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I'm scared that even after dropping all this weight, going to the gym all the time and lifting, getting /fa/shionable clothes, having a undercut, and reading a fuckton of books like how to win friends and influence people, that come this upcoming semester I won't be able to get people to like me enough via joining clubs and rushing frats to be able to build up a social life on the level thats needed to get laid.

I'm not gonna be able to go on if I cant pull it off this time, I can't watch another year go by and still be a fucking virgin, I'll be 20 this time next year, I cant keep doing this.
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Chill, nigga
Go read some stoics
Lift some more
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>>17253638
you can do it brother

you just have to believe in yourself
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>>17253638
>having a undercut
first of all ditch the memehair
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>>17253638

Don't expect too much too quickly. Just remember, you're building new relationships - hell, from the sound of it sounds like you're building an entirely new YOU - from the ground up.

Like >>17253639 said - chill, bro. Do what you need to do and nothing more. It already sounds like you know what you need to do - so do it. Don't worry about how you're perceived - focus instead on enjoying yourself.

Enjoy the experience. Learn and grow from it.

Be thankful you've been struck with this drive for self-actualization at 20 rather than 28. Or 35. Or 60.
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>I'll be 20 this time next year, I cant keep doing this.

is this b8? jesus kids relax you're young and full of life, the only way you're not gonna make it is if you keep putting this much stupid pressure on yourself

things happen and you don't have to spend all day long pushing shit in order to make them happen, most of the time is better to just roll with it

life is what happens while you are busy making other plans, literally
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Don't worry too much about it man, the fact that you're making the effort means you'll get there eventually. Just make as many friends as you can and be as social as possible. The worst thing you can do is only pay attention to what your books say and be that weird guy. Just be normal and try to have fun, it takes time to develop social intelligence, but it'll happen

I didn't lose it until I was 19, almost 20, and I was a huge loser. Now at 24 I've got multiple girls I can call to fuck whenever I want. You'll get there.
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>>17253640
My family thinks its just so great all these changes I'm making and my parents seem to be practically beaming over it and even my brother who for a while has hated me seems to like me now and is acting buddy buddy with me

I can hold normal conversations now and get gym chads to laugh and smile and give me tips
Girls seem to have 0 problem interacting with me and even helped me with proper form on gym equipment touching my shoulders and arms

I still feel so doubtful, I feel like if I get optimistic I'm just gonna get slapped down again, I don't see how any of this is anything like "oh great going woooo" when all of this is supposed to just be the default and nothing special

>>17253641
then what do you suggest

>>17253642
I'm 19 right now
>from the sound of it sounds like you're building an entirely new YOU - from the ground up.
yeah I am


>>17253643
If it weren't for me taking things this seriously and pushing myself so hard then I wouldn't have accomplished all of this stuff so far
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I'm not sure if this is just some clever b8, but if not holy shit you need to stop overthinking this.

If you go into some social environment thinking it's some game you have to beat, everyone will notice, and you'll be ostracized for it. Be who you want to be, develop a strong sense of self, and friendships will form more organically.

Also
>rushing a frat

Please tell me you're smarter than that?
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OP i am a severely depressed, anti-social teenager.

Despite this, I have a lot of really close friends, who love me and respect and admire me. Boys and girls alike.

How do I do this? Stop thinking about yourself. Live a life in which all your interactions are dealt with the intention of leaving good behind. I only want to make people feel happy. I shower people with compliments, I prioritize other people, I encourage them, praise their accomplishments, and most importantly, I listen to them.

I have started to leave humanity, but its cool to look back every once and awhile and see them smiling back at you.
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>>17253638

Overthinking it this much is guaranteed to ruin you. You HAVE to stop stressing out RIGHT NOW. Or you'll die sad and alone.

No pressure though.

4real doe, join the rugby club if your school has one. And if you have health insurance.
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>>17253638
If your only goal is to get laid its simple. I dont know how so many people fail at this shit...

Go to a party, get drunk, everyone is drunk, everyone is instantly a 10, get laid. Then you wake up and leave. Its really the easiest thing ever you need zero social skills, liquid courage bro liquid courage.
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People have really fucking low standards for everything. Ugly morons can get friends and get laid so I don't know why you're so worried.
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>>17253646
>>17253647
the books really emphasize that its super important to act really nice to everyone and make them feel like you care about them and their interests

>>17253649
I've never been drunk before and I don't know if I'd be a "woo party" type that everyone loves or the angry pissy type who yells at people and blurts out how he's only there to get laid and they can all go to hell

I can't predict what it would do to me and I'm worried that instead of calming me down and helping me keep my shit together that it would hurt me bad

Maybe I could go to a single party during the start of next semester with a friend and ask him to watch me get drunk and then tell me what happened?
That way if it goes badly I don't know anyone there and I know to not get drunk when I go to the frat rush events
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Dude, if you haven't drank before you're not going to be able to handle frat rush. If drinking isn't your thing that's fine, but don't think you're going to get into a frat.

Btw drinking is great, try it
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>this whole post

You sound like a 13 year old girl, jesus christ. Drop the fucking insecurity and self-pity bullshit, that's why no one fucking likes you. Man up and get some actual fucking goals. And no, "banging girls and getting drunk" isn't a goal.

You have to be bait. Do you actually sit in the dark in your room at night sucking on your thumb, afraid the massive fucking retards that populate college campuses aren't gonna like you? Jesus christ quit worrying about what others think of you, everything you think you do for "self-improvement" is actually done out of insecurity and fear of social rejection, isn't it? Zyzz is your role model because of how "alpha" he is, isn't he?

Read some fucking Epicureas and get your head out of your ass, you fucking loser. I can't imagine people like you vote.

You deserve all the unhappiness that is going to come your way in life.
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>>17253652
>i'm 20
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>>17253653
>Drop the fucking insecurity and self-pity bullshit
because I've never done any of this shit before and I'm worried that its not gonna work
>"banging girls and getting drunk" isn't a goal.
banging girls is, I don't care about getting drunk

>everything you think you do for "self-improvement" is actually done out of insecurity and fear of social rejection, isn't it? Zyzz is your role model because of how "alpha" he is, isn't he?

No I do all this shit because the guys who already have all of this down are swimming in pussy and I don't want to live anymore if I'm gonna be a fucking virgin
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Three tricks for pulling girls

>Be fun to be around (have a monopoly on fun [not obnoxiousness])
>Make her feel (shocked, angry, happy, sad)
>If you are not cool or interesting in some way you are not worth being around

On point one, tell a joke that you know someone respected in the group will laugh at. Women are (usually) terrible at humor, but if they see a respectable male laughing, then they will understand that you're funny

On point two, Patrice O'Neal said it best.
>I'm the only man that I want my woman to be able to be mad at. That's a strong emotion and I should be the only guy able to evoke that

On point three, you are boring and dull unless you have something to be passionate about that people see value in. Ask yourself, would you date you?
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>>17253638
Being social is like any other sport or shit out there

IT REQUIRES PRACTICE TO MASTER
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>>17253655

>I don't want to life anymore if I'm going to be a fucking virgin

There's no way this isn't bait, no one can be this pathetic.

