Been telling the wife to stop gaining weight and to lose some. She is 120lbs at 5 feet.
Problem is that whenever she see's a friend they all tell her "omg you have lost so much weight, you need to stop dieting otherwise you are gonna have health problems"
She comes home all smug about how much weight she lost and how I am such a shitty person for not seeing results of her hard work when everyone else see's it.
It always leads to a fight when I ask her to show me the lost weight and scales show 120lbs. She then goes okay I am fat, you are right then refusing to speak for a couple of days.
What the fuck is wrong with all these fucking female friends she has? How do I deal with this every month without having a fight?
>>17330331
120 lbs and 5 feet is healthy. It's a BMI of 23.
If you want her to get more toned, exercise with her. But she doesn't need to lose weight.
>>17330331
>with all these fucking female friends she has?
They can't let her get thinner, so that they don't look fat in comparison. I know the type who do this. They're innocently vicious with the whole "Wow, you're so skinny" bullshit, when everyone within normal weight-range looks skinny to them, because they're simply fat.
You probably can't deal with it every month. You could try to initiate healthier lifestyle and help her. Start exercising together, cook together healthier meals, etc. Criticism doesn't work as well as actually helping her and then complementing her when some results actually do turn up.
>>17330331
How is 120lbs fat?
>>17330331
OP you're an ass, I'm a bit over 120lbs and 5'6, but I look borderline anorexic. 120 is not fat. Your girl should dump you.
I think I understand OP now.
I checked mybodygallery, this woman is (allegedly) 5'0 and 120lbs. Definitely could stand to lose some pounds.
>>17330373
Not what she looks like. She looks fucking pregnant. Idk how that girl is exactly the weight and height of my wife. No she's not pregnant either
>>17330364
You're half a foot taller than OP's gf so of course you're going to carry the same weight differently.
>>17330373
That's not bad at all. Maybe she could to stand to lose a few pounds and more importantly it would be good for her to develop positive habits now to prevent future weight gain but its not like its a serious problem in anyway. OP should be less of a jerk to his girl and follow the advice of >>17330360.
OP, try to find a sport both of you like or would like to try that requires some level of cardio.
>>17330406
Body fat stores differently. A tall slender girl can weigh the same as a small fat person. You're a dick and should just tell your wife you think she's fat instead of shit posting about her on the internet. Hopefully she'll slap you.
>>17330331
Her friends are right. She's at a healthy weight and weight loss specifically shouldn't be her goal right now.
Now, if you want her to be more shapely, you can talk to her about just working on that. What specifically is it about her body that's bothering you? Double chin? Thighs too big? Lil bit of a flabby tummy? Tummy rolls when she sits? Tight pants giving her a muffin top?
If you just aren't interested in her body type overall and are looking for somebody more twiggy, you're just going to have to break up and look for someone else with a different metabolism or something if she bothers you that bad.
>>17330422
Misread the OP and thought you were talking about your girlfriend, sorry. You're married to her? You need to brace yourself get ready for the body changes you both are going to go through when you and she get old if you want to be together for the long term. If this is bothering you now, think of what it's going to be like when she's like 50 years old.
>>17330406
If your wife doesn't look like that, she's more than likely at a healthy weight/body. You really are an ass.
>>17330421
I have been telling her she needs to watch her diet for the last 2 years now. She refuses to believe me she needs to lose some. I am a 5'8 working in a job that required me to walk 10-12 miles everyday. She eats more than me with a desk job.
>>17330422
>flabby tummy check
>Tummy rolls when she sits check
>Tight pants giving her a muffin top check
I am not being an ass about it. I have stopped asking her to do anything. When she asks for a tub of ice cream after having 2 meals, I get off my ass go to the store and buy it for her.
Just pisses me off when her friends come tell her she needs to stop losing weight, she has lost none. She wants me to acknowledge her hard work for the lost weight. She has put no effort into it nor lost any weight. This leads to fights
Also let me point I was banned after my first post. Replying from my phone
>>17330463
You live together right? Suggest a new diet. Introduce more veggies, less meat, more healthy shit and invite her to go for a walk after dinner. Seriously, by not doing anything, by not saying anything, you'll hurt her when you finally have had enough. Just fucking say it dude. Just say it and JOIN HER. Help her out! Don't go like "you need to eat more healthy" - you're her husband, help her out.
