I am a 25 year old male and I just don't possess that drive to do things. My sex drive is super weak, I hate traveling, hate going to bars and clubs, hate going to concerts. I feel like I am not living though. Everything seems super boring and the only thing they seems fun is video games. My job feels like shit but it pays decently.
I want to do so much but don't have the drive. I never even had a girlfriend. I feel like age 30 is rapidly approaching and it feels like once you turn 30, your life turns to shit.
Please help me. I feel like I have to cram like 10 years of living into five years of time.
Your life is shit, and you're worried about it falling apart in five years?
Everybody is different.
Don't buy into the 'OMG 30 YEARS OLD AND I START DYING' bullshit. If you maintain a healthy diet that can be lengthened to 40-50.
Get your life in order, you live once, stop acting as if you're some sort of irresponsible passenger in a body that you have to coexist with. Take control.
>>17215034
Yes, I know people who are my age and married with kids already. I am deeply fearful of marriage and children. DEEPLY. Like to the point where babies make me uncomfortable.
I just feel like I have not lived enough. I feel like I need to go to a strip club and slap stripper ass and do other racey shit.
Am I having a quarter life crisis?
>>17215048
You describe your life as being boring and bleak apart from being able to play video games. You're not having a quarter life crisis, you are having a crisis because with the time pressure you are forced to realize that you don't get much out of your life at all.
You can go to a strip club and slap a stripper but what makes that fun is the mindset, not the experience. There is no guarantee at all that you won't find that boring as well. The issue is with how you perceive things not with how they are. If you hate everything that most people enjoy, that's a tough one.
>>17215031
It actually sounds like you may be suffering from depression. Look for depression support resources in your city, you may find someone wh can give you some good advice there.
>>17215053
I hadn't even thought that I could be depressed. I hate admitting that because I feel like depression is some sort of cowards ailment. Like how do I even get afflicted by this shit?
How would I know if I am depressed for sure?
>>17215060
Mental illnesses are usually invisible, and because of that, there are a lot of people who think that they aren't really real. but they're real, they can happen to anyone, and they require treatment, just like any other illness. depression is just as real as pneumonia or measles.
Do you have access to a doctor? Tell him/her that you like to be assessed for depression, and you'll be referred to a specialist who can help you.
>>17215031
>>17215060
I was just like you only I'm 24. Hated everything, suicidal thoughts, fear of the future, etc. Decided to see a therapist and low and behold I had depression.
You can somewhat tell by that "there's just nothing I want to do/ I'm failing at everything feeling". You just have to change your way of thinking.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, since whatever the fuck they're doing has nothing to do with you, find some new shit for YOURSELF. Make vidya youtube vids, write guides, idk whatever you have fun doing.
Honest to goodness, exercise. It's not just a meme. Eating better and treating yourself better will make you feel better overall.
Just go out and do stuff. Sometimes that's hard. But actually push yourself to do it and find something good out of that trip. Even if it's around the fuckin block a few times.
If you consider yourself defeated then that's what you are. But tell yourself you're gonna make it and you will.
>>17215078
This is all good advice, but do not follow INSTEAD of seeing a doctor, do it IN ADDITION TO seeing a doctor. professional treatment (which may or may not include meds, CBT or therapy) may be helpful or necessary. Or not. A doctor can really help you find the best course of action for you.
>>17215083
I really don't like the idea of taking anti depression meds though. I don't want to be reliant on a drug to function.
>>17215147
I hear you. But a doctor isn't going to force you to do anything. They'll recommend something, but if they do diagnose you with depression, you can tell them that you'd want meds to be a last resort.
I will see a doctor then. If I am depressed, I want to get rid of it. It's making the whole world look like shit. Anyone remember that South Park episode when Stan could only see shitty things?
It was around 30 that my life turned better. Being in my 30s has been the best time of my life. I'm still young and can do anything I want, and I also have enough disposable income so that money is never an issue for doing whatever I want.
>>17215031
>that pic
Literally nothing like terminator. How fucking dumb.
>>17215162
False. Most therapists these days require you to also see a psychiatrist (person that hands out meds) in order to talk to a therapist.
