While travelling Southeast Asia I have met this local girl in Thailand. I have stayed in Thailand on and off for about 8 months in total and know the country and culture fairly well. Anyway, I have known her for about 6 months now and she has became one of the most important people in my life. She is a wonderful, clever, funny girl very different from your average Thai girl. I can share everything with her and I really trust (try to find a thai girl you can trust) her quite a lot by now.
However, she told me that she has previously worked as a bar girl (prostitute - for those not familiar with Thailand) and I'm really struggling to get over that fact. I understand this is a very common thing in Thailand and a convenient way for poor people to take care of their families and I have seen it plenty of times and while I never really liked it I never got myself hooked on that thought too much. Since I've met her and know about her story, though, I'm so caught up in my mind trying to deal with this topic. I try to rationalize it and tell myself it's just another way to make money and knowing my lazy self I might just go the same way if I grew up in Thailand and I had the choice between working 10 hours a day and being piss poor my entire life or sleeping with some old sugarmama every other night and live the high life but I still refuse to accept it.
Except for this one issue I like absolutely everything about her, but every time I look at her I can't help thinking about all those old men she has slept with and it disgusts me. How do I grow a pair and deal with this?
>>17247734
you sure she is not a gold digger?
>>17247734
Does she have diseases? If she has HIV/HPV, break up with her.
I can see where you're coming from. But you do realize that she didn't enjoy sleeping with those men at all?
>>17247741
This so much. My dad ran off with a thai girl he 'loved'. And boy did he pay...
This thread again? How many times are you going to post this?
>>17247734
>Thailand
* facepalm *
>She is a wonderful, clever, funny girl
she is ANYTHING you pay her to be. She will even change gender if you give her money.
>I really trust (...) a prostitute
with all due respect, go kill yourself... you don't know what you say... you are either desperate or in love.
>poor
Exactly! You are her lottery ticket... wait until she suddenly needs 80 pairs of shoes to compensate for the 20 years she spent barefoot... and who says shoes, says dresses, jewelries, hand bags, shopping trips... as well as paying for gradma's surgeries, and her siblings upbringing and education.
>it's just another way to make money
Just like marrying you and being your wife and raising your children is just another way of making money... you'll never be her family dude, nor will your children... her family are those back home. Thai woman are expert actresses for as long as it suits their interest... and after they get what they want their true colors show up... especially if (knock on wood three times) you run out of money... that's when you'll see your sweet baby turning into a woman that is liar, verbally abusive and physically violent towards husband and children, interest driven, untrustworthy, secretive, manipulative, gossipers, etc, etc, etc…
>I might just go the same way if I grew up in Thailand
and you'll become like them if you stay there long enough also
Bottom line:
You cannot make a whore into a house wife.
If you try, it's because you don't value your time nor your life.
>>17247741
Yes because she never asked me for anything. When we are staying together we go 50/50 on all expenses. So she's definitely not with me for money reasons. Also, she could be making a lot more money if she kept working in a bar but she got out of there as soon as she got what she needed to live.
>>17247743
Agree on the first part. Yes I know she does not enjoy it and I keep telling myself that for her it's just an act that means nothing but I still can't get over how many old men have had their hands on her body and all that.
>>17247805
Yes. I've been there long enough and I know all the stories that's why I'm so careful. I made sure we payed everything 50/50 so I know she is only with me because she actually wants to be with me. I also know that cultural differences and geographical distance makes it unrealistic for us to ever get serious. I want to keep it the casual way it is, I just need to get the thought of all those old men out of my head.
>>17247809
Until I get my damn head straight. I don't know what to do and I need help. I appreciate this discussion and I'm sorry I'm reposting this.
>>17247858
Please read what I just posted. Never payed her a dime. Never gifted her anything. She's working everyday (a normal job) and pays her own expenses.
Also, she was the first to actually specifically clarify that we could never have a serious relationship because the long distance would only hurt us in the long run and suggested to keep going the way we are even if we had strong feelings towards each other.
Considering those circumstances I consider all your points invalid for my situation. However, I do understand where you are coming from and I've seen everything you described happen to so many people in Thailand.
>>17247862
You want to believe what you want to believe.
