Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
The other thread isn't autosaging, are we doing that thing where retarded people start a new thread before the old one is dead again?
>>17249590
Says the bump limit is reached. Are we doing that thing where retarded people falsely accuse others of being retarded people?
>>17249616
When this thread was made, the bump limit was not reached, you fuckwit.
i got a bit mouthy with a manager at my job yesterday. am i tucked? if it matters he not the one i answer to. i talk to the owners directly
>>17249624
It wasn't at the bump limit for like 5 minutes. Get over it m8.
>>17249651
I'm sorry your life is so empty that you place so much value on being the first to make this thread, OP
>>17249655
>I'm sorry your life is so empty that you place so much value on being the first to make this thread, OP
said the thread police
This is the most autistic argument I've seen on this website
Girls: how unattractive is yellow teeth? Also, how can I whiten my teeth?
>>17249968
Whitening strips work pretty well
>>17249989
But can also leave your teeth really sensitive
>>17249989
Yikes, those are expensive.
I couldn't find a general questions thread, so I'll ask here because I usually have this problem talking to girls:
Any tips on how to validate/comfort someone when something bad has happened you think it's kind of their fault?
Or at least, it's come about from doing things you didn't think were a good idea.
I've had lots of moments like this over the years because I'm a pessimistic autist-lite, but recently I was with a friend walking her small dog.
>It's a bit retarded and she had it off the lead.
>We were on a walking/bike track.
>An older guy on a bike was coming along.
>She called the dog, it panicked and didn't move and the guy rode over it.
>Dog was very, very upset. Girl was upset. Guy was angry.
After it happened I feel like I didn't comfort her enough. How would you have liked it?
Prior to this the whole time I was thinking "shit, people ride along here and we're taking up a lot of space" so I also felt guilty for not saying something. Should I have mentioned I wanted to say something earlier or would that have made it worse?
girls, if you are naturally shy but i am your friend so you feel confident enough to talk to me like you never talk to anyone else and i ask you out and you dont feel the same would you want to stop seeing me?
i want to ask one of my friends out but she is shy as fuck and i actually like her as a friend too and i dont want to lose a friend in case she doesnt feel the same
Are there any ladylike women out there who don't use words like dick and cock?
Girls: how much do political view affect how attractive you find a guy?
>>17250127
Political views goes towards compatibility, not attractiveness. At least for me
>>17250122
I only use them on the internet. I wouldn't use the word ladylike to describe myself though. That's not to say I don't think I'm feminine, but I just feel like ladylike is such an outdated term
>>17250120
Why do people like you think we can read people's minds or predict how someone who is not us will react to something? People suck at predicting their own behaviour, let alone someone else's
>>17250131
Alright. How much do political views affect compatibility?
>>17250147
Significantly if they're completely different. Not much at all if they only vary slightly.
>>17250015
>>17250029
This is true, but any whitening method (that works) will be. You can go get your dentist to do that UV lightening treatment thing. It only takes one session, but I'm not sure if it's more or less expensive than whitening strips in the long run.
I've also heard of daily coconut oil pulling helping, but I've never tried it and I'm skeptical.
>>17250120
>am naturally shy girl
>have very good male friend
>feel confident to talk to him like I never talk to anyone else
>he asks me out
>I don't feel the same
>we both don't want to stop seeing each other
>only grow closer after that
>I develop feelings and confess
>now a couple for 2 years
Maybe it will turn out well. You'll never know if you don't try. I totally understand the fear of losing such a close friend though. I was terrified (but understanding) that he wouldn't want to be my friend anymore after I said no.
>>17250122
I'm honestly curious, what would you prefer them to use?
>>17250127
I think sharing political views is integral to compatibility, as the other anon said. Political views are influenced by values and personality. A guy with the same views as me is awesome. It feels like we can connect and agree about things on a deep level.
>>17250186
ya i know i have to ask her out because she kinda asked me out before or at least thats what i got from the whole clusterfucked but the problem is she already knows im a neurotic/ deppresive fuck so why wouldnt she make the first move if she knows that its a lot harder for me to act
guys this really cute waiter was flirting with me,problem is my two family members were like bees on honey & stuck to me the entire time through the meal
I could only ask her name which she smiled and gave me in the past I've caught her looking at me before even seen her smile while severing others what should I do to interact with her?
I should mention there's a massive age difference between us I'm 29 I'd wager she's late 30s at least
TL:DR milf waiter says funny jokes while you eat with family and motions for your response
>>17250280
I'm 31, my wife is 38. I was 24 when we hooked up, she was 31. We are happily married.
Age is only a number.
Have fun.
I have serious issues with intimacy. I've realized that I even have issue making close friends. When conversations start getting into that "deep" territory, I get extremely nervous and feel sick.
Even reading through these nightly threads, reading things that people do for/with their GF/BF, i get queasy and can't imagine being in the same situation.
Obviously this is a part of some bigger issue that I can't put a finger on, but does anyone have advice on how to chip away at this feeling?
>>17250538
Therapy could probably help.
>>17249590
Wouldnt be the first time. At least I understand why people do it on /vg/, so they can get their weird MMO group pictures in on the OP.
How do I get a girl to make out with me at a party.
Do I just get a good vibe going and ask for them to come away from the crowd and go in for it? I'm really bad a social interactions
Girls, it seems like there's an unlimited amount of girls who will: do porn, cam whore, strip, model nude, not to mention the countless random being a slut incidents, etc. Like a large proportion of attractive women do this. Is it common for most attractive women to go for a slut phase? Did you? Not shamming btw I think it's great!
When I tried saying something flirty to the friend I'm crushing on, she kicked me the same way she does it when I make some kind of lame joke. Another time when I was too embarrassed to tell her a compliment but ended up mustering up the courage as we were texting each other goodnight, she wrote "I beg you don't tell me compliments before I go to sleep"
Am I already rejected or should I try to tell her about my feelings seriously before I try to move on? I think I gotta act because I'm getting a horrible oneitis for her.
I love my girl to death. She is talented, hardworking, smart, & incredibly beautiful. She is absolutely perfect except...
She turns into a complete psychotic bitch every month for a half a week. She is very loving the rest of the time and very chill to be around. Then one day after a few weeks of being amazing she is mildly grumpy & easily irritated. The day after that she is hell. Like, we will be having a nice loving chat and out of nowhere completely shut down and stop talking to me. I will ask her again and again what's wrong and she will go off on me how I don't finder her attractive enough and I'm not nearly as loving as I use to be(any other time she says I'm perfect). She will go on about how terrible I am and how I have stopped loving her for hours. It's not always that subject either. I could be playing a game minding my own business and she will practically kick down the door screaming "WHY THE FUCK DID YOU LIKE THIS GIRLS POST ARE YOU TWO FUCKING". I'll just sit there like a deer in headlights with absolutely nothing to say except "No, what? No!" over and over. Other times she will just call me names and say I'm a terrible person for calling SJW idiots not because she agrees with SJWs(she hates em) but because I only do it to be mean and hateful and I get off to putting others down.
My past GFs would turn slightly more emotional or just be grumpy because of cramps when they have their period. That was easy. I would just get them some midol or go out and get their pads/tampons to be nice. This shit my current GF does however is just absolutely terrifying and makes me feel awful. I do everything I can to be supportive and not make the situation worse. I won't yell at her even if she is just insanely pissed and screaming. I don't call her any names even though she will pretty much spend those 3-4 days calling me terrible things and constantly questioning my character. After those 4 days she will calm down and usually apologizes for everything.
>>17250538
Therapy for your deep psychological issues.
Or you could simply power through it and force yourself to open up to people.
I did that recently, and it felt pretty good to finally conquer that fear.
On the other hand, i'm pretty sure this girl now thinks i'm a terrifying potential psychopath or some shit, so that's the downside.
