Let's have a thread about unplanned pregnancy to maybe help other anons avoid it. Both guys and girls can answer.
If you've ever had one:
How old were you?
How did it happen?
What contraception method were you using?
Were you using it properly?
What went wrong?
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
Who was the mom/dad?
What was your relationship like?
How did they handle the pregnancy?
What is your relationship with them now?
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
Did you have he baby?
What was pregnancy and birth like?
Are you raising him/her?
How has it changed your life?
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
How old were you?
>18 going on 19
How did it happen?
>uh I kind of have a fetish for having a guy finish inside kek
What contraception method were you using?
>none, we used condoms at the beginning of our relationship but like 2 months in we stopped.
Were you using it properly?
>when we were using them, yes.
What went wrong?
>I'm retarded. I got extremely careless.
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>depo shot (it makes you gain weight if you aren't mindful of your diet)
>basically anything that you don't have to remember to use right before sex.
Who was the mom/dad?
>my first boyfriend, previous to him I had a hard on for girls and only dated girls. He's a piece of shit so I do regret picking him.
What was your relationship like?
>we got high all the time together at the beginning. High sex=fucking amazing.
>he grew rather emotionally abusive further into our relationship.
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>rather well, I felt he was supportive at the beginning.
What is your relationship with them now?
>I left him at the end of February cause he wasn't coming home, turns out he was cheating on me and got some tweaker pregnant 2 months after meeting her. I have not talked to him willingly since May.
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait?
>don't fuck a loser, not matter how hung he is.
Are you more cautious now?
>kind of. I do use condoms but I don't every now and then lel
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>well I think
Did you get an abortion?
>no
Which kind? What was your experience?
>n/a
Did you have he baby?
>yes I had he baby
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>it was pretty neat, would definitely do it again
Are you raising him/her?
>yeah there's no way I'd let my ex raise the kid on his own. He and his family are very dysfunctional and are constantly in trouble with the law
How has it changed your life?
>more responsibility.
>no advice
>>17310474
Thanks for the reply! Bump for more
How old were you?
>17
How did it happen?
>carelessness
What contraception method were you using?
>pullout method
Were you using it properly?
>apparently not
What went wrong?
>I didn't pull out fast enough lol
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>use a real form of birth control.
Who was the mom/dad?
>Mom was my second ever gf, we met at 16.
What was your relationship like?
>it was a 10 year long rollercoaster
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>some would say poorly, but it worked out for what we wanted
What is your relationship with them now?
>I'm trying to be a friend, she's very mentally ill
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
>do.Not. Stick. Your. Dick. In. Crazy it's a meme at this point, but it will save you from lots of nasty things.
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>I like to think I handled it well, teenage pregnancy is tough. I "manned up" and made things work, at least for a while.
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
>no
Did you have he baby?
>yes
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>a completely terrifying cluster fuck of emotion, all three times.
Are you raising him/her?
>yes, I have custody of my three kids.
How has it changed your life?
>completely, it is a huge amount of responsibility, but I'm the kind of person that needs that.
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
>don't take sex lightly.
>>17310974
How old are you now, how were you able to handle the financial and time burdens at that age?
Unplanned pregnancies could long be a thing of the past
RISUG aka reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance, aka Vasalgel
>cheap (syringe used costs more than what they inject you with)
>highly reliable
>long-lasting (10+ years)
>no side effects
>quick, simple operation once is all that's needed
>effective almost immediately
>easily reversible at any time
>puts control in YOUR hand, i.e. not having to rely on a chick who's "totally on the pill"
>>17310990
I am 25.
Initially help from my parents, then I started my own commercial contract cleaning company.
I'm getting their help again since their mom left us. I was living a few states away, but came home for the support.
They're helping me out a lot while I start gaining accounts back here.
>>17310474
What makes you jump from doing chicks to dudes out of interest?
Bampu
I am a 23 y/o male
How old were you? ;
> 18 years old
How did it happen?
>Too much sex and not safely
What contraception method were you using?
>Condoms about 1/4th of the time. and B/C
Were you using it properly?
>Yes on condoms, not consistent on the B/C
What went wrong?
>That question is a matter of perspective... but recklessness and ignorance is the answer.
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>No double wrapping and USE THE PULL OUT METHOD.....self discipline is the answer
Who was the mom/dad?
>Me and Her
What was your relationship like?
>Young and fast. Rocky and often one sided.
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>Took it on with full responsibility
What is your relationship with them now?
