ...
when in reality it's
> read your text, got distracted, forgot and will remember later
> so busy with shit can't think of anything else (yeah this happens)
> she lost interest because you are ready to respond 24/7
take it with humor bro.
she will respond eventually.
if not, move on. don't make your well being dependent on some random chick on the internet
>Acne returned in full force
>Stayed home today because of massive insecurity
Starting accutane treatment in a few days. Wish me luck brehs. No more bloody pillows.
>>35086189
Back home I have a big circle of friends from school, but here I go to a commuter uni and it's hard so I resorted to a [spoiler] reddit [/spoiler] meetup
lifes crumbling around me and im just watching it happen
>>35086196
Remember its gonna get worse at first but keep going. You'll get there
>>35085752
why would you ever put on a mask
when you're miserable, just look miserable, nobody cares
>>35086192
Yeah you're right, there are actually several grills IRL that are clearly attracted to me who I should probably be pursuing, it's just that online grill was a massive ray of sunshine in my life at a time when the rest of my world was looking very dark and grey, this caused a nasty case of oneitis that was thankfully reciprocated by her, I guess all this is just reminding me that there's still a hell of a lot of unhealed damage from my last breakup that I've been distracted from so far
>>35085752
My dad is leaving my mom and I don't really care about that as such because they have basically been divorced ona spiritual level ever since I was ten so iI already knew they hated each other. But my dad actually leaving has stirred my mom (who is fucking crazy, I 100 percent believe she has some sort of undiagnosed mental illness because some of the shit she's done throughout my life can't be explained any other way except mental retardation)into doing and saying some really hurtful and infuriating shit to me and my dad. My dad never did anything to her except work his fucking ass off at jobs he hated to make her and me and my sister happy yet she blames him for all of her fucking troubles.
On top of this I got rejected by a girl I really liked the other day and in a really shitty way. I told her I likes her and instead of just telling me she just wanted to stay friends she ended up tricking me into giving her a ride to hang out with some other guy. I got so fucking pissed off at her and felt kind of bad about this but I ended up telling her off. We made amends because even though she rejected me I still value her friendship but it still feels like things aren't okay between us and its my fault for even saying anything.
Honestly these last 4 weeks have just made me decide to stop believing in love at all. Not to say I won't still try to get laid or even get a gf but this thinking that I had before of "I'm in love" or "one day I'll find love" has finally just been obliterated and I'm glad honestly
>>35085967
>Shouldnt I at least try some form of small talk first?
No.
You're not 14, texting is for logistics.
2 months into ICF5x5 and I think I am going trex mode, being a former fattie doesn't help either.. maybe I should just swap to a brosplit
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>>35086237
>when you're miserable, just look miserable, nobody cares
>nobody cares
Unintentionally deep.
>>35086424
lol, you're not
ICF has more than enough upper body+arm volume
If it's on some site like okcupid and you KNOW both of you regulary access that site via PC it's okay to text more.
Talking about all random shit, telling funny stories about yourself or whatever is usually easier typed and can lead to an easier time when meeting up in real.
This depends heavily on the type of person you are messaging with.
Also don't do that if one of you uses some shitty texting app on your phone, this will lead nowhere nice and is like >>35085967 said only for logistics.
>>35086432
my upper body is really weak tho, I squat 85kg but can barely bench 45kgs, maybe I cannibalized all my muscle dieting or something
>>35086443
Unless you're 100% sedentary most people have relatively strong legs just from walking around and whatnot, by contrast very few people have a strong upper body without lifting weights unless they work a physical job or do some sort of sport
Was kicked out of club for grabbing ass.
>>35085852
I'm just starting my journey on 5/3/1 :-) can't weight to lift some heavy diddlys
>>35085906
I know that feeling. I met a grill online but the conversation seems so forced on my end. I couldn't be fucked keeping it up so i eventually stopped replying to her. Meeting people irl is much easier, but i hardly put myself in a position to meet bew people. Being single isn't too bad either desu fampai. I mean, no sex but you have a lot of time to yourself
>>35086074
I know breh but it hurts
>>35086716
can you do something about the uni situation? in 5 years (or even 1 year) all that other shit will be completely irrelevant
>>35085881
Good luck with asking her out man
Lately I've been feeling like nothing matters, like even if I were to make it it wouldn't make me happy. It could all be taken away in an instant, so why bother at all? I know this isn't a healthy attitude, but lately it's been bothering me more and more.
Asked two females and both said no. Feels good to know.
>passed everything at uni
>losing weight (from 220 to 205)
>was prompted to join the football team (soccer) for GK.
Eh, still I have the desire of dying, of not being but there's something that keeps going
>>35085865
We're all gonna make it. Except that guy. He already did.
>>35085881
Good like with the qt. You're gonna make it bruh.
>>35085865
I'm sorry to hear that. Telepathic bro hug coming to you.
>>35085869
What's happening with your dad?