If this is real, your parents have failed you and you have failed yourself. Read everything in the following link and do your absolute best to follow them. If you do, you will actually be capable of anything and more powerful then most of the people on earth.

http://www.thirteenvirtues.com/
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I don't understand how people can't get laid or think you need a bustling social life and be the most popular guy around to talk to girls. I'm ugly have acne and long ass hippie hair nasty eye brows and crazy amounts of body hair. I have never had that much trouble hooking up with slutty girls. Maybe I stand out as a bleeding heart artsy type since I obviously don't have the social skills as my friends, and dumber girls don't realize that I'm that autistic ha. My friends are all the typical LA nightlife loving people though so maybe it's just because I got lucky and made friends with these people before my social awkwardness and ugly features made me a shut in. Guess I didn't really care about your post I just wanted to brag to anons to make myself feel superior. the only way to break your dry spell is just stop being a bitch and go get laid already damn it.
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>>17253658
You know its really fucking easy for you to say this shit when you and everyone else have already been getting laid for years

Most people have fucked before they even leave highschool

No one ever gives a shit about the guys who get left behind and just tell them they are sub human vermin who will never ever fit into to "their" social society and should just kill themselves

Then when one of them is smart enough to catch on and start copying what everyone else does and is starting to be able to be indistinguishable from them and some other guy chimes in and says "your a loser for doing all of this get laid doesn't matter"

even though my entire motivation for all of this is getting laid
something everyone else had handed to them on a silver fucking platter around the time they first started driving
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Stop fucking worrying about it you nerd. I was 273 lbs at my fattest and that's when I started fucking. Just don't be a creepy fuck and talk to women normally and it'll happen
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>>17253659
>Guess I didn't really care about your post I just wanted to brag to anons to make myself feel superior.

it's nice that you admitted it tho lmao

good blog pham
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Your pathetic and reek of desperation. Nothing dries up a vagina faster than desperation.
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>>17253660
You read too much r9k.


I was a virgin until my sophomore year of college.

You obviously have terrible self-esteem. It's apparent in every post.

Also when the guy starts "copying what everyone else is doing and starting to be indistinguishable" it is obviously not indistinguishable.

You miss small social cues because you are too caught up with your own insecurities and manual micro-assessments of your environment.
I was 5'7" 120lbs and was able to pull chicks, even as I was in my awkward phase.


You hate yourself and don't think you're fun- and that's making it true.

>>17253663
Also, this.
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>>17253663
Then I guess I better have a really fucking good cover then huh?
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>>17253638
Don't forget to have fun bud. Make sure that whatever you're doing, lifting, partying, makes you happy. Have great banter everyday, all day.
Don't set expectations for how everyone around you will react to you, but rather set expectations for yourself to be better. For no external reason, just being better. And then worry about being laid. Grills will be more into you if you have your own personality and live for yourself rather than being a tool.
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>>17253660

If you're the OP

>even though my entire motivation for all of this is getting laid
>something everyone else had handed to them on a silver fucking platter around the time they first started driving

Knock that shit off right now. Even if you do find success with your elaborate scheme it will taste as ash in your mouth. You will always be the invisible man.

As has been suggested above, look into the Stoics. You're a young man with no heading, and the culture which guides you has left you feeling inadequate and worthless simply because you haven't slipped your penis inside of a vagine.

To put it simply - get over yourself. You're 19 old and you have your entire life ahead of you. If you let go of your ego and enjoy the process of socializing you that life will be full and ripe - bursting with juice.

Do not cling to the victim complex - though it be so sweetly alluring. It is a beautiful trap, it validates your loneliness, your misery.

Instead release it.
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Sometimes the opposite is bad too. A bartender gave me her number earlier and just texted me that she got out of work. I just want to go to sleep. I was out til 3AM last night.
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I'm 19 years old too and a kissless virgin and I honestly think if it hasn't happened yet it probably won't ever happen. A lot of people I know lose their virginity at around 16.

The thing is I'm not super anti social I have plenty of friends guys and girls but I think girls just don't see me as a boyfriend but just as a friend probably because I'm ugly.

It's also not like I don't try to self improve. I've been lifting for more than a year and dress pretty normal. I've asked out girls before and have been straight up rejected and also just ignored. I've also tried tinder and I barely got any matches it didn't work for me.

Right now as a college student it's prime time for me to be getting laid but it's just not happening so if it doesn't happen now it probably never will. Has anybody else been in this situation? I've been trying to accept the fact that I'll be forever alone and I have hobbies and do things I enjoy but sometimes I still feel empty and worthless.
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>>17253638
Confidence is more important than all of that. Not even memeing
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>>17253638
I lost my virginity at 25, I'm fairly normal-ish now
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>>17253669
Girls don't think of you sexually because you don't present yourself sexually.


My bros were always getting puss and vadrangus while I was wondering how it was so consistent for them. At the same time I was impressed by how they were constantly doing light flirting.

You can't expect a woman to be charmed by a man WITHOUT charm.
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>>17253655
Fuck frats dude. Honestly try to join club rugby if you can. Rugby teams are everything /fit/ dreams of. Slightly homoerotic men who are fit enough to pass off any type of social impasses or akwardness, brought closer together by the toughest sport in the world
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>>17253672
how do you present yourself sexually?
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>>17253672
How does one present themselves sexually?
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>>17253663
Desperation dries up pussy if you don't have game. Actually I think you just need game to get pussy wet, literally nothing else. I mean shit serial killers locked up had game and got wives before they were executed. Past doesn't matter, it is your present self anon. Live in the now my friend.
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>>17253664
>You miss small social cues because you are too caught up with your own insecurities and manual micro-assessments of your environment.
I've been getting better and better at this, I used to view the gym as a social dead zone but it turns out its actually good practice for the real show thats gonna come a few months from now

I can feel myself getting better bit by bit at interacting with people

>>17253667
>Even if you do find success with your elaborate scheme it will taste as ash in your mouth.
I dont believe you
>You're a young man with no heading, and the culture which guides you has left you feeling inadequate and worthless because you haven't slipped your penis inside of a vagina
that hits me too close to home
Also not only do I feel soul crushing shame for being a virgin I also really truly believe that I am missing out on the greatest thing in existence, something so godly that its worth sacrificing literally everything to achieve it
But really I just dont feel like getting into the exact specifics of what I think its gonna be like, thats not what this thread is about
This thread is basically asking if anyone here thinks Im one the right path or not, if its gonna work or not

