Boyfriend has ED??
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So i've been dating this guy for almost two months now and we hang out with each other a lot mainly going out on dates and playing video games. When we don't go on dates we do get intimate, but it usually never goes past making out . Today we watched a movie together on netflix and we started making out it escalates and I asked him if he wanted to have sex.
> he says yes
>we fumble around and he puts the condom on
>after he puts the condom on dick goes flaccid
>it's no problem to me I'm not upset
> he is though
>he told me he's only had sex one other time and he couldn't get it up then either
> i ask him if it's just performance anxiety
> he says he doesn't know why it happens
> told him I wouldn't expect him to be a sex god being as he's only ever had sex once
>he's really torn up about it
>tried to comfort him and tell him it's no big deal
>he's still beating himself up about it
I know the irrational way to feel about is would be to think that he doesn't find me attractive , but I know that isn't true.
> i keep trying to reassure him that i'm not upset or mad, but it doesn't convince him
How do I help him feel better about sex and maybe get past his anxiety ? I'm not trying to be pushy, but I want to help him and assure him that it isn't his fault.
tldr: my boyfriend might have ed any tips on how to get past it and/or comfort him
It is performance anxiety.
Kek he probably doesn't have ED my youthful anon. It's most likely performance anxiety. Just have unprotected sex
>>17194754
yes but how can i help?
In the old days, when I was young, us kids did this thing called the handjob.
>>17194750
Get him really horny, slip him some viagra, and then do it in a public bathroom. Make sure to lock the stall door.
He won't have any problems after that.
>>17194761
The handjob is safe because he doesn't have to perform, and he doesn't have to worry about getting you preggers.
>>17194761
yeah that didn't fuckin work i mean it does until we actually want to do p and v sex
you ugly or he gay stupid animeposter
>>17194759
Suck his dick or do anything you can to keep him hard and make him cum he will eventually get over it.
>>17194767
Ah, he is afraid of getting you pregnant
>>17194769
Yeah, make him cum for you. Break down his resistance.
Can he cum with your mouth/with your hand? Condoms fucking suck. It's like something is strangling the lifeforce out of your cock.
I couldn't cum when I first my virginity for a month because I was so shy/nervous/whatever, but I would always be hard, then just get sad/bored that I couldn't cum.
>>17194768
nope not even a little bit I'm cute and everyone knows it
>>17194770
maybe
>>17194769
that might be a good idea but latex tastes bad
>>17194750
I used to have trouble keeping it up during sexy time and it fucking destroyed my self-esteem. The problem turned out to be me fapping too much. Tell him to keep his hands off his dick for a few days and see if that helps.
>>17194750
First, this is going to be a slow process so if you don't actually like him that much, just move on, let him find a girl that does.
You gotta go slow and start with the simplest, least intimate shit. Basically, pretend you're teenagers again and you're just learning about this whole "sex" thing for the first time. First just kiss, just cuddle while clothed, rub through clothes, get used to it all. Make sure he can relax and get/stay hard through this.
Then move on to more serious touching, topless then completely naked, and eventually, after he's completely comfortable, to insertion.
Again long but worth it if you like him enough. And it should be enjoyable for both of you (what kind of girl turns down extra cuddling)?
You can also have him take boner pills (viagra/cialis/etc) if you don't give a fuck and just want to get it over with. This may help by proving to him that he is physically capable of the task, but also might not help at all, or make it worse.
>>17194769
>>17194772
Unlikely to work.
>>17194787
>latex tastes bad
you're doing it wrong
>>17194825
no dumb ass i mean after he took the condom off
condoms kill male feels.
>>17194832
jesus christ. you're still doing it wrong.
>>17194750
You're smart and you're right. It's performance anxiety. The way to deal with it is to make him feel safe. Make him sex a fun thing, not a performance thing. How experienced are you sexually? Could you take the lead?
>>17194750
>>17194852
This, but further,
>>17194835
This.
I had performance anxiety but did fine with someone with the pill. Next girlfriend, condoms = immediately flaccid. "Anon is it because I'm ugly" I wish she was as mature as OP because it was so dead then. Second relationship fucked me up man.
OP, if you don't, suck his dick so he knows he can cum and then bring up the obvious fact that you must have to try harder to get past both nervousness and condom.
>>17194774
Post pic