>>17330331
tell your wife it's time to be realistic and lose some weight. also tell her that her friends are lying to her; basically tell her everything you just said in your post.
how are you okay telling strangers this but not your own wife? i could understand if you just started seeing each other and it's the beginning of a relationship, but you can't explain this calmy and logically to your own wife? i'm 5'5 110lbs and look TOO skinny. when i was even skinnier my friends would tell me to gain weight asap.
Those of us with perfect bodies have to look at people who are not as perfect as us, and it's hard.
Normal people just don't know how hard it is.
It's very hard.
>>17330463
>>17330422
Everyone's stomach rolls when they sit. Just a tip.
>>17330463
Ban evasion is just going to get you in more trouble, you should really consider not posting anymore if you don't want to risk a permaban.
Woah the fucking tumblr in this thread.
If you dont train you are a degenerate.
>m-muh health
Everyone is healthy when they are young, keep that shit @ 30 then tell me that u got no problems.
>>17330331
>blaming her friends
fucking beta
>>17330463
But she doesn't need to lose weight. Talk to her doctor and they'll probably tell you the same thing. What you want isn't for the number on the scale to go down, you want to get rid of her tummyfat because that's what's bothering you. The scale just displays a number, it doesn't necessarily relate to how the weight is carried and how she looks. I suggest the two of you research some exercises for targeting the fat on her stomach and possibly toning her abs a little.
>>17330481
I try. Suggest skipping soda/juiced with meals. Suggest skipping ice cream. Suggested running, even bought her the shoes track pants and shirt. Without luck.
>>17330488
She tries I guess after I tell her by having a small lunch then having an extra large dinner.
>>17330496
Is it normal your belly button is facing the ground when you sleep on your side?
>>17330500
Gonna see through the thread I started. Cant call a girl ft anymore without being banned eh?
>>17330525
>Suggest skipping soda/juiced with meals. Suggest skipping ice cream. Suggested running
Don't buy soda. Don't buy ice cream. Go running with her.
>>17330543
>can't openly talk to SO
>gotta do shady shit behind back
fucking cringy normies
>>17330525
>She tries I guess after I tell her by having a small lunch then having an extra large dinner.
all she has to do is eat less. that is literally it. just eat less. she doesn't even have to exercise that much. just. eat. less. a lot less. something like 2 fruits for breakfast, a salad for lunch, and a sandwich for dinner. nothing else, no snacks or deserts, keep calories under 800 a day. every day for 2 months. she'll be 100 pounds.
>>17330556
>thinks any of that is shady or involves going behind her back
Fucking cringy autists
>>17330556
You can obviously talk to her, but not having food you want to eat at home helps with dieting.
When I was losing weight I just didn't buy chocolate, soda and junk food.
>>17330567
>I-I'm not lying I-I'm just not telling all the truth
>I just have this plan for you that I'm not going to share but try to manipulate you in it because I'm a beta cuck
>>17330574
>Not having the willpower to have it and not eat it.
each to their own I guess
>>17330566
Breakfast is 2 pieces of toast with butter or cream cheese. A mug of coffee with a couple tablespoons of honey coz honey is good.
Lunch is a slice of newyork style pizza. Those huge slices. Or leftovers in a lunchbox.
First dinner is leftovers from yesterday when she comes home at 5. Then she cooks something for me by 8pm. Which is when I have dinner, she joins me to taste and ends up eating a full plate. Thats roughly 2000 calories counting the soda/juice. Then she has dessert which is usually ice cream.
She just does not listen or acknowledge she needs to diet. Her friends are not helping either.
>>17330587
How is running with her not sharing in the plan? And I think you're misinterpreting >Don't buy soda. Don't buy ice cream.
You can still do that and tell her you are going to do that without lying or going behind her back.
>>17330592
I got turned on reading that.
>First dinner
Are you married to a hobbit?