Socializing is just barely entertaining enough to help me do it well
>victim complex
Its not a complex its a fact

>>17253669
Do what I'm doing and we will both hope it works
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>>17253674
>>17253675
take cock in your hands, offer it

"this is my genitalia, wanna make babies with it?"

works every time desu
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>>17253671
im a 23 year old virgin. this inspires me.
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>>17253675
>>17253674
Cringe
>>17253672 "charm" is just Masculinty, confidence and intelligence mashed into one word imo. Just chill and be comfortable with yourselves
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>>17253677
>Also not only do I feel soul crushing shame for being a virgin I also really truly believe that I am missing out on the greatest thing in existence, something so godly that its worth sacrificing literally everything to achieve it

jesus this fucking autistic faggot, you sound so much like a virgin

please put your penis inside a vagina already and realise is not a big fucking deal AT ALL, then kys

you are constantly given good advice and literally ignore it all and keep rambling with your pathetic worthless bullshit, get the fuck back to r9k and don't come back with this fucking shit threads, you make people sick
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>>17253678
You may joke but I was hanging out with an engaged woman at my place and she kept turning down my advances since she had a fiance and I decided to just show her my penis. Her facial expression changed and she gave me a blowjob. It helps to have a very nice cock though.
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>>17253682
LMAO

nice man, I'll try myself one day, I've done it before with my gf but gotta be hot af with a friend/stranger
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>>17253681
>please put your penis inside a vagina already and realise is not a big fucking deal AT ALL, then kys

oh wow yeah sure I think Ill just head on over to the pussy warehouse and redeem my government issued "some your a 19 year old virgin holy shit" coupon and finally do it

>>17253681
Im not ignoring shit faggot people have either been telling me I'm doing everything right or saying that I need to keep practicing socializing which I've already said I agree with and am gonna keep doing
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>>17253677

women want to follow a fun and interesting man as he pursues his purpose.
if your purpose is women, then you will fail.
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>>17253685
the key is making them think your purpose isn't them even though it really is
>inb4 its impossible to trick women
women aren't gods, remember? they are just people right? it is possible
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>>17253686
no, the key is to legitimately be an interesting person
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I'm gonna let you in on a little secret.

Nothing matters.

You might get laid, you might not. Just do what makes you happy, set some goals and go for them. If you live your life trying to impress others you will:
>1. not impress anyone
>2. be unhappy
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>>17253684
you're fucking delusional if that's what you think people kept telling you in this thread, just so you know

I'm not even gonna spend a fucking minute of my life typing a response for someone who doesn't deserve SHIT

fix your mind kid, then your life
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>>17253683
Yeah it was.

She first looked at it, licked her lips, but then told me to put it away, so I shrugged and did. Then she asked me if she could see it again. She told me it looked tasty so I just walked up to her and she started sucking me.

For curious /fit/izens though, you can't just expect that to work with totally random girls even with top tier cock aesthetics. I knew she was considering it ahead of time but she didn't want to cross the line at first.
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>>17253687
I cant be ((legitamately)) interesting by 2016 millennial college student standards but I can fake it and have them believe it

Basically at my core none of them would want much to do with me, I have got to put on a huge act and so far they are buying it
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>>17253691

I'm being totally honest with you here, you have a bad mindset and holding on to these ideas is going to bring you a lot of pain.

you think you're separate and different from other people , that they're not interesting , it's going to come out subtly in your interactions, and people will dislike you for it. the truth is, if you level with people, have an open mind and treat them with a bit of respect, you can find common ground with almost anyone.

anyway, I wish you luck . you still have a lot of growing to do
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I have a different question for everyone ITT:
Should I get drunk when I rush fraternities?
Part of me feels like it will help to calm my nervs and make it easier for me to make them like me, the other part of me says it will make me reveal that I'm only there to try to get them to like me to the point that they are willing to help me get laid and thus fuck everything up
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I lost my virginity to an escort a few days ago because I literally could not take my mind off sex. Turns out it's not as big of a deal as I thought because I'm really not any different than I was before. This may sound obvious for most of you but it's hard to see things from a different perspective when you feel like you're missing out on something that most of the people around you experience and brag about. Overall I would definitely not recommend doing what I did, but it helped open my eyes that the reason why I'm depressed/anxious is much more than not having stuck my dick inside a vagina. In a way it's a relief because now I know that I have to actually work on improving other aspects of my life, because even if I somehow got a girl to sleep with me years down the line, nothing would change and I would still be unhappy. I've already had an idea that this was the case, but now I am certain that I need to change my habits and become someone that I can be happy with.
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>>17253638
It's ok bruh, the worst thing you can do is not trying and regretting it for life.
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>>17253695
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>>17253695
You guys think relationships are for everyone?
25 here Ive never tried and have no regrets.
I seek thr rush of going to hookers every now and then when I'm feeling a bit lonely and honestly I can see myself doing this for he rest of my life(or until my libido goes down in like ten years)
Should I seek help; this doesn't seem normal?
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>>17253693
Bruh friends are supposed to be symbiotic
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>>17253697
It's your life, you do what makes YOU happy. If it's hookers, blow and weights, then bingo. If not, find something that does make you happy.
>easier said then done
It's the journey not the destination.
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Guys I'm going to have sex for the first time in 2 days...I'm a Virgin she's not. What do?
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>>17253638
I'm 23 and have a small dick.
You know nothing.
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>>17253700
Just fug, maybe do some research like "how to please a woman 101" or something. Other than that. Just be confident and don't drink something that she'll refuse to drink.
>rupees
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female here, just to put in my two cents

OP, get a therapist. Work on your self esteem. you are literally more negative than I was the day I was hospitalized for suicidal thoughts holy shit.

Find out why you get out of bed in the morning. Do you wake up every day thinking "yass this is the day I get some puss"?? No, it's not. And your interactions with other human beings should not reek of that desperation either. (ok, if you do think like that every morning then I underestimated your confidence, and likely the reason you haven't gotten laid ~despite your best efforts~ is because you're ugly as fuck.) Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Join groups that do the thing. Meet people in these groups. Make friends. Don't make fucking a woman the only thing you care about because we will notice that and probably find it creepy af.

attempt to connect with people on a deeper level than "my genes dictate that I must reproduce, somebody find me a female rn". Then perhaps you'll find a girl that wants to be with you. (if this is not what you want, and you literally don't care whether the person you're fucking cares about you at all, just get a prostitute ok)

tl;dr: there is none, read what I fucking wrote
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>how to be a kiss ass and bend over backwards for people
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>>17253703
>female
>suicidal thoughts

Really shame that that boy didn't like you honey
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>>17253704
this. Become a hermit that doesnt give a fuck what anyone thinks and only pursue your interests OP. You'd be surprised how easy things can be when you just totally detatch yourself from all dogma and role-playing
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nah wasn't a boy, I was just bored that day
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>>17253638
to be honesto, you're gonna make it. You sound like you're aware of your situation and how to change/improve. That's miles better than just being an apathetic sack of shit. Just focus on improving yourself and life will fall into place
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>>17253638
Im in your same boat m8. Even stupid retards from college at some point i feel they dont like me.