People like superficial interactions. Even the ones who say they don't. They only exceptions are autists, schizoids, and psychopaths, in my experience.
>>17250666
(continued)
After apologizing she will say how she doesn't like being like that and will try not to do it again. Except it will happen again. It has for a year. It's absolutely exhausting and I cannot take the mental abuse much more.
Again, she is totally amazing in every way possible. She's brilliant, and 10/10 beautiful.
What the fuck can I do about this? Are there medications for fast onset psychotic bitch syndrome? Is she bi-polar or is it just the hormones? Will birth control help?
Should I suggest her going to a doctor or a psychiatrist for this? She would probably be open to it. How should I approach this.
Because I'm on day 2 of 4 and I kinda wanna kiss a shotgun.
>>17250674
>>17250666
Forgot to say.
We are both 28.
>>17250674
BC is almost guaranteed to help (it will suppress her natural cycle), but i suspect she may experience more severe than usual side effects if the monthly swing has such a strong effect on her.
Try different painkillers (especially ibuprofen-based). Also try seeing a family doctor or gynecologist to get a stronger formulation prescribed, it might help.
>>17250698
Agreed, the 3/4 month BC injection is recommended. Be warned though. When my wife went onto it, I was stuck with a cranky psycho-bitch for two and a half weeks. I am now sitting without PMS psycho-bitch for almost three and a half years.
Get it done and stick it out for those few weeks. It's well worth it.
What are the best circumstances for a female to lose her virginity?
>>17250709
>the 3/4 month BC injection is recommended
Personally i'm wary of it for the same reason i don't like most depot injections: the hell are you gonna do if you run into severe side effects?
There was a femanon on here with a case of that. One of her breasts was 3x the size of the other, gland was fucked.
Kind of funny to think over how much gynecology i've learned as an /adv/ regular. People are really not keen on seeing their ob/gyn.
>>17250698
The strongest PK where we are(Mexico! We move around a lot. Soon Canada) is tramadol and we can purchase it over the counter where she lives so I will try that and see if it helps her any.
We have been talking about BC for awhile but... more SEVERE side effects? What kind of fucking cold hell would I bet getting into? I will still want to give it a try but good god I have never seen such a drastic change in someone like what happens with her. Last night she was grumpy so I knew today was going to be the day but when I woke up she was being her sweet normal self. We spent all day just relaxing, talking, working, making future plans, and being all lovey towards one another and then it happened. She was saying how much she would never be able to find another man as good as I am, that it was impossible. I give her a kiss and say I "feel the same to you" and she gave me the biggest look of disgust I had ever seen. "OH REALLY!? AREN'T ALL OF YOUR FRIEND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN?".
In my head I was freaking the fuck out. All day had been great and now it was about to go to shit. But I kept cool and tried my best to defuse the situation by telling her the honest truth. No other girl in the world mattered to me but her. Her mind was already dead set on wanting a fight however. She told me to stop lying and the proceeded to name any girl I had ever known in the last five years and how I was still in love with all of them.I denied it all of course because none of it was true. Eventually I told her to please stop this isn't helping anything and I honestly had no more to add. Told her I only loved her but she took my plea of a cease fire as admission of guilt.
Make the demons go away someone, anyone, pleaseeeeee
Why do girls never make the first move. Why don't yall ever ask us guys out
>>17250744
Personally i have issues with being rejected, ostracized kinda and don't believe someone would ask me out.
There were some articles about how a girl's ego is more fragile.
Also isn't it humiliating if all the charm and make up didn't infatuate the boy and you have to be desperate?
>>17250744
they do.
You're just not desirable enough for anyone to ask.
My last 2 GFs asked me out first.
>>17250749
Will you be my gf
Questions are open to anyone, but please state your gender.
Do you:
Wash your hands after using the bathroom?
Pee in the shower?
Pee in the pool?
>>17250741
Like I said. That same psycho-bitch that comes to visit for a few days every month came to visit for two and a half weeks when she went onto the BC injection the first time. Be prepared for hell.
Remember that you may have to deal with even worse effects should she get pregnant (goind off topic, I know). The first two months with her was really bad.
The sex once those two month was up was insane though. She just wanted sex at every opportunity:
*coming home from work
*getting into bed
*she'd wake me at 2-3am every morning
*when we wake up
*when I come out of the shower
sex 5 times a day, everyday was fucking exhausting.
>>17250757
M
Yes.
Yes
Yes
Anyone who says no is lying, except for the first question maybe
>>17250757
M
Yes.
No.
No.
Anyone who answers the opposite but then follows it with something like "everyone does it, they just lie about it" is trying to normalise their shit behaviour.
It's minority of assholes justifying their disrespect and laziness.
>>17250186
I'm going through exactly this. You're the girl I just recently asked out plus a couple of years. I think she's at the ">I don't feel the same" stage but I really don't know. She says she's down to hang out at the start of next semester but she needs to "focus on her studies" for now. So I gotta wait a few months to know her feelings of me. She still talks to me pretty regularly despite being the very shy type. So I don't know what to make of it.
>>17250750
>You're just not desirable enough for anyone to ask.
>>17250757
ftm tranny
Sometimes no
Sometimes yes
No, not in the pool, happened in the sea/lake/river though
>>17250638
I don't think so. I think they are probably a visible minority. The most recent data says US women have an average of 4 lifetime partners, and one study found that women who are more physically attractive tend to have less sexual partners.
>>17250744
They typically don't have to.
What's a good first message to send to someone over facebook? Something that doesn't make me seem like a desperate fuckboi or a beta cuck
>>17250833
>They typically don't have to.
What do you mean by this? "don't have to" as in their crush always asks them out immediately, or "dont have to" as in there's always someone willing to bang them?
>>17250843
they don't have to cause some horny guy will ask them out before they get desperate enough to ask someone
>>17249968
Girls, Teeth are naturally slightly yellowish. They have almost the same coloration as our bones have, whitening your teeth too much can and will damage them
>>17250846
But do most girls really not give a fuck about what specific guy they end up with?
That's kind of the point of asking someone specific, because you want them specifically, not some random horny guy, right?
>>17250726
In her 20s with her husband/life partner who she has a long, loving, stable relationship with, who is her absolute best friend, and who also saved himself for her. They trust and love each other completely, and want to spend their lives together. Both are totally prepared and ready.
Ideally they had been working up to this moment for years even, slowly mastering each-others' bodies through kissing and caressing.
They go through these motions for hours beforehand, teasing each other to the point where neither can help themselves anymore and it's finally time.
And she has an arm implant or IUD, so that he can cum deep inside of her with no worries. Over and over and over again.
Oh and they should be on some kind of camping trip/getaway in the middle of nature, far away from anyone else, so that they can feel free to be as loud and uninhibited as they want.
At least that's my dream.
>>17250866
> arm implant
Those are actually really dangerous.
>>17250851
>>17250843
A guy they like usually asks them out. That's my experience.
>>17250868
Gonna need source calling BS. The only possible dangerous complication you experience is infection in the insertion site, and that's rare/easily fixable if it happens.
IUDs are arguably more dangerous.
>>17250873
Arm implant has a tendency to migrate, making it difficult to remove. Way more common than the IUD not working out.
Shouldn't virgins be more wanted than usual? I mean the chances of them having STD's are extremely low and all.
>>17250870
So luck?
What do unlucky girls do, then?
>>17250902
Normal people don't pick who they want to date based on whether or not someone is a virgin.
>>17250903
It's not luck, it's called being desirable, as well as remnants of gender roles.
>>17250757
F
Yes. Anyone who says it's not important doesn't realise how filthy their hands are - and it's not just a matter of "well I haven't gotten sick yet," you could be getting other people sick. And unless you make time to wash your hands throughout the day, doing so after using the bathroom is just a convenient opportunity.
Yes, in my own shower (it's the only time I get to pee standing up, it's awesome!)
No, never. I don't even swim in pools anymore, disgusting.
