Craving intimacy
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Im almost 21. Since I lost my first and only long term relationship (2 years) about 3 months ago I've felt really starved for intimacy. I really want another relationship, and I've tried, but I feel like it's kind of hopeless at this point. I've never been really good at wooing women (like I said I've only had one long term relationship) and most of the time when I try they usually just end up blowing me off, making excuses not to see me or just being really shitty in general. (Rarely do I get a straightforward, sorry I'm just not interested) to make matters worse I'm a sailor, so I'm never at home for more than a few months at a time, so I guess I can see why no one would want to get romantically involved, and the pursuit seems kind of pointless now. My family tells me it's good to have a job like this while I'm "free of attachment" but I can't help thinking how much happier I was being attached. I don't know what to do with myself I just feel lonely all the time. I would like some advice on what to do with myself if anyone has it.
Bunp
>>17186045
go find some intimacy.
>>17186642
Thanks?
why not make some friends in your work? Or just do whatever stuff that takes your mind of it. 21 is still a young age desu, you'll find one soon
And the saying (idk if its really a saying) She'll come when you least expect it. Just keep yourself busy, and if ever you do meet a girl, just act yourself. That's what I think anon
>>17186900
I have made friends and enemies but the thing about the merchant marine is that most work is 4 month contracts. I go from on ship to another so it's not like I'm developing a deep connection to any group of people.
As for waiting, I hope so. The one long term relationship I actually had just sort of...happened. but the advice I keep getting is to go looking for love. I've tried that without success, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong
when i was around looking for intimacy too, literally all of the girls rejected. So after being tired of being rejected, I decided to take a break from looking for intimate love. Spend time being a fucktard and hanging out with groups of friends and all, then like a year after, I now have the girl of my dreams.
Maybe its time for YOU to take a break for now. Take a break from looking.
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