I was at my bf's the other night and at one stage when he left the room, I thought I heard/felt his phone go off. So, naturally, I went to check it for him, only to see that he has tinder AND grindr downloaded.
I have no doubt that he uses both of them, and probably frequently too, but I've no idea how to bring it up with him.
Honestly, I'm pretty scared, but I don't think he's actually slept with anyone else. I'm not sure if I think that because I'm wearing rose colored glasses, or because I still have a little amount of trust in him.
What do /adv/? Should I confront him about this, and if so, how? Pls help
>>16537196
Grow a pair and fucking ask him.
Ask him.
Tell him you're worried/disappointed.
I have tinder and I'm in a relationship. I don't speak to anyone on there, I just wanted to see what the fuss was about. Maybe it's innocent?
>>16537196
>So, naturally, I went to check it for him,
Oh, wow, that's so kind of you - you fucking cunt.
I've snooped on my gf's before but I never do it unless I think something is up already and/or I'm ready to end the relationship. It's a very disrespectful thing to do that you, as a woman, can only be retarded to actually think you are doing a service for your boyfriend. Like he can't fucking check his phone - a two fucking second process - when he comes back.
Quit being a disingenuous cunt and admit you wanted to snoop. You saw a moment to look through someone elses private matters, and took advantage of it. Don';t get me wrong, in my opinion, he is in the wrong too, but you've lowered yourself to his level, if not further, because you willingly abused his trust and went through his own possessions - that's a fact. I don't know what he was doing with dating apps, but unless there is proof he was cheating emotionally or physically, then I'd say your the shitty one in this situation. Keep your fucking hands off other peoples things. He didn't ask you to check it. Is something he has EVER asked you to do? Did you ASK him before checking it? No. You little rat. You should be ashamed of yourself. This stress you feel now is all your own fault. Don't go through other peoples shit unless you are ready for the relationship to drastically change, or end. Complete violation of trust. There can easily be more private information in a persons phone than their diary/journal. Would you 'check' someones diary or journal? Normal people wouldn't because that's a CUNT thing to do.
>>16537468
>snooping is a bad thing unless I'm doing it!
Is the relationship straight/bi/gay?
I mean, if you are in a straight relationship it might comes as a surprise, even if you already knew your boyfriend was bi.
If you are in a gay relationship, I mean, are you really surprised? Most, if not almost all gay men are notorious for compartmentalizing love and sex and they quickly tire in relationships.
>>16537474
Learn to comprehend idiot. Do I come off as a good guy? No. I know I'm doing wrong, fucktard. I do it if I'm ready to end a relationship. I don't do it then cry online about what I saw while violating someone's privacy.
>>16537468
Holy shit you're retarded
>>16537196
>Tinder AND Grindr
Kek. I don't know, pretend that a gay porno came in the mail and ask if he knows anything about?
OP here, I should've clarified that I don't actually give a fuck that he's bi. I already knew that. We're both bi and have known that about each other since long before we got together.
My problem is him having not one but two dating apps, and whether or not I should confront him about him using them, after we've agreed to be in a monogamous relationship.
My only question is should I confront him, and if so, how?
>>16537468
>>16537493
I think we'd make for good friends.
>>16537503
>We're both bi
Stopped reading there.
>>16537493
durrrrr
The "answers" and "advice" in this thread are hilarious.
As someone who's been on both sides of this situation my only advice is to cut the cord with him because you obviously deserve better.
When I was with my ex girlfriend I did check her phone for her multiple times when she was busy, it's completely normal and there's nothing wrong with it.
The only reason it would be wrong is if you were intentionally snooping, which by your OP, I take it you weren't.
I had tinder for a while when I was with my ex, but I never used it. And if I did, it was only to make friends. Perhaps this is why your boyfriend has it?
On the other hand, tinder and grindr together while in a mono relationship is a bad sign, especially given the fact that you stated you already knew he's bi. Bi and gay men have a tendency to cheat, and even if they don't actually have sex with anyone else, they have a higher chance of "romantically cheating".
My advice would be to casually bring it up with him, maybe even mention that you thought his phone went off and because he was busy you thought you'd check it for him, nothing criminal about that.
Talk to him about it, but know that you deserve better and you should dump him, imo.
as a guy in this situation right now, I have both apps. But I use them simply to make friends.
Yes I can just use tinder for this, but I have grindr to connect more with the gay community I've never really had a part of as a bisexual male.
I'm sure your bf is the same speaking from someone in his position, or he's a cheating dog. best thing to do is just confront him.
>>16537638
Not op but what if they've had a history of cheating though?
>>16537638
no one is on grindr to "make friends" m8
>>16537638
Are you in a relationship? Do you have a history of cheating?
>I have grindr to connect more with the gay community
Any guy who's been caught out on this would say that exact same thing. I'm not saying that's the truth but a bi guy wouldn't have grindr just "to make friends".
>>16537707
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Dump him op, not worth your time if he's going to be perving on other chicks and dudes and possibly meeting up with them
Holy crap are gay men promiscuous?
>>16537196
>so naturally I went to check it for him
>woman actually believe this is a viable excuse.
>>16537638
I have grindr to connect more with the gay communit.
What a crock of shit. Ever hear of a gay bar? Sounds like you want someone to connect their dick to your asshole friend.
>>16537858
yeah, "connect with the gay community"... totally.
>>16537518
Nice argument you absolute fucking faggot
>>16537518
Wow anon you sure got him!
I don't even care about who's in the right, you or him, by making a rebuttal like you did it simply shows how retarded you are.
