>>17186351
I say that to my parents/friends, its just that I forget. No idea of his reason.

>>17186351
like he called me when he got off work then said ill text you when I get home and its been like two hours and it doesn't take him two hours to get home...
so idk if I should text or call him or just let him contact me.. and idk why he does it and what it means

I mean it wouldn't be a big deal but we were potentially making plans and he said hed text me when he got home because he wasn't sure if he needed a nap so he told me he would figure it out then text me and see if we were gonna hang out.. then never texted me. and I texted him and he didn't answer so hes probably sleeping but I think its really rude to leave me hanging like that. I would get mad at him but we've been getting gin fights a lot over the past few weeks and I'm trying not to fight with him so ill just play it off, but I don't get it.

>>17186387
my ex used to do this shit all the time and it drove me crazy. it's just carelessness, they only have the capacity to think about themselves and in the moment, they couldn't give a fuck about anyone else sometimes. is he also never on time for anything, never following through on things he wants to do or starts?

>>17186351
If he was all beta and texting you all the time then you'd get bored of him anyway.

>>17186519
well ive definitely had moments of thinking hes a really selfish person. like I just don't get it if you said call you later that's one thing, but if you say ill call you when I get home and we had potential plans, then that's just rude and id never do that to him. and idk, like he used to be really good at living up to what he says but for the past month or so hes been saying things and not going through with it, hes not really late though, but definitely he doesn't seem to be able to make promises anymore..... and then he gets mad when I say "are you sure that we're doing x on x, or are you sure youre gonna call me" and its like sorry that I don't trust your word anymore? is that why you guys broke up?

>>17186523
I mean honestly I wouldn't. I know most girls are like that, but that's like my ideal relationship, I like feeling loved/appreciated/getting attention.

>>17186559
Yeah that's why we broke up at first. They just weren't willing to try anymore and it was starting to effect me emotionally. We started talking again and they were hesitant about starting a relationship, asked if there was anyone else, said no. A week later they lied about being at work and were with someone else at their house. Called out, big deal, now they lost both people they were stringing along haha.

I've been talking to them recently too and just got lied to again last night so that's been the last straw.

>>17186570

yeah its really starting to effect me emotionally.

like part of me thinks maybe he wants me to break up with him, because I don't know who would act like this besides if he like wants me to leave him? like it drives me crazy too.

and yeah.. idk... hes kinda being sketchy lately. like he disappears ALLL night and says he was sleeping. idk. like I trust him but it is kinda weird. like he was supposed to get home from work three hours ago and text me, no texts, I texted him "hi" and called him and no response. so I'm guessing hes sleeping, but hes been doing this a lot where he's been "sleeping" ALLL THE TIME that it just seems sketchy. I mean with his work schedule and stuff I can see that he is sleeping unless hes lying about everything which honestly like you said its really fucking me up emotionally.......like really really badly..

>>17186570
btw how did you find out they were with someone at their house?

I mean when he works a "double" tomorrow from like 7am-12am he says.. I'm gonan like call his work throughout the day/see if his cars there?

Me and the girl would text everyday for months and months, but she hasn't texted me this whole week. I don't know why, I've left her a few voice messages. she's listened to them. But hasn't responded. I feel worried. I don't know why she won't respond. I know she's not mad at me about anything because the last message I have from her is "goodnight!! I send you a really big hug! :) "

so it's nothing I did, but I just don't get why she's not talking to me.

I'm worried..

>>17186355
Fuck you for not responding to my post, you're just as bad as your bf.

he's doing other shit thats more fun than talking to your boring "ass" sorry that was harsh. but honestly if i suspect the girl im dating is clingy during the first couple weeks of the relationship I'll give you all the attention you need. But after that I'll go back to doing shit I enjoy without babysitting you

It's just a guy thing im sure he's not cheating on you or anything like that. it's just we like our space unless you really need to talk about something boring. he figures checking in with you every minute isn't important

>>17186619
we've been together for more than a yearrr....and ive never realy been clingy.. but when he acts more distant and stuff it does make me kinda clingy.

and its different its not checking in like I don't need him to check in. but if he says hes going to call me in a half hour and we have potential plans, then I don't hear from him for like 5 hours or more, I find that not acceptable....

>>17186596

Can someone explain this shit to me? I'm concerned

>>17186590
I drove past their house and saw the car of someone they were friends with before.

>>17186633
oh well if it's been a year and he's waiting 5 hours then idk what to tell you. sounds weird tbqh. maybe he's doing drugs or something.

>>17186598
She didn't say she would respond.

>>17186596
she got a new guy to chase after

>>17186661
ohh gotcha. yeah ive driven past his house once recently when this has been happening and then I realize how emotionally fucked up its making me, and what it probably did to you. like if you have to waste time in ur day to drive past someones house that's kinda ridiculous.

>>17186663
I mean honestly he might be? ha I really don't know.....
I mean he plays poker a lot like overnight at least once a week, so he stays up all night and plays poker for like 8 hours then goes to work 8 hours. idk. so his sleep schedule is weird. how would I know if hes doing drugs? I don't think he is but idk he just started acting a lot different like a month ago

>>17186668

The thing is I've been good friends with this girl for 8 months. We are good friends.