>>17330600
twist it more, faggot, maybe ill believe
>>17330610
lost it
>>17330592
>2000 calories plus desert
that is completely overeating. if she keeps going at her current rate she'll just gain more weight, not lose it.
her eating habits seem fine until dinner time; does she have a lot of stress from her work? does she eat emotionally? does she eat out of habit?
since you are very keen on not being direct with her, i suggest you have a talk and tell her she needs to cut off the ice cream/deserts and sugary drinks. she obviously has a problem and will not lose weight on her own.
offer to make her meals if you have the time, brew her huge portions of green tea every day that she can substitute for the juices. you really do need to calmly explain to her that you are on HER side and her friends are not helping her. you can't just say "it's her friends fault" and then complain she's not losing the weight.
also, be careful of "silent treatments" and resentful behavior from her; if she's doing this when you try to discuss the weight loss, it means that she is completely aware that she needs to lose weight but refuses to. guilt tripping is easy.
>>17330631
>being a babysitter for a grown ass person
I'm not even mad @ you normies, this is just hilarious.
>>17330649
guy asked for help, he's in denial that she is incapable of doing it on her own, basically blaming all the problems on her friends are not realising that she herself does not have the willpower or simply does not want to do it. if he doesn't help her she'll never lose the weight.
>>17330665
woah making it darker than it has to be senpai
>what is dumping the bitch
Your a fucking ass. That is not fat by any means. Id like to see a pick of you to see just how "fit" you are. Idk why guys even want an anorexic woman nowadays. You probably think angelina jolie is a healthy weight too, dont you? Smh
>>17330958
If he's dissatisfied with his partners body, then he's dissatisfied with her body. That's something they clearly need to work through: either in having her shed a little fat or in having him accept her tummy or somewhere in between.
I agree he really shouldn't be calling her "fat" when her height to weight ratio is hardly what would be considered medically overweight, and I really do think he should stop thinking of her as such when this is really more about his personally preference. But after that, his preference is still valid.
>>17330958
I'll bite
>>17331016
Forgot your timestamp, mate.
>>17331023
>3rd time getting baited today goddamit
>>17330406
Belly is one of the last places to lose weight. Recommend encouraging an active lifestyle with her and stop eating out so much. Cook at home and prep your meals. You better be doing this shit too if you expect her to do it.
>>17331088
You have an almost identical body to my boyfriend. If you didn't have that fan and I weighed anywhere close to 120lbs, I'd be a bit nervous.
I think you're right in bringing it up with her. My boyfriend and I have an agreement where if we see each other "slipping", we'll mention something. I get that it'll happen eventually with age but we're both keen on the idea of putting in effort for each other, so it works for the moment.
Could you try working out with her? Maybe cooking for her a bit more to try and monitor her food intake?
>>17330331
> pounds
> feet
Fucking Americans
>>17330342
First post best post.
>>17331139
fuck you
>>17331158
Not him, but, why?
>>17331158
>guys why am I getting banned :(
Also pic related.
>>17331119
The funny thing is it's not the meat that made him fat. It's the copious amounts of bread, fries, potato chips, and salad dressing that accompanies his meals that did it.
>>17331180
Really makes you think.
>>17331173
because the related post is cancer and that is not tolerated up in this bitch
>>17331177
>believing the bmi meme
>doing whatever it takes to stay average
>>17331194
forgot pic ffs
>>17331201
Oh shit dog, you dating the Rock? Better timestamp some selfies or some shit.
>>17331225
Timestamp your body, cow defender.
Let's see it guys, don't be shy we are all friends here.
>>17331236
Oy vey compadre.
Maybe it's for the best you break up with your boo. You got some aggression that needs attention.
>>17331247
Why are you so afraid to post bod desu?
>>17330331
5'3" here white female genetics
I can get down to 107lbs until I start becoming anorexic. (not in terms of looks, in terms of losing libido, glossy eyes, all my clothes falling off, skin gets dry, lanugo)
Meh. Your relationship doesn't sound worthwhile.
>>17331225
No, no. He's dating some chick but he WANTS to be dating The Rock. And who could blame him?
>>17331194
BMI is a simple method for screening weight. On average, it works well and in some cases it doesn't.
It is not a diagnosing tool and it is not always accurate. It doesn't take in consideration body fat percentage or its distribution. Which is of course a limit, but it works in a lot of cases.
Do you think that most people who fall into Class I Obese have the same body type of the rock? What are your suggestions to classify body weight accurately without having an appropriate scale?
>>17331262
I'll admit, I could be in better shape. I should probably shave the beard to, but I like it (must be a subconscious thing). Your incessant declaration that your wife go above and beyond what is necessary speaks volumes about how you view yourself. Perhaps you had some issues with a demanding father? Interesting.