Even rugby bros dont connect with me.

Its frustrating, i know its my attitude but i dont know what to change
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>>17253703
>your more negative than I was when I was suicidal
then you should know just how seriously I take this and that its not a fucking joke or some kind of a game to me
>Find out why you get out of bed in the morning. Do you wake up every day thinking "yass this is the day I get some puss"??
Every day I get out of bed so that I can improve myself and try to get one step closer to sex

You girls seem to think that your mind readers and can just "smell" desperation, your not and you cant
Girls have 14-16 sections of the brain used for subconsciously decoding body language, boys have 4-6, so girls are naturally better at picking up on subtle cues like that indicate things like desperation, but if the boy is consciously aware of these cues and makes sure he doesn't make them (doesn't cross arms or fold legs, makes sure he sits facing the girl, smiles, makes eye contact) then she won't know

I'm not ugly as fuck I actually look pretty good its just always been my former spazyness that fucked me up but I've dealt with it now

>find something you enjoy doing
I dont really enjoy doing anything anymore, browsing 4chan and playing vidya are kinda nice but not by much

>my genes say I have to
actually its testosterone which boys have 17 times as much of
Plus as I've said ITT I feel like a failure for being a virgin, and I think it's gonna feel just absolutely godly

>>17253708
That's the general gist I'm getting from everyone, most of you say "its gonna work" its just some of you say "good job" and others say "it wont make you happy its a waste of time"

only like 1 or 2 have said it wont work period
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>>17253709
Are you me?
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>>17253705
>be Op
>pretend to ask for genuine advice
>ignore or attack everyone that says things that contradict your previously held beliefs

you're right op. everyone at college is going to hate you and know that you're a faggot deep down
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>>17253709
What I've done is protein sparing modified fasted to the point where I'm not fat, go to the gym and lift for muscles, wear /fa/shionable clothes and get an undercut, and I've read/going to read all these

Donald Trump - The art of the deal

Barbara Pease - The Definitive Book of Body Language DONE

John Gray - Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus 15 pages a day

Robert Cialdini - The Psychology of Influence DONE

Ogi Ogas - A Billion Wicked Thoughts

Dale Carnegie - How to win friends and influence people DONE

Allan Pease - Talk Language


All this is the best advice I can give, also use all of the advice to try to get accepted into a bunch of college clubs and a fraternity and become a really well liked and respected member, so that way either you will stumble into a girl that ends up being your girlfriend or eventually you can "accidentally let it slip" that your a virgin to the frat guys or whoever you think it will work on, so that they can pull their strings and set you up


This is all my strategy

>>17253712
Im not that guy fuck off
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I'm not reading this entire pathetic r9k bait thread but OP, before this gets taken down heed these words:

I used to be just like you
I was a virgin until age 26 (wow!)
I feel totally fine and great now, I wake up excited for every day and feel the world is mine for the taking.

I dunno bitch just chill out, make sure you realize that you're not ever going to "make it" because "making it" as you see it is an unattainable state. You will die alone, like everyone else on the planet. What you do between now and then is what you call your life. If you don't like something about it, change it.
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>>17253638
Just don't be a dick. It's really that easy.
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>>17253638
>bettering yourself simply to look better to others
>betting yourself simply to get laid

this is why you're scared, and this is why you will fail yourself
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>>17253716
does failing myself equal getting laid?
because if so then I view it was succeeding
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>>17253638
hahahah being afraid of being a virgin at 20? holy shit, you really are a retard.
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>>17253713
I recommend two books for you anon:
Robert Greene - mastery (Amazing read)
Sam Harris - Freewill (Amazing for introspection on the mind and life changing philopshy)
Sidhartha- The story of bhudda. It's actually an amazing book to.
I'd also recommend:
>yoga
>meditating daily
>pickup a martial art, I am starting with boxing
>programming is great to, I'm teaching myself JavaScript at a college level. You need to get a 600 page book like I have.
Besides that dude, look into tuition reimbursement. A fun thing to do is meditate at the park, so people can see you and walk past. It makes it hard to focus.. At first.
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>>17253710
>You girls seem to think that your mind readers and can just "smell" desperation, your not and you cant
Girls have 14-16 sections of the brain used for subconsciously decoding body language, boys have 4-6, so girls are naturally better at picking up on subtle cues like that indicate things like desperation, but if the boy is consciously aware of these cues and makes sure he doesn't make them (doesn't cross arms or fold legs, makes sure he sits facing the girl, smiles, makes eye contact) then she won't know

Jesus christ, dude.
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>>17253710
holy fucking hell I thought you would listen to reason presented by a female because you seem to think we're some dumb other species that respond in a predictable way to specific things you do.

I genuinely hope you find someone who buys your fake body language and finds your spazyness endearing or whatever. I hope you finally get to have sex so you can realise how fucking dumb you are. and once you realise that, get a fucking therapist for your depression
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>>17253720
Man I got that straight out of the definitive book of body language

"we say someone is 'perceptive' or 'intuitive' about
people, we are unknowingly referring to their ability to read
another person's body language and to compare these cues
with verbal signals. In other words, when we say that we have
a 'hunch' or 'gut feeling' that someone has told us a lie, we
usually mean that their body language and their spoken words
don't agree. This is also what speakers call audience awareness,
or relating to a group. For example, if an audience were
sitting back in their seats with their chins down and arms
crossed on their chest, a 'perceptive' speaker would get a
hunch or feeling that his delivery was not going across well. He
would realise that he needed to take a different approach to
gain audience involvement. Likewise, a speaker who was not
'perceptive' would blunder on regardless.
Being 'perceptive' means being able to spot the contradictions
between someone's words and their body language.
Overall, women are far more perceptive than men, and this has
given rise to what is commonly referred to as 'women's intuition'.
Women have an innate ability to pick up and decipher
non-verbal signals, as well as having an accurate eye for small
details. This is why few husbands can lie to their wives and get
away with it and why, conversely, most women can pull the
wool over a man's eyes without his realising it."
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>>17253720
He's got it sorta right. I think of talking to people as acting, but you gotta be genuine and loving to. The acting should reflect your emotions.. Ugh it's fucking retarded to break it down like this.
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>>17253717
Not even that dude, but...