>>17250889
There has only been one single case of significant/dangerous migration of an implant. Any other time an a implant might move, it only moves slightly, and this is no problem at all, especially because the new models are x-ray detectable.
Now IUDs on the other hand have a much greater rate of migration to the point of perforation and expulsion. Still rare, but not at all as safe as an arm implant.
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214911215300072
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/16857067/
http://www.obgyn.net/acog-2014/uterine-perforation-rates-levonorgestrel-and-copper-iuds
http://www.m.webmd.com/women/intrauterine-device-iud-for-birth-control#tn9965
>>17250873
I tried the arm implant. I ended up with skin problems, rusty looking vaginal discharge instead of a period, weight gain and also depression. Additionally, the side effects only taper off months after you get it taken out. Nexplanon: not even once.
Guys: do you consider it a red flag if a girl you're dating has a lot of male friends?
>women in their 20s should men in their 20s with no experience at all get a practice girl whos younger to make up for what we missed in high school
I've been thinking a lot about what I want and maybe I've found the solution for all the 20+ virgin guys, but then it's also looked down on. I'm 24 and kissless
Anyway, in my state the AOC is 16, so I'd stick to a girl that age at least. But:
-she's more likely to be a virgin, not care that your'e a virgin, or if you lie and say you aren't she probably can't tell
-much lower expectations, the fact that you have your own apartment is so impressive and they aren't thinking about your lack of college degree etc
-do all the school kid crap you missed out on, have a picnic in the park and fuck in the back of a car and hold hands in the mall and she's always wearing miniskirts with long socks etc. Girl my age doesn't want that anymore
On the other hand everyone will disapprove and it may cost me friends.
I'm probably just going to get called a pedo whatever
A short fling fell apart a few weeks ago because we were too different. Well, the guy complained also that I was too much all over him, wanted to hug, kiss and have sex a lot. Now that I look back I see how sometimes he would have just wanted to watch and not cuddle.
How can I control myself in the future? It's hard to remember to be calm in those situations especially when I am horny.
>>17251346
It depends more on your personality, what you do with those male friends etc. A lot of "tomboys" grow up to play violent video games and tell dirty jokes and drink beer and be "one of the guys", that's one thing - or maybe you're into outdoorsy stuff with your guy friends.
But if you spend a lot of effort on 'nerd chic' fashion and cosplay and becoming this idealized le nerd girl and they're all fawning over you with cringey comments on social media... ie it's obvious you just want the attention and come off as slutty then no I don't want anything to do with you.
I guess it has to do with how genuine you are about it.
>>17251425
Watch tv*
>>17251425
Apologize and just say that you get that way when you're horny
>>17251432
Yeah but this previous guy kind of got sick of it that we didn't do much else. Maybe I'll just try to focus on doing other stuff too, like have a date or something, go to a movie and then have sex? I won't be dating again soon yet but want to fix where I went wrong.
>>17251425
Before you "fix" anything, consider that the next guy you fall for might be extremely affectionate and love that shit.
Don't change before knowing who you're changing for.
>>17251438
Fuck you are right. Maybe it's just how I am, and my last longterm ex didn't mind at all if I wanted sex many times a day. I guess I didn't ruin that fling with my behaviour, we just truly were too different.
23 year old female Virgin here. What's the age at which I should give up on the hope of finding a guy that I am attracted to who loves me back and just settle for the first guy who promises commitment so that I don't end up alone forever? I feel like I'm too old to get a compatible guy that I find attractive emotionally and physically. I'm afraid of becoming a creepy old woman as a result of being too picky.
>>17251327
>dangerous
>>17251457
About 30, imo
>>17251457
I would say hold out for the right guy indefinitely. You shouldn't start to worry until you approach 30. 23 is a fairly good age to start looking for a potential husband, so you might as well focus on that rather than sex.
Also, see:
>>17251151
>>17251457
What answer would you give a guy asking that question? There's tons of older virgin guys around here and they're always fed jussbeeyourself.
Virginity is an attractive trait in women and raises your value so you could get a better quality guy than if you were 23 and a huge slut.
>>17251470
Is it better to commit suicide than be a spinster? Almost all the single women >28 I know are on some kind of antidepressant. I'm pretty neurotic and I barely leave my house unless it's work/gym so just in case I don't find a guy what are some good lifestyle alternatives to having a man and kids? Are there dorm style living arraignments for lonely adults to support each other? How bad does the loneliness get? I'm pretty lonely now and I try my damn hardest to look happy and I'm wondering if the faking being happy with being single is easier with age.
>>17251480
How many men have you asked out in the past year
>>17251480
The link was to a specific post, not to the thread. Your attention is being called to the scryer's offer, not to the suicidal OP.
How do people handle long distance relationships?
My boyfriend of almost 3 years had to move away because of family, I was unable to follow him, we haven't seen each other in almost a year now, it's been so hard...but the hardiest thing is the loneliness I feel, I miss being touched, being kissed, being held, a webcam can only help so much
I love him so much, but this relationship is slowly killing me, has anyone here been in this kind of situation?
Also he moved out of the US, he's in Europe now, so visiting him is not only very expensive, but pretty much not an option.
>>17251480
23 is still plenty of time to find a good husband. Just put yourself out there.
On a scale of (good)1-10(bad) how fucked am I that my sociopath ex messaged my current girl and apparently they talked for awhile....
Seriously, my ex is a legit sociopath. She will lie about anything and everything to get her way and she has no idea at all that she is lying. As an example, 5months after she cheated on me and moved in with a new guy she found out I went out with another girl. She sent me an email berating me and telling me I am a shit person for getting over her so quickly. She was so disgust at this and told me that she would never, ever do such a thing herself. I asked her "Where are you currently?" and she said "You already know, I'm at J's house." Just some crazy levels of delusion. I told her to fuck off and I haven't talked to her since.
So yeah. She constantly tries to keep in contacted with my family and friends. It's been about a year and half since she did all that shit but she still checks my blog everyday. She's insane.
My current GF is very insecure and thinks I want to fuck every other girl in the world.
So again, how fucked am I now?
Hi guys, i need some advice. There's this female coworker of mine who's pretty fun to talk to, enjoys drawing and art like me, and is a very nice person in general. Thing is she's pretty busty, and sometimes when we put on our work jackets, I get glimpses of her cleavage, and I get pretty nervous and awkward, and I think she's noticed this by now. I like her as a person, but I don't want to make looks at her cleavage anymore, since she's got a kid and a boyfriend. Any tips for what I can do about this? Is it something i should talk to her about? Or would that be awkward
>>17251487
I don't ask men out. If I show interest in him by flirting, listening, taking an interest in his life, etc and he's not responsive then it means he's not interested in a relationship with me. A guy might say yes to a girl he's not interested in because of the possibility of getting some casual sex. The only girls I know who chase boys are those who legitimately enjoy not committal type relationships. Not me, I'd probably become a "clinger".
>>17251518
Aim to look at her forehead or eyebrows when you're talking.
>>17251522
You might be overestimating how obvious your flirting/interest is.
Many girls do, and act surprised that they get overlooked.
And it's hilarious to hear people consider suicide or nursing homes before getting off their ass and asking a guy out, lazy as fuck
Pic related is a fairy tale
>>17251522
I think you're looking at it wrong, the type of guy who wants something serious and possible hasn't had much experience may be too shy to know what to do when you start flirting, plus if you're an older virgin yourself maybe you aren't sending the vibes you think you are.
I can't have much sympathy for you complaining that you'll never get something when you don't make any effort. You sound the same as the bitter virgin guys who have never talked to a girl yet demand a waifu. Ask some guys out and make what you want very clear. There are men out there who want to wait for marriage and want to get married young.
>>17251492
To handle an online relationship you have to be very secure. If the physical aspect is a big deal to you, you're going to have a problem.