If she found a guy that she liked, she would tell me. but she's said before when I asked her out months ago that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. (And I know she's not just saying that to me). But regardless, if she found a guy, she would tell me about it.

I don't know why she won't talk to me.

>>17186663
idk I kinda think maybe he doesn't wanna be in a relationship anymore but he doesn't wanna break up with me like he loves me but maybe he just doesn't wanna be in a relationship anymore? like it just seems like he cant keep promises and doesn't put in enough effort

>>17186351
usually a case of cant be fucked right now.
he will do it when gets round to it stop panicking. your first relationship?

>>17186673
why are you talking about this in my thread lmao.

but some advice I mean idk like other people have said like iif that was me and I stopped talking to some guy like that it probably meant I was with someone else. but you don't know. maybe shes having family problems, ? maybe her friend doesn't want her to talk to u ?? it could be anything! but if she hasn't responded for weeks honestly you should probably start trying to let it go. shell probably come back to you eventually but I would jstu move on if I were you. like why do you still like a girl who just suddenly went MIA for weeks???? force yourself not to like her.. that's not cool

>>17186679
Idk like I just think its weird that he would say ill call you and let you know if I'm taking a nap now or later and if were gona hang out then he just disappears...its been four and a half hours... he probably wont text me till like 1am and say he was sleeping, which I can believe, because he didn't sleep last night and played poker the whole night (or so he says) and then went to work for 8 hours. but he shouldn't have said he would text me and then disappear ...

>>17186671
gonna give him the benefit out of the doubt and say he's addicted to poker. sometimes when I'm really into something I become distant to my family and friends unless it's a emergency

try asking him about poker and see if he responds faster.

>>17186673
thats the issue you've been good friends with her. but she hasn't with you.
Could be personal issues at home or she finally found somebody she really likes that changed her mind on relationships
You can't force somebody to like you. stop worrying about it. if you know you did nothing wrong it's out of your hands

>>17186684

It just doesn't make sense. Her friend knows me, we've hung out before and she seemed cool. But I don't have anyway to contact her. This just doesn't make any sense. Like if she did find a guy, she would have told me. It doesn't make any sense.

She's not just some girl, she's a friend. A caring friend. I don't understand this shit and it's stressing me out

>>17186700
I mean... he is. he wants to be a professional poker player and hes made like 10,000 in the past two months playing, he plays for like 8 hours twice a week and drives to casinos 1 hour or 2 hours away depending on which. like hes definitely addicted but I feel like that's not an excuse to act like that???? towards ur gf? idk I guess when I'm really into school or writing something or whatever I get more distant but idk

>>17186711


okayyyy well you've known each other for 8 months. that's not a super long time.

if she did find a guy and was super super into him its possible she just like ignores other guys.

when I'm in a relationship with someone, I ignore other dudes and even I ignore my friends more than usual as well bc I focus most of my attention on him.

maybe shes getting into a relationsjup and doesn't want guy friends. when I started dating my boyfriend I stopped talking to pretty much all other guys because I know they weren't just "friends".

honestly don't get stressed out.. just get over it. youre gonna find someone someday who is into only you and it wont be dumb games 8 months of "friendship" then being ignored. you deserve someone who loves you. you should try to move on

>>17186714

>"professional" poker player
>"made" 10,000 in the past two months

But how much has he lost? How much has he not told you about? Every person I've seen with a gambling problem has to work super hard to make up for the losses they inevitably end up with, and try to gamble to make up for the losses which only puts them further in the hole.

Run away from this guy, you're going to be going through a lot of troubling times ahead.

>>17186717

I don't care about love. But I do care about my friends. Friendships are the only thing that matters to me. I'm suppose to be visiting with her in a few months. I've already paid for my plane ticket. Fucking shit.

I don't see how overnight she could say "goodnight! I send you a really big hug! Sleep well :)" to just ignoring me.

>>17186725
honestly ive been thinking that a lot.
I mean, hes really like cautious with his money and how he plays though. like he doesn't just fuck around he only makes bets or whatever you do when he has really good cards, ive watched him play. and hes told me hes lost like 2,000 before in a night or whatever.
but he keeps his money for poker separate from his actual money, so its not like hes using his money from his job to play poker, hes using the 10,000 he has to play and makes or loses with that......

I mean idk like when we first started dating he told me about how he liked it but he wasn't going playing until a couple months ago like I guess after he felt like he had me locked down? because if I knew this before I probably wouldn't wanna date him, but now I'm attached so its kinda different. but idk he seems good at it......