Don't lift to impress others, lift to impress yourself. When you do that, things come naturally.

When you lift to impress others, you'll wind up dressing faggier than most of us /fit brethren, posing in stupid, unnatural positions, and generally coming across as tryhard. You will reek of approval-seeking and desperation

When you lift to impress yourself, you dedicate yourself to a goal and achieving it. You genuinely don't give a shit what others think because of your dedication to this goal. Without getting too pseudo-sciencey about this, you emanate this aura of not giving a fuck when you lift and do things for yourself, because you genuinely don't. When you do things for others' validation, you will always fail.
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>>17253721
"Most women have the brain organisation to out-communicate
any man on the planet. Magnetic Resonance Imaging brain
scans (MRI) clearly show why women have far greater capacity
for communicating with and evaluating people than men
do. Women have between fourteen and sixteen areas of the
brain to evaluate others' behaviour versus a man's four to six
areas. This explains how a woman can attend a dinner party
and rapidly work out the state of the relationships of other
couples at the party - who's had an argument, who likes who
and so on. It also explains why, from a woman's standpoint,
men don't seem to talk much and, from a man's standpoint,
women never seem to shut up.
As we showed in Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't
Read Maps (Orion), the female brain is organised for multitracking
— the average woman can juggle between two and four
unrelated topics at the same time. She can watch a television
programme while talking on the telephone plus listen to a
second conversation behind her, while drinking a cup of
coffee. She can talk about several unrelated topics in the one
conversation and uses five vocal tones to change the subject or
emphasise points. Unfortunately, most men can only identify
three of these tones. As a result, men often lose the plot when
women are trying to communicate with them.
Studies show that a person who relies on hard visual evidence
face to face about the behaviour of another person is
more likely to make more accurate judgements about that
person than someone who relies solely on their gut feeling.
14
Understanding the Basics
The evidence is in the person's body language and, while
women can do it subconsciously, anyone can teach themselves
consciously to read the signals. That's what this book is about."
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>>17253713
>Donald Trump - The art of the deal
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>>17253638
You have nothing to be scared off you pussy. Think about getting dumped when you're 27, you had no social experience cause you had one-itis for 8 years, and you have to start from scracth once you're alreading balding. Now THAT'S scary shit.
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>>17253716
This
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>>17253721
Actually no, you'll respond just like any typical person. And if your not so attached.. Like a plebian then you can manipulate people to your advantage. Real social dynamics show guys LITTERALLY just walking up to girls on the street by clubs and making out with them and walking away. You're not above it at all.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=x27wabHGCac
I think if you went onto the RSD forums and saw how people breakdown body language, tone of voice and escalation you'd be put in your place. Pleb.
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>>17253717

No, you still probably won't get laid. He means that when you don't get laid, you'll get demoralized and your plans will fall apart and you'll be back where you started without learning a goddamned thing.
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>>17253720
>>17253722
>>17253725
So basically if you can learn all of these signals so that your consciously aware of them then you can control what signals you put out to get the responses you want.

>>17253721
I never said you were some dumb other species that respond in a predictable way to specific things I do, I said people in general rely loads on body language and social interactions and if I know about all of it then I can pick and chose what I do to get the responses I want

>>17253726
Someone suggested I read it too
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>>17253722
>implying trends mean anything on an individual level

I'm seriously not trying to be rude, but holy fuck is that dumb.
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>>17253729
>1 hour cringe compilation

what is this satanic orgy of autism? who would watch this? who would make this?
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>>17253732
Try reading the rest of it
>>17253725
>>17253725

>>17253729
Anymore body language, tone of voice, and escalation sauce?
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>>17253638
hmm yeah, better just kys
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>>17253638
You will fail because you care too much. The desperation will hang in the air around you like an odor, and everyone within 10 feet of you will be able to smell lit.
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>>17253722
Yeah dude it depends who you're talking to. A male neuroscientist is going to run laps socially around a female secretary, to put it into perspective. That's honestly some dumb shit and you should rely more on anecdotal experience for social skills rather than books when it comes down to breaking down behavior in this sense.
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>>17253736
holy shit read the fucking thread before you respond
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>>17253729
>>17253731
ok body language will get you your first chance. and if OP is literally only looking for ons then I hope he's good at keeping a conversation going while trying to adjust his body language appropriately. if you want anything past that, your insincerity will show through

if OP only wants a ons, he needs to just pay an escort
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>>17253737
The books break things down really well, that's just one paragraph of one of them

Also "a billion wicked thoughts" is a book literally written by an actual neuroscientist, its all about what makes women tick sexually on a neurological level, its like 400+ pages and I think its gonna be mindblowing and really compliment the other shit I've read / am reading
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>>17253736
How to stop caring? I can feel people feeling my desperstion odor.

Do i just dont say hi to anyone? Should i dont respond to any shit people tell me? Fuck
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>>17253739
Your right, body language isn't everything, that's where social skills come in, and that's what "how to win friends and influence people" and "talk language" are for

"Don't criticize, condemn or complain
Give compliments
Make them want to do the things you want them to

Learn as much as you can about them, ask them questions about themselves, get them to talk about themselves
Smile
Remember people’s names
Listen intently, keep the conversation going based on what they have said, build off of it
Talk about everything in terms of what the other person wants / what is good for them / their interests in general
Make the other person feel important, relevant, like they matter a great deal"

"Avoid arguments no matter what, if one starts, defuse it immediately
If you must correct someone, do it subtly and politely, do not outright tell them they are wrong, slowly get them to connect the dots
If you are wrong (or there is no way to convince them otherwise), admit it rapidly and apologetically, get them to feel bad for you and to let it go
Faking being nice will get you way better results than showing your true feelings
If you want something specific from someone, get them to say "Yes" to lead up questions
Let the other person build themselves up in their mind by getting them to talk about themselves, only talk about your own achievements when they ask

Make other people feel like an idea is their own"

"Try to understand how other people see things, try to see things from the other persons point of view so that you can manipulate it
Pretend to feel bad for other people, pretend to care about their ideas and wishes, if you must conflict with them, spin it
to make it seem like they are helping themselves in the long run
These are my notes I have lots more

>>17253741
Your not OP (me)
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>>17253733
Lol these dudes get laid 100x more often with 10x better women than yours. Their sex is 1000% better than yours fagggit
>>17253734
Yeah checkout RSDjulien, he's my favorite. He is uh.. Like a fucking social predator. I mean he's GOOD with people, try watching more podcast with intellectuals on it and pick up on their body language. It helps a lot.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iULxmr2je8w
I'd recommend some psychedelics to if your going down this rabbit whole, understand the Marxist charectar mask and what it means to people. Understand you need to be your own boss, this was a major key for me. Tell yourself good job, manage yourself and be able to order yourself around. I think that's what makes you an adult and represents some level of detachment and ego death.
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>>17253739
thats why you practice your game bitch ;)
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Not OP, but do you guys recommend "self-help" books or philosophy? It seems that self-help will be more practical as you can instantly put it into practice, while philosophy will slowly change your mindset which results in different actions being taken.

