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>Met this local girl while travelling Asia
>Took her out just looking for a fun night and a hook up
>Everything went as planned
>She told me the first day she had a boyfriend
>I was like well if you're okay with this not my problem
>Met her a few more times, started doing stuff daytime too
>Turns out she's an amazing girl
>We ended up staying together for 3 months, she basically moved in already
>Her boyfriend comes back from overseas
>She's in tears telling me she really loves me and she's so sorry but she has to go and stay with him
>I'm like wtf girl you dont even like him
>turns out he's an old dude who's taking good care of her family (thisisasia.jpg)

Now we obviously both wanted this to be more but thinking about it rationally it probably never would have worked. I tend to stay in her country quite regularly but I can't stay there forever. We are great friends and we got a good thing going, she's really into me and I know whenever I go back there she's waiting for me at the airport eager to spend a month or two together. That's an awesome deal for me and I should accept that's all it's going to be.

Anyway, my question is how do I proceed now that she's staying with him (for probably around 2 months). On the one hand I'm pretty disgusted by the thought she's staying with this old guy just for the security of her family and I really want to say to her I'm going to cut contact until her "boyfriend" is gone - which would drive her nuts.
On the other hand I have to admit she has never done anything wrong to me, she has told me the deal straight away and she has not once lied to me about anything I asked her or tried to hide anything from me. It's neither her nor my fault that we got involved too deeply and maybe it's time for me to shut up, grow a pair and just talk to her as the good friends we are and go see her again when she's "free".
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I understand that you're disgusted by the idea of her being with him just to support her family, but you need to put yourself in her shoes, maybe that's the only choice she's got, or maybe the easiest, stay friends with her, have fun, have your moments, and don't overthink about it, good luck buddy.
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>>17226274

Thanks anon. It sounds weird but you made me a feel a bit better already.

Hoping for some more input.
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>>17226331
Can you provide for her family too?
Would you feel comfortable giving her an ultimatum like that?
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>>17226388

I'm still young and I don't have much but I have witnessed some instances where he had helped her and if we were actually together and she had no one else I could help her just as much. However, once money comes into play it will be difficult to trust her. I would constantly be questioning whether she likes me or my money (especially knowing her history). I have never told her I could help her and I never want to. She has to decide for me and only for me, I will not tell her what I can do for her before she dumps him.

But she is smart and she knows that the two of us can not be together forever. I'm still young and I can not stay with her permanently. I might go back to uni and meet another girl. With her "boyfriend" she knows she just needs to play nice here and there and she can keep him around forever and while he's gone she can still do what she wants. She knows she will never love him so when he's gone overseas for 6 months at a time she's not going to worry about him cheating because she doesn't care. She told me all this. She's smarter than me, mate.
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>>17226237
Are you white?
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