>>17343007
No you shouldn't be worried
Don't be a dumbass

Just because they have the opposite genitals doesn't mean it has to be any different than friendship with same sex.

He could just as easy want to fuck his guyfriends.

>>17343013
Stop spewing this bullshit you cheating asshole

>>17343018
Fuck you, paranoid sluts.

If you honestly think like this you must have zero trust in yourself with the opposite sex.

>>17343013
Thank you so much. I trust him and all, but I can't stop thinking about that he could realize that he like her more than me. I mean he never cheated on me,also it was her asking him to
go out. I heard that she used to like him, but he always say that he just see her as a friend..

>>17343018

Fuck off retard.

Having a relationship with someone of the opposite gender is completely fucking normal. The signs that he's cheating will be pretty fucking obvious, but getting worried or scared over their first time going out together is retarded.

>>17343024
Trust him.

If his intentions are to cheat on you.
He'd do it in a secretive manner.

You guys have something that they will never have as friends. Don't forget that.

And if something does ever happen, see that you dodged a fucking bullet.

All the best anon

>>17343023
I've trusted people who use that exact statement way too long. It was always a very bad idea that ended with them cheating with those girls that are "only friends". It has happened trice. So don't tell me about how "friendship between guys and girls is possible". Yeah, maybe. But going out all alone with a girl you never met before aka a date is NOT ACCEPTABLE when you have a gf

>>17343027
Thank you so much really

>>17343031

You're retarded.

Just because it's happened to you, doesn't mean that every single male who has a female friend is obviously going to cheat.

How the fuck do you think people spend time with each other if they're friends? Just because two people go out alone, doesn't mean it's a fucking date.

Blow your fucking brains out you absolute spastic

>>17343031
But he said that he dosen't like her at all
I think that my bf really loves me, he's a good person..I really hope he will not cheat on me..

>>17343039
Yeah. What do you think why i trusted them again after the guy before them fucked me over? Sweet words.

>>17343039
Yeah he won't

>>17343043
If he wanted to cheat he wouldn't have said anything about that girl to me I guess

>>17343007
I hope you're a nympho who drains his balls twice a day because if he's got an inkling of a sex drive left when he's out with her, he will cheat on you.

It's like everyone always says, personality is the most important thing and if he likes this girl so much he's hanging out with her instead of you then she must have a fantastic personality. Even if she's a 4/10 girl he "doesn't find attractive" a girl on the same wavelength as you really does start to look hotter.

I mean there's another thread on the front page right now about a guy cheating with this long time female best friend.

>>17343047
Yeah, that's what i thought too. Guessed wrong. It's a neat tactic to make someone feel like they can trust you

>>17343055
I wrote to him now. I asked how it went he said that it was nice
I don't know what to think anymore..
I really hope he dosen't like her
I can't wait to see him I'm so worried

>>17343067
Where did he meet that girl and how did they become "friends"?

>>17343067
You chose to believe an angst bitch over various calm and concise replies.

>>17343068
She wrote to him last year in Facebook. They chatted for a while and she wrote to him a month ago I guess.
They went to a park, now he's with his friends.

Cheaterfag here.
He might cheat, he might not. The fact that he's simply hanging around a girl doesn't really mean anything, even if he's hiding it from you. Since the girlfriend he DOES have is a big puddle of self-esteem issues, he may not have the balls to cheat.

>>17343072
I'm just worried

>>17343007
No, don't be insecure.

>>17343074
He has other female friends too? Ask that next time you could come with, it'd be nice to have friends for you too :3 if he says no you can't meet her too, then he is cheating.

>>17343084
You're right
Yes but he dosen't go out alone with them

>>17343074
Lol so this is just some random girl who messaged HIM first?
Not even like a long time friend who you can at least trust to have friendzoned him?

You better start watching cuck porn so you can at least get off on watching your bfs cock get ridden by an alpha female who literally just takes what she wants.

>>17343079
See
>>17343075

If he is going to cheat on you he is going to cheat on you, no matter the context.

>>17343089
Okay, well just ask, right now, "how about we all go out next week or something?:)"

>>17343096
I don't want to annoy him, I'll write to him again later

>>17343103
Annoy? He is your boyfriend, txt him as much as you want.

>>17343107
No maybe it's all in my head
he didn't cheat on me, he loves me and I trust him
I go out with males friends too and it never happens

>>17343120
But still you are suspicious. You should think that is it because you are insecure and why you are insecure or is it because your gut is telling you that something shady is going on. Figure that out. It might also be that you sense that this girl is interested in your guy but he sees her only as a friend.

