My boyfriend stopped having sex with me 9months ago. Now he barely even kisses me. What could be wrong with me?
Talk to him about this? Have you tried initiating sex? Did he refuse? What are his excuses or theres none? Obviously theres no communication if this is going on for 9 months.
>>17291854
How's your hygene and sex life? Both now and before?
Could be he's losing interest.
Have a talk with him about it. Maybe the issue is him.
Also if you're a boring plank in bed then maybe that's why, but I don't see that being a reason to stop kissing or anything.
>>17291867
Good enough.
>>17291854
Why is it a gif though.
Here's getting it somewhere else, and that somewhere else is in the ass. From a dude. Because he's gay.
>>17291867
Talked to him multiple times, tried initiating and he always rejected me, saying he wasn't in the mood. He says he just doesn't feel horny anymore.
>>17291854
Ask him nicely what's wrong, if he refuses to tell you then be persistent. 9 months is a really long time, you should've done something about earlier, this isnt healthy.
>9 months
And you still haven't cheated on him?
>>17291893
No. Why would I? I only want him.
>>17291886
Already asked him nicely, I even told him I wasn't pressuring him. I think he's getting depressed tho.
>>17291883
Well buy some sexy lingerie. Or try watching porn with him. If hes not in a mood then, its his problem and you shouldnt suffer because he have issues hes unable to fix, comon 9 months!
My theory is maybe hes not attracted to you anymore and he watches porn and faps to it, so hes never really horny anymore. My guess. Sorry if it turn out to be like that. My ex wanted to smash it even after his grandmas funeral.
What country are you in ?
>>17291904
But there is a thing called being too nice. You can't live without love like that, he's kind of an asshat for refusing to talk about it. It's a relationship and you need to work from both sides.
>>17291917
I thought so too, but when I asked him that, he said "if that was the case, I would break up with you".
Tie him down on your bed and ride him
This is eerily similar to the situation with my girlfriend.
>>17291893
>>17291930
Don't listen to this whore. She just wants you to be as dead inside like her. She couldn't stick with just one guy even if he was putting out.
>>17291917
>My theory is maybe hes not attracted to you anymore
Why do people always jump to this conclusion? Everyone always says this and it never turns out to be true.
>>17291854
most likely it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and he wouldnt fuck [insert whoever is meant to be super hot these days] either
>>17291956
Maybe he has cancer. Is that better?
>>17291967
Similarly a baseless assertion, and almost always wrong.
mfw this thread
>>17291971
I think you went too far there.
>>17291949
Jesus man we're two diffrent persons. Cheating is fucking wrong. I just want her to realise she can't just blame herself, he has faults too.
suck his cock
Well he he cant say a reason, think you should push him to explain himself. If he cares about you he will explain himself, and try to do better. If not hes not worth it. Hes hurting you by treating you like this, and if he cant see it, Maybe he doesnt give a fuck anymore. If he doesnt explain himself or even try maybe youre better off with someone who will appreciate you.
>>17291949
Dude, did you just call me a whore?
>>17291991
Yes
You said he might be depressed - lower sex drive is a very common symptom with depression. It can also make someone irritable and aloof (that's very much how I was when I struggled with it).
Chances are it's him, not you. And even if it is an issue with your sexual compatibility, remember that that doesn't mean you're ugly or unloveable.
Just try and be more open and start a conversation. If he isn't willing to do that, however, it may be time to move on.
>>17291893
I mean honestly he beat me to it
>>17291949
look at what u wrote lol
>>17292004
Awesome!
>>17292018
Yeah, I've avoided pressuring him exactly because of that. I started this thread because I wanted to see various points of views on the situation.
>>17292043
have you gotten fatter recently?
>>17292049
No. I'm 152cm and 46kg.
>>17292055
I worry, similar situation with my girlfriend, except she's 75kg
Low sex drive can be caused from many reasons, Stress, Dieting, Hormonal imbalances
so let me break down some options.
1. Low sex drive due to external causes (see above)
2. Low sex drive due to internal causes (Your sexual availability, Your hygein, Your Body may have changed.
3. External sexual stimulation. (This dose not need to be physical it can be emotional)
It is one of these 3 unfortunatly thats all we can tell you with out getting alot more information about his and your life.
>>17292043
>I've avoided pressuring him exactly because of that
That's kind of you, but it's probably not what he needs. Take it from someone who ruined several relationships because I refused to deal with my mental health. Yes, he'll probably be touchy about it, but if you don't push him a bit he may never get the help he needs. It's very possible his depression could ruin the relationship if you don't act.
How old are u both? Are you living together?
>>17291854
>>17292077
I can help more if you wish but i would require personal information such as
Height,Weight, Age, Occupation, Living conditions, Etc
>>17291854
I wouldn't take everything everyone is saying to heart.
Your Boyfriend sounds really depressed, Don't find reasons to blame yourself.
>>17292018
I wouldn't say that he's lost interest in you, just his own self interest. If he lost interest in you it sounds like he would have actually broken it off. Can you think of any reason why he would stay with you and cheat on you?
>>17291937
Something must have happened that he hasn't told you about or he's gone down a wrong path
Let him know that you care about him and you're worried and its also affecting you, and most importantly that you're willing to work this out with him.
If there's some issue, try and get him to talk about it.
If there isn't maybe he's just generally depressed, and he should go see someone about it.
Applying pressure isn't going to just make him talk. Just let him know that you care, and you're here for him, and he'll eventually ease out.
We're all human.
>>17292084
I'm 26 and he's 25. He have a long distance relationship but we plan on moving in together once our finances are stable.
>>17292097
fucking hitting home OP
legit similar situation
>>17291854
>What could be wrong with me?
Have you considered the possibility that the issue isn't with you, but with your partner? That's pretty common in cases like these: far from universal, but perhaps as many as half.
There is only one way to be sure, though: you're going to have to talk about this with him. We don't have the answers: we don't know him, and we don't know you. The best we can do is tell you where the answers can be found.
>can't even get a gf
>there are guys out there completely ignoring what they have
This happened to me OP
Turns out he was going through some stuff and didn't feel comfortable talking with me about it. Give him an open, judgment free space to talk to you about whats going on.
(okay so he was discovering he's bisexual and wanted to have sex with men and explore that side. Yes we broke up but that was more because of his fear and lack of communication than anything else.)
>>17291854
This is going to sound harsh but it probably means he just wants to break up and is too scared to do it.
hes cheating , get out.
Agree with the other anons; it's him, not you.
Voice your concern with him in a non-judgmental manner, but be strict. Tell him he needs to get help.
>>17291854
How was sex before you stopped having sex?
Any clues there?
>>17293459
He could just be too bored of sex to try anymore
I feel like that a lot
>>17291854
Oh man. The relationship is over. Whatever his problem is, it's HIS problem
>>17291854
Honestly sounds like a health problem. Have his testosterone levels checked.
>>17293446
Doesn't seem likely. At the end of the day, we are still animals and need sex. Is he still masturbating?
