TL;DR: I snooped through my boyfriend's phone when I thought he was asleep, I guess he wasn't because now he's upset with me. What do?
My boyfriend had a bachelor party this weekend with his friends. They were supposed to go to strippers with dinner then home to party (girlfriends included). The guys argued a lot, ended up saying they were ordering escorts to the house and no one else was allowed coming. I got a bit anxious but understood. Boyfriend said they didn't even get escorts after all.
I saw him yesterday, he was hung over, spent most of the day napping. Come night time I was going to spend the night but couldn't, I couldn't shake the anxiety i had. I made the mistake of checking his phone. I saw he was looking at escorts (I expected) and also porn. I figured he was horny from the party and wanted to rub one out since I wasn't around, that's cool for me, I flick the bean daily.
He also had a hard time getting to sleep, and I guess he wasn't sleeping very much. He must have been half-awake or even pretending to sleep when I went through his phone.
I tried calling and texting him this morning, he didn't answer. Later he answered that he took the day off work and was sleeping in. I asked if he felt ok, yep. I said I was sorry I left but I didn't want to wake him, he said its ok. I felt tension so I asked if he was upset that I left, his response was "No...not for leaving", I guess implying he knew I snooped through his phone. What the heck do I do now? I'm on damage control and never did this before, dunno how to handle it. I feel like a dick.
Sounds like he needs a little space. Everyone here will jump to conclusions but they know no better than you. There's many possibilities for why he is feeling the way he is. Sure maybe he's upset you looked through your phone but maybe he feels weird from being around escorts when he loves his fiancé or maybe he is nervous about the next step in his life or countless other things. I'd give him some space and let him open up when he's ready. But that's just me use your best judgment.
Coming from a 24 year old guy who has never been in your position so take that however you want.
>>17299194
>They were supposed to go to strippers with dinner then home to party (girlfriends included). The guys argued a lot, ended up saying they were ordering escorts to the house and no one else was allowed coming. I got a bit anxious but understood. Boyfriend said they didn't even get escorts after all.
STOP BEING WITH NORMALFAGS.
[spoiler] be with me I'll never do this to you for fuck sakes. If only I wasn't an insecure virgin... [/spoiler]
If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't be partying with escorts and stripper, bachelor party or not.
Or if I was, I certainly wouldn't tell you about it, are you a cuckqueen or something?
>>17299257
I'm trying to give him space. He agreed to meet up later to talk about this past weekend, but neither he has mentioned the snooping and I have not admitted to it either. I just wrote I was sorry in reference to last night.
>>17299266
Trust me sometimes I wish this too haha...
>>17299282
I'm not, no, but he felt I guess like being honest was the best idea. It was, to an extent...I didn't really need to know they were ordering whores to his house and suddenly I wasn't allowed being there because of that. Makes me wonder what would have gone on had they gotten one.
Looking through his phone is shitty. Bachelor parties where you fuck a hooker is super shitty (and no, it's not okay because it's a bachelor party).
It's pretty simple though. You need to talk more. Both of you.
>>17299306
I hope you two settle this and in 5 years when you're both happy die in a terrible house fire
fucking normalfags
>>17299374
>Bachelor parties where you fuck a hooker is super shitty (and no, it's not okay because it's a bachelor party).
That's what made me super uncomfortable. The idea of my boyfriend going to strippers, getting a lapdance, I'm totally fine with that. It was the whole ordering an escort to his house to "hang out, have some drinks and smoke some weed" (literally what they were messaging these girls). A stripper is a stripper, an escort is a party favor if you know what I mean.
I know we need to talk I'm just nervous on how to bring this up to him. I know I'm a dick for going through his phone, and he'll be upset and hurt, I just don't want to hurt him more.