>>17343120
>I go out with males friends too
doesn't feel good when the shoe is on the other foot does it

>>17343131
Well I'm really insecure about myself, that's why I get so worried.
I don't know if she used to like him or something, but I know that he loves me.
>>17343133
True, I know why he feel worried and text me a lot when I go out with my males friends.

>>17343142
*now I know why he feels

>>17343142
Then you should ignore it. But just saying, you shouldn't ignore a gut feeling of being cheated on. Someone can love you or pretend to love you and still cheat on you.

>>17343147
Yeah I know.. I hope he will go out with her again, if he will I'll tell him that I'm kinda worried. For now I only told him that I trust him a lot, but I know he's seeing me a bit worried.

>>17343162
So? I think it's ridiculous that people have to hide their insecurities in a relationship.

>>17343142
OP I think you probably took it too far with your male buddies despite him being uncomfortable. He likely has had plenty of opportunities but out of respect for you and knowing how miserable it makes one feel he hasn't until now. Unfortunately the guy is likely numb and knows how futile it is and you will never stop and my guess you've brushed off his concerns or made fun of him, ignored his text or been very angry. I don't really blame the guy.

>>17343165
I don't want to make him run away.
He told me that he dosen't like when I get too insecure, nobody likes a needy insecure girlfriend.
If I act like I'm just a bit worried it's better.

>>17343187
Well then you are pretending to be someone else. I get jealous and needy and I tell my bf that, we talk about it and that's okay. He can do the same thing. I don't expect him to be some superman that is never insecure. That's just weird from your bf, you should really be able to tell how you feel without him thinking you are too needy.

>>17343181
What are you talking about? I respect a lot, before going out with a male friend I always ask him and I always assure him that I love him. I reply to every single text he sends when I'm out with them.

>>17343197
So do you think I should say to him
that I was worried about her?
he'll get angry at me..
It would help if he replied that I need to stai calm because he loves me, but he will just get angry.

>>17343211
It is kind of suspicious if he gets angry. It's not like you are blaming him if you tell you are insecure but it is because of your feelings.

>>17343211
If he gets angry about that you should run far away from such an idiot

He was balls deep in that ass. No doubt about it.

>>17343199
That's your problem OP, from you prospective you have been perfect but from his everytime you went out he feels like you do now. It's hard to believe you have never been hard to reach or gone somewhere and purposefully didn't tell him, or stayed later than you led him to believe or saw a male friend without him knowing.

>>17343214
I tought it was normal if he gets angry about me being needy.. he arleady told me that he dosen't feel anything for that girl.

>>17343211
How do you know he will be angry?

>>17343223
Why would he tell if he is cheating? He would then have to deal with you crying. Come on, are you going to spend your life with someone who gets angry at you for being insecure? Talk to him about it or leave or stay and let him wreck you.

>>17343223
How is it normal to get angry at the person you love if they share how they feel with you? If you accused him of cheating repeatedly, he might get a bit pissed. But ANGRY? Nope.
How old are the two of you?

>>17343219
I always told him everything.
He trust me, and I never did something wrong with those friends. I love him so much, I don't want to hirt him.

>>17343223
So a needy girl has a dozen male friends she goes out with regularly. How can a bf feel secure about that?

Now for the first time ever a bf goes with a female friend and the needy girl loses it.

>>17343229
We are both 19.

>>17343007
I feel like women should be able to gauge these situations. You should be able to tell if she has a thing for him or not. After that, it's a matter of how much you are willing to trust him.

>>17343235
that explains a lot.

why do you think he'll get angry? does he get angry easily? at you? for what?

>>17343232
I feel like shit now. For this I should stay calm, and just don't bother him about that..

>>17343237
>You should be able to tell if she has a thing for him or not
how would she be able to know that if she has never met her?

>>17343240
A separate issue though is why you need to go out all the time with these male friends, some of which I am sure want more than a friendship. You know it and so does your bf.

>>17343247
What a double standard lol

>>17343238
Because I'm not trusting him.
He gets angry at me sometimes, mostly because I get needy or insecure.
I'm sorry for being like this, I tried to change but sometimes I can't trust him because in the past I was wrong about trusting someone..

>>17343247
I have like three male friends. Two are gay, one used to like him and my bf knows it. I need to go out with them because I have fun and my bf dosen't go out with me a lot.

>>17343254
she admits to being needy and has many male friends she goes out with regularly. Needy girl needs attention and has plenty of guys ready to give it. First time for her bf

>>17343263
the gay guys don't count and you know it. There are more. What about the straight guy? Has he a crush on you?

>>17343269
>First time for her bf
where did you read that?

>>17343276
>>17343276
He had, one year ago. I used to go out with him sometimes, but now I don't see him anymore (from like 3 months) because I know that my bf might get annoyed by it.