>She is a runner, and a selfish person, and remarried immediately and had a great big family brewing.
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait?
Dont do it period until you know you are ready for kids,.... or pull out with discipline
Are you more cautious now?
YES!
Being a parent is an amazing and great responsibility. Only when you are prepared should you be risky with intercourse.
This thread makes me more confident that all the pregnancies happened because of outright lack of contraception use.
I'm also pretty surprised that most of you kept your kids at 17/18. You all live in the South or something?
>>17310290
THE ALTERNATIVE:
>b/ 29
How old were you? ;
> avoid drama, and non-keepers
How did it happen?
>work & school kept me buisy
What contraception method were you using?
>Engineering classes; no time, few girls.
Were you using it properly?
>Yes nearly everyday, and two tired weekends
What went wrong?
>Still single, but nice job
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>pick somebody you want to spend 40-60 years with.
Don't do e'm til you know e'm
Who was the mom/dad?
>Will be the lovely educated lady, I'm getting to know now
Anotha one
I was 23. I was between pill backs, between insurance. We were in the middle of moving for my husbands new job. Our relationship was fine, but we were still young and immature. We had issues with ourselves we needed to work on, and we were about to move abroad for his work, and I was going to be spending a LOT of time on my own. So we had an abortion.
We are still married almost 19 years later and have two perfect kids. It's a good thing I didn't have that baby, because pregnancy fucked up my back so badly that I could hardly walk for 4 months, and at that time I lived in a third floor apartment.
I have the IUD now, the copper one. The pill worked for me just fine for ten years, and I recommend it, but as I got older the hormones started fucking with me more and more. I love my copper IUD. It's birth control on easy mode.
Figure this is the place to ask. So my not-girlfriend and I have been having unprotected sex nearly every day for the past month or so. She's four days late now and apparently she's never late. She hasn't taken a test yet, she said she's waiting a few days to see if her period comes. If it turns out she's pregnant what do I do? What do I say when she tells me she's pregnant? I'm 19 and she's 21, both of us are about to graduate university.
>>17310290
I was 28, my gf was 25
The pill for her
Turned out they were past their expiry date, so no
See above
Still recommending the pill has been effective except that one time
Had been together around a year
We rose to the occasion and grew up.
The kid is now 5 and doing well. He has two younger brothers.
>>17313502
You say
> No shit you're pregnant. We were having unprotected sex every day. What did you expect to happen?
>>17310474
Must suck to be a single mother. All single mothers are whores. Use some god damn judgement and don't let chad fuck you.
Awesome, another fatherless child raised by a degenerate whore who will spend her life fishing in dating sites trying to find a nice beta to cuck.
Fuck you bitch.
>>17310290
I just realized I'm going to be a dad today, I want to kill myself.
>>17314816
The best part of the story is how she still sometimes has unprotected sex. Everything other than that sounded like she was a relatively normal person, but there is no excuse for that type of idiocy. Truly, bitches don't learn.
>>17314886
It won't be that bad, unless your baby momma is a bitch or mentally unstable. Then you're fucked. Being a parent is great as long as you have a good partner.
BWAMP
>>17314816
>>17314943
>>17315495
Are you implying that all sexually active people sometimes practice unsafe sex, especially after accident baby? Because I assure you that is not the case.
>>17315495
>Some girls just like having unprotected sex and having fatherless children while still pretending to be morally superior to their equally stupid illegitimate fathers.
>YOU CAN'T JUDGE THEM
Lol, keep living in delusion you sad excuse for a person.
How old were you?
>14
How did it happen?
>too drunk to have good judgment
What contraception method were you using?
>none there were no condoms and i was too drunk and 14 to care
Were you using it properly?
>well no
What went wrong?
>he obviously forgot to pull out in time
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>i'm on the mini pill, its fine, its just like the normal pill but i've found it fucks with my hormones less
Who was the mom/dad?
>some 19 year old friend of a friend
What was your relationship like?
>we never had a relationship, up until that night we were just kind of acquaintances
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>i never told him, i thought it'd be weird because i didn't know him that well and because by the time i realised i was pregnant i was dating someone else anyway
What is your relationship with them now?
>he was jealous i got together with someone else but i think we're on good terms now
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait?
>don't be a moron and have sex at 14 because it literally isn't old enough to know what you're doing
Are you more cautious now?
>absolutely
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>i miscarried pretty early
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
>nope
Did you have he baby?