>>17186727
dude wtf long distance? oh cmon m8 she could have been shagging guys left and right and you wouldn't know

go find another girl. if she starts back talking too you great. if not don't worry

>>17186727


ugh well theres your problem.

at the end of your life love is gonna be more important. you don't have children and start families with your friends. sorry just people like that really bother me because theyre like oh my friends wah wah.. and maybe its because shes just ur friend and probably has a boyfriend now and doesn't care. ????? DUDE... guys and girls cannot just be friends I'm sorry. like no. you need to get guy friends and a girlfriend. stop being "friends :" with girls they just use males for attention until they get a boyfriend or if their boyfriend doesn't give them attention. I mean this is just from my perspective but a lot of my girl friends feel the same way

>>17186741

God dammit, she's my FRIEND. We are not in a relationship. She very well is probably meeting up with guys and stuff every once in a while.

also, I DON'T want to talk to other girls. I'm not expecting to ever be in a relationship with her. I know LDR doesn't work. But I don't want to talk to other girls right now.

>>17186746

That whole post makes me feel like shit. I haven't cried in probably 10 years, I don't even know. But I really feel like it right now...

>>17186351
Many of us literally do not remember.
I have a terrible memory, for example (forgot my keys in the door yesterday).
Just text or call to remind him.
>>17186585
>maybe he wants me to break up with him,
And please don't think shit like this, he'd probably be fucking horrified if he could read your mind.

>>17186585
>he disappears ALLL night and says he was sleeping.
>so I'm guessing hes sleeping, but hes been doing this a lot where he's been "sleeping" ALLL THE TIME that it just seems sketchy.
I disappeared all day today because i went to sleep at 2:00 AM and woke up at 6:00 PM. I'm a narcoleptic but it's still strange for anyone that doesn't know that yet, since i've gotten good at keeping it under control.
Don't jump to bad conclusions. Don't jump to any conclusions at all, really: reach conclusions deliberately, based on extensive evidence.

If you don't know what happened, ask him.
If you don't think he'd answer honestly, break up with him.
That's pretty much it.

>>17186752
>>17186748


okay I'm sorry. you just sound like my boyfriend. like there was this girl he talked to and he acted the same way about her and it pissed me off so much. "oh shes just my friend, wah wah wah, I really care about my friends"


like STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! shes not your girlfriend! you can say what you want but would you act like that about one of ur guy friends? would u act this way towards him if he stopped talking to u, would u buy plane tickets to see him???? LIKE U CAN SAY SHES JUST UR FRIEND BUT U SEE HER AS MORE THAN THAT and stop denying it. shes not ur girlfeidnd and ur living in a fantasy world.

I'm sorry. are you ok? it might hurt at first but youll get over it.

>>17186758
I guess so. and I did text and call him hours ago and he didn't respond. hell probably text me at like 1am and say he was sleeping. idk maybe hes saying the truth its just that I expect him to text me if he says hes gona. if hes not going to idc but don't tell me that you know?

>>17186760

..no, I'm not ok

>>17186770
okay I'm sorry I hope you get over this and just remember ur just living in a fantasy world right now like ur clinging to things that aren't even real...

ur talking to this girl lLONG DISTANCE aka ur not even talking to her and experiencing shit with her... LIKE U BARELY EVEN KNOW HER ur in LOVE with FAKE THINGS u made up and fantasize in ur head. meanwhile she probabky has another dude now and you have to move on and stop liking girls just because you cant have them, and because you are in love with someonthing you made up in ur head

>>17186748
well get some guy friends. You can't force her to respond.
it's impossible to be friends with girls you're attracted too
I have close friends who are girls but we don't like each other physically which is why it's not awkward. but you have feelings for this girl if you're getting mad she isn't responding

>>17186770
I'm saying this from experience and from seeing other people go through similar things

>>17186778
>>17186778


exactly what that guy said. if you like a girl, and she doesn't want to be with you, DO NOT BE "FRIENDS" with her.

you need to move on. the right person for you will be the right timing and will be available for you. shes not the right person for you. you aren't even doing things with her youre talking to her fucking long distance living in this fantasty world in ur head. once u realize that it will be a lot easier to get over, and youll have learned a huge lesson

>>17186596 >>17186653
Maybe she's sick. Or high. Or stoned. Or crazy. Or cheating. Or kidnapped. Or dead.
How the fuck would we know? You're her fucking boyfriend.
If you honestly have no idea, don't drive yourself nuts thinking you can somehow guess.

>>17186671
>yeah ive driven past his house once recently when this has been happening and then I realize how emotionally fucked up its making me, and what it probably did to you. like if you have to waste time in ur day to drive past someones house that's kinda ridiculous.
This is long past the point where you should have broken up. Why would you think this is ok or normal?

I don't understand why people get into relationships with people they don't trust. I thought I was a jaded weirdo with trust and intimacy issues, but you guys make me feel normal.

>>17186787
llmaooo...

truth though, like idk. I guess bc I feel like its normal and no relationship is perfect?????

like if I break up with my bf ill just have problems with someone else, right??? I'm sorry but most people are not decent

>>17186351
ITT: Underage b8 using the word like like excessively like do you know what I mean?

>>17186798
>like if I break up with my bf ill just have problems with someone else, right???
If you have bad taste in guys, yes.
>I'm sorry but most people are not decent
So only date the decent ones.

>>17186871
idk I love my boyfriend but I cant deal with the breaking promises not putting in effort like poker blah blah blah crap