>>17331273
Perhaps in doing so he wishes he could be with "The Rock" . Hah-ah! This may signify some deeper homosexuality. How marvelous indeed!
>>17331293
Back to /reddit/ please.
P.S his wife or any females on the board wont sleep with you for lapping up their shit
>>17331271
Bullshit again
>start becoming
>>17331273
still no pic
>>17331287
a scale is a simple method of screening weight
>>17331293
>tfw insecure cucks get triggered & start playing psychologist on flour sieving board but still don't post bodstamp
>>17331314
Do you really want a picture of every anon dispensing advice in the thread?
>>17331320
Anything wrong with that?
>>17331320
Most people aren't actually trying to give advice, just post hateful stuff.
>>17331328
>22 posters in this thread
Seems a little impractical.
>>17331314
>a scale is a simple method of screening weight
A scale measures just weight. You have no indication of the level of "fatness".
I'm 130 lbs. My boyfriend is 180 lbs. He isn't fatter than me - he actually has a lower body fat than I do. He's much taller and more muscular.
BMI is indeed inaccurate, but by far the most accurate and simple instrument to measure the level of fatness. Of course it is made for average people with low muscle mass. Calling it a meme just means being ignorant.
>>17331309
>>17331314
>The pic of Freud wasn't obvious enough.
See this is why autists ruin everything. Also nice tumblr image
>triggered
Lol
>>17331328
Yeah actually. R8 threads go on >>>/soc/
>>17331350
The picture of Freud made the shitpost very obvious yes
>>17331333
nice trips
>not understanding constructive criticism
irrelevant if you get insulted while at it
>stop being average, faggot
best advice right here
>>17331337
I'd take it over sjw cucks shilling "FAT IS BEAUTIFUL"
>>17331338
Sure senpai, then faggots think "hey I am in the lines = I am healthy"
I'm calling it a meme because it is useless and misleading for the said uneducated Joes.
>>17331350
>R8 threads
Find where degenerates threads are and stay there.
I'm going to bed fgts, gonna check in tomorrow for body timestamps of alpha males.
I would avoid the subject like the plague. And if she brings it up, remind her that it is only a point of contention between you. I know that rationality is obviously out the window in this case, so pointing out logic won't work. And tell her to get smarter friends. Sorry dude
This thread went from
>my wife is fat, right?
To
>fuck you all I'm skinny so I'm right let me see your bods
>>17330373
Count your blessings and realise that this is below average weight these days.
Realise that she's not a child you can order around or a car you're fixing up. If she doesn't want to lose weight, she won't. Get over it, you picked her.
>>17330587
>>I-I'm not lying I-I'm just not telling all the truth
What? How is simply not buying shit she can buy herself omitting any truth?
It's like I'm really browsing /fit/ !
>>17330592
This isn't about needing to 'go on a diet', this is about needing a long-term lifestyle change. Eating all that crap every day isn't good, and poor nutrition encourages over eating because your body knows it's missing out on shit and is becoming addicted to the short term feel-good-ness that junk food gives you.
Stop obsessing about a number on a scale, that's the kind of thing that causes people to constantly lose a few lbs through needlessly unpleasant diet/exercise regimes, then pile it back on because they think "hey, that's over, back to fun!"
Anyone who wants to lose weight needs to be in it for the long haul. If she isn't, it's just not going to happen.
>>17330517
> targeting the fat on her stomach and possibly toning her abs a little.
>stomach and possibly toning her abs a little.
> possibly toning
> toning
>>17330331
Her weight is about where she should be healthily for her size. If she's in his twenties.
>>17331005
That's not overweight tho. Look at a weight calculator. She is healthy weight. I'm five feet myself and wear size 0-1 at 120 pounds.
>>17331489
This. Imagine being married to someone as insufferable as OP.
>>17330406
Yooo tell your homies to say shit like "congratulations" and "when are you due?" to counteract her HAAS whale pod friends lmao
>>17330331
>wife is getting THICK
>this is somehow a bad thing
>>17331633
Yeah, that's what I said.
>>17331314
> Bullshit again
I wish.
Too bad I'm stuck being 5'3 and not 6'0.
