My friend called me about an hour ago telling me she went to meet a friend (or who she thought was a friend) and he attacked and raped her. She won't go to police and she won't tell anyone but me. What can I do to help her get though this or bring justice to the fucking scum that did this?
Go to the police. How is this even a question?
>>17263769
Meet her and fuck her to take revenge on him
I can't. She won't tell me any details about who it was and I live 70 km away. I don't know how to help her but she is trying to act like it didn't happen.
"Just wanting it to be over" is a common attempt at coping. The problem is that not only does it allow the rapist to go free to rape again, it doesn't even work as a coping mechanism: all the effort it takes ultimately turns out to be for nothing. Human psychology does not work that way; you cannot bury trauma so easily. But victims continue to try anyway.
And absolutely none of what I've said above is even remotely useful to tell her. If you do, it will only push her away. So don't do it.
At the very least, she should talk to someone trained to handle these matters: a trauma counselor or something along those lines. Gently urge her -always gently- in that direction. "I'm honored that you would choose me to talk about this, and I'll listen as much as you want, but I can't give you everything you need. I just don't know how. So you need someone else too; someone who can do that stuff. Please, see a trauma counselor." Or something like that.
Also gently -again, always gently- urge her to go to the police. Alas, it is probably too late to gather evidence, but she should at least file a report. More practically speaking, she should also file for a restraining order against this so-called "friend" who did this to her. It would not do to have him continue to hurt her.
As for justice: I understand the urge only too well. But the first rule of the hunt is that if the victim tells you to stop, you STOP, that instant, no questions, no complaints. A good friend of mine was raped a few years ago, and although prosecutors were afraid to try the rape case, she was able to tip them off to something else that got him deported. I tracked that son of a bitch across international lines to his mother's house, and THEN she called me off. I don't think I've ever been more frustrated in my life, but I swallowed it all and I backed the fuck down, because that is what you DO. She has had too many of her wishes disrespected already, and does not need you to add more to the pile.
>>17263774
He's got no standing to do that. Only a party to the crime can file that kind of report: a victim, a perpetrator (i.e. turning oneself in), or their parents if they're minors.
>>17263867
True. Should have said "have her call the police". If she doesn't want to report it to the police, something fishy is going on.
>>17263769
Sounds like bullshit, why go to you if you don't even know this friend? What's his name? What's he look like? How long have you known friend? What were you meeting him for?
Every-time I hear stories like this the victim was doing something they shouldn't have been doing. Escorting, buying drugs, or just something. It doesn't make any sense to go to you and not keep it to herself if she won't go tot he police or tell anyone else.
Thanks man that is actually a good idea thats really good. I'm just scared for her because I dont think she is dealing with this right
>>17263863
sorry thought I replied right
>>17263898
She's a minor, she is just scared and doesnt know how to cope
>>17263888
There's nothing fishy going on. With the amount of horror stories about police and general knowledge that they don't give a fuck about rape cases, as well as the victim not wanting to have to relive the trauma and giving them every detail, it's very common rape victims just want to wish it away and not take action.
>>17263919
Yeah that doesn't exactly invalidate what that guy said
>>17263922
Yeah but I've known her for a long time she isnt the kind of person to be in that kind of trouble
>I had sex with this guy
>I'm not a slut
>I enjoyed it
>Did I really want it?
>I really do not want to be seen as easy
>Better say I was raped
>I'm raped!
>>17263949
>>17263942
I'm gonna assume you KNEW her for a long time, because you said yourself you're 70km away. If that's the case then people change and if not then people make mistakes. (especially minors).
In the end you really can't do anything for her at all because you don't know how it happened.
>>17263919
Don't do that.
>>17263965
This, no one ever KNEW their daughter or friend was lying about being raped. Its just not something any of us would assume about any(well most) other people.
But it happens, and its not that rare either.
>>17263965
>>17263949
>>17263972
>>17263898
You assholes are part of the problem. Go learn a bit about how people react to pain and trauma, then get sterilized or better yet, eat a bullet.
>>17264154
People like you are rapists and murderers.
>>17263920
If you are raped and go immediately get a rape kit done, it's an open and closed case
>>17264154
No, this person not going to the cops is the whole problem.
>>17264154
People like you are the problem. You're the reason for all the false rape accusation cases. If a girl is raped, she needs to go to the police immediately. No question. None of that "I was so traumatized I only called my internet friend 70km away" bullshit. Really, stop the first stranger you see, tell them what happened, and they will immediately help you to get to the police.
>>17263769
>he attacked and raped her
>She won't go to police
>she won't tell anyone but me
Consider all the options before you rush in and make a fool of yourself.
>she's making it up
Happens all the time. We all think our friends wouldn't do that kind of stuff, but it's surprisingly common.
>she slept with him willingly then regretted it
For whatever reason she jumped in to bed with him then got buyers remorse afterwards, and telling you she got raped is her method to make herself feel better.
>she's trying to set up a scam on you
3 months down the line she'll tell you she's pregnant and needs you to send her an envelope full of cash to get an abortion.
>it began as rape but then she started liking it
She probably didn't want it at first, but once she got good and wet she likley squirted for him then begged him to cum inside her. Now she just feels dirty because she knows it's wrong but she can't stop touching herself every time she thinks about it.
>>17264307
>>>/pol/
Anyway, tell her to go to the cops.
Just a random question. Everyone says go to the cops, but, what happens next? Do cops even care anymore?
>>17264307
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>>17264232
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>>17263949
> while researchers and prosecutors do not agree on the exact percentage of false allegations, they generally agree on a range of 2% to 10%
>2% to 10%
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape
>>17264959
Yes, if you're not in India.
>doesn't go to the cops
>expects anyone to care
did she deserve it? no
is she foolish? yes
>>17263769
if she didnt call the police then she enjoyed it. unless shes under age and cant feel anger. ( im a woman and im not autistic)