>>17343280
first sentence in the OP

>>17343286
>I know that my bf might get annoyed by it
so you still want to hang with the guy you know wants you but you don't go because your bf might get annoyed. How about you don't want to do something with someone that wants you because it might hurt your bf and you don't want the guy to get any ideas he might still have a shot?

>>17343007
Tell him you feel uncomfortable with it and it makes you nervous or try to deal with it.

>>17343289
>It's the first time that THEY go out, they're alone

they as in the girl and her bf. not the bf and some other girls in general. reading comprehension anon

>>17343286
>I used to go out with him sometimes
alone I gather even knowing he wanted you. You realize to that guy you were going on a date

>>17343297
I don't want him, I feel alone, he's my friend and we liked to hang out. I have fun with him but my bf told me that he dosen't like him at all, so I decided to stop seeing him. I miss him yeah and I want to hang out with him but I don't want to hurt my bf.
I still feel worried for that girl that he met though.

>>17343301
the OP has not challenged in any post this is the first time ever for her bf with a female friend, alone. This is a new experience for OP

>>17343302
We weren't on a date. It's like for my bf and his female friend I guess, I would never cheat on him..I try to trust him because he never did anything wrong, he dosen't like her and he seems to love me..but I still don't know.

>>17343199
If he thinks you are needy and doesn't appreciate you get anxious and stuff, then you need to get rid of him and find someone that understands and respects you.

>>17343310
>he doesn't like him at all
you know why don't you?

I'll cut through the shit here. This is payback OP, juvenile as it is. I don't think you want this friend but it doesn't feel that way to your bf so he has decided to go on a date with a female friend that likes him just like you dated the guy that likes you. It's a game OP

>>17343323
But I think I'm the wrong one..
he only went out with a female friend, I'm being insecure as usual and bothering him.

>>17343310
Your bf has a double standard. He wont allow you to see male friends and then he goes and spends time with a girl, alone. You need to confront him with this. Ask him what he wants to gain from a friendship with her. Subconsciously he knows he isn't doing right if he holds you to that sort of standard.>>17343313


Take care OP and always demand respect from the boys you go with

>>17343325
Maybe it's for this. Just hoping he didn't do anything though. If he keep going out with her like this I'll continue going out my friend if it's a game.

>>17343321
it was a date OP. Not for you but for this guy that wants you it is/ That's the problem going out with "friends" that want more when you are in a relationship with someone else. I guarantee every time you went out with this guy your bf was wondering what the fuck is she doing she know he wants her. Human nature

>>17343329
He said tha she's only a friend and only like to hang out with her, so that's why.

>>17343337
That's bs. Refer back to the double standard thing. You need to expect the same that he expects from you to be on equal footing.

>>17343323
she has a "friend" already in orbit she went out with regularly until her bf wanted her to stop it

>>17343340
So I'll keep going out with my male friend. I don't want to be the only one feeling like shit.

>>17343343
I don't like my friend

>>17343345
You need to stay away from petty shit like that. TALK to him. Tell him how it makes you feel that he is disrespecting you this way. If he isn't willing to acknowledge the way you feel, it may be time to move on.

>>17343332
I actually have gained respect for your bf. Usually the guy in a relationship cuts all female friends out and stops cultivating more while the girl keeps her bench in place. The bf has to watch quietly knowing his possible replacement is right there. OP, your bf is out right now with your possible replacement and if feels like shit don't it.

>>17343345
going out with your "friend" got you into this mess in the first place

>>17343346
you earlier say you are lonely and love to be with him so you must get something out of the relationship along with his adoration

>>17343079
Google triangulation, he's hurting you.

Do not listen to these idiots on 4chan saying that this is ok and normal. It isn't.

>>17343352
But he'll get angry at me..

>>17343362
But it's only friendship. If I liked him I wouldn't be with my bf but with him

Op here.. I told him everything. He got so fucking angry..he said that I should not ask things like if he feels something for bed and that I'm just bothering him. I feel like he dosen't love me anymore he's questioning our relationship because I'm insecure. I Made a mess. I'll be soon single I guess, I feel like shit. I can't believe I Made a mess about a stupid girl. He's not replying anymore.

>>17343459
He is doing that because he has feelings for her. Now he can easily blame it on you. If he leaves you, he will be with her quite soon.

I'm so fucking glad I'm not 19 anymore

>>17343469
Or because he never did that when she was with her friends and now he feels he was treated unfairly.

>>17343469
I'm so heart broken
I told him that I couldnt hide my feelings, that I was sorry for being like this. I love him so much, I Made a mess

>>17343493
that is true. he had to eat what she fed him and he only once asked her to stop dating a "friend" that was crazy about her three months ago. Now she knows how hard it was for him to bite his tongue but what does she say. She will start going out with the "friend" again. I bet that threat was part of her little chat just now and I bet she has talked to the "friend" about her bf hanging with the female friend.