This thread is useless; whatever the truth is you don't want it unless it's what you chose to believe.
>>17247886
I don't understand why you are saying that. The main point everyone seems to make is that she is using me as another "customer" trying to get something out of me.
The fact that we have always shared expenses and I have never payed or gifted her anything in any form clearly disproves that.
So can we please move forward assuming that she is not with me to gain anything and I'll promise I'll listen.
>>17247915
I'm going to say the same thing I said in the last thread. This bothers you. It will bother you forever. You need to nut up and leave her, rip off the bandaid and get it over with. You can't avoid the truth forever. Grow up and stop posting this shit, pandering for answers that agree with what you want to hear.
>>17247915
I don't give a fuck about what the others said.
I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong. It doesn't matter.
The fact is that you'll dismiss anything that you don't want to hear and embrace what you want to hear, thus making the thread useless.
You want a circlejerk and we can't offer that.
>>17247862
>I made sure we payed everything 50/50
As if it was the first time a thrid-world girl played along for as long as necessary only to change you to what she really wants after she has you on a hook.
How the fuck do you know she doesn't have a network of a dozen neighbours/friends/co-workers/facebook/SMSChatmates with who she gossips daily about every minute detail of what she does with you and they collectively devise machinations and sponsor and instruct her to act and say exactly everything that you want her to do and say so she can land the jackpot?
Besides, what the fuck are you gonna do when half a dozen of her previous two hundred clients message her over whatsapp and she sends her main suitor (aka you) to get icecream because she says she's hot in that tropical cesspit everytime she needs to receive a phone call in a language you can't understand?
Are you 100% sure she doesn't have a dick though
>>17247947
>>17247933
>>17247922
By the way, I've already been stupid enough to tell her I want a relationship. She said we couldn't and despite me fighting for her she stood by that.
You guys are definitely in the majority here. Maybe I should believe you but I just can't see it. I feel like you're basing your opinion on what you have heard about thailand and not what I'm saying about my situation.
Either way, I agree we should probably leave it at this. I'll go on and do something stupid and in a few months I will know whether I should have better listened to you guys.
Appreciate your input. Thanks.
>>17247987
>I feel like you're basing your opinion on what you have heard about thailand and not what I'm saying about my situation.
OK, OP, look...
there are honest girls in Thailand, the problem is that for each honest one you have 99 scumbag woman who do these shit described in here and much worse... and I'm being very modest because most people would say the ratio is more like 1 to 999.
But for goodness sake man, you can't expect anyone to swallow the story of her being relationship material when you admit she already has miles upon miles in the hooker profession.
What are you going to tell us next?
That she also goes to church every Sunday?
>I'll go on and do something stupid
Just don't forget to hold your dick up when you sit in a normal Thai toiled cause everything in that damn rice paddy nation is made for midgets and you'll be scrubbing the bottom of the toilet with the tip of your dick if you don't hold it up while you take a dump.
And if you ever transition from mindless tourist to reality of Thailand, try to enjoy swiping your feces to your fingers and shoving handfuls of rice boiled in water down your mouth with fecally aromatic fingers 5 times a day and a lot of other unconceivable things all in the name of blind love.
Southeast asians are all INTJ/ISTJ psychos. They will take your money, they will cheat on you, they will lie to you with a smile on their face. They have no real emotions. There will be no love, it will be a symbiotic relationship and once you stop providing whatever they want they will move on without a word of warning.
Most people with half a functional brain would agree that what you are trying to do is as risky as pulling a triple backflip on the edge of a skyscraper... just because you watched 500 people before you turning into flat pancakes 20 floors below doesn't make you any more capable of pulling the stunt yourself... no matter how brave or good your intentions might be and no matter how favourable the wind might be blowing at the moment.
>>17247987
>I just can't see it
Thread's over, he wants us to pat his ass and cheer him on. Every word we say is hot air.
>>17247734
>this thread again
just dump her there are plenty of girls in this world who are not prostitutes
I'll try my best to get it into my head.
Not sure how I will play it though, might try to avoid contact for now but keep her around as a fuckbuddy when I go back to thailand. Either way I'll be careful.
Really appreciate all the input guys.