>no thank god
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>nope
Are you raising him/her?
>nope
How has it changed your life?
>not at all really, but it gave me some wisdom maybe
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
>be careful
>>17314886
Whenever it gets hard, whenever you think you can't go on, whenever you are wondering what you did to deserve this, just remember one thing; You are solely to blame for it. Nobody else is at fault for your own stupid ass mistake. You chose to give birth to a savage, blood sucking monster while pretending it was a "miracle".
>>17315577
Would you have had the baby if you hadn't miscarried? What was wrong with your parents that you were getting drunk and fucking at 14? I certainly don't blame you, but were you extra devious, or were your parents MIA?
>>17315588
I wouldn't have had it, I was researching abortions and looking into booking it etc and then I miscarried
Where I live you don't have to get parents permission or knowledge to get an abortion so I wanted to do that
My parents were good parents but where I grew up, or among my social groups at the time, most of the people I knew were getting drunk and/or fucking at 14, usually both. Lots of my friends lost their virginities at like 11 or 12, so I wanted to fit in and grow up I guess
>>17310998
So why aren't they a thing of the past lol
Bumpy
I'm 21. I fucked up and got my girlfriend pregnant almost right before I was going to dump her. Baby is due in November.
So far pretty depressed. Feel like I'm losing my motivation to even leave my house. Still with the girl but have a feeling she will be a BIG continuous future problem for me just judging by the fact that she loses her shit often and abandons all logic.
>>17316848
This
How old were you?
>22
How did it happen?
>My IUD failed
What contraception method were you using?
>Mirena
Were you using it properly?
>it's inserted in a physicians office but apparently it had moved thus becoming ineffective
What went wrong?
>it moved
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>if you're super irresponsible, get something you don't have to take daily
Who was the mom/dad?
>my fiancé at the time
What was your relationship like?
>it was extremely volatile. He was emotionally abusive and I made excuses for him. He was a doctor so I was constantly excusing his fits on a stressful day and whatnot.
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>He said if I had the baby I would be a single mom and he would leave me or we could stay together if I had an abortion
What is your relationship with them now?
>haven't spoken to him in 3ish years
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
>he was my fiancé so it wasn't like I was banging strangers. I had planned on marrying him but the pregnancy is what finally gave me the courage to leave.
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>I wanted it but I aborted super early right at 6 weeks, 1 day.
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
>yes, the clinic itself was extremely compassionate but I was distraught. We did the pill but I had to abort at his sisters house in the basement because no one knew.
Did you have he baby?
>no
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>na
Are you raising him/her?
>no
How has it changed your life?
>I went into a major depression afterwards. I felt incomplete and empty. My relationship eventually ended and I felt so much better. I started seeing a therapist and thinks got better
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
>give yourself time to heal and understand that all the emotions you feel will eventually stop. It gets better.
Bedtime bump
>>17310290
>unplanned pregnancy
Here's my advice to women:
Don't be a slut
And now my advice to men:
Don't fuck sluts
>>17318632
If you actually read any of the fucking posts on this thread you'd realize how most of these don't result from slutty behaviour/fucking sluts
This thread makes me really happy I broke it off with my previous GF. So fucking glad I did not get her pregnant, that would be a life of misery.
Thanks guys.
How old were you?
21
How did it happen?
We had a miscarriage from unprotected sex that then led to the decision to stay practicing unprotected sex
What contraception method were you using?
Pullout and occasionally condoms
Were you using it properly?
Pullout-yes until the miscarriage
Condoms-yes
What went wrong?
Drunken sex led to weak pullout game
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
She got the shot in the arm one.but she is really spotty all the time.she had the patch when we first met but that gave her bad symptoms of nausea and very heavy monthly bleeding for about three days
Who was the mom/dad?
My girlfriend
What was your relationship like?
Rocky at first, occasional bouts still today but very strong bond
How did they handle the pregnancy?
Very scared at first before the miscarriage but because of how I reacted they felt much more trusting
What is your relationship with them now?
Still together
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait?
Have sex with whomever you feel emotion toward, save the one night stands and party sex for college age Are you more cautious now?
Definitely, even though we can financially afford to have our son we cannot afford another child
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
Fine, I've always wanted a baby especially a son but I hadn't planned it this early, I just had to prepare for giving the nightlife sooner than expected
Did you have he baby?
Yes? Or is supposed to mean deliver the baby...then no.
What was pregnancy and birth like?
