Is it considered okay for a boyfriend to talk about the women he finds hot? Am I supposed/its normal to get uncomfortable with that or am I just being too anal?
I would be uncomfortable with a girl who's uncomfortable with not being the only hot girl in existence.
>>17354489
I'm completely aware of that, but wouldn't it be respectful to not say certain things to your girlfriend?
You chose your partner for a reason. I do understand that "look at the menu, but don't buy" thought process.. But there's no reason to be talking to someone you consider a partner about this unless your gf is a closet dyke. Are you TRYING to make her jealous? This is manipulation.
Be respectful, save it for the dudebros. It just makes you look thirsty anyways.
>>17354489
I never talk to him about the men I find hot, but that's out of respect, I don't know
>>17354470
It's okay to find other women hot, and keep it to yourself. Why is he rubbing it in your face who he finds attractive though
>>17354500
Yeah, exactly. I'm not saying he's not allowed to find other women hot, he should just talk about that matter with his friends, not me. He even talks to me about the porn he watches. I don't react because I'm not sure if that's just me being abnormal by being uncomfortable.
>>17354500
I've considered he does it to make me jealous, since I never express my uncomfortableness. He probably wants to get a reaction out of me at least once
>>17354497
>wouldn't it be respectful to not say certain things to your girlfriend?
Sure. But what those certain things are is entirely up to the people in the relationship.
1. Have you spoken to him about this? Does he know that you think it's disrespectful?
2. Personally i would be uncomfortable with a girl who thinks this is one of the disrespectful things to talk about. But as i said. that's up to each relationship individually, and i'm certainly not part of your relationship.
>>17354470
wow that is not ok.
tell him it bothers you. if he throws a bitchfit and tells you how he did nothing wrong and continues his bullshit, give him a dose of his own medicine and talk about a guy you find really hot. and then fuck the hotter guy.
by the way, an ex of mine did the same thing, and it turned out he was trying to cheat on me with the girl he kept mentioning/praising. (which was fruitless. so he lost both his gf and the girl he was chasing.)
I used to try to do this to get a rise out of my girlfriend; and it's pretty petty and insecure
>"she's so cute!"
>"you better be ready for me to marry the Denny's waitress!"
>"I love her accent!"
The truth is, we know it hurts, we're trying to stimulate a reaction in a negative way and it's coming from an insecure place.
Tell him to cut the shit or he'll only have porn to talk about in the end because no woman with a backbone likes to be manipulated
>>17354570
I haven't, I don't want him to feel restricted on the things he says. Still, I feel kind of awkward when he touches that subject, but I let him speak freely on whatever he wants
>>17354581
He wouldn't throw a bitchfit I'm sure. But I'd handle it in a bit more calming manner. Like I said, I don't do the same back out of respect.
And wow, what an asshole
>>17354589
He's insecure as fuck and gets insanely jealous easily. I'm his first girlfriend (we're 19), so I'm sure this insecurity and jealousy is normal from his part and he doesn't really know how to handle it. I guess he just needs to mature a little.
"stimulate a reaction in a negative way"
That's totally it, man, thanks
>>17354590
>I don't want him to feel restricted on the things he says
Exactly, but the only way to not feel restricted in what one says is to be restricted in how one thinks and feel.
Which is why i wrote >>17354489
And now we're just arguing in a circle.
