Anyone else been in a long term relationship (years), but it's also your only relationship and sexual partner?
Met my gf 3 years ago when I was 22 and she was my first everything. I'm starting to get wandering eyes and I know it's heavily influenced by the fact that I'm so inexperienced, not knowing what else is out there, secretly wanting to be a single ladies man (ya right) etc... Need some wise old man advice to level my playboy bachelor fantasies... grass is greener syndrome... how do you deal with it?
being a kissless virgin NEET id say dump her and play the field
Watch porn
Just crossed the 20-year mark. In two weeks, 13 of those will be married.
Nothing beats intimacy built up over that length of time, bonded in all the ways society says is "right" (sayings which survived for a reason, and those reasons have nothing to do with petty power and control). Give it up now, and you will never get it back. The grass on the other side looks greener, but truth be told it's not even grass. Nothing compares.
>>17262318
Was in a 4 year relationship in the same boat. I was inexperienced and she wasn't. Felt like that kind of hung over me, like I was missing out on trying new things.
Get out of there and go ahead and try new things. You'll become a whole new, confident person. It's unfair to your gf to be with her when you're having adventurous thoughts. Leave before you get tempted, before you do something that could potentially hurt her more than just breaking up. Just move on, bro. You're both young, don't settle.
Three years here. Sometimes I wonder what it's like to date other guys, but it's just a fleeting thought and I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. My boyfriend is perfect for me, we're best friends and I can't imagine being in a relationship with anyone else
My first and only relationship lasted almost 8 years--she was my only sexual partner.
So, I guess I can't tell you if the grass actually is greener, but I can say that as long as you both are actively participating in your sex life, it can be fantastic. The years can really get both of you in tune with each other's sexuality.
I'm 31 and have avoided being married twice. My friends who settled in their 20s they all have kids and are now either remarried or completely miserable and look at me with envy. The truth is I look at the ones who have kids and a wife with envy so the trick is to learn to love the moment and person youre in.
I'm in the boat but because I'm going away to college soon, I'm set on breaking up with her. Advice on how to do it? Reason wise, I don't feel the need to go any further than "I don't know if it's gonna work in college." But how exactly do I execute it?
Do what we all do and be a dick til she breaks up with you. Giving her the notion of being a strong independant woman.
>>17263167
I've kinda been one recently which I hope will work in my favor, and while she'll never be the independent woman type I really hope she figures out she doesn't need me. She pretty clingy which is one of the reasons I wanna cut it off before I go away.
Talk to her and tell her how you're feeling. I'm in a similar relationship right now and I started out by saying a threesome would be ideal. The threesome was supposed to happen one night and then my gf was called into work when we had plans of meeting the girl at the bar and getting drunk. She told me to go to the bar and gave me the okay to fuck the girl. I could tell my gf was jealous and I thought it was a trap. The girl started her period at the bar while we were drinking and we ended up making out, I started kissing her neck and grabbing her breasts and before I knew it she was giving me head and letting me fuck her breasts for 2 hours. I told my gf about everything and how I was still disappointed that I still hadn't had sex with anybody else. She complained about things a couple of times but it was mostly her fear that I would leave her for somebody else. Once I had established that I clearly wasn't interested in a relationship with the girl, I got her to be down for a threesome again lol. Now I'm still in a good relationship, I had a fantastic time getting head and fucking that girl's breasts, and I still have a potential threesome in the works. Just be open and honest with her about how you're feeling and suggest a threesome so you're not technically cheating. Be careful what you say and make sure you can justify anything you do through the use of logic.
Also, if you're gonna dump her anyways, at least attempt the threesome technique.
Sam me here
>sex once a month because she loses her sex drive in long relationships
Also she made me delete my porn collection
>>17262318
Where did you get this pic, what's the backstory, and why did you choose it?
>>17263175
Do you believe this tell her how you feel asshole? Press harder with being a dick. You'll appreciate it, she'll appreciate it and the next guy who has to put up with her will
>>17263241
You must be a fool. Shes bangin someone more than once a month.