Should I skip reading self-help books and just read philosophy books?

21, virgin, college student, have friends but don't go out often. I lift, have hobbies, and do things I enjoy but I feel that I don't have any particular wants or passions.

I'm living the way I want to, but I also feel that I'm missing out and not living my life.

Should I get a job/girlfriend/go out more often even if I don't enjoy it?
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>>17253647
>do this
>get ignored
Heartbreaking honestly, maybe I just expect too much idk man, like is it normal for people that have called you a best friend/close friend to ignore you for days and sometimes over a week?
I don't mean like purposely ignore of course I mean like they just forget about me or don't bother responding or inviting me to hang out even though every time we do hang out it's a good time for both people

Fuck, idk, I don't have many friends because I don't want many friends, I have 3 basically I ever talk to and it just feels shitty not getting a response for so long when I respond asap and treat them like family

This happens with acquaintances too, they're really nice and tell me im cool and shit and then I don't hear from them ever again
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>>17253638

Any port in a storm.

/thread?

/thread.
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>>17253647
I think the word you're looking for is asocial, not anti-social
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>>17253745
Dude I've been posting this entire time all about what my strategy is and the books I've read and shit

Just read the thread and walk the path, hopefully we will all get laid in the end

>>17253747
?
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>>17253745
See man this is why you gotta listen to your heart. I'd recommend you read sidhartha because it's all about listening to ones heart and being enlightened. Try meditating to center youself then meditate things you'd like to do and why. Do you want to have a /fit/ girlfriend you can do psychedelics under a beautiful starry sky outside at Yellowstone park or do you want to make lots of money and master programming? See what I mean? Whatever makes YOU happy. And when I say meditate I mean to look at something from all angels and then find a new a angel to look at it.
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I have a different question for everyone ITT:
Should I get drunk when I rush fraternities?
Part of me feels like it will help to calm my nervs and make it easier for me to make them like me, the other part of me says it will make me reveal that I'm only there to try to get them to like me to the point that they are willing to help me get laid and thus fuck everything up
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>>17253710
Lol, I've studied neuroanatomy for four months and there's nothing like the shit you said, read some books retard
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>>17253752
I am reading books faglord that's where I'm getting it from
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>>17253747
I'd say so, he has a heart.
>>17253751
I answered this anon, gotta lose the mentality of lying to them and instead "meditate" over making it work. In your case understanding that friendship is symbiotic.
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>>17253745
Philosophy and self help, at least outside of the last three centuries of academic philosophy, heavily overlaps. That's why we doggedly insist on folks reading up on the stoic philosophers.
Do that.
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>>17253752
Lol four months.. Your nowhere close to a fellow kid, you have no clue so stfu.
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>>17253753
Wich one?, there's nothing of that in the Snell or Waxman
>>17253756
Retards get off
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>>17253757
You don't know me bitch. Don't call me retarded.
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>>17253757
the definitive book of body language by barbara and allen pease
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>>17253638
I'm /fit/, /fa/, a comedian and half the people I meet love me and the other half hate me and act passive aggressively towards me. I assume it's just jealously causing them to act this way. It's pretty weird. Stop trying to get people to like you. Just be you and do things you see as self improvement. Don't do it for anyone else.
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>>17253760
Yep, said like any normal dude. Just be genuine and see what people think of you.
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>>17253747
>>17253754
What are you guys talking about?
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>>17253762
Your mother.
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>>17253638
May seem stupid as fuck, but just learn to be comfortable about the kinda person you are and make an effort to find people who you can relate to. Don't try to force it with people you don't and just keep doing lifting and keeping discipline, for yourself.
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i think OP is an autistic sociopath. he will go far
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>>17253638
>>17253684
>>17253651
>>17253660

There are far more sublime things in this world than meat curtains barring a wet orifice. The reason you are this pathetic, the reason you fail in your endeavors, is because you have elevated the act of two bodies smashing together to something mystical and elusive. It holds power over you and you keep letting it.

Fuck people, fuck sex, They can rot and fester. Why would you ALLOW them to devalue you so.

Read up on mediation, then fucking practice it. If you don't, you deserve this fate
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>>17253760
I just hate comedians man, you're like a clown without makeup, I get you're trying to make others laugh, but turning it into a job disgusts me and ruins the fun, there's a big difference between a funny guy you know and a comedian

Keep at it though if that's what you enjoy doing
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>>17253765
>implying he's only that
Can you quit shit posting please?
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>>17253758
Shut up retard
>>17253759
Broh that's just a meme, there's no differences in the brain according to your gender, just some hormones
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>>17253765
I think you're an attentionwhoring bitch that should gee tee eff oh tee bee aych
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>>17253746
>is it normal for people that have called you a best friend/close friend to ignore you for days and sometimes over a week?
A year back I had a close friend that went through a pretty rough year. I had been there and was going through some bad times myself so I put a lot of effort into trying to help him out get him back in a good place. 8 months of that and I had to let go and let him help himself - still, I was around for him and made sure he knew that. Well, he eventually got a job and things slowly started to turn around for him. I started having my own issues and it nice to have him back around to occasionally bitch about life to.

Then a little bit ago he got a gf and has almost completely cut me out of his life.
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>>17253745
i'm 27. i was in your shoes. i would recommend a few self-help starters but once you've read through a few you've read them all because most of the messages boil down to: believe in yourself, think-plan-act.

the first book I recommend is "The slight edge". This is the basis for everything that follows. you don't even have to read it. This is the summary: every day you have choices and they have positive or negative consequences. they will be small choices that don't seem consequential in the short run but over a long period of time will yield big results.

for example, every time you decide to drink soda or eat fast food you're making an unhealthy choice that doesn't affect you right away but over time they build up to health issues.

vice versa, every time you decide to do something positive to yourself you're putting small deposits into your positive bank and over time they result in big positive change.