You should try to distract yourself with your career, hobbies and friends so you don't get caught up in negative and self defeating thoughts like it won't work. If you aren't distracted and can't live your own life you'll just be tormenting yourself.
Being in an online relationship is like being single and requires the same amount of self reliance. So look at this time as a growing period where you can figure out more about yourself, fix negative aspects of your personality, and decide if you even want the relationship in the first place. If your compatibility with your boyfriend is strong enough you'll surely be able to withstand the time apart.
>>17251457
>>17251480
You sound like precisely the kind of girl I like, very difficult to find in the liberal area where I live.
Well, you have a notion of what sort of guy you're looking for, so you just need a way to meet him. If you're religious, get more involved in your church. If you're not, focus on things involving your interests. If your interests are, as I suspect, largely home-based, Internet groups might be a good idea. That's usually how I meet girls, myself.
>>17251528
holy shit that comic was created by one crazy ass bitch.
Hi anons. I'll give some back story. So, I've fallen in love with this girl I've met at school (inb4 underage, Italian high school lasts until 19). She's been my oneitis for a year and I've known her for two years now. Anyways, I've asked her out once, last year, and she refused. By the time passed, a lot of things happened. We became much closer friends, we both have a story of depression and help each other. She sometimes banters about having a bf and stuff but nothing serious and nothing towards me. We're very similar people, have common taste in almost everything and it's easy for me to make her laugh.
Anyways, is it okay if I ask her out again? I'm afraid she might see this in a negative way, since I'd come out as overly attached to her, despise the former rejection.
>>17251528
>And it's hilarious to hear people consider suicide or nursing homes before getting off their ass and asking a guy out, lazy as fuck
ahahhaahahhahahahahahahahahahh
>>17251549
>liberal area where I live.
Almost every college aged girl is fucking liberal man.
Seriously, it's the worst. I just happened to find a unicorn. An incredibly beautiful, talented, and intelligent girl from Mexico City.
After the first initial dates I was really into her. Once I went to her place to just relax and play video games with her. She was playing one of the assassin creed games when I got there. During a cutscene, she went to get us a couple drinks. While she was in the kitchen an arab character started speaking and she yells out to me "Why the fuck are they speaking terrorist all of the sudden?" It was then I knew I loved this girl.
She is pro-gun, fucking hates SJWs with a passion, can't stand feminists, critical of the black community/BLM bullshit, pro-american(I'm from the good ol' USA), thinks the syrian refugees are pussies for not fighting for their country, her favorite TV show is firefly, likes it when I rant about nerdy shit, is passionate about ww2 history(she likes to dress up as a 1940's pinup), plays any and all games, pro-white, thinks Islam is a violent religion that creates radicals, loves sex and despite being mexican she is very much for the wall. I mean, she hates trump still but then again any reasonable person hates that faggot. I am neither republican or democrat. Sanders and Trump are just two extremes on opposite sides. Can't stand obama either.
She's fucking perfect. Shes really tiny, thin, and incredibly sexy. She is half latina and half asian(the good kinda of asian). Best part is that her sexual history is as limited as mine(only had sex with 3 girls, including her) so she isn't a complete fucking whore like most women.
They are out there anon. They exist.
If a girl reciprocates and plays along with everything you say and do, but never bothers to hit you up herself, is it safe to say she's not interested and just in it for the attention?
I have an ex that still has some of my stuff. Haven't seen her in a while, we broke up because the relationship was just stale (in my opinion) and we both ended up sleeping with another person during a period when we were both off brooding, so I don't think it ended on very good terms.
Anyways, we were together for a while and she has some of my fucking anime dvds. I didn't think about it too much because we broke up in I think August? And I left for basic training in November, so it's been a little bit since I've even been in town.
Fast forward to today and I don't have her number and she's blocked me on Facebook so I'd have to talk to my friend who is currently banging her (I think) and get him to talk to her to talk to me. For fucks sake.
Worth it or nah? Should I just go to her house, or...?
>>17251602
Not that anon, but I have a lot of trouble finding conservative girls too. Yours sounds a little too fart right for me, but I could definitely stand her more than those Bernie supporting tumblr users.
>>17251704
You might as well. I'd want to get my shit back.
>>17251513
Does your current girlfriend know how crazy your ex is? If she doesn't maybe you should tell her.
>>17251602
>thinks the syrian refugees are pussies for not fighting for their country
Hah, that's ballsy to say while sitting comfortably at home playing vidya.
Guys:
What can a girl do to avoid being a starfish in bed? What do you wish girls did more often?
>>17251774
Get on top
Use names, ask him what he likes, a lot of guys like "daddy"
Bite, scratch, lick, etc
Touch his balls
>>17251774
Speaking from experience, get closer
Don't just let him push it, push back onto him
On top of that you could force him in harder, make out while doing it or inflict some minor pain
Orgasm intensity is much much bigger when you feel some pain
I'm wiffle waffling on this guy and I think I should just let him go. Do I just ignore his texts or tell him straight up that I don't know what the fuck I want, but he shouldn't contact me right now? We only hung out one time, and have only met each other twice, but we also fucked that one time we hung out.But we also have some mutual frends in common so i may bump into him in the future.
>>17251724
Right, because you would know this since 4chan blocks anyone in the military from assessing the site.
Fucking retard.
>>17251833
You went out of your way to brag about how right wing she is and list all the points of evidence and would've left out that she serves? Seems plausible.
>>17251798
caution: some of us find "daddy" to be weird. also, be gentle with the balls, and ride enthusiastically while on top
>>17251636
Possibly, but not necessarily. She might just be taking your contact for granted and both of you in the habit where it's just expected that you'll contact her first, and she doesn't have long enough to miss you before you're contacting her again.
>>17251798
>a lot of guys like "daddy"
I'll never understand how this became a thing.
>>17251947
Same here, man.
Reminds me of that offspring song
>but i wish you wouldn't call me daddy
>when we're gettin it on
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kenF3_77774
>>17250280
you're both old enough that the age difference isn't a big deal
>>17250843
yes and yes
>>17250903
trap some other unlucky unlovable sap or die alone
>>17251346
really depends on the girl and the amount of investment you wanna put into it. Can be a red flag, especially if you're looking for a serious relationship
just casual, meh, don't really care about her friends
>>17251513
why is she talking to your ex's, that's kind of fucked dude
>>17251528
top fucking kek
Girls :
If acne is on a guy's face, does it bother you ?
>>17252228
My boyfriend has acne and I don't even notice it honestly.
What is your skin-care routine like?
I thought that I could get over her, but I can't.
I still miss her, and keep wondering why she started ignoring me.
I asked her if she would like to go watch a movie with me last week on face book, and predictably, she didn't respond.
I wonder if I should just delete her from my friendlist, so I won't be reminded of her again.
>>17252262
>I still miss her, and keep wondering why she started ignoring me.
You bore her. Time to move on.
>>17251774
Well, there's the obvious: get on top and ride him into the sunset.
And there are the not so obvious things:
- Grab his butt and push him into you
- Wrap your legs around him
- Thrust back
- Massage his balls
- Grab his face and kiss him
- Tell him how much you love having him deep inside you
- Visibly enjoy yourself
Speaking from experience, by the way. I love when a girl does that stuff with me.
>>17252268
She said that I was her friend, but seems like I was just a source of easy attention for her.
>>17252247
It's really irregular. Sometimes, I just wash my face in the shower 1 day per week, or sometimes I try to wash my face every evening with skincare products.
Boyfriend is getting more and more distant and it's scaring the shit out of me.
In the first couple months that we started seeing each other, he was literally obsessed with me, we talked all the time.
Now that we're nearing month six, it's like getting him to talk to me is pulling teeth. He has some major emotional baggage in his past (was raped, molested, beaten to a pulp in school, isn't close with any of his family,ect), so I understand that he's probably terrified of having a real emotional connection with me.
