I can´t stop ruminating on bad thoughts and memories. I made a bad decision some months ago and I just can´t stop thinking about; it´s on my mind every single day. Sometimes it´s just for 1 or 2 minutes and I can put those thoughts on the back of my mind, but other days it affects my mood in a brutal way. I´ve tried to let it go because the reality is that I can´t fix the situation, but so many times it comes back to make me very sad.
Do you have any tips on how to permanently get rid of a specific train of though?
What'd you do?
>>17288391
Just make more bad decisions so you have something new to obsess over.
I tried spending as much time as I can with friends, I tried reading a lot, I tried to overcome those nagging thoughts by writing songs, I tried sleeping with other people, I tried occupying myself with manual labor like fixing a stairway and putting up shelves, but nothing has worked so far.
I still find myself constantly ruminating on bad thoughts. I don´t want to go to a shrink because I can´t afford one and my parents would never allow me to go to one. I am 22 btw
No one is perfect. There are times when I wish I could go back in time and undo months of memories.
Find a coping mechanism.
>>17288404
That is very funny
>>17288414
Ok, but how? What is your coping mechanism?
>>17288429
Drinking, but I can handle my liquor.
>>17288431
Damn, that is a hard coping mechanism. Can I ask what is it that you are trying to avoid thinking?
>>17288413
Try this
Close your eyes (or dont) and focus on your breathing. Take deep breaths
Whatever thoughts come up don't react to the emotion it provokes.
Understand that mistakes are there for us to learn from. We all make bad decisions but dwelling on it only makes it worse.
Learn and let go as I like to put it.