I've read over dozens of books of self-help books over my 20s in search of answers but honestly there's not much point anymore because the majority of these books are fluff. some might have some great ideas but again these are mostly common sense. what matters is whether you implement them in your life.

so my advice is to read some philosophy and self-help books, but more importantly, act on your new-found knowledge.

some books:
the slight edge (intro to self-improvement 101)
seven habits of highly effective people (work ethics 101)
how to win friends and influence people (social skills 101)
meditations by marcus aurelius (philosophy 103)
the power of now
the greatest salesman in the world
mindfulness in plain english (meditation 101)

good luck.
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>>17253769
Social proofing by calling me retard, retard.
>a-a-atleast I'm better than him right guys?
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>>17253765
books also say that people operate not on logic or reason but on pride and vanity and other petty emotions and when they are challenged on anything they got pissy
Thats why one of the principles is to never contradict anyone

>>17253766
I've already stated my case ITT, I'll just have to see what happens

>>17253769
I dont think thats the case and even if it is it doesn't matter because that would just mean the body language and other shit applies to both equally
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>>17253770
I was gonna leave, but just for you I'll stick around a bit longer ;)
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>>17253772
Yeah see win friends and influence people is fucking great

Know any other social skills books?
Im gonna be reading talk language soon, made by the same guy that co-made win friends

>>17253775
fucking girls are so fucking petty and vain I swear
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>>17253772
Moar books on meditation? And which one should I read first?
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>>17253771
I've always made time for people man I always put them before myself and still manage to do what it takes to get further in life toward my goals, I just don't understand how someone could do that kind of shit, "we should hang out over the summer anon!" and then never invite you over or accept invites, I get my hopes up every time too, thinking it'll be different, but it's not man, I'd understand if it was just one person being fake and shit but it happens every time and I don't get why, why would you ask someone to hang out knowing you're not going to
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>>17253767
>clown without makeup

World needs clowns, retard.
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>>17253776
<3333
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>>17253776
Ouch, somebody has a complex
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>>17253638

You're treating life like an rpg with grinding and stat checks. Its pathetic.
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>>17253776
Women are a good people, and men got their heads up there ass to dude. People just suck in general imo, including you and me buddy.
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>>17253780
Its good though, the more stupid you are the easier you are to manipulate
>>17253781
>>17253783
I mean all people in general kinda suck but girls even more so
>inb4 30+ posts of fedora tipping misogynist

This shit is fucking neuroscience it's not up for debate

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-A8GvUehq4


>>17253782
The grinding and stat checks have always been there, its just most people aren't aware of them
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>>17253774
You. Should. Meditate. It's the solution to this sorry state you have contorted yourself into. The answer is right fucking here, FUCKING DO IT
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>>17253782
Life is a game.
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>>17253779
Doesn't mean I've gotta like em big guy

I appreciate their attempt but ultimately cannot respect them for degrading themselves for others entertainment
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>>17253785
God fuck meditation there is no such thing as spirituality or any of that other shit

I need real hard facts to guide me to success, not your shitty Buddhist faggotry
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>>17253785
It's amazing the transformation that a month of meditation can do to your ego, it's beautiful.
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>>17253778
>I just don't understand how someone could do that kind of shit, "we should hang out over the summer anon!" and then never invite you over or accept invites
I think that like most things people don't realize what they perceive as small, unconnected actions can have such an impact on you. Sometimes it is done with bad intent.

Either way it fucking sucks and I wish I had an answer that could solve our problems. Saying "screw it" and getting better friends remains the only thing that seems like it may still work.
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You can do it, brah. Just keep making it!!! I know it may seem tought, but stopping now will leave you in the middle of the long, dark, frozen trail, and you must keep going.... you must keep going
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>>17253774
Nope that's the case, read some medical literature, the only change neurobiologically talking is the kind of hormones released by the pituitary gland, estructurally the human brain in the men or women is the same
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>>17253788
I don't believe in too much spiritually but meditation is exercising the mind, mental stillness and focus.
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>>17253784
ooooooo go on! I'm just dying to jump in your bed and fuck you till you pass out from exhaustion and ~pleasure~ and then I'll make you a sandwich for when you wake up because you've convinced me that you are a superior master race of human
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>>17253777
you're missing the point. you're still in seeking mode. reading more books on meditation is not gonna help you at meditating. actually meditating will.

the book i mention covers all you need to know about meditation to start the practice. once you reach intermediate level you'll find more books on the subject.

there's no point reading about calculus if you don't understand basic algebra yet.

as far as which book to read first, read whichever field you feel you lack the most right now.

one thing to be careful about self-help books. when you're reading them, you might feel good about yourself because the language is very uplifting and you feel like you're improving your life, but do not be mistaken. nothing is improved until you've come up with a personalized plan of action and act on it. the key is action.
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>>17253785
Meditating is such fucking garbage,
>le go to happy place
Sure and then you stop meditating and you're right back to the nightmare called life
>le meditate on your problems
But that's what OP does 24/7 anyway, he thinks about this shit constantly and until he gets to where he wants to be there cannot be peace,
>le banging sluts isn't that important brahhhh
different people want different things it is not for any of us to decide what OP should or should not want
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>>17253772
Moar social skills books?

>>17253794
I dont put much stock into trying to impress some random bitch on the internet
Here I'm anon and so are you and I dont have to worry about trying to hide anything because there is no chance of anything going for me if I do so there is no point

Yeah good for you you sure showed me
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>>17253794
>>17253797
also that feels on wheels pic was meant for the other guy not you lol

>>17253796
>>17253796
>>17253796
Literally fucking this
Someone give this guy a nobel peace prize
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>>17253788
When presented with something you clearly no nothing about, you should research it, instead of scuffing at it. If you're OP, you don't deserve pity, you deserve spite

Here, I did the hard part for you -
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20363650
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17291166
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23541163
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>>17253798
You don't understand enlightenment, detachment and ego death then.
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>>17253638
>I'll be 20 this time next year,
kill yourself already then. you're still a child.

fucking youngfags these days when will they learn
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>>17253797
oh no is my master upset? did I do something wrong? you don't have to hide a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g from me <3 so why stay anon?
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>>17253802
Im starting to get the feeling your a guy
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>>17253796
>>17253798

Stop speaking on things you know nothing about, you fools. This isn't some snake oil salesman trick, some spiritual mombo jumbo. The act of mediation has an observable and verifiable effect on the brain. It reforms it physically. You should try reading up on it
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>>17253796
Nope, meditating works boy, just see >>17253793, the oxytocin and serotonine release due meditation have long-standing effects in the brain, well only if do it right
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i'll post a timestamp if you want <3

but you'll have to tell me exactly what that means bc I've been on 4chan for literally a day
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>>17253796
you have a misguided notion of what meditation is.
it's neither going to a happy place nor dwelling on your problems.

meditation is examining your thought patterns and recognizing and stop identifying your self with your thoughts or feelings.

it's putting your "problems" into perspective and looking at things more objectively.

it's being to stay calm and at peace amidst chaos.
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>>17253798
>>17253796
Here, some more knowledge you neglected to avail yourself of.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20164557
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22569185