You shouldn't have snooped, instead you should have just said that having a prostotite over when he was drunk and high made you very uncomfortable. I would not be okay with that. My boyfriend wouldn't go to a trashy bachelor party like that ever. He wouldn't want to hang out with a hooker. The fact that your BF thought that was normal and pkay is A HUGE red flag... But you should have told him you weren't play with it beforehand instead of snooping afterwards. You're both in the wrong. It's good that he wants to talk it out. Make sure you explain how sorry you are and how you know what you did was immature and shitty but you were disturbed that he would be okay with "hanging out" with a prostotite
>>17299384
Cry more you fat autist
Strippers are fine as long as you don't touch, but escorts exist for fucking, not teasing.
Why on earth would he think it was okay in the first place? Even if he didn't cheat on you, he was thinking about it.
Fuck the whole phone thing, that's nothing compared to going to a bachelor party where they order whores.
>>17299408
I feel like he was influenced by his friends. When I found the escort pages on his phone I was a bit curious because they said they were using the laptop to search for it. Why would he have it on his phone if that was the case?
But yeah I was okay with the strippers but really uncomfortable at the idea of hiring a whore to chill, drink and smoke weed. Escorts don't dance, they fuck, plain and simple. I asked him about it a bit yesterday. He said his friends all felt like it wouldn't be a bachelor without titties, and they couldn't all agree on a strip joint, so they decided on escorts at home. Weird. Very weird.
>>17299434
Basically the guys were arguing the whole time about where to go to eat, then where to go to strippers, and they couldn't agree on anything. Apparently spent an hour in the parking lot deciding on a strip joint or escorts, and they chose whores.
>>17299266
Reeeeee
Once you get a gf you will ditch the robot shit and become a normie, get blowies from strippers at bachelor parties, finger random girls in clubs. Trust me it happened to me and I think the longer you're a robot the more extreme you will be as a normie.
Nothing to do you've outed yourself as an untrusting sneaky ho, now you need to see if he'll accept the real you.
>>17299415
nice insult normalfag
next you'll call me gay right?
boring
>>17299503
Kill yourself tripfag
>>17299503
Can you stick to one trip ffs so I can block you?
>>17300256
>>17299520
No
>>17299266
>>17299487
OP this is why you need an actual wholesome guy instead of a "normie/chad" or a "robot". Trust me, I am fortunate to have found one who doesn't do stuff like strip clubs or escorts.
>>17300265
How did you meet?
>>17300265
Wholesome dudes are actually some of the worst. Every single dude would cheat if they knew nothing bad would happen.
>>17300282
The classic "everyone is secretly shit so that makes me being shit not as shitty".
er..
desu, this would be a dealbreaker for me. Strippers, fine, but hookers? At a private residence? Um, no. That is not normal.
What the fuck is he expecting you to feel? Was he expecting you to not wonder about his fidelity when there were actual whores at his stag party?
Fucking disgusting.
>>17300295
I agree anon. Fuck him. He pull this shit I would be snooping too and to beat hell OP saw he searched for escorts. Come on people, if someone is doing shit that is shady do what is necessary to protect yourself. If that means checking that phone, fucking check that phone.
>>17300295
>>17300314
you are both untrustworthy whores. why be in a relationship if you don't trust someone and are going to be invading their privacy whenever you feel like it?
>>17300314
I mean she's going to be MARRYING the guy. Marrying a guy that orders strippers for his stag. I could see outrage over her snooping on his phone if she had no reason to suspect anything, but when you tell your fiancee that you're having whores at your stag party... what the fuck do you expect.
>>17300320
So if your fiancee said there would be male escorts at her bachelorette you wouldn't wonder, dude?
>>17300326
You have to take it farther than that. Add in it was originally going to be strippers while out eating, then a party with boyfriends included. Instead, the girls decide to go home and get escorts. And the boyfriends are now absolutely not allowed.
Totally not cucked, you should trust your SO always regardless of what they do.
lol what the fuck was he thinking?
You both should apologize, but I think he's the one that needs to be explaining to you what the fuck prostitutes were doing at his party. He most likely got a blowie at the very least and feels a bit guilty about it.
>>17300346
you are fucking crazy. Trust isn't a fucking luxury naively given but earned. Shady actions then potential trust issues and I'm gonna confirm.
>>17300353
I think that is exactly what happened. He fucked some escort and cannot look OP in the face now.
