Trust violated
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How do I deal with the fact that my partner tried to put it in my butt when I told him less than 2 hours before that I didn't want him to try anal unless he researches how to do it properly?
He didn't ask me or warn me that he was gonna do it. I told him he could rub it on the outside but I never said to put it in. He put it in and it hurt so bad. He said he "read the situation wrong" and he says he's really sorry. I forgave him but now I don't know if I can trust him since he ignores boundaries that I set beforehand. He says he wants to work it out but I'm skeptical if he will understand how hard this makes it for me to trust him.
What do I do... he is a person with good intentions but he does stupid shit like this that physically hurts me. I'm literally butthurt and want to cry.
>>17167998
Tell him he should go to a gay bar and not come back.
Or tell him if he wants to make up, he has to let you fuck him in the ass with a dildo for as long as you want. (don't use lube)
>>17167998
You're being too nice. Make him get on his knees and lick you out until you're satisfied. You deserve at least that much.
>>17167998
Dump him.
Good people don't stick a dick in someone's ass without consensus and lots of preparation.
you definitely get to do butt stuff to this guy if he wants to keep dating you. start by shoving three fingers up his ass and watch him jump through the roof.
>>17168020
I've considered it but I don't want to throw away the rest of our relationship. Its been 10 months.
I don't know how to deal with this. I want to trust him.
>>17167998
Women
>naturally higher bf
>weak
>annoying and love to complain
>harder to please
>impossible to understand
>can't take a cock without crying
>competition level weight lifters are fat as fuck
Men
>as strong as you
>naturally lower bf
>aesthetic
>understand you
>can be gym bro
>easy to please
>can take a cock without crying
>competition level lifters like Klokov are fucking aesthetic
So why did you fall for the vaginal Jew? Men are objectively superior in every way. There's literally no reason to not be gay in 2016.
The thing that's unfair here is that men have a prostate. So In a way, they're meant to be buttfucked.
> mfw bf tells me he won't let me fuck him in the ass
> begs me to let him fuck me in the ass
bitch, are you retarded?
>>17167998
1. Be happy that he thinks your butthole is that attractive
2. Don't have sex with him unless he swears he won't do it again before asking you beforehand
>>17168025
I'd say, trust him for now and if he does it again then dump him. We're all human and make mistakes. Just be clear that if it happens again, its over
>>17168025
>I've considered it but I don't want to throw away the rest of our relationship. Its been 10 months.
Sounds like you reached the end of the "honeymoon period" in the relationship and now you will see one another's true colours.
Make him apologise and make it up to you, tell him you aren't going to try anal again until (clause), if he tries again before then, dump him.
>>17167998
yeah, I'd ram my fist up his asshole if I were you OP. But barring that, I'd probably dump him. For real, this is only the tip of the metaphorical iceberg. Or cock. Whichever way you want to go. If he isn't willing to respect your boundaries here, think about what he'll do when your finances are together, raising kids together, etc. It just demonstrates a complete lack of respect.
>>17168012
>>17168024
What is with you people?
I'm a guy and I would gladly allow my wife to do butt stuff to me if it meant I could fuck her anally. She is not willing to make this exchange.
>>17168041
ya dun goofed by wifeing up a bitch before knowing if she'll let you assfuck her, dingus. Seriously, every girl I've dated that didn't let me put it up her butt got dumped. (har har)
why do people even want to do anal? that hole is for pooping...
>>17168041
What do you mean what is with us?
>>17168030
This prostate meme needs to die.
>>17168025
If I made you a milkshake and put a little itty bit of poop in it, would you drink it?
>>17167998
Yeah, he shouldn't have tried to put it in but letting him rub it is gonna tempt him.
Have you ever scraped your teeth or bitten his dick while blowing him? Most women don't even realise they're doing it, and continue even when told not to.
Not the same thing as unprepared anal pain. But don't let him go near it with his dick unless you're okay with it 'accidentally' going in.
Or.. Stick a few fingers up his ass and see how he responds.
>>17168112
I see what you're saying.
OP here. I have been talking with my partner and he agreed to work on respecting my boundaries. He seems genuinely sorry.
I've decided next time I give him head I'm going to take his load in my mouth and spray it all over his face. He has always had a huge aversion to his own cum and since he didn't warn me about the anal sex I figure this would make us even.
His reaction will determine if we keep dating or not. I think he should be able to handle a taste of his own medicine if he expects me to handle what happened.
>>17167998
Shut up relax your ass muscles and use lube. .if you can't trust him to do that and don't let him do that from time to time eventually he will get it elsewhere. . And after a few times you will get used to it.. just like loosing your virginity all over again
Go to bed nikki
>>17168921
You're great, please keep us posted.
>>17168030
Bitch gtfo.
I had a girl try an stick her finger up my ass while giving me a blowjob. I told her to cut that shit out immediately. It did not feel good in the slightest.
>>17167998
Step one for anal : LUBE, his dick, your ass, use lots
Step ZERO : Never give maybe as an answer, people regardless of gender push at uncertainty. It is not (usually) him trying to be an asshole. He likely saw a lot of porn that skipped the prep work and jumped to the action, this happens a lot. It teaches people stupid things.
He likely thought that anal was easy and that the permission to rub it was you being hesitant but willing to try an wanting him to take the initiative.
You need to clearly define whether anal is actually on the table so to speak. Then (if yes) google that shit with him. Together discuss safety, prep work and Not Being a Dumbshit (Like that time he tried to shove it in).
You and him both need to look into the proper way of doing it rather than the stupid shit he picked up off shitty porn and guy gossip.
Also >>17168921
If this is you, bad idea. Fucking with people makes problems worse, Use words to talk about how not to be stupid. Spitting his load on him will just piss him off. Not make him think.
>>17168991
If he's pissed then fine. I told him an hour beforehand that I didn't want his cock in my ass.
>>17167998
>I told him he could rub it on the outside but I never said to put it in.
>>17169002
There are LITERALLY pornos that have that exact line in it.
He will be pissed because he thinks you acting like a bitch. This will fix no problem.
There was some form of miscommunication between you and him. Spitting his load on him will not fix that.
If you want revenge more than a relationship then you are not in a good relationship.
>>17168025
>throw away the rest of our relationship.
what relationship?? he fucking violated you
if my bf did this to me he'd be out on the street with his shit and living in a motel until his parents could come pick his sorry ass up, and we've been living together for 2 years. he literally raped you, and while you might not be as angry at him because you love him, what he did was SO fucked up and he absolutely knew better. he knew what he was doing.
>>17168921
>>17168112
these
>>17168037
that is an unacceptable response. you deserve each other.