You'd probably find more, if you were so inclined
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>>17253803
>>17253806
for you
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>>17253793
oh good, I was looking for a way to get rid of the red, orange, and pink of my brain.
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>>17253804
>>17253805
Shut the fuck up
No amount of stupid fucking meditation could ever fix this nightmare

I have got to have sex or my life is over and it doesn't matter what you say it is the way it is, give me advice to help me get there or get the fuck out.
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>>17253790
Yeah, maybe someday we'll meet someone willing to die for us like we would them, good luck anon, I'll try to make more friends, thanks for the (you)'s, have a great night
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>>17253807
"mindfulness in plain english (meditation 101)"

Should I read this to learn how to meditate or something else? I'll just go torrent the book I just quoted if I don't get a better option and start now.
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>>17253810
I'm suprised that fuckboy doing neuroscience isn't telling you off yet
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>>17253814
what the hell does fuckboy even mean?
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>>17253811
Mediation will help you get there.. Remember? Lol.
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>>17253811
You're completely delusion. This world has marred your brain with filth and self destructive trappings. I have tried to help you, anon. I have showed you studies that support mediation, and you'd find more if you would try.

Truly, anon, from the bottom of my still cynical heart: Destroy yourself
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>>17253815
Virgin that's in a relationship with a girl souley for sex. Typically he doesn't have many friends and acts like an idiot, like that guy doing neuroscience.
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>>17253811
Rob Lowe is a pedophile, just want to make sure nobody forgets this.
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>>17253813
Read up on as much Mindful mediation as you feel necessary. It really is a simple thing, anon. It will change you immensely in the long term, you have my word on this
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>>17253808
One of these are for alzheimer patients
>>17253811
Dammit you need a psychiatrist
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>>17253817
>destroy yourself
Gee you sound mad bro maybe you should go fucking meditate
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>>17253818
So on one hand, everyone mocks and taunts older virgins as being losers, yet if they hang around girls soley for sex then they are losers too?

Do you not see the problem here?

>your a subhuman piece of shit for being a virgin
>your a fucking loser for trying to do something about it

This is why I have detach myself emotionally from people and not take things at face value and just continually remember the shit I'm reading and apply it, I gotta remember I'm practically dealing with robots just gotta push the right buttons and get the right results

>>17253821
I don't want your stupid fucking psychiatrist
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>>17253811
everybody has been giving you advice and you've been disregarding everything that you think is not a straight line from here to sex
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>>37549517
Because sex is all that matters.
If something will help me get it, its good.
If it won't, it doesn't matter.
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>>17253824
this >>17253831
is for you
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Kek
>this thread
I hope you like CHADS fuck STACY WITH A BIG COCK LIKE MINE. GOD I FEED ON YOUR DESPERATION AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAJHJAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
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I leave /adv/ for a few weeks and Turbo comes back in full force. Hiya kiddo.

Stop being an awful human being and then maybe your hard work will mean something.
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>>17253841
>>17253841
who the fuck is turbo?
also this thread was moved her by a mod for some reason it was on /fit/ originally
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>>17253850
>for some reason

maybe because it isn't /fit/ related whatsoever.
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>>17253850

Turbo is some kid who fits all of the standard thread things that wanted to join the peace corps to rape women because he couldn't get laid at home. He always talks about how he can run fast and how he's working out and studying how to decieve people that will help him get laid.

He's a permavirgin who talks about his undercut all the time but is really just a pudgy faggot.

His name is Turbo because he said his legs were long enough that he could sprint for at least twelve seconds to get away from people that might want to hurt him for raping people.

One of these threads pop up every month or so, a little less frequent than career Brandon.
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>>17253877
>His name is Turbo because he said his legs were long enough that he could sprint for at least twelve seconds to get away from people that might want to hurt him for raping people.
I'm pissing myself at this
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>>17253658
However much i agree with you about being being pathetic because he only cares about losing his virginity.
But speaking from experience, i lost mine at 20 and i used to feel exactly the same way >>17253660
does now. But after losing it, you realise its not really THAT amazing, yeah sure human intimacy is great but nothing to kill yourself over if you go without
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>>17253877
sounds like your making this shit up

and even if not the OP has been talking about how he's lost all his weight and is actually getting in shape and shit, I don't think he's the same guy
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>>17253887
Ok, OP.
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>>17253892
there are literally 72 posters ITT
get your head out of your ass
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>>17253900
Ok, OP.
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>>17253887

That's not even the guy who told the Turbo story, I am.

Not making this up, the kid is nuts. It's a recurring thread. It always devolves into this kind of thread, where he ignores everyone's advice and thinks getting his dick wet is all that will ever matter.

He's even posted about trying to "hide" who he is so no one on /adv/ will ever know, but he's so autistic that it's plainly obvious who we're dealing with.
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>>17253917

Misquoted, my bad.

anyways, hi turbo.
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>>17253917
>>17253907
>>17253892
Is this guy fucking serious right now?
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>>17253921
Completely.
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>>17253924
I mis replied to the story time thing
I mean these guys going "hi turbo xd" like they have some shitty resident meme here on /adv/
I never even come here I was just moved with the rest of thread

I dunno what the fuck you guys are going on about but I dont care
Keep on topic or fuck off

>inb4 hi turbo

Like the other one said there are 72 posters ITT
If your this paranoid about the turbo boogy man then thats stupid
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>>17253928

Hi Turbo.
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>>17253928
Someone is taking it really personally, it seems.
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>>17253638
Eh, you sound like you're doing enough.

Ditch the undercut, though. Those have been out for a while now.

Also, generally, don't listen to anything /fa/ says. They're not the kind of people who have friends.

I would say don't focus too much on meeting girls, though. Back when I was a virgin, I ended up meeting a guy friend who basically taught me everything I needed to know about talking to girls and getting laid and such and that made things a lot easier. So look for friends that can introduce you to people and help you learn to socialize properly and don't focus too heavily on finding sexual or romantic partners.
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>>17253956
what other haircuts are any good?
well /fa/ is about clothes not social shit

>guy friend story
that sounds great but I don't know anyone like that, I'm really hoping that come this upcoming semester I can do good enough to get into a fraternity and also join loads of clubs (which basically let in anyone) and either just "naturally" run into a girl that we "click" and then yadayada, or have a deal where friends pull their strings to help me out
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>>17253985
People who dress like /fa/ are off putting. Wear normal clothes. A fitted button up. Slim (but not skinny) jeans/pants.

Do a standard side part or pomp. Just grow in your sides. Don't make everything even, but don't have the sides shaved either.
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>>17254006
any pics of the hair style?
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>>17254006
Not OP, but I want to cut my hair - I was thinking something like this. Good or no?
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