>>17262318
I've been with my fiance for 8 years. We met in high school, I was a virgin, he was not. We are very much in love and have stuck together through a lot of difficult times. I wonder about sex with other men sometimes, but I know I'll never find anyone who loves me like he does.
I say, if you feel you have found someone whom you trust and love, then tell her how you're feeling. Honesty is how you get through this and most things.
>>17263241
>she made me delete my porn collection
Why are you with her? It's not love if she forces you to do things you don't want to do.
>>17263121
shit like this scares me, what went wrong?
>>17263292
This, DESU.
Just tell her how you feel. She might be open to some kind of solution for you. Or at the very least, you'll feel less guilty having gotten it off of your chest.
>>17263252
This desu
That bullshit about losing sex drive suddenly is just a play my man
explore mrs pslmer and her 5 daughters
In the same boat as you anon. Been with my GF, a gorgeous Asian, for 5 years this weekend, but I've always had a wandering eye, which has caused a lot of problems sometimes in our relationship (she knows I'm a perv). But here's the thing: I love her. To death. She's the only one that gets me. She's been there for me through thick and thin, and vice versa. The bottom line: Do you love her? Like go-all-the-way-and-back for her? If so, and even if not so, you owe her to talk to her about it. Just talk to her. Be honest. Seriously honest. Be vulnerable. I was and though we had a lot of conversations/debates/fights about me fucking other people, she eventually was okay with it and even thought it was hot. We ended up having a threesome with her friend. Bottom line: If you love her, you owe her. If it's a fling, fine, and you don't really love her, then by all means, go sow your oats. But don't be a fucking idiot. There are a limited amount of good women out there. Don't give one up for a quick fuck.
I've been with my fiancee for 10 yrs since I was 17, first everything , monogamous throughout , no 'breaks' and I can tell you it's not that important.
You see a qt 3.14 ya wanna bang?
Chat her up , get her number become 'friends'. See how it feels, see if you any game.
Don't cheat- have some self respect- but nothing helps a LTR more than a woman getting a bit jealous and insecure her man has other options , and the man seeing he's still got it.
And yes man- here's my old man advice. ( 27is old ?)
If you're not feeling stellar about sex, you need to figure out how to get what you want in the relationship (in like a month or less)or bounce because you only have more of the same feeling ahead of you and why waste your time?
Know you can get what you want , so if she can't give it to you ( maybe you'll have to be brutally honest with her and yourself) ,leave her - more women than you could ever meet in A year turn 18 every day.
Never think you can't find what you want.
>>17262385
This guy is right
I have only ever been with one woman. We have been together for 8 years, and I don't feel inexperienced, I don't feel like I missed out. I feel lucky, happy, and satisfied. I get everything I need from her.
If you aren't feeling like that, then maybe you are a shitty person. Maybe the relationship isn't working out and you need excuses to get out. Maybe you are paranoid. Maybe you are totally normal and I am abnormal - but what I am is happy, and you sound less so OP.
You need to figure out what is best for you. But there is no rewind button on life, if sleeping around ends up being a mistake, you can't just fix it.
>>17263475
My god she's cute
Pussy is pussy, you aren't missing out. Talk to your woman about her needs and your needs, ask her hers, and refocus your attention and energy on things with her. Or don't and keep yourself miserable like this until you finally make a decision to stay or break up, or die in indecision. It's about commitment and being passionate about where you are. Besides what makes you think anyone else wants your sorry ass. Women don't want your dick in them just because they're smiling or giving you attention or whatever. Try to understand your girlfriend better so you can learn how women really think and have healthy nonsexual relationships with them.
>>17263334
>>17263200
NO! Just reverse this situation and imagine what 4chan would tell you. Imagine your long term girlfirend wants to sleep with other men.
Just terrible.
>>17263475
This. Make a girl jealous but have class and don't cheat. Women are only non -competitive in times of abundance.
28 Got with my first gf at 26, basically my first except for a few awful one night things.
Definitely know what you are thinking I'm flirting with a housemate now....
