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Together for exactly 1 year, both 20 y/o. I was abroad for the 2 semesters though. When I came home for Winter we decided to make Spring non-exclusive. Back now for Summer and a few weeks ago she clarified she'd rather us be fwb because she doesn't see a long-term 'us' and isn't 'in love' with me. I accepted; while I do see 'us' improving this summer, I'm not currently in love either so would get over her eventually breaking up with me fairly easily.

Saturday she let me know she finally hooked up with a 27 y/o (she had a crush on him during the semester) on a uni closing meet-up; she would go out with him if he asked. She changed the 'fwb' feeling to explain she's actually confused, has feelings for me, fun when we go out, etc. but is simply not sure if she wants this to get serious and thus thinks she should explore options to have 'new/casual' relationships so she can decide.

So she felt extremely guilty and said that if she was leading me on or I was lying about my feelings then I should cut her loose because she's just confused and doesn't want to hurt me over this. I explained *ending of 1st paragraph* and that it was fair because if I wanted to, I could also date other girls.

However we clearly are in different pages with this 'fwb' thing - I don't feel compelled to explore relationships. Hookups, if they come. I'm just certain I want to stay and let it play out, at least with this first dude and only if she goes on a date soon (ie I'm not going to wait around until mid July). But I feel strange; do these things ever work out, or does the partner looking for options usually just break up eventually? Is giving her 2-3 dates until I break up a good idea?