...But he gets so fucking happy when he drops me off or when I leave (it's long distance, two-hour trip). Like, ecstatic. Last time he dropped me off, he was grinning as he kissed me goodbye and fucking fist-pumped "Yes!" as he was getting back into his car.
Recently it's been seeming like he's been coming up with excuses not to see me when I try to make plans with him. Last time it was something along the lines of "I'm not sure I have the money to spoil you", he usually takes me out to all kinds of places whenever he can when we're together, which is also concerning in itself, because I've talked to him about him not needing to blow all kinds of money on m, yet he insists on doing it anyway. That's a different story.
I talked to him today about getting together, said he's broke and won't have enough money for Gas, so I told him I'd make the drive up this time. He usually picks me up because I have Aspergers and ADHD, both factors that make me shit at driving.
Money has never been an issues before, and I'm not sure why he gets so happy when I leave. The last time we hung out, we had a great time and nothing came up, so I don't understand why he'd still be so happy to let me go. We have fantastic physical intimacy, but I've been suspecting that he's cheating for a while.
But we've made future plans and he says that he's never going to leave me, I'm just not sure I can take any more at this point.
>>17252324
I should also add that he's only actually close with one chick that he's been friends with for years.
>>17252324
>Last time he dropped me off, he was grinning as he kissed me goodbye and fucking fist-pumped "Yes!" as he was getting back into his car.
lol what the fuck
>>17252322
I'd recommend getting a cheap face wash with salicylic acid as the active ingredient and just keep it in your shower/on your sink and use it once a day. That might be a good step in the right direction. I use this.
>>17252373
That is pretty messed up.
Does he also have aspergers??
>>17252373
>>17252392
Not in front of me. I mean, he kissed me goodbye inside my house, then walked outside to his car and did the first-pump thing. I don't think he knew I was watching.
>>17252400
That doesnt answer the question.
Thats a weird thing to do.
Does he have aspergers or social issues? Did you give him a rocking blowjob???
Why do you think he did that????
>>17252400
Maybe you misinterpreted it? Maybe he was doing that thing where you jerk your arm into the air to reposition your sleeve.
>>17252404
Like I said, he' been really happy to get rid of me. I mean, when we're getting ready to leave and pack up and shit, he gets ridiculously happy. He gets upset with me when I question it.
He doesn't have any kind of social issues, he's actually really smooth and charming.
>>17252408
Lol no, this was a fist-pump, I know what I'm talking about. The "Yes!" was there. He was wearing a T-shirt.
>>17252430
Well maybe he wants to dump you, or he has another girl closer to him, but he is worried about hurting you so he endures these little outings with you and when they are done feels overjoyed
>>17252228
If it's regular acne (not severe outlier cases) it's no big deal. No one's perfect.
>>17252262
Yes, cut her off. It sucks but there's no good alternative. It's quite rude. I'm sure that if she really wants to she can get in touch with you through other means. Plus you can't torture yourself if she gets into a relationship, spare yourself that. Good luck man, I feel for you.
>>17250903
Go to bars, get drunked, get 3 guys cumming on her face in one night and leave with several phone numbers
>>17252463
I just wish I understood why she started acting the way she did. But at this point, I feel like I have done what I can to stay in touch with her, and she has ignored my attempts at reaching out to her.
>>17252444
But the thing is, he'll make future plans with me, and says that he's never going to leave me. I've given him plenty of opportunities to back out of the relationship, he chooses to stay every time. He plans on taking me on a trip to meet his best friend who also lives in another city. He still tells me that he loves me.
But the possibility that he's cheating is pretty real and is most likely the case. I've honestly been suspecting it for a while now, I'm close to finding out by my own means.
>>17250849
When I've posted to /soc/ or here for other reasons people specifically say I need to whiten my teeth, or work on my oral hygiene. I think at that point it's beyond the standard tint.
>>17251774
Act like Gianna Michaels in bed without all the punching
>talk to this girl
>she seems into me
>banter
>she tells me she's working late shifts for the next four days
>Stops replying to my messages
>doesn't open my snap
Soooo does this mean I should stop chasing after this girl now? I mean, it's not like she has no downtime to get back to me.
In theory, how long could a guy maintain an erection without coming?
I'd like to give my bf a blowjob while we watch a movie and not let him come for the 1,5-2h that it takes but I honestly don't know if this is physically possible. He usually lasts well in bed, gets me off a couple of times before coming himself, so the endurance is not the problem. I'm just wondering if there's some point when a guy's system just goes "no can deal" if it carries on for too long or something.
Any opinions from guys would be welcomed.
>>17252724
You ever see a Viagra commercial? They say to consult a doctor if your erection lasts more than 5 hours. A normal erection can last a pretty long time as long as it keeps getting stimulated enough.
>>17252724
I can't even tell if this is the luckiest or the unluckiest of guys.
I'm about to get a massage for my first time. Do I have to tip?
>>17252970
It is polite to tip.
What does it mean if a girl keeps doing something that you told her you don't like? Should I stop giving her a reaction when she says it? It seems like it's either playful flirting or she gets a kick out of pissing me off
For the girls; is a single red flag enough to make you not interested in a guy?
Also speaking of red flags, would a college student living with his family to save money on rent and what have you be a turn off?
>>17253012
Depends on what the red flag was. If it is also a dealbreaker, then yes.
>would a college student living with his family to save money on rent and what have you be a turn off?
Of course not, are you retarded?
>>17249586
My bf isn't attracted to me enough and I want to cut his dick off. Please help.
>>17253012
Dude, living with family isn't a red flag anymore. This is 2016, everyone is poor/saving money.
>>17253017
To follow up >>17253062
Living with family is only a turn off if the reason is "I'm a lazy shithead who doesn't work/go to college".
>>17252989
Fuck I brought 20 for a 50. This bitch better be good.
>>17253017
>>17253062
>>17253069
Alright thanks anons
Do girls like guys who are into face care and stuff? I mean I'm a guy but I fucking love face products like BB creams, moisturizers, toners, ampoules, serums, sheet masks, and other stuff like that... sure my skin looks great, but do girls care if they know a guy walks around his house in a face mask at night?
>>17253301
If a guy takes care of his appearance more than I do, it's pretty gay and not attractive.
>>17253301
Men are supposed to be the reasonable, skeptical part of a relationship, not a cuck for snake oil saleswomen.
>>17253314
Does this include diet and excercise?
>>17253301
I like that! I'm not even someone who regularly cleanses my face or anything. You'd probably motivate me to take better care of myself.
It would be a nice thing to bond over, self care.
Keep on doing what makes you happy, anon.
>>17252613
How long has it been? If you're a couple days after she's done with her late shifts, then yeah, you're a goner.
>>17251602
>Almost every college aged girl is fucking liberal man.
I've met some weird types. Like I met this buddhist vegetarian chick who goes to raves and does hard drugs, yet constantly complains about SJW types and liberal policies.
Still trying to figure that one out.
>>17253486
>does hard drugs
think I found the explanation.
>>17253489
Mostly cocaine and occasionally molly as far as I know for whatever that's worth.
College really makes me feel like the odd man out as someone who only drinks socially during a barbecue.
>>17253314
Even if they have perfect skin? I was under the impression that women appreciate a man who looks good... I mean I at least put in as much effort as I can into looking attractive for my s/o. Understandable opinion though.
Also what about caring about my appearance makes it gay and unattractive? Wouldn't you want someone who cares a lot about how they look for you? Just curious about your opinion. Not bashing it or anything.
>>17253320
I mean I am reasonable, I literally only get stuff that I've read up on and made sure that the reviews and such are actually good. So far I have yet to be disappointed with anything, and I'd say that every purchase I've made has made a minor, but noticeable change in my skin. I feel as though having good skin is better than running around with acne scars and pimples all day.
