Hey there /adv/
I'm hitting 20 years old this year, and I've never had an official relationship before. I'm currently finishing my uni, last semester.
I've a girl that I had a crush on early when I first entered the university, same semester as me, but I was an autistic beta with extreme fedaura, so of course that didn't work out. I moved on. But now, there's another girl that I'm falling for, one that's a semester below me. Though, I didn't pay attention to it, believing that I won't have any hope.
I've been eyeing her for a while, and whenever she needs help in academic sense (I'm good at what I do), I was there for her. We have a few good conversations now and then, sometimes with me telling her to "be on guard" and "don't trust anyone you meet in uni". For some reason we barely talked/met for a few weeks after that, because she rented a house with her pals while I stayed in the dorm.
Then one day, she messaged me saying "you were right". "About what?" "Not trusting people" and then our conversation spiraled into philosophical stuff, about the meaning of life, etc, etc. Then it happened again. I became the help and advice guy, though she seemed friendlier than before.
Chats went on, and some stuff happened. Her grandma passed away, and through text, I became her emotional crutch. Cheering her on and lifting her spirits based on the philosophical stuff that we discussed earlier on. We bonded this way.
One day, my friends and I went for a walk and we bumped into her and her friends. We had a regular chat, and after we part ways, my friends asked me if I noticed something weird. I didn't. Apparently I'm a major autismo that doesn't notice the telltale sign of a girl liking you.
3 or 4 days after V-day, she gave me 2 bars of Toblerone. Was pretty cheeky about it too, how she waited for the end of the class, and how she gave it to me in sorta-secrecy.
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So I messaged her, saying how "we won't be able to meet anymore, I'm graduating while you have another semester, so I might as well tell you how I feel all these time" and confessed. She was unfettered. She's all "haha" and "why so gloomy"
Lo and behold I asked her out on a date. She continued the conversation like "dating" is something regular. I mentioned "date" a few times in our conversation, but she doesn't act weirded out nor does she sound happier about it.
So she went back to her hometown, while I stay at the dorm because I still have some stuff that I have to finish. I messaged her, and she invited me to a water park with her. Maybe she's busy with family or friends, but she doesn't seem to be answering my texts as frequently as she usually does.
I don't know, does she really like me, /adv/? I really like her and I don't want to make the same mistake my sperglord self in the past did with my first crush. I'm just afraid that maybe she's close with me because I'm "the senior who helps her a lot and gives her advice".
What do I do /adv/
I know relationships come and pass but I want to at least have a serious one for once.
>sometimes with me telling her to "be on guard" and "don't trust anyone you meet in uni"
What the fuck?
>>16891659
sounds like she likes you but is unsure about being in a relationship with you. are you good looking and confident? often people will not enter relationships with people because it might reflect badly on them. if you are creepy, she might be worried about how her friends act. obviously i dont know you and you could be alpha as fuck, just hypothesising.
>>16891672
how her friends react*
>>16891656
Stop being a faggot.
>>16891666
Like I said, I was hyper autismo. I had some people backstabbing me in uni, so I'm just giving her heads-up about it. Advice, heh.
>>16891672
I'm confident that I lack confidence. I'm not sure if I'm alpha or good looking, but I certainly don't see myself that way.
I'm quite good looking, I guess, based on what people usually tell me. I'm around 6'0" to 6'1", and have a little beer belly that's not really noticeable when I wear a shirt.
>>16891688
Thank you for your input.
>>16891691
I can tell you lack confidence. You probably project your insecurities through how you interact with people etc. You need to do something that will improve your confidence, maybe work out?
Did she accepted the date? Probably chill a bit, don't message her unless she messages you back and wait a day or two after she gets back to let you know when she's free to hang out. Just relax and go with the flow OP
>>16891770
Thanks anon, I'll try that.
Actually, I realize this myself, but I kept giving myself excuses about it. Other than working out, what else can I do?
>>16891776
Yeah, we went on a date. Did the romantic stuff, wiped sauce off her lips, all that. She's pretty laid back about the whole thing, and even invited me to a water park, like I said.
What's keeping me on edge is her stance on the whole thing. It keeps making me think that she might've considered the date a simple outing with sempai.
I'm chilling, but due to my lack of confidence I kept thinking what I had possibly did wrong.
>>16891889
socialise with people more. reading helped me too but that might just be me. i use to be really shy and i changed fairly quickly. Most people in general are insecure, especially "normies", they are just good at wearing a mask. Also, people who act like dicks are generally projecting an insecurity.
>>16891952
Yeah, I've always had problems with socializing. Most of the time, I don't know what I'm supposed to talk about. Things people like, I don't.
I like things like video games, science, cooking, computers, philosophy, art, etc. Meanwhile, others would gather and talk about stuff like recent movies and celebs, clothes, and all that stuff.
I think it's part of the reason why I blend in so well with my foreign online friends and anons on 4chan, but not so much with my friends in real life.
>>16891993
yeah, the average person does talk complete shit. I always hear people in my uni talking about other people behind their back. I actually can't recall people over hearing an interesting conversation. i normally talk to people about uni work if i can't think of anything to say. For example i will say "hey, what did you think of that lecture" or "that was boring as fuck" etc.
>>16892029
Huh, why didn't I think of that? Thanks anon, you're a saviour. Though, how do I actually keep a conversation going after I've initiated one?
>>16892056
depends on what they say. just keep expressing your opinion and asking them a question. some random shit will probably come up to discuss.
>>16892071
Will do. Thanks.