Also if you're gay you're gay, embrace it, it doesn't make you a bad person or any less of a man!
>>35085874
I suppose the main thing to ask is why you pussied out?
>>35085881
Good luck with the QT anon :)
>>35085906
Maybe consider online dating isn't for you, its hard to have a natural conversation anyway, you're not able to flow properly in your speech online.
>>35085913
You know I'm not an expert but have worked with recovering alcoholics before. I can't imagine what it is like to go through that kind of withdrawal. Do you think you are seeing life through the lens of of someone suffering through want of a substance?
I will try to answer everyone in this thread.
Stay strong brothers.
I'm terrified of going blind and now I have a renal problem as well. My physician is a massive cunt and refuses to help me at all. I'm trying to find a private clinic to help me if I can afford it...
>>35085752
Girl I like said yes to me asking her out. She just sent me a text saying that she isn't looking for anything romantic.
I feel like shit. We were at the same party during the weekend and walked around the city during the night holding hands. I could tell that she was into me but I guess I read her wrong.
>>35085991
>6 foot manlet
jesus fucking christ dude tell me you didn't fall this bad for that meme. I'm 5'11" and I get plenty of play and I know a bunch of 5'8" dudes who get WAY more than me. It's literally all about being confident. Unfortunately that's the hardest part to learn...
KEEP HUSTLIN COUSINS!
>>35085916
Self doubt is part of life and is necessary. It makes you a humble person it makes you push harder because you want to prove it wrong. The worst people in the world are those who are completely vapid and confident in their superiority. They don't know inner struggle. You do and it makes you a good person.
>>35085932
Wait you were dating two girls at once?
>>35085935
See a physio, get it checked. Get some deep hear on it for now and do partial crunches and plenty of slow but firm stretching.
Why do you feel isolated? Also have you spoken about your depression before?
>>35085991
When you place an emphasis on what you're missing out instead of what you've already achieved you go down the road of self doubt and negativity.
Feeling great, finally hit my goal deadlifting
>>35086727
Well the insomnia is what is fucking my grades up. I feel like I can't concentrate at all and the break up is very distracting too. I think my best bet is to get some sleeping pills from the dr and prepare properly for January exams
>>35086867
Might wanna look into mindfulness meditation mane. Really helped me concentrate when studying and truly relax when not. There's a lot of guided meditation on YouTube
>>35086025
Does she know how you feel?
>>35086033
Relax. You don't need to contact her. If she's blocked you that's obviously heartbreaking but I promise you this, being apart and having no contact will be a good thing. Cut her out. Let her miss you!
Now that you're single, throw yourself into Uni work, use that as a way to help you stay occupied and busy in this tough time.
>>35086071
What are the degrees?
>>35086254
>she ended up tricking me into giving her a ride to hang out with some other guy
lel
>I still value her friendship
>its my fault for even saying anything
learn to redpill brah. you sound like a full on beta, you need to stop putting up with their bullshit
Hung up on a girl who I am totally in love with, crushed on her for 3 years. She blocked me on whatsapp.
I went from 320lbs to 250 at 6''2 , been going to the dermatologist, dentist and doctor just to correct all my bullshit just for her oh and decided to start college even though I'm 24.
I wanna die.
>>35085991
Keep lifting. I was just like you but skinnyfat/skeleton
When i started lifting my life changed. One year ago i was a 22y old virgin, only played WoW, drank too much alcohol and turned into disgusting skinnyfat
Now i live together with my GF, got a new job and moved away from my hometown filled with white trash subhumans.
My confidence skyrocketed when i started lifting, and i got some mires, but the reason i got my GF was confidence mostly.
Keep lifting you're gonna make it bro.
>>35086907
>learn to redpill
I don't think talking about the jews is a good thing on dates, anon.
Reverend is a faggot.
>>35086936
Not that kind of red pill.
>>35086208
Hey brother. Want to tell me what's crumbling?
>>35086254
I think the problem is that you've had your perception of love jaded by the people who should really be the people to be showing you what love and togetherness is.
I find it interesting though that your father and you both have such poor taste In women. No offence meant.
My ex gf found someone else. We were still hanging out and trying to work things out but she met a guy who she says is great at a party and is dating him tonight.
I thougt i was over her but shit is tearing me apart. Cant sleep, can barely eat (during bulk) and cant concentrate on anything. Today is going to be the first day of going to bad sober after 5 days of drinking.
I had been holding of other girls for her but I dont even feel like fucking sloots at all.
>>35086979
Bad = bed
>>35086979
Don't even try getting her back.
PLEASE!
No matter what, it will never work out. Even if she starts begging for you. NEVER!
Bang a few sloots even if you are not feeling it.
