How do you get invited to parties? ive been working on my social skills and stuff but all my friends are even more NEET than I am, so i dunno how to get invites.
Oh and how do you warmup and warmdown at the gym?
>>34970533
jeez anon, do i also need to tell you how to put the dick on the vagoo?
anyways just find people that like going to festivals and events, use social networks to find people to go with to those events, if they are cool, just hang a lot with them, if not, repeat until you find cool ones. usually the people that you find at festivals and events are the outgoing kind or on some cases they are NEETs that went out that particular time because the stars aligned either way good luck
/co/mrade out
>be social
>people take a liking to you
>want to interact with you more
>invite you to things outside of class/work/forced social settings
that's really it.
>>34970978
but how do i get to the initial stage of being social if i'm just at home all day? i know you would say 'then don't be at home' but then what the fuck do i do?
not op btw.
>>34971122
What the fuck are you doing all day? No school, no job, nothing?
If this is literally true, go volunteer, at an animal shelter maybe idk.
>>34971122
Put yourself in social settings.
> Get a job
> Go to college
> Hang yourself
Pick one and do it I don't know how people sit around all day. I had a 2 week break between contract work this summer and school and I was bored as fuck the entire time.
going to parties is fucking lame
>hey lets all get drunk in attempt to have the off chance of some equally intoxicated person of the opposite sex fuck me cause I literally cannot get women elsewise
literally more comfy to stay home do shit that interests you as opposed to that faggot shit were you just get rape allegations and stds
>>34971122
firstly, you escape NEET. now you have people to interact with on a daily basis. you'll tread water till you learn to be social or become a lonely, hateful person until you hate being lonely and hateful and learn to tread water.
Today my friend texted me and asked me if I wanted to bring her friend to a semi formal sorority function tomorrow.
T bh f am s mh it's just that easy
>>34970533
Be proactive, if you meet people who you think you will have fun with ask them if they have any plans, try to invite yourself. Don't be ashamed
>>34971130
i work at home. volunteering might work, but i'm not sure if a lot of people of my age (21) are to be found there.
>>34971171
Why aren't you in college faggot
>>34971144
Agree with this. Ubless you're already a 9/10 or gifted aocially, you'll never get anything at a party.
>>34971161
>being that person
>>34971183
because school sucks balls and this works great except for social contacts.
>>34971144
>"why is finding girls so hard?"
>"why don't I have any friends?"
>"why am I so socially awkward?"
>never talks to girls
>never talks to other people
>never does anything social
And you wonder why Chad Thundercock steals all the women? Showing up is half the battle m80.
>>34971144
>going to parties purely to get laid
Yeah no wonder you think they're lame
>>34971171
It's definitely worth a try. I've seen girls in their 20s at my local animal shelter.
Alternatively, take a class that interests you at a local college, maybe even join a club at said college, they don't need to know you're not a student.
>be me
>want to be more social
>hate myself because I never go to parties, hang out with people all the time, etc.
>join a fraternity thinking it will make me more social
>meet lots of guys and sorority girls and have a shit ton of parties that I get to go to
>realize that parties are lame as fuck and I hate them
>realize I like being along
>learn to love myself
>>34971209
lmao what do you do for the lively company of chads and desperate betas who are all probably intoxicated in some way
how about the company of the vapid women who go to such events
lmao fäm
>>34971314
bruh, implying chads and vapid women aren't fun acquaintances
>>34971286
Which is why I suggest everyone join Greek life. If you don't have the stage that being in a fraternity provided you to experience all the social contact and social scenes, you'd still being a fucking self hating insecure beta like OP.
If Greek life taught me one thing, it's to not give a flying fuck about anyone else unless you want to. Nothing matters unless you make it matter.
>>34971342
realtalk I prefer the company of my internet friends then most people irl
>>34971122
Your on /fit/. Go to the gym.
>>34971354
>Which is why I suggest everyone join Greek life
>HEY DADDY PAY FOR ME TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH DEGENERATE SUBHUMANS, DRINK COPIOUS AMOUNTS OF ALCOHOL AND FUCK STD RIDDEN SLUTS
AHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAH
>>34971356
>tfw all my friends are normies and they frequent 4chan
>>34971420
my internet friends are NOT channers lol
>>34971144
>>34971314
>>34971356
>>34971387
You seem very cynical and deluded. That's probably why you don't like parties, no one wants to talk to you cause you're a faggot. And before you shrug it off like you always do, try to remember the last time you made meaningful contact with another person who genuinely want to talk with you. It was a long time ago wasn't it?
>>34971434
>channers
>tripfag
Dear fucking christ mods please ban this faggot
>>34971387
/rk9/ pls go
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>>34971154
> firstly, you escape NEET
Nice try gains goblin
>>34971122
If you aren't born extrovert you are fucked, unless you have something really good going for your like, banter or good looks, or you are athelic as fuck so the boys will basically drag you with them do shit and carry you through conversations with girls you are fucked, mostly because very few of us are born with courtship genes
>approx 2 years ago
>be NEET 4chan wow dweller
>meet grill
>fall madly in love
>break up badly
>fuck this, start hanging with the cool kids
>i now do speed, mdma crystals, ecstasy, cocaine and weed/hasch on a regular basis on weekends
and before anyone of you straight edge cunts come at me, i have had the time of my life
>>34971517
never gonna make it senpai, degenerate liberal kek
>>34971526
degenerate yes, but very anti liberal
>>34971517
Might as well put a gun to your head and pull the trigger, you're already dead.
