What's going on /adv/ I have a weird problem. I am a pretty good looking guy, but I'm only into porn of muscle monsters/fantasy characters. I can't get into anything else. It sucks because it has gotten to the point I'd rather look at that then have sex in real life.
I know this isn't healthy but I don't know what to do. I have a fetish in my mind that I can imagine (I have a very strong imagination) and it makes me seriously cum harder than actual sex.
This is causing a serious strain on my relationships and staring to develop very negatively, to the point where girls I'm with think there is something wrong with them because I don't want to have sex.
What the fuck do I do? Just quit porn forever? I try that but I eventually relapse hard.
Maybe your gay
>>17346264
that's what a few of my gfs have thought. the thing is I don't like looking at guys at all irl. one gf said that perhaps I look at fantasy characters because I have too much shame admitting I'm gay due to my upbringing. I'm someone who suffers from intense shame over lots of things (long story, but my parents made me feel guilty over everything growing up so now I'm fucked in the head with constant feelings of guilt over every little thing).
try to pinpoint what about it makes you so fucking hard
>>17346268
well I'm a submissive guy deep down. people don't see this from meeting me right away, I can seem pretty outgoing, but I'm very submissive. I like the feeling of being out of my control and getting lost in something bigger and greater than myself. I like the feeling of someone dominating me and sort of protecting me. I don't know if this stems from the fact I didn't really have a father figure growing up (my dad was never around or didn't really want much to do with me), but I love feeling helpless.
I got a gf that was into domination and that helped a bit, but eventually I still get the itch for fantasy characters. I even make up stories in my head of being their slave or something.
>>17346274
sounds like you should seriously give role play a try. you can incorporate fantasy beasts into roleplay, yknow? i'd also recommend to stick to girls that are ok with being assertive. if you want a version of what you need that's less intimidating and focuses more on the "protecting me" part, try mommy play. also, there's nothing wrong with using your fantasy whilst having sex.
>>17346278
done that before. it still gets difficult to get it up. maybe I'm just gay. I don't know I'm very depressed about it.
>>17346285
>maybe I'm just gay
not convinced. do you fantasize about sucking cocks?
>>17346287
yes. don't really like vagina either. I think women are beautiful though and men are ugly.
>>17346288
>vagina either.
nobody does.
>women are beautiful though and men are ugly.
maybe you have some sorting out to do about the madonna/whore complex?
also, do you get turned on more by the "female beauty" or "male uglynes"?
i really think you should not get demotivated over this or beat yourself up. sexuality changes. maybe that's just what you need right now. maybe it will fade again. i always have phases of REALLY strange fetishes. but as soon as i meet someone i actually care about, it fades. it might come back later on, but then i try to incorporate it into the sex. try, and try again till you find something that works for you. what seems to be incredibly helpfull in my case is to breakdown my arousal for soemthing. that way i can try and meet those needs in other (maybe more socailly acceptable) ways if possible.
Sounds like a truly fucked up childhood dude...
I myself draw a large amount of furry art ( know lol furfag yadda yadda well fuck you too I doubt you can draw or make money doing it like I do furries pay best. )
I am a straight dude however. I only date/fuck chicks simple as that. My parents where pretty harsh about what I should and shouldn't do growing up. After moving out, I started to learn to draw ( cause drawing isn't pointless they told me like most things in life. I know great boosters for a kid right? )
Anyway... I am asked more often than not to draw dude, dudes fucking whatever. That's what makes me the cash. Yet... Despite all that, I never once fantasize about being with males doing dudes, etc. I draw girls human and furry and that gets me off but doesn't sell the best.
Anyway the point? - You where and probably are a gay male. And there's nothing wrong with that... The problem is since your parents treated you wrong, hide things from you, shamed you and thus, you are now totally fucking confused and passing judgement on yourself when you don't need too.
Seek help, you may not be gay you could be bi or perhaps we're all wrong and your just so fucking confused your mind is fucking with you by making you think all you can get off too its monsters and such. Outside of that /adv/ on 4chan will not be able to help you more. You need to seek the help professionally based on what you've said.
>>17346262
>A kink is causing me psychological distress. What should do I do?
Accept your fetish, talk to your partner about it, find a way for both of you to work it into your sex life.
Alternatively, see a certified sex therapist. They're able to cure kinks permanently in about a week.