Keep in mind that my GF is a lot worse than I am, and I constantly halt her from purchasing things that I think are unnecessary. Really I give her a reality check before she buys something, and it's saved her 100's of dollars by now.
>>17250669
>psychopaths
They're entirely superficial so I'd say they love it to be honest.
>>17250757
F
Yes, yes, and no
>>17250836
give more details. what does she like
>>17251559
I asked her out and she said "Sure". Nonetheless she seems like she doesn't really want to, i.e. we still have to figure out the day, and not by my fault. I'm almost sure she knows I fancy her as well, how does this influence the things?
>>17251420
Don't do it if you care about that poor young girl's psychological consequences.
It will for sure cost you some friends and some of your reputation. But it will cost her her first time, her self-esteem, etc.
And teenage girls don't dress like Lolita anymore. Only mid-20 year-old tumblrinas like that shit. The "nymphet" shit died in the 2000s. They're out wearing yoga pants and country singer t-shirts.
>>17251434
I have the same problem as you, anon. Go places together!
>>17253314
take better care of yourself then.
>>17254005
Too easily bored
>>17252724
>In theory, how long could a guy maintain an erection without coming?
I guess if were talking solely if it's theoretically possible.... I've done 2-3+ hours of non-stop sex .... So it's possible... but I'm also a fringe as all fuck, statistical aberrant and rarely cum in general because of it.
My gf's gives me 30 minute blows jobs a lot (sometimes I think she enjoys them more than I do DESU), and I've had hour plus ones, and from those experiences I'm going to say:
Even if he CAN last long enough, if you aren't careful, eventually you're going to run in the problem of basically OVER stimulating him. If you repeat the same actions for too long, you're going to desensitize him from the pleasure, and make him become too tender--which in combination will slowly basically start feel like you're starting to bruise and tear at the skin... which... there are some types of soreness feelings that feel awesome--kind of like the one you have after a great workout--but there are others that are just pretty damn uncomfortable--kind of like when someone gives you an Indian burn... this is closer to the latter.
Go ahead and try it... maybe it'll work great for you. But my experiences tell me this is one of those things that can sound a lot cooler than they actually are in reality. Be very gentle and diversity your attentions a lot if you're planning to do this.
>>17251807
>I'm wiffle waffling on this guy and I think I should just let him go. Do I just ignore his texts or tell him straight up that I don't know what the fuck I want, but he shouldn't contact me right now?
In general It's better to be upfront rather than ignore, but it's better to give a concrete answer than a wishy washy one (in fact it may almost be better to give no answer at all than to give a half-assed one like you're thinking about giving him)
>We only hung out one time, and have only met each other twice, but we also fucked that one time we hung out.
IMO at that level of (non)contact, it's still reasonable to assume radio silence makes it obvious this was just a hookup and no explanation is needed... but I also don't know how much communication you guys have established outside of what you listed.
>>17254119
He's right. I have the same problem where it's very difficult for me to climax.
I went for nine hours with two 15 minute showers (you really do get filthy) and about four 15 minute snack breaks (you really do work up an appetite). It really did lead to tenderness and discomfort.
>>17253301
I wouldn't mind it but I'd find it unattractive.
Guys
Do you carry a condom wherever you go just in case?
Do you carry a condom when you go on a date?
>>17250757
F
Always after pooping and virtually always in public bathrooms, but not every time I pee at home.
Yes.
No.
>>17254509
>Guys
>Do you carry a condom wherever you go just in case?
>Do you carry a condom when you go on a date?
No. But there's usually a few in my car.
>>17254509
No, but that's mostly because I don't want to have random sex with girls I just met so I don't need it.
>>17252228
Just get on Accutane, dude, works great
>>17251528
that comic is the cringiest bullshit i've seen in my life. no one likes prudes
>>17254509
Wherever I go? Certainly not.
I might take one on a date just in case.
>>17254028
How would it hurt her self esteem? Don't most girls naturally like older guys?
I need help getting a job. Long story short, it appears a resume's mandatory for one. How do I tailor right for just about anything? Or at least fit it to be for a restaurant/retail position?
Most importantly, I hear you need to fib to get anywhere. Any masters of fibbing able to give advice? Because I'm a terrible liar.
>>17255290
Here's a basic outline for a standard resume. (Make sure you own Word to open this)
http://www.thomas.edu/assets/ResumeStarterBasic2.docx
The fibbing is about slightly exaggerating your skills, especially ones that you might not be called to use, in your resume. In your interview, when they ask for your greatest strengths and weaknesses you can lie there to look better. When they ask why you want the job, don't say because you want money. Make up some bullshit about how great an experience working for the company would be.
>>17255290
>Most importantly, I hear you need to fib to get anywhere. Any masters of fibbing able to give advice? Because I'm a terrible liar.
You don't need to fib, you just need to word highlight and phrase relevantly.
I.E.
I remember helping my gf with her resume a few months ago
she had facts like
Worked at Barnes and Nobles for 4 years
Which tells you exactly nothing except you had a job.
Vs writing something like:
Worked 4 years at Barnes and Nobles
-Have 2 years of experience as a shift lead, managing employees, accustomed to dealing with and accounting for large sums of money, experience managing and transitioning between multiple organization systems
-Have worked under seasonal high stress environments dealing directly with customers to both maintain positive relations and resolve any problems
-Have experience retailing and up selling well beyond minimum quotas
etc
that kind of stuff (of course, that's all really shitty wording, but I haven't had my coffee yet, and you get the idea).
It directly highlights the things you have experience and are pertinent to the job you're applying for, and lets the person reading the resume know that you know what you're about, knowing your own strengths, and are competent and self-aware enough to put some thought in to what it is that you're actually doing, and what they might need.
Some people exaggerate, embellish, and straight up bullshit there way through it, but if you can word things the right way, you generally don't need to do that, all you have to do is highlight the right parts of your own experience (especially when it's a job that requires specific qualifications, and you're going to look like an ass if you say you can do something you have no idea how to do)
>>17255318
>>17255330
Thanks, guys!
Although, I have a confession: Aside from 2 weeks at a temp position at a CVS, I literally had nothing for experience.
I don't know if it matters, but I am adaptable and flexible, timewise and skillwise. If you teach me something or I see you do it, I instantly learn what to do.
Of course, I handled customers like plates to a waiter, and I made absolute sure everyone was satisfied on their way out. Also, handled money, but not large sums.
That being said, I know or I feel I know that this shit won't get me anywhere.
I opt to go into retail, but even that's getting filled up, hence restaurants as an option. Warehouses are always taken by people like me anyway, so I might as well be at the front of a store.
Girl is hiding social media from me?
I asked her if she had an Instagram, and she said no, but I'm fairly sure she has one.
>>17255373
Move on, and next time just add her on social media if you want to instead of talking about it first
Girls : is that true ?
The comments almost making me blush :3
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/relationships/q247321-why-do-american-girls-find-french-sexy
Girls if your bf told you to tell him it's big (penis) would you
>>17255680
I'd be rolling my eyes while saying it, but sure. Oooh, it's soooo big.
Girls
How attracted do you have to be to a guy to accept going out with him when he asks you? Would you just go out with a guy who asks you out "because wth why not?" or does he have to be someone who stands out from the croud to you?
Girls:
Are coffee dates a good idea? I can't help thinking they sound too basic and simple and not fun enough to justify the girl wanting to go somewhere with me just for coffee (I mean I know it's not just for coffee but still).
But I can't think of any other casual and cheap thing to do.
>>17255703
He would have to be someone I've already gotten to know.
>>17255719
Of course it is. I don't need the "wow" factor on each and every single date. Coffee is great for just talking.
>>17255703
For me, it's less about him being attractive, and more about him not being unattractive.
There are guys who I can look at and know I will never be attracted to them.
But other guys, and my previous prospects, I thought they weren't much to look at at first, but later just glancing at them turned me on.
