How do I stop liking my friend?
short background:
we've known each-other for more than 3 years, we see each-other about once a month, and (lately) we chat every other day
it's really annoying to be attracted to them because we've already discussed it a while ago and it became clear that I'm the only one attracted to the other in this way; I mean I could check again in a month or so just to be super clear and sure but I'm quite certain that's the situation
yes I've already tried hobbies, I have plenty, I stay busy most of the time and I have other friends that I go out with
so
what do?
if there's no mildly easy way out, that's fine as well, I'll deal with it until it fiddles out I guess
to me the fastest way would be to find another partner, but I know that's not gonna happen any time soon, and I'll be jelly when they find someone else (although they're not in a hurry or anything)
>>17296540
I'm deaIing with a similar situation. I have become a burden to her; she wont say it directly but she gives me signs. So I force myself to keep our distance. It's not easy, but if you truly care for your friend, you'd do whats best for him/her. It's what they'd want. Make it easy on them.
>>17296540
>mildly attracted to them
>them
Undertale genders don't count, use He/She like a normal person.
>whole post is ldr shit and being a pansy ass faggot
You know damn well what the answer is, and of course, it ain't easy. Literally ignore them slowly or cut ties immediately. Done.
And I'm being damn nice when I don't mention that you're attracted to a fucking screen, and not an actual person.
Also, quit verbosity, that gets annoying.
My mammalian-reptilian sophisticated highly complex paragon of a brain couldn't handle so much exquisitely high wordplay in one not-simple and downright utterly high-word counted sentence.
>>17296643
nah I'm not there yet and probably won't be
I've learned how to deal with stuff like this a bit better from other experiences
we actually communicate very well, there's no weird tension or anything
>>17296663
the fuck are you on about nigga there's no ldr here
and why the fuck would I want to cut contact if we get along so well? I'm the problem here and I want to fix it, not take it out on others
fucking american problem solving
>hurr durr how do we get rid of problem?
>cover our ears, scream lalalala, and ignore it until it goes away
>or blow it up
What I meant is: thank you for your feedback, I will take it into account in future endeavors, but I am looking for a more cooperative solution with my friend rather than an autistic "we can't be friends no mo' cuz I lieks u"
>>17296540
lol you fucking autist, i'll give you a plan that'll get you over your wishy washy self. get erect, like furiously erect/horny. find your favorite porn that hits the spot and make a video of you erect/aroused. now send that video to your crush. tell them you understand their feelings but would they like a one night stand? bone them like crazy if they accept, move on with your life if they don't.
and if you're too fat for this scheme to work, why are you even asking? the first thing you need to do is become attractive to the opposite sex
thanks /adv/
stay helpful
>>17296920
/adv/ isn't a safespace hugbox, you're still on 4chan.
You're not looking for help, you're looking for one or more of the following:
>attention
>pity
>someone to tell you exactly what you want to hear
For all intents and purposes, you're a woman. If you think you're male and your friend is a girl, there you have your problem, she's not attracted to women, become a man. If you're actually female, lose those extra pounds.
The above is actually a whole lot easier than trying to solve the problem by getting mad at people on an anonymous malaysian knitting website who tell you uncomfortable truths you already knew.
"Learning to not be attracted to someone anymore" is impossible and you know it.
If all else fails, just move on and forget them. "we've known each other for more than 3 years", what are you? 16?
>>17297142
>its 4chan so only shitposting is allowed
Please allow yourself out. 4chan actually is capable of good advice not from morons who are memeing like retards constantly. Not OP here btw.
>>17297153
No amount of empty buzzwords will my what I said any less true. Don't come to 4chan if you just want a hug.
>>17297142
This guy is actually right. The truth isn't shitposting. I like this guy.
>>17296540
Seriously op, the only real world solution here is to either distance yourself or deal with it. Either way, take off your Tumblr shit filled diaper and accept the hard realities and quit the rhetoric.
I guess I'll just deal with it
>If you think you're male and your friend is a girl, there you have your problem, she's not attracted to women, become a man.
I didn't understand much of this desu
hugbox or not, most of the posts in this thread are useless and/or bullshit rants
even one-liners like >>17297165 are more useful , minus the unnecessary tumblr remark (wherever that came from), than your half-assed speeches about what I'm actually looking for; the OP states it pretty clearly
but so >>17297165 what rhetoric are you referring to?
really I figured this much myself, that I either distance myself or deal with it; was wondering if there's some other solution that I wasn't seeing; probably would've gone better if I had mentioned that from the start
>>17297153
on a side-note, /adv/ is really really hit or miss
I've had very nice people give very clear, constructive advice that has actually helped me
and then there's times when you only get lame, prejudice filled rants wrapped in some red-pilled/real-world moral-high-horse "advice"
sure sometimes you need some reality check and tough love, but it would go better if it was made to sound more reasonable, or based in some form of logic
