> new guy coworker mentions he knows jiujitsu
> say it was a childhood dream
> guy coworker invites me for free one on one lessons after work hours.
Wanna say yes cos I want to learn, but with it being a contact sport and done privately,
I find the invite awkward. I also have a boyfriend who may get jealous.
Should I say yes or no? If no, how do I turn him down without making it look like I'm being presumptuous?
>>17166908
Did he know you have a boyfriend before he offered? If he did and offered anyway, I would say it's ok. Ask your boyfriend for permission, obviously.
You're a femanon? That's a really awkward thing to offer unless he's a professional instructor or someone you've known for a long time and are very comfortable with. For a practical stranger to offer an hours worth of amateur close contact sport as a way of getting to know you is inappropriate.
If you want to learn find a place that teaches it, not some random guy. And you turn him down by telling him no thanks
He knows Ive a bf. He plays this nice guy,friendly card to everyone in the office from the ceo to the janitor. But then he wouldn't hesitate throwing a kinky sex joke that can get a little uncomfortable and TMI sometimes. I'm torn between trusting this dude as an innocent nice guy or be wary cos he could be a sly sexual predator in hiding
>>17166946
If you're uncomfortable with his jokes how do you think you'll feel with him grabbing and feeling you up for an hour?
If your only goal is to learn a martial art I'm sure there are other, more professional options.
>>17166908
this is incredibly obvious come on.
This is like that one anon that complained about giving a man, who has admitted he liked her and obviously still had feelings for her, mixed signals while they "jokingly" wrestled.
Just don't do it. For fuck's sake.
Are you really this daft? Learn from someone who's actually qualified to teach, not someone who just wants to play grabass.
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>>17166958
This. The fact that you arent put off by obvious signals
>>17166946
>he wouldn't hesitate throwing a kinky sex joke
Indicates you probably are attracted to him at some level.
Are you that fucking dedicated to learning jiujitsu that you have to go over a coworkers house?
Be honest with yourself here..
>>17166908
A guy wouldn't go out of his way to invest time in a girl he didn't like. If you wanna know if he's flirting ask yourself whether he would do this for you if you were a male coworker?
Its threads like these that make me hesitate from getting a girlfriend again. The way some women are truely so naive about what is appropriate when in a relationship.
> I also have a boyfriend who may get jealous
Really? Your boyfriend might get jealous that you're rolling around on the floor with some dude you work with at his house? No fucking way???
Ok. I'll get honest. I'm male. He has a gf too but I think he might be bi.