So don't worry about it m8o
>>17255719
Yes. It is the industry standard. It's what I expect. If you want to do something different, take her to a free event happening around town or take her on a walk somewhere nice.
>>17255691
Lol
Well it is a common insecurity
How come I can't make female friends with straight women? People sometimes call me autistic on this site, so I dont know how to speak to women so i talk to them like i talk to guys. Every time I think oh cool she likes me I got a woman friend, she wants to fuck. I dont even know how to hit on women, I dont know why this happens. I just try to act friendly, nothing sexual no touching at all.
>Heres how bad my "Autism" is
I had to google why the girl sitting next to me in class kept touching me and doing/saying all these things to me. I had literally no idea girls did this shit when they liked a guy.
>>17255815
Showing that you are not interested in a relationship is less about what you do do and more about what you DON'T do.
When she scoots closer, do you stay where you are? Or do you shift and get a little farther away? Things like that.
>>17255824
I move away naturally, I dont like people close to me.
>>17249586
>>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ok yeah Id ask them out but... They live far away, but I still want to make it clear that I like them. Should I just message her and come right out saying that I like her and see how she responds?
At the same time I risk making it weird and ruining a relationship with an interesting person.
>>17255836
That's good. Well, sometimes people just hit on you regardless of what you do. You're probably very attractive and girls like how you are so friendly and casual and not in their face.
I'm used to being on the lookout for guys hitting on me, honestly. It would be a breath of fresh air to be with you. I can see how a girl would end up being attracted to you.
Sorry, dude. It's probably not your fault. Keep trying.
>>17255846
What's the point if you can't date?
>Have close friend that I used to date (more like we FWB'd for 2 weeks because sexual tension, then ignored it happening)
>She moves across country, we lose touch for few months
>reestablished communication, been talking regularly for a year now, still close friends
>Then she stops. I sent her a recipe on the 26th, to which she responded enthusiastically, then again on the 30th, after a few days of silence
It's been a while, and to be honest, I kind of miss the "company." I don't know if I should reach out and try again, or just wait for her, or what.
What do I do? I feel super autistic about this, for some reason; I have absolutely no other issues socially.
>>17255858
I suppose youre right. But I mean we are already talking, theres an obvious attraction between us. I wouldnt be opposed to a LDR. But youre right, it would just be stating the obvious, the situation wouldnt change..
but just knowing that I have someone that likes me and someone to improve myself for, something to work for, is really comforting. Kinda gives me a sense of purpose.
>>17255871
Well if you had a years worth of communication, then she randomly stopped I think you should ask whats up. Thats a little odd IMO.
>>17255881
We've been talking near daily (except for those few months) for little more than 2 years. For some reason I'm really hesitant :/
>>17255883
Honestly I would just ask if something is wrong, mention youve noticed you guys havent talked as much or something. She could have met someone else which will probably suck but you deserve some kind of closure. Because if you just leave it youll never know, it could be something completely different, it could be a good thing. You just gotta ask.
>>17252322
It needs to be more regular. I suggest getting a cleanser, toner, and a moisturizer. You should use the cleanser and moisturizer when you wake up and before you sleep. Use the timer at night after the cleanser, cause it will make your face more vulnerable to UV Rays. If you have oily skin like I do, I highly recommend cethaphil for cheap cleanser and nutrogena pore removal toner. Any moisturizer without oil will be good. I personally use origin, but it's kind of pricey for how little you get.
How to start a conversation online without it sounding too cliche, desperate, stereotypical, boring?
>>17255928
Be random, totally whack, swagalicious, awsum, pizza, and importantly...kewl. Like a cat!
>>17255858
lol i stopped trying to make female friends.
>>17255680
I'd be concerned about your insecurity which is probably the opposite of the effect you wanted.
Guys
There's a guy I have on steam and facebook that I've maybe seen twice in real life that absolutely insists on messaging me and then bitching about his personal life whenever he sees I'm logged on.
He's a grown man who keeps calling his dad a retard over minor annoyances while talking to a relative stranger. I asked one of his male friends if he does this to them too and he said no, does he just think I'm his therapist or something? Is he a lone weird fuck or is there a known thought process behind this?
>>17256384
What do you mean concerned about it
>>17256413
No one here knows what's in this dude's head. It could be that he thinks this sort of sharing is what "emotional intimacy" is and that it's his way of trying to bond with you. It could be that he sees you as a someone who can understand and empathize (and sympathize) with his frustrations with his life/family so you're a safe outlet he can vent to.
Whatever. If you don't want to see it, you have a couple of choices. I would probably just tell him something like "I don't know why you're telling me this, but it seems incredibly childish to call your dad a retard or get upset over what seem to me like minor annoyances. I don't know what your history with your father is, but I think maybe you should try to get some distance from this situation to try to gain a different perspective on this. Instead of messaging me about it, go see a therapist. When you keep messaging me about this, all you do is continue to lower my opinion of you."
But I'm also a guy and I'm capable both mentally and physically of dealing with the potential man-child rage that can result from that sort of fairly harsh rejection of what I see as self-centered childish behavior. You can phrase this more tactfully, or more tersely (dude stop messaging me this kind of stuff), or you can just simply ignore and not respond at all to it.
Girls
What would you do/think if you were cuddling with a guy friend on the couch watching a movie. You are the little spoon.. And you feel his boner up against your butt?
Good or bad reaction?
>>17256556
I wouldn't be doing that with a guy who is *just* a friend
>>17256556
From the OP:
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Since you are probably going to get indignant because "You're not the same guy!!!" (As if that makes a difference), here's my actual answer:
It will DIFFER depending on the RELATIONSHIP between the two people.
I will not have the same answer across every person I have cuddled with. You can't make a sweeping generalization like that.
>>17256556
im a guy but i obviously know that a woman wouldnt care if they are letting me cuddle them in the first place. its just like when people grind and dance in a club, the dude is obviously getting hard and the chick digs it bc thats the point. But that would only happen and be ok if the woman is allowing it to happen, otherwise youre weird.
Need input from girls, I'm a guy.
>22 year old guy
>don't have a car or driver's license, use Uber for everything
>ask 18 year old co-worker out, scheduled on saturday
>she agrees on tuesday
>ignore her for the rest of the week because I'm a sperglord, I was out of the office
>saw her on the office on friday, avoid her because I'm a sperglord
>she cancels the date on saturday because she has a "flu"
>co-worker tells me she's dating another 18 year old co-worker from her high school
>don't talk to her or chat her during a week, didn't see her in the office either, apparently she was really sick, still not sure
>see her yesterday after not seeing her for a while, we don't speak, she's visibly sneezing and shit
>see her today, I give her a cold autistic "hi" and keep working
>she starts conversation with me, we just talk
>I brought her an ice-cream because I ate outside, she brought her own lunch
>we start chatting for a while
>she just says "X movie is good, I haven't seen it"
>I take it as if she wants me to ask her out and I do
>she agrees
>I say that I'm picking her up (on Uber obviously because I don't have a car) if she wants to, she points out I don't have a car and I feel kinda bad
>>17256678
what of this do you want input on?
>>17256683
damn I forgot that part. I just don't know what to do, I'm an autistic robot.Last time I ignored her and she backed out, I don't want her to back out now.
Also I don't want her to think I'm a try-hard stalker, and this made my fuck up by avoiding her.
Apparently she's dating another guy but I don't give a fuck about that lanky faggot.
>>17256686
You can't make her like you and you can't make her date you. You can't make her do anything
>>17254509
No to both. The second is more reasonable I suppose, but I'm not comfortable having sex when I'm not serious with someone.
>>17256413
There are so many reasons he may be behaving this way its not worth listing them. It's certainly immature and I'd probably tell him off if I was in your position though.
>>17256678
>>17256693
>You can't make her like you and you can't make her date you. You can't make her do anything
Did I imply that? I meant that as not fucking up because of my autism. If a girl agrees to go on a date and seeks conversation that mean that she's at least slightly interested, right?
