Why would you want to see all the german cei hypno videos he watches in a chastity belt?

I think this is the only thread where "get a hobby" is a proper response.

What? Instead, why don't you just end the relationship?

>>17290829
Because I still love him. This thread isn't about what I should do about my relationship. I just want to see what he looks at.

>>17290820
You're stupid if you remain in that relation, psycho bitch.

>>17290820
PSYCHO CRAZY

>>17290834
Well you can just get on his devices when he's not there and look at his browsing history. You know that.

But the real advice and the hard truth is that love is not what makes relationships work.

Trust, honesty, openness, communication, and respect are what makes them work. This current arrangement has none of these.

>>17290820
What do you mean by cheating? Fapping? Honest question to everyone, is that considered cheating?

>>17290983
no, that's retarded

>>17290820
Don't date someone you can't trust. Don't stay with a cheater. Break it off, and save the both of you a lot of trouble.

>>17290820

Well, I would advise breaking up with him.

Seeing as you're not going to do that, start looking into keyloggers. By sifting through what the keyloggers record, you should be able to see his passwords for social media, his search history and the like, and you'll be able to investigate who he's talking to on fb, as that's most likely to be your real problem.

I'd advise that if you did this though, you'd never be able to trust him again.

>>17290820
Love isn't the most important thing in a relationship.
Dump him if you can't trust him. If you choose to be with him, stop being a bitch and trust him.

>>17290834
This is going to be a rabbit's hole. Do you honestly think that if you look and you see that there's nothing shady there, you'll feel happy and trusting and at peace? Or do you think in a week the urge to look will creep up on you again, until you're stuk in a vicious cycle?

Trust is not something that comes from info like this. He can always delete messages and hide traces. Trust comes from having faith in another person and that's not something you can compensate for with superficial measures like keeping track of what he's doing online. If you really want to stay with him, the only way to try to rebuild your relationship is by trying to trust him again based on his character and actions towards you.

>but I can't
Then what you should do is obvious.

>>17290983
Only by a handful of people with issues.

Get him to sign a binding contract that says if he cheats he must be legally castrated

That will stop him

Pretty much this, OP: >>17290936

It sounds like you're immature and mistaking feelings of loneliness, desperation, a need for attention, or temporary security as being "love." This isn't your fault - I was the same way in my late teens/early 20s when I thought I was "in love" with a habitual liar because he was sweet to me, we had so much fun together, and came from similar backgrounds. But I eventually realized it wasn't love at all. I never felt secure in our relationship. In reality, I was just lonely and his company temporarily filled the void until I figured out what I really needed in a relationship.

Thing is, I was given this exact same advice at the time and did nothing with it. I expect you'll do the same. But it is the truth. This is not a relationship that will last. Until you finally pull the plug and rebuild, expect it to cause lots of hurt, frustration, and humiliation in the meantime.

>>17290820
Been there, done this. It's really not worth trying to repair, and seriously looking at who he talks to or what porn he's watching will only make it worse. I understand where you come from when you say you love him, your feelings should never be doubted, however his should be. The moment any one feels any thing towards someone else, that part of your relationship has gone. He will never learn, other than he learnt he could get away with it and let me guess did he blame you? Was it something you weren't giving him? Your incompatible he can't keep your trust and he can't keep it in his pants. Honey trust, get out of it find yourself a fuck buddy. Enjoy yourself get what he did to you out your system then find someone who truly respects you and values YOU!

>>17290834
>Because I still love him.
No, you don't. Not if you can't bring yourself to truse him. I do not say this to judge you as a person: most people can't, after this kind of boundary violation. But knowing that this is how you're reacting, you need to leave. It's better for you, and it's better for him, despite the short-term pain.

There IS an alternative: deliberate refusal to distrust him, until sheer force of habit brings your emotional instincts around. This is, however, a long and unpleasant process, and you still don't get to do power-and-control bullshit like snooping through his browser history. I do not recommend it for your particular case.

I'm married with 2 children. After several months of odd behavior and increased secrecy, I began to think that she was hiding something from me so I had a relationship talk with her. She swore things were fine and she just missed family in another state. After her behavior became more erratic, I discovered that my wife was having an online relationship with another woman halfway across the country. Mind you, she was pretending to be a man, but the lies had a lot of truth mixed in. Nevermind the fact that she was using pictures of a male friend of hers and our son to do it. I read the chatlogs of this highly sexual relationship and it was pretty heartbreaking. We had been going through some financial problems and come to find out she'd sent the girl several gifts over $100 - $200. I confronted her with the facts and she swore things weren't the way they seemed and that she was just bored and lonely. She called it off, deleted her social media and things were quiet for a while. Several weeks later, I noticed an increase in her phone usage and how it never left her side. Distrust lead me to checking her texting recipients on the phone records and there was the girl's number. I came home from work because I just couldn't function and walked in on her sexting with the girl. We had a divorce discussion and she swore it was over.

Fast forward 3 months. Her computer is always locked, her phone is always in hand, she is acting strange, the distrust has ruined our relationship.

Tl;dr If you ever want your relationship to function, do not start spying. If you can't trust him/her, keeping tabs on them is just more painful than any alternative.