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TL;DR want to marry but still lusting over others, how to cope?
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TL;DR want to marry but still lusting over others, how to cope?

I've been dating this girl for many years. She wants to get married soon and start a family some day, and I do too. I love her, love being with her, think she's one of a kind, she makes my life better, and I think she'd make for a tremendous wife and mom.

However, I have one nagging, very petty issue, and it has to do with her appearance. Many would call her stunning, and I think she is too. But on the sexual side, I wish she were more petite, and that she had bigger boobs. I get really turned on by those aspects in women. My girlfriend doesn't have those, and I'm not as turned on by her as a result. We have a pretty good sex life, but she doesn't turn me on the way some past partners have.

Of course, it would crush her if she knew I had this doubt. What I'm trying to understand if it's a real concern or if it's some perfectionism or avoidance thing, or if I'd regret it later if I acted on it. For instance, if I decided it was a dealbreaker and I broke up with her over it, I mean I can't even picture that, it seems so ludicrous and like a waste of what is probably the love of my life.

When I'm with her, I feel deeply in love, there's not even a shred of doubt there. And yet, whenever I meet someone new, in the back of my mind I always wonder if I should be trying to find someone who hits all the same points my current partner does, but who turns me on more. I feel really petty typing this though as I could never just "replace" my current partner.

What would you do if you were me?
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You are a commitment phobe.

>But you are asking the wrong question.

Q=(1-P)
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If you marry her you'll be thinking of other people when you have sex.. Forevvvveerrr
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>>17270182
?

What's the important question?
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>>17270337
Can you imagine life without her?
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>>17270342

Yes. Life without her looks a lot less sure about the future. I'm probably looking for someone else and not having much luck, and wondering if I gave up the love of my life for no reason, and wondering if I gave up happiness for no good reason. Given how I'm prone to comparison, I would probably be comparing others to her for a very long time.
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>>17270172
you shouldnt be with someone that cant accept criticism. just think about the future years.
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>>17270172
I know the model. I went to HS with her. She's gotten kind of popular, huh?
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>>17270462
grace hartzel? I'd say so
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Send subliminal messages for her to get a boobjob
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Looks don't last though so even if you found a hotter girl they might not make you as happy and they might not be as attractive to you when they age
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is it bad if i said to talk to her about this? or will that just ruin OP's life

i mean, if you guys are close enough to be thinking about marriage, you guys should be able to communicate about issues like this right?

or maybe not, i dunno, dont take my word for it lol, good luck
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