Also she jokes about we being a couple, and once made me hold her hand all the way from a restaurant to our office. I know these are just petty jokes, but I take it as if there was AT LEAST some minimal interest.
Girls and guys
so I sometimes have the desire to have sex. But whenever I see anything about sex in the news. It pisses me off and makes me want to distance myself as much as possible.
Anyone else had this?
I've been chatting with this girl who works at a cafe I go to fairly regularly. She is cute and she seems interested in me (asking me personal questions, what I do, where I live etc. also telling me about her life) so I want to ask her out on a date, or at least get a number.
Only thing is it seems inappropriate to ask her while she's working. You know, she's obviously pretty busy doing work stuff. So how can I find a good time?
>>17256413
IDK I guess you're friendzoned.
I suck with conversing with girls. I can easily with guys and I talk to girls like I talk to guys. I kind of suck with connecting with guys too if we aren't similar but that's normal I think. How do I create connections with girls?
>>17252262
>and predictably, she didn't respond.
Of course she didn't
So this has been going on for probably a little over 3 years.
Start working at conveniece store 35 miles away because desperate for job, owner desperate for employees at the time. For next two years develop friendships with co-workers and customers, some crushes here and there but never too interested so didn't pursue relationships and never got with anyone either, also from never having much interest. During this whOle time there is a girl who slowly comes in/walks by more and more often eventually talking to me more and saying hi with a bright smile as she walks by me having a smoke outside. I also start to think about her more and look forward to her coming in to the store or at least seeing her and saying hi/bye if she walked by.
Little over a year ago I got in fight with boss and quit for a couple months. During that time I realized how much I missed her. added her on fb, she accepted, exvhanged a few short awkward messages on that messenger thing then shortly after, I came back to work. Then for the last year we really started getting close I felt that us trying dating was a real possibility. in oct I message her on fb, she asks my age, tell her, she tells me, and even tho I pretty much knew, it was younger than I thought so I basically said sorry for bothering you. month goes by before she slowly starts coming by again and until 2 months ago it felt we were getting back to how we were. last thing we said was bye like usual and I finaly decide next time I see her I'll ask her out no matter how scared I am. then don't see her couple weeks before I had to leave for back surgery. so I try messenger and I'm blocked, assuming since Oct. recently heard from coworker she is moving to next town over.
this went longer than I expected, sorry. so...I hate myself for doing it but I creeped her twitter and found her number. I really want to text her, mentioning I had to look at her twitter to find her number.but obviously I don't want to creep her out, piss her off etc
Guys:
Do you think it's normal to casually mention in a conversation with you gf how hot girls are? He says that the fact that I think it's weird highlights the fact that I don't know many regular men, and that it's only avoided when you're talking to a random girl you want to fuck and it isn't needed with someone you love.
>>17256925
It would be weird to keep bringing it up. Maybe he's insecure.
>>17256413
So he's not allowed to be a friend but he is a "friend" in some way?
>>17249586
I've recently come to grips with the fact that I'm never going to be anywhere near what people consider "beautiful" for a woman, even with makeup. It's something I've always been insecure about but I think I'd feel better if I just accepted it. Do I still have a chance with guys for a relationship? Where should I look for guys who aren't too shallow?
>>17256762
Yep, I'm a woman with strong sexual desires but I feel angry when I see promiscuity being glorified. Men taking advantage of other people or women sleeping around without consequences and making it seem like it's superior. TV sends the message that if you aren't bedding people of the opposite sex constantly, you're not living a good life.
Dude here, what's a good hairstyle that isn't too used or too stereotypical?
I don't know why but I can't like modern day hairstyles, at all.
I mean isn't clean and healthy hair more than enough?
After a bit of research, I've discovered that my SPL (stretched penis length) is only 3.5 inches in length. I do not have considerable girth. When I am erect I might be closer to 4 inches.
I know that people say size doesn't matter much but this is really REALLY fucking me up mentally for some reason. Without getting into my past issues, I just need to hear if I my sexlife is hopeless. Sorry for the pitiful question.
Would sex for a girl be pleasurable? Would oral sex be difficult? Do I just need to learn cunnilingus and accept my fate?
>>17256916
Your point?
>>17256929
He's done it in different occasions
Some time ago I was looking for a job and he kept asking if the employer was hot and to get a job with a hot female employer (I know it's a joke, but after ~5 times within a 30min conversation I feel like "what reaction are you trying to get from me?")
Yesterday while telling a story he included a "one of them was fucking hot"
When we had a conversation about it he said that
1. I can't be insecure because I know I'm his type (and he does compliment me and stuff), whereas I can't say things like that because I'm not so vocal about it and he can feel insecure
2. I CLEARLY know too many beta males/don't know regular men
3. He doesn't think he has to filter what he says to me, he doesn't think it's an issue with someone he loves
4. He can say a girl is hot because he says 1000 times more than that to me, I can't say a guy is hot when I'm too shy to say things to him
>>17256715
You are the most clueless motherfuvker in the thread. She sounds interested. SOUNDS. So SOUND interested back.
Don't lean in for kisses, don't follow her around, don't be creepy. Get her number or Facebook or some shit and strike up an easy conversation during the week. Take her on the date.
To give some context, I'm basically autistic because of past isolation and have never been in a relationship or had a friend as an adult or teenager. Nothing that can't be improved with effort though, I've come a long way and have been getting along well with my coworkers.
A coworker of mine has been showing interest in me and we recently exchanged numbers (she actually ended up asking for mine). She's in a relationship right now (although she expressed some dissatisfaction about the fact), and she's moving to another job soon; she doesn't want to lose contact with me and she specifically said so.
It's still a little awkward between us because we haven't even sat down together and had a conversation to get to know each other. Our contact has just been on-the-fly greetings and flirting, so even though I don't -know- her, I still have an understanding of what her personality is like. There's also definitely some sexual tension between us. She has explicitly said to me that she's talked to a friend of hers (also a coworker) about how attractive I am, and her body language really shows her attraction.
I pussied out every time I wanted to try to break the ice with her (conversation with someone you are attracted to is a little more intimate and nerve-wracking than just the previous on-the-fly flirting we had done) but I lucked out and she decided to do it first by sitting next to me and talking to me in the break room which led to our exchange of numbers later that day.
I won't be seeing her at work again until Saturday, but I want to know if I should be texting her over this time. It's a little awkward because I don't really know her as a friend to just start texting her randomly, and I also can't ask her on a date right now because of her relationship (that may be ending soon). How do I proceed from here? Get to know her as a friend more (in person, not over text), and if she breaks up in the future, make a move at that point?
Why do some girls never make decisions or have opinions? Why do they always go along with what their boyfriend wants? Is it because she wants to please him and make him happy? Do they not realize that he wants to do the same for them? I find it annoying when girls are just okay with whatever and want me to make all the decisions. It makes me nervous, like she isn't really reciprocating or being honest with me. Also knowing what she likes and dislikes makes me feel like I know her more.
>>17257080
>Why do some girls
Because not all people are the same, and some will inevitably have traits that you don't like.
>>17256890
How old? It seems pretty immature.
Also, what should I do about >>17257028
>>17257085
Shit got the IDs wrong way around.
I think I'm in love for the first time? She has to move for school in August, I dont know what to do, Im scared, ive never felt this way about someone. Help.
>>17257088
>>17257085
He's 29 and I'm 22.
About the girl working at the cafe, if you only see her when she's working there aren't many options, just try to find a moment when she doesn't look more stressed than usual.
>>17257084
No shit, I wasn't saying all girls should be one way or the other. I'm recognizing that girls are different. That's literally the reason why I typed "why are some girls" and not "why are girls".
>>17257001
Get a fade, real talk, they look great. Just make sure you go to a good salon or barber.
