I'm a guy. I have dated a male to female transgirl. She did not have any surgery so she still had a dick but could pass. Should I keep this a secret from women in the future? Will that turn them off? Should I pretend she didn't exist or just don't reveal that she was trans?
If she had a vagina would you reveal to other people that her vag was puffy or not? That her areolas are brown or pink?
Keep your mouth shut and keep private what is supposed to be private.
Never tell a single soul.
not even your closest friend.
describe her as a tomboy or something if you must.
remember, it's not a lie if you believe it.
What's wrong with shemales? This isn't the 50s
>>17169664
You're right, they can transfer HIV now.
>>17169639
>transgirl
>so she still had a dick
>girl
>she
>had a dick
It's a feminine male, not a female. And yes, keep a secret to any future REAL women you date.
>>17169664
>it's le 2016
>>17169639
you dated and had sex with a man
i am certain that any potential partner would want to know about any prior homosexual experiences
I think if they ask you upfront you should be honest but if they don't bring it up then its likely not a big deal to them.
I personally am not attracted to bisexual guys(I consider traps/trans relationships bi) so I usually ask upfront and am very honest about it. You wouldn't be mad at a straight guy for not wanting to date a lesbian I think its along the same lines. Sexuality is obviously very sensitive to most people so lying would really remove your potential partners choice in their own sexuality. If you respected a transgender choice and your own why wouldn't you give that same respect to someone youre trying to create a relationship with?
>>17169639
>she
>pass
1. you're gay
2. everyone knows it
3. pic related
Feel free to tell all your romantic partners so they can laugh at you
>>17170000
not op. just wondering, how come you dont like bisexual guys? i mean, i know bisexual guys that are exactly the same as straight guys but they would fuck some men.
>>17170006
>i know bisexual guys that are exactly the same as straight guys
except for the whole, being gay thing
>>17170006
I'm very pro gender roles. Bit old fashioned. I like to be feminine and I like to date men that are my counterpart with masculinity. I'm not saying that bisexual men can't be masculine or that some straight men can't be a little soft but personally the desire/act to sleep with other men kind of kills that masculine role. Not all girls feel that way of course. But it makes me uncomfortable and is an instant turn off.
Don't listen to the ill informed biggots on this thread. Unless you're attracted to guys, you're straight. She was a girl. And her status as a pre-OP is none of anyone else's concern. You don't have to pretend she didn't exist, just don't bring up her being trans unless they ask. Most women will actually admire your openmindedness instead of punishing you for it.
>>17170013
>I'm very pro gender roles. Bit old fashioned.
kekd.
I know so many girls that say shit like this, yet jump at the opportunity to scream "sexism" around guys who feel the same way.
Bitch, just admit you're a homophobe and move on.
Prolly a moot point, but I fucked a trans with big fake tits who was better looking than most women. The giant dick had to be dealt with, and the fact that she was born a he. It's easier to lie to yourself when the shemale is very pretty, but ultimately, yeah, it's a fetish, and maybe subtly different from being bi, but that's splitting hairs.
That being said, lots of guys who will bang a shemale won't touch another dude. The idea is repellent, just from the difference in looks and sexuality. But it's still in the same ballpark, and you gotta deal with that.
My suggestion? Don't talk about it unless you're planning on doing it again or still interested in the idea. Sharing your sexual history does NOT have to be that detailed. That being said, it can be a nice way to spice things up if you're a kinky motherfucker. My gf and I have had threesomes with a tranny (not the one I knew) escort who had a giant dick and beautiful tits. We've done it like 4 times in 3 years.
You gotta be comfortable in your own skin.
>>17170013
i get where you're coming from, and i thought this would be the reason, however, what you have not taken into consideration is that some of the most masculine people through out history where bisexual. for example, the Spartans would often sleep with other troops before going to war. plus, alot of bi guys are attracted to feminine gay guys that are bottoms. alexander the great, who is arguably one of the most masculine men of all time, preferred to fuck guys than women.
>>17170013
also, you do realize that such a thing as a bottom and top exist in the gay community.
>>17170019
Except I don't yell sexism and think feminists are full of shit.
Also >>17170014 no they aren't female they are transexual. A choice they made that we all have made accommodations for. If you are ashamed of being trans then don't be one. But cosmetic surgery and hormones do not give you the right to claim you are a gender you biologically are not. I find it offensive because females are different from men in many ways not just a word. Our emotions are different. Our thought processes are different. Our bodies biological changes and actual build down to our skeletons are different. You do not get to say you're a woman without having to actually go the all the challenges a biological woman does. Just like I'd never claim to know what its like to actually be a man. If you want surgery and to dress up and be transexual that's fine. I think everyone deserves a choice in their own sexuality but you're choosing to be transgender. Something we as a society have made possible and supported(even sacrificing our own rights sometimes) to give these people their own identity so they can be comfortable with themselves. We created this entire other checkbox, surgeries, medicines, therapies, support groups, civil rights, parades, festivals, clubs for transgender. Despite the fact only 0.3% of the entire worlds population is transgender. There is a point that you have to be thankful for this drastic change for many people and all the resources dedicated to it for a small small group because we all want to be decent human beings at the end of the day. Enough demands and social issues that are not even issues. What about the economy? Or education? Or refugees? Or world hunger? We can fast forward a law for unisex bathrooms but we can't get things settles on issues that are important for everyone's well being?
I'm not a homophobe because I don't want to date gay men. Just like straight men aren't homophobes for not wanting to date a homosexual. You are the bigot.
>>17169639
You dated a dude in a dress
I'd keep it to myself if I were you. Women will think you're gay
>>17170026
I did actually comment that I was not saying bisexual men cannot have masculine attributes but personally for me it kills that role in a partner. It makes me uncomfortable. If I am not forcing you to be with only straight women why would you want to remove my choice on what sexuality makes me comfortable? Isn't the whole point that we want people to have the right in their choice in sexuality? I shouldn't have to lie and sacrifice my sexuality for yours if you won't do the same.
>>17170047
im not trying to force my opinion on you, what i am trying to do is understand where you're coming from. you could meet a lovely bi guy one day who could make you really happy, i just dont understand how you think a guy who has previously slept with other guys, kills their gender roll for you. there are plenty of bi men who have sufficiently fulfilled their role in a partnership. have you ever considered that you might be insecure?
>>17170056
Are all straight people insecure because they don't want to have sex with homosexuals? Just like a lesbian naturally is attracted to female on female sex/or a gay man does not enjoy sex with a female/or some people like both sexes/ its not a choice I actively make bc I hate gays. I can't help that I'm not attracted to men of a different sexuality. I can't force myself to like them or even females anymore than a gay person can't force themselves to be straight. Its my natural preference. Its not that they aren't men or masculine its that their sexuality and mine don't match. Their attraction to other men puts them in a position where they either take over the females role or treat a man like a female in sexual activities. For me a straight man is one who only like biological females because that's what's comfortable and appealing to them. Just like I only like biological men. I don't want to picture them being fucked by a guy or fucking a guy if I am with them. You don't like heterosexual sex it feels unnatural to you well the same applies for me except with homosexual intercourse.
>>17169639
>should I keep this a secret from girls
Dude, I'd keep it a secret from yourself.
There are no chicks with dicks, only men with tits. Never forget it.
