Is it normal that I sometimes find my gf really ugly? Sometimes I look at her and I think to myself, how could I get such a beautiful girl? I mean legitimately gorgeous and I can't keep myself off of her.
And then other times, from certain angles, or when she behaves a certain way, or puts on too much makeup or whatever it is, and I think she's just really bad looking. And I feel reluctant to kiss/have sex or sometimes even am embarrassed to be seen with her.
Is this a normal part of being in a long relationship? do most people feel unattracted sometimes? should I tell her she looks beautiful the times when I really don't think so? this is my first relationship and I don't know if this is a bad sign or maybe I'm a huge ass or what, it makes me feel really bad and stresses me out big time. pic unrelated not my gf
>>17236255
How old are you?
Also this happens to me... with myself
>>17236255
Thats because she's a human being. No one can look like a 10/10 knockout 24/7. Think of any beautiful celebrity and i can assure you there's an ugly picture of them. Hell im certain there's ugly pictures of you too
You seriously need to get off the internet and experience real humans more.
This is just sad lol
>>17236256
22
>>17236294
elaborate?
>>17236255
It means you should break up, especially if these are common intrusive thoughts.
It's natural to have physical ups and downs, but in the long run you really should care about more than appearances. Personality is what carries relationships from honeymoon to lifelong partner.
At some point, you being with this person should make you happy to the point where these dips become nonexistent or st least really rare.
>>17236315
I think what that Anon means is that if you were actually out and about among real live human beings you would have a better understanding of what real humans actually look like. Everyone gets pimples, has bad hair days, looks tired or cranky sometimes, etc. Apparently this is some kind of huge revelation for you, which means you have spent waaay too much time exposed to virtual people (movies, TV, magazines, porn), people who have photoshop and whole teams of makeup artists and hairdressers to make sure they look perfect all the time. And you only see their bad side on TMZ for the most part. My recommendation is to break up with your suboptimal merely human girlfriend and await the robot waifu revolution.
I guarantee she looks at you the same way sometimes. Sometimes I look at my guy and just see a fat balding slob with a pointy long nose and no chin. And some days he looks super handsome like my ideal looking guy, looks healthy, etc. But he doesn't know I look at him that way sometimes... I still try to have sex with him even on days I feel he's unattractive and am still all over him or giving him compliments because I don't want him to notice that I think he looks ugly. The reason I hide it, is because I know it's temporary and that it comes and goes. The next day I'll think he's hot again. This probably happen to girls more than it does to guys because our cycle and hormones change throughout the month ON TOP of bad hair days, bad outfits, etc.
Be grateful she doesn't let her disgust for you show and do a good job at hiding it. It's normal in a relationship. If you can't do right by her in that way, break up with her so she can find someone else
Happened with two of my exes, which were relatively short relationships. Hasn't happened with my current gf tho, which has been 1.5 year, oddly enough. Sadly I'm about to break up with her because of how we can't resolve our issues. Didn't even consider this... fuck. Makes the decision harder...