>>34970533
the fastest way to get invited out by other people is to start inviting them to some social gatherings that you set up yourself.
On the topic of socialization...
There was this girl that I used to work with 9/10 qt3.14.
We always joked around. I felt like she liked me but I did jack shit (was already lifting). This was way back when sum 3 years ago.
>leave workplace
>never see her again
>ffw last Saturday
>see her at a club
>she works as a promoter part time which I knew even back then
>she obviously notices me
>act like I don't see her (lol don't ask me why)
>30mins go by
>she's passing by like every half a minute
>finally she approaches me
>fuck I really did not ask for this
>"anon!!! It's you, don't you reckognize me?!"
>act like I'm suprised and say I have thought I knew her but could not remember from where
>we chat for a couple of mins
>she says that she has so and so kind of job
>"o rly, my gf has the same job" (have a gf now for some time)
>we talk like a minute more, we say bye
>she avoids my table for the rest of the night
>friends laugh
What did I do wrong here brehs?
>>34971582
bruh, nothing wrong with being faithful.
>>34971582
Could it be that maybe she didn't want to talk to you because you had a girlfriend?
>>34971606
Didn't say that.
But what the fuark? And I didn't say that I saw her when I was still working with her, saw her also at a club and I talked to her briefly and fleed. After that she deleted me from Facebook.
She approaches me once again now.
IDK, I usually have no problems with women, but she is so damn fine and I just slip.
Would really like if I never see her again.
>>34971354
So the answer is hedonistic nihilism?
A guide for dummies:
>Force yourselve in social situations: college, job, classes to learn a language, etc
>Just something that interest you and forces you to be around the same people (who are around your age) often
>Friendly but casually introduce yourself to someone who is not threatening or seems nice
>Next time you see them, say hi, and gradually and slowly talk more with them each day. Slowly, you don't want to seem overly friendly, which is creepy
>If they have friends there, do the same to them
>If this goes well, eventually they should like you and invite you to hang or something
>Just try to be a decent person, be generous, listen to what they have to say, etc
Once you have 1 or 2 friends who do things and aren't NEETs your social neetwork will only expand. Keep being friendly to the people you will keep meeting, eventually you will be automatically invited to more parties that you would like to attend
>>34971703
Getting invited to parties is such a western Idea, no one does that in Europe, we all have small flats
>>34971517
>cool kids
This ain't the 90's, you degenerate fuck. The cool kids haven't done that shit in ages
>>34971193
iktf job pays to well to quit it so I rather stay alone all day. And who wants to fucking work at an animal shelter?
>Awkward DYEL manlet
>Get a regular job after awhile of unemployment to kill boredom between sleep and workout
>Awkwardness actually makes people want to talk more to me because I never open up
>End up getting invited to things
>Awkward as fuck there, people call me out on gravitating towards the corner to join in more
>Always invited to anything going around work now
Honestly just put yourself where you'll be around people you're forced to interact with and it will happen unless you insist on saying "no" or something equivalent, also it becomes really obvious which girls are interested in you when they repeatedly insist that you come talk to them because you're not proactive, and older women fucking love awkward guys, got groped in front of customers the other day by one who had ducked under the counter to grab something.
>>34971185
Kek I'm an autist and pick up a drunk grill every party I go to. Probably only a 6/10 too
>>34971768
this pretty much.
also when i'm alone i want friends and be non-autist, when i'm with friends i think everyone is dumb and i want to do programming in my bed.
gym is awesome but doesn't help much with socialising. does increase confidence though.
>>34971703
this sounds so obvious but its great to read. thanks anon.
I'm 22 and Freshman in Uni. Late bloomer. I always have strangers talking to me and inviting me to shit. I assume they just want alcohol so brush them off. I'm pretty quiet and autistic myself. Only really have 2 people I talk to everyday on campus. I've considering joining some groups or something but humans make me cringe and I can't stand socializing.
I get invited to parties put on by my Rugby club all the time and never fucking go lmao
Maybe lift and join an RC? Those guys are extremely social
You will have to play Rugby (obviously) which, if you're not used to it, can be overwhelming
>>34971694
It doesn't have to be as extreme as you make it. I don't live my life as a hedonistic nihilist, but using that lense in my everyday life has really helped me be happier. If someone gets on your nerves, or says something that cuts deep, sometimes it's necessary to take a deep breath, and just let it go.
I've seen it in my own life. My mother is very opinionated and confrontational, while my aunt is the opposite. My mother cannot help but interject and defend her opinions, while my aunt is open, and non-argumentative. Can you guess which one leads the better life?
>>34971462
I always laugh when I see this. To a degree it is true. The only thing worst than being unemployed is then finding the job.
That said I would rather go to work everyday, grind out, get paid and work up the ladder. NEET life, when embraced, is alright for a bit but heading towards 30 having spent years as a NEET is degenerate as fuck. One day you'll have to elevate yourself financially outside of NEET bucks (unless your social life and ambition is non existent) and when you have 3-5 years of unemployment with zero marketable skills or experience and have to take an entry level admin role to get by you'll realise you fucked up.
>>34971742
Change "party" for "Pre-gaming on Jean's flat before going to the bars area"
>>34971462
Kind of true that you work hard so that your boss can afford a nice jet or boat.
That's why I quit my last job to go back to school.
>All of these faggots that don't understand what a NEET is
>they think it's some cute anime term for someone with social phobia
>>34971484
>im a defeatist faggot
social gains are just like strength training
you get out what you put in
