So I'm a virgin male strongly into BDSM and I'm getting a little desperate. I'm pondering the idea of hiring a dominatrix on backpage. I looked around on there and found a few younger ones in my area. Is there anything I should know before hiring one? Has anyone here ever had any experience with this kind of thing?
Bump. Looking for the same info
OP here, another bump.
>>17290736
Any decent dom will have a long talk with you first, to see what your fantasies are and what level of pain/humiliation/etc you are most comfortable with (and then she'll push you just a bit beyond that comfort zone)
If she doesn't insist on having this talk with you first, you're dealing with an amateur who might seriously (and not enjoyably) harm you.
>>17290736
Make sure you have an established safeties with whomever you are playing with. Popular is the red/yellow/green model, red being an immediate stop, yellow to lower intensity, green being speed up. Find a dom in your area and explain your fetishes, figure out prices anonymously, meet somewhere public, in person to feel each other out, and set up a separate time to meet and play in private. if you have the time, anonymously browse Fetlife for members of the scene who have played with that person before. Take it slow your first time, and ramp it up as trust is established. Have fun!
t. Scer
>>17292092
Would most doms even be willing to work with a virgin? I would think that the community is more cautious than that.
>>17292140
*Safe words.
>>17292143
why would they be cautious of virgins?
>>17292164
Logically, they probably wouldn't want to "work" with someone who doesn't really know what exactly they're into or where their limits lie. There's a clear danger of them getting injured solely because they overestimated themselves.
>>17292174
>There's a clear danger of them getting injured solely because they overestimated themselves.
I can see that being a concern, but I would think some doms would be able to work around that by testing the waters starting with milder, more entry-level activities and working their way up over a few sessions. but then the sub would have to be realistic about their noobness and not start demanding level 99 treatment right off the bat.
>>17290736
Don't do that shit desu. Lose your virginity to someone who cares about you.
>>17292212
I'm not so much desperate about the virginity part, it's the wanting to practice BDSM part. You can hire doms without having sex with them
>>17292212
he can go to a dom and stay a virgin. a lot of them don't fuck anyway, they just do domination.
>>17292174
I'm sure a pro dom would know how to and has probably worked with virgins who are curious. Even if I were to go there and say "I've never done this but I want you to destroy me physically and mentally", they'd have the common sense to say no
>>17292547
>they'd have the common sense to say no
Exactly what I said.
>>17292565
Oh fuck, wrong reply, my bad. It was meant for >>17292143
>>17290736
How are you strongly into something you've never tried?
>tumblr
Oh
>>17292630
Okay, that's actually a valid question but I have a valid set of answers
>have only ever been able to jack off to bdsm pornography
>never been able to cum to anything else and trust me, i've tried
>have a very submissive personality, something that a lot of others comment on
>have fantasized about it for nearly my whole life
>even did things like self bondage since I was as young as 9
And to comment on the file name of the photo, I downloaded it from somewhere else on 4chan. That was already the file name
final bump then ill let thread die
