My spouse and i have been together for almost 3 years, in the beginning of our relationship he told me he had been with mulitple people i was honest told him i was with one other man. 3 months pass into relationship tells me he loves me and that he lied about the women he has been with and that i took his virginity. I find messages of him and this girl (cousins gf) taljing about them fucking and how his cousin would feel about it. I ask him why he lied about me taking his virginity tells me she only went down on him that he cant remember. I let it slide bc they were on pills. Things were good for that year. In the middle of our 2years he starts acussing me of cheating and lying about who i have been with and that im cheating bc im staying with him (he starts becoming verbally abusive) he starts chatting up other girls bc he says im doing it when i wasnt. I went to college and he lived with me at my house. Anyways we end up having a baby and getting engaged. About now on he says he wants to have sex with another female bc i took his virginity that he only knows what i feel like. He is the one that lied about his sexual incounters not me and know im getting the backlash. I told him let me pick the girl if i can go through with it and he agree'd. Im afraid. Im not bad looking and neither is he but i have become way more better looking since the beginning of our relationship and he has acussed me of cheating and lying about the number of guys i slept with even more now. I cant work a job without him checking up on me. When i lose weight he gets mad and makes me eat more but then yells at me for being chubby. What do i do with this man? He tells me he cant wait to marry me and wants another baby. Everythings just confusing, help advice?
You sure can pick 'em.
>>17211447
Right? I dont know if we should try and work things out or let him be with another woman. We have a great sex life, he gets what he wants and when he wants it so it makes me feel awful.
So, you're a baby momma to a piece of shit. Welcome to being Statistic #21782342342. You're not going to drastically change your life until you leave him and stop dating horrible men, but we both know that's never happening. Enjoy your abusive relationship.
>>17211428
Don't marry him. Leave him with the child. Make sure you don't get pregnant. He will snap when he finds out you're breaking off the marriage. Prepare to move that night.
>>17211469
Well thats obvious. But im willing to try to fix it. Im young i still have time to learn. Life isnt bad with him other than these issues. He loves our little family but he even tells me it drives him crazy not knowing what it is like to be with another woman. Im his first real realtionship ever. I dont know how guys work or how they feel so might as well go here and ask. Everyone has wonders but atleast he is upfront and honest about his even though he does it in the wrong way.
>>17211475
This. This guy sounds like he's going to hurt you if he finds out you're leaving. Bring a friend to help you move that night ready to come by not even give minutes after you tell him. He seems like the type who just wants yup control you and watches too much porn and spends too much time on /r/redpill. He sounds like he's got a lot of his "techniques" there. You need to get away from him. He will become dangerous, more abusive, and a bad for your child.
>>17211467
>Right? I dont know if we should try and work things out or let him be with another woman.
If what your relationship requires to be healthy is for him to be with someone not in your relationship (i.e. you), then that relationship is broken.
On top of that you are in a verbally and psychologically abusive relationship.
Ok you know, forget that. Put all the bad aside and just answer me this:
What are the positive things in your relationship? What is it that you get from being with him that makes you feel good? That makes you feel like you're in a better place than you would be without him? That makes the troubles of life easier to bear?
>>17211502
>Bring a friend to help you move that night ready to come by not even give minutes after you tell him.
Not even five minutes*
>>17211500
>He loves our little family
He's a cheating piece of shit that loves himself. Love is what you do, and he's treating you like garbage. He doesn't love you.
>>17211500
>But im willing to try to fix it.
You stupid little slut, you don't fix people like this. You cut your losses and protect your baby.
I know this is bait but damn this is how some people think and it's retarded.
>>17211428
>When i lose weight he gets mad and makes me eat more but then yells at me for being chubby.
Self hating chubby chaser? That's a new one.