>>35087014
I just cant handle the fact i know how much better he is to her then I ever was. In the 3 years we were together we never did thing she wanted to be ause she always said my ideas were fine. And now shes talking about doing all the things she always wanted to have and how hes going to give her those things. I know his name age and city an also know i connection. I think i saw him in my potential friends on facebook but i dont even want to know who he is because i think if i see him in person i would either punch him in the face or simply colapse. Even if hes doing nothing wrong
>>35087036
Don't let her know how you feel. Share with us here, but don't even talk to your mates about it.
She was keeping you for the security, until she finds someone else.
I will invite you to cut all contact with her.
Don't do anything stupid, don't confront him or her.
>>35086944
Well you say that but you didn't seem to care when you were slobbing on my knob the other night.
>>35087063
I guess its to late for that.
But why would i not talk to my friends about it?
I also put a picture in my snapchat story with some girl when i was out saturday and she got really upset.
Thanks for helping me out with these feels by the way
>>35086973
>>35086849
She said that she is busy this week due to exams and that she would text me after so we could meet up. Should I go see what happens or just ignore her?
Mentally I'm great but in practice things are terrible.
My life is a fucking battle against my own body. Chronic nausea, chronic physical fatigue, a bodyclock that doesn't let me wake up until fucking 10-11am, or let me fall asleep before 2am. It's fucking ridiculous.
>>35087103
Since i got help in this thread first time im going to give back.
Inwoukd really advice you to take a short holiday to somewhere you can go coccoon for a week or so. Focus on getting the rythm for sleeping the hours you want. And once you get back home tey to settle in your new lifestyle
>>35087081
Because you are at your worst right now and I would advise that you keep it to yourself.
You may be having some cunts for mates, everything can be used against you.
She is jealous because she wants you to orbit her.
If you stop responding to her calls and texts she will get furious. You might want that, it might feel good knowing that she is angry at you because you stopped giving her attention.
Further contact with her will only make you feel worse.
>>35087075
You know you can "help" people in here without using some retarded tripcode, right bro?
This shit here make your posts look selfish as fuck and it seems like you're only doing it for the attention.
I'm really looking forward to the day when gook-moot finally removes the name field.
>>35087089
Ignore.
Unfortunately man, shes just not a good person for you. Somebody who uses you to see another guy is just plain wrong in the head. Real women don't do that..
>>35085865
Brohug for you. How did he die?
>>35087141
Thanks man. Thats actually pretty solid advice.
Id hug you for making me feel better. Im off to the gym now to get bigger and better then ever
>>35087230
You are welcome.
Just be strong!
>>35087165
I usually make self help threads that get a lot of replies and the trip is just to differentiate. I tried just using a simple name no trip to help but idiots kept putting their name the same and giving stupid advice.
I keep the trip on if its feels related because people remember me and can follow up with stuff we talked about before.
Also,calm down sweetheart, this isnt facebook, no one has any idea who I actually am, you really think if I was attention whoring do you really think id do it someplace where no one knows my name?
>>35087075
>Well you say that but you didn't seem to care when you were slobbing on my knob the other night.
We have names for priests like you.
>>35087260
I will be mentajy en physicaly
Thanks man
Hey fit.
I'm feeling really bad.
I fractured the 5th knuckle on my right hand and I reckon it's gonna take about 4 weeks to heal or so. When can I weight train? How do I stop myself losing my precious gains? What amendments to my diet should I make? What exercise can i do?
I'm feeling really low about this, going to the gym is my favourite thing to do at the moment and I'm going to go stir crazy not being able to lift heavy things an put them down.
>TFW no gf
>always been this way
>19y/o kissless virgin
>have more than adequate social skills
>just can't in2 gf
>some grill I talk to from the internet is coming to LONDON to study abroad
>biggest chance nowt will happen between us
Fugg dis shit brehs. I'm considering giving up and just doing what I do. Eat sleep lift study meditate and go pub with my bros. Perhaps I was meant to be that way. I'm probably asking too much of life 2bh
About to leave for work.
Haven't slept in 2 days, have to pretend I'm not suicidally depressed for the next 9 hours.
Should be fine desu, at this point this is about all I see my job as.
>>35087896
No bro i had this girl i met in school. we kicked it for a while and i was a such a idiot i blew it but i did fucker from time to time. if your still in school its your best chance to fuck and get a girl, becuz outside school its harded. peace brotha
>>35087786
Eat lots of protein. If you exercise you will slow down the healing.
>>35087896
Uni is the best time to meet girls. After that it does get harder unfortunately. Get on tinder.
Started drinking again. There goes one month of sobriety down the toilet.
>>35088616
Leave the booze alone and lift for now. It will be hard enough to fight that siren song at christmas.
>>35088616
Wew lad. Drinking is impossible to stop.
>>35088616
Einstein got maths problems wrong. Mona Lisa was meant to be a map but da Vinci fucked it up. Aln Sugar went to jail.
Just caused you fucked up this one time, doesn't mean you're worthless. Everyone makes mistakes. Just put it behind, haul your ass back onto the bandwagon and get one step closer to making it.
Define yourself by your successes, not by your flaws