A definite transition from complete freedom and independence to sleeping early and not doing much.
Are you raising him/her?
Yes
How has it changed your life?
For the better. I no longer do reckless shit and love having a son to care for
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
Save money once you find out, and always have supplies before you need them. Do not be complacent with safe sex if you can't afford to.
>>17318741
this thread is atleast giving me a little solace in being a virgin who has never had to deal with these things
No.17310290▶>>17312196 >>17313561 >>17314886 >>17318632
Let's have a thread about unplanned pregnancy to maybe
How old were you?
>22
How did it happen?
>birds n bees
What contraception method were you using?
>The pill
Were you using it properly?
>Apparently not
What went wrong?
>he wasn't interested in condoms or the word no
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>don't stay or sleep with someone you don't really love
Who was the mom/dad?
>Boyfriend at the time
What was your relationship like?
>emotional abuse and constant guilt
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>probably happy... anything that gave him more control
What is your relationship with them now?
>there is none
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
>don't sleep with anyone who doesn't truly respect you
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>I wasn't sure what to do. I was terrified and I felt so guilty for not being able to provide for a tiny person.
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
>medically induced miscarriage. I hemmoraged really badly, and fell out in my living room. Woke up in an ambulance, and had to tell the doctors and paramedics that I'd terminated the pregnancy. I've never felt more alone in my life
How has it changed your life?
>it completely destroyed my life. I started using opiates and the relationship crumbled. I'm clean now... but my sex drive has yet to return and it's been 4 years. My husband (a gentle and amazing man) is currently helping me put the wreckage back together. I'm even allowed to say no to sex now, without it being the end of the world....
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
>never, ever sleep with someone who you can't count on 100%. Never sleep with someone you can't imagine being tied to for the rest of your life. Things can happen and it isn't worth the lifetime of questions you may be left with afterwards.
Why are women so keen on keeping their baby even when they are ill-equipped to raise one or it isn't the right time? It really baffles me, maybe I just can't empathize because I hate babies.
>>17318770
Yeah, but you aren't really living life either, kys.
Me and the wife were 26 and she had been sick for a bit so the pill was not fully effective. We were starting to get excited for it...then she had a miscarriage. That was hard on both us and ut put some serious strain in tje marriages. Plus it turns out that i have a low sperm count and before was a fluke. After that we want kids and it now looks like we have to use ivf.
More stories
>>17310974
>all three times
Wait, three times? anon you are a slow learner.
>>17320813
I think they decided to stay together/marry after the first pregnancy and had 2 more kids during that time.
>>17311084
I'm not entirely sure. I think I've always had an attraction to guys, but I never really had the gall to actually let one sleep with me. I'm probably bisexual, but these days I'm not really into labeling my sexuality and I haven't been with a girl since I was 18.
>>17314816
Lol fuck off. It's not that hard to find a guy who wants to get his dick wet, hell even if I do have a little munchkin running around.
>>17314943
Hey man I can't help it. It's my fetish. Just like yours is jerkin it to lolis.
How old were you?
25
How did it happen?
no bc
What contraception method were you using?
pull out
Were you using it properly?
yes
What went wrong?
he just intentionally didn't pull out one time
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
no advice on this
Who was the mom/dad?
my husband
What was your relationship like?
pretty good, could be a bit more support but we don't ever argue or anything so pretty happy I'd say
How did they handle the pregnancy?
OK
What is your relationship with them now?
still married
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
well I mean iv only been with the one guy so I can't really tell on this.
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
no
Did you have he baby?
yes
What was pregnancy and birth like?
good miss being pregnant and feeling that little life growing inside me. birth was hard but I did it all natural. only bad part is i feel really insecure about sexual stuff now. don't look as good as I did before the baby.
Are you raising him/her?
yes shes my life I love her more then anything else in the world. it's like an all consuming thing, I feel overwhelmed by how much I love and want to care for her.
How has it changed your life?
the love I have for her is a big change but my day to day life is pretty similar. work, take care of my husband's other wonderful kido just now I have a baby to take care of to.
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
that if your in a stable relationship with someone you love an unplanned pregnancy can be a good thing. I wish we had more money, were a bit better off in life before having more kids, but the surprise of having my daughter is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I love her so much I'd find a way to give her a good childhood no matter how much extra work and responsibility it takes.
>>17318632
>Don't be a slut.
So, if I don't want kids yet, I'm not supposed to fuck... My husband?? Go die.