>>17343518
did you threaten him with seeing your friend again?

>>17343562
Not at all. I'm not like this.

>>17343681
are you going out with him again and just not tell?

>>17343690
I don't know but if I'm going out with my friend I'll tell him. He isn't replying anymore. I think he'll leave me though, I'm even on a trip with my family. He ruined my holiday, I know he would get angry. I love him and I need to see him. Thanks to everybody I'm feeling a little better!! I love you all

>>17343026
My boyfriend would call this cheating and so would the community. Girl dump his ass.

Jesus Christ. This thread should have ended after the first three replies.

OP, there is nothing wrong with your boyfriend having female friends. There is nothing wrong with you having male friends. People need to have other people in their lives - at least healthy, rational people, not bitter 4chan shutins.

Your insecurity IS kind of annoying, and I would get angry with a girl too that couldn't stop panicking I was cheating long enough for me to hang out with a friend ONCE. If this was recurring, and he was prioritizing plans with her over you, sure, whatever.

In a few days, reapproach this with your boyfriend. Tell him you're sorry you were insecure, and will work on it. You should have the right to have male friends as well, so if this comes up later and he's unhappy, remind him that you trust him with girls and he should trust you too.

Communicate.

>>17343736
He's the one that is going to dump..it's such a shame though, I love him and we are usually so happy..if he can't stand that I can be insecure if he goes out with a female friends alone I can't be with him anymore. I respect him and refused many dates and things that would hurt him.

>>17343742
I think that she used to like him. He also said to me that she said that he shouldn't be with me. What the fuck really.. she dosen't look like a friend...

>>17343748
>refused many dates and things that would hurt him
you must act like you are not in a relationship to have that many opportunities

>>17343742
Also I tried to tell him that'll work on it, I only in needing of some sweet words but he got angry.

>>17343756
she doesn't I agree but neither did your friend you went out with for 9 months of the 12 you and your bf are together

>>17343762
what exactly did you say

>>17343759
Well maybe not so many, but some
guys or friends of friends asked my number, tried to go on a date, and my ex called me all last winter. I loved and I love my bf too much and obv I refused all of the se people.

>>17343748
No it just meant that other bitch(es) won. If you need a loyal man to give you security there are plenty others who will step up to those standards as long as you are upfront about them and expect the same in return. Don't let douches make you feel bad after he already crossed the line. Sounds like he manipulated you and is butthurt you caught on.

>>17343764
We are togheter from 2 years
And yeah she liked him

>>17343769
That I was sorry but I couldn't hide my feelings, i was just worried that he or she could feel something, he said to fuck off, that he was kinda tired of me and us. Also I said that I'll work on myself and being less worried

>>17343778
ok the guy you went out with for 21 of the 24 months you and your bf are together.

How long has this girl been hovering around your bf and they just now go on a date

>>17343791
Been there. The guy wanted the other girl and thought it was easier to be rude to me so that I'd leave him.

>>17343775
I'm arleady feeling bad. Anyway if eh leaves me for her, he'll end up to cheat on her with somebody else if he's like this.

>>17343791
>kinda tired of me and us
damn, there is more to this than this one date with this girl. As in you must have known he isn't happy for some reason

>>17343794
1 year or something

>>17343799
Maybe, or maybe they really work well together and get married and have children. Let him go if he wants.

>>17343800
Yeah, we have some problems I guess..he's too cold sometimes, we don't see eachothers so much anymore this months. Like some hours at week, we live really cose too. Maybe if we talk it'll get better or he'll end everything. I still love him, it's him that I don't understand.

>>17343791
>fuck off
Tell him to fuck off.
You shouldn't let yourself be treated like that.
You don't have to be sorry that you didn't hide your feelings, you should.always be on the same page.
I still think you are wrong to expect him to be ok with you going out with you male friends and not be ok with him going out with female friends.

>>17343809
Yeah if he wants of course that'll let him
go. I love him, I want him to be happy. If we can't make this works I'll let him go. I feel like I Made a huge mess.

>>17343821
Yeah I know, but I'll accept it. If he talked to me in a gentle way I would have stopped worrying.

>>17343809
Either way not her problem. Removing this cancer early on is a blessing in disguise.

>>17343836
>if he wasn't a dick i would stop worrying
But he is a dick and if you let yourself be a rug he'll step on you forever.
Let go, for your own good.

>>17343868
I'm talking to me right now. He looks more calm
He left me right now.
We both made mistakes, but today Maybe was all my fault. I lost my bf.

>>17343875
to him*

>>17343875
>self-pity and low self-steem
Work on yourself and try to improve your mindset.