>>16617948

people, like you, talk as if they are only allowed to want one thing and they have to want it forever. sure, some people are fine to be destined to wake up and go do the same thing every day for the rest of thier life.

a lot of us idealize that but we dont actually want it. we imagine these tiny moments that dont add up to anything real and we dont actualyl experience those tiny moments as they are happening.

but i digress. instead of finding out WHAT you want, just go out and experience life. make a stupid decision and follow it through. stop 'looking for' something cuz you are chasing emotions you have never felt before. you are trying to force an idea you never experienced. thats impossible, you wouldnt know it if you found it.

live life the way that seems natural and fun and the big moments will come to you.

>>16618058
So just do stuff? I think thats something i actually should do more.

>>16619281
But where to start?

>>16617948
Here is something to ponder over OP: why do you exactly need a girlfriend and what makes you think you are going to benefit from a monogamous relationship? Have you ever considered such alternatives as finding fuck buddies, one night stands, friends with benefits, casual flings and open relationships? It's pretty sad to see people stuck between this false dichotomy of inactive single and active monogamy which is a trap many people fall into in this day and age. I recommend checking out /r/seddit, The Natural Lifestyles and RSD. Sounds like you need to learn pickup/seduction.