Subject sums up my life. 18 yrs old and kissless virgin. Never had a girlfriend. Barely spoke to girls throughout school.
Feel pretty depressed because I don't know if I can ever find someone. What advice can you give me to find a girl that I can enjoy being with?
I'm overweight and have been for several years, so the crucial years where I could have been socialising with girls, I spent hiding from them ashamed of my body, but too lazy to fix it.
Now I am trying to fix it but it will still take a long time. I am 95kg and 6ft.
Also I am an asian and mostly really only talked to white girls through my life. Do i have a chance with any white girls?
You need to become confident in yourself. Getting in shape, doing well in school, and enjoying a hobby are great ways to build confidence. Women don't like men who aren't confident in themsleves.
>>17165432
Do I still even have a chance though? Most of my friends are not virgins and have had at least one girlfriend in school. I feel like I made a big mistake by wasting that chance
>>17165440
If you a really believe that you are fat and unattractive, then start getting in shape. I'm 6'3" and 190lbs. You wight 15 lbs more than I do, which isn't really that much. The fact that you are 6' puts you way ahead of other men.
Do you have any questions? Do you do well in a certain academic subject?
you're 18 you stupid fuck.
i didnt lose my virginity until i was 19. im 24 now, i rail girls left and right when im not in a relationship, and im currently dating a smoking hot amazing girl.
shut the fuck up faggot, just fix yourself and stop whining
>>17165482
*do you have any talents
>>17165483
This.
Plus fat Asian = tiny almost useless penis. So he's fighting a double handicap.
>>17165482
The only thing I was ever good at was physics. Maths I found hard to understand the concepts and teachers would not explain them because it wasted their time and they had 20 other kids to teach. Chemistry was just remembering formulae and I couldn't do that because i was lazy and had a shitty memory unless I understood something (who understands chemistry at high school level?)
Geography I enjoyed but never pursued past age 16. Bad choice, I really should have.
I'm 95kg but no muscle. It's basically all fat. Feels disgusting because Im just a tub of lard.
>>17165483
I know. I am trying to fix myself. I have a question for you though: Did you go to university?
I have no plans to go and don't really know how I will be able to find friends and a girlfriend in a work environment where hardly anyone will be my age.
>>17165440
I lost mine at 21. I didn't expect it at all. Hope is not lost. Don't go out there and desperately try to fuck everything that moves. Work on yourself: your wardrobe, your physical shape, your mental health. You'll find that you'll become a happier person, and enjoy life more, and it will be much easier to find a mate from that position.
>>17165420
First off don't date a white girl, maybe your area is better but where I am white girls are the scum of the earth
>>17165536
C a l i f o r n i a Detected?
>>17165420
I'm in your same position OP, and even though I'm at a normal weight, your chances of getting with a girl are greater than mine. Why? Because I'm only 5'3". Be grateful for your height, because when you lose weight you'll pull bitches just from that alone.
>>17165567
I'm always grateful for my height. I have a very good friend who is quite short but he is a great guy. Every time I am with him or think of him I realise that I am lucky.
For you though, I also want to tell you that it's possible for a shorter dude to be attractive as well. My friend pulls all the bitches and he is maybe 5'4
>>17165420
Come back when you are 26 KV. At 18 you still have the time to reinvent yourself and still have social immunity to being a moron.
>>17165579
Yeah, I have an asian friend who's 5'4" too, and he does get bitches, but he only gets asian girls since asian girls are like 5 feet tall.
I want a white girl tho, and most white girls are taller than me. Shit sucks, senpai.
>>17165589
Keep your head up man. I remember hearing once that 'the real estate of men increases with age'. You can probably still get a white girlfriend, even if it is a few years down the line. Work on yourself and don't stress about height because it's never going to change and there is no need to worry about unchangeable things.
Good luck mate
>>17165606
I know man, I don't feel as bad about my height as I once did, since I know that there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
I don't know if it's racist or not, but I've never been attracted to any other race other than just white. I'm latino but culture wise I'm pretty white. So maybe it's that.
Hey hey, welcome to the club! We meet every Thursday at 6:00pm at the community center. Free snacks and coffee/tea available!
Seriously though, I'm in a very similar boat. 18, overweight, kissless, tfw no gf, virgin.
Things are changing a bit for me though, I've been getting quite a bit more confident. Here's what I do:
1. Get /fit/. Honestly, /fit/ might be full of fags, but there is some really useful advice in the sticky. Working out is hard, but if you spend money on a gym membership, then maybe you'll think "Gee wizz, I don't want to have wasted all of that money. I should probably go to the gym.
2. Go to more social events. Doesn't matter what they are, if it interests you, then go do it. You'll meet a ton of new people. I completely regret not going to an event for my history class.
3.Like what >>17165432 said, find a hobby you really like, dive deeper into it, and be proud of it. Chicks dig passionate guys.
desu famerino, I'm not out of the rut yet, but maybe you'll have an easier time
>>17165420
Okay time to get you off the bitchfest train. If sympathy is what you are looking for, ignore this post. It makes no difference to me how you continue to live your life.
SO you want to find happiness, become successful with women, and no longer be a fat fuck. Great, head over to /fit/, /fa/ and /soc/. Read the fucking sticky, lurk and look for threads that interest you. Once you get a game plan going to fix those areas of your life, it all comes down to how big your ball are. Meaning the greatest planning means absolutely fuck all if you don't act upon those plans.
Start reading books, learn from people who are successful. Do Not copy them, learn what makes them successful. Just because I can say to a girl "ay bby want sum fuk" and get laid, does not mean it will ever work for you. If you have the same level of confidence as I do, you would be able to say corny shit to women and get their attention as well.
Getting fit is easy and it will build your confidence up as well. Stop eating garbage you idiot.
White girls aren't the greatest thing in the world. Dont put them on a pedestal, society already puts women on a pedestal. If you meet a girl who appreciates you, and isn't fat or ugly, you should take your chances with her.
Also quit wallowing in self pity, that shit is disgusting. IF you want to reflect, that is fine. Part of reflecting is coming up with a solution to make sure that mistake or event goes better the next time around. Meditate some, smoke some weed, quit being a depressed bitch. Yes people can sense that shit and no one wants to be around someone who is constantly sad.
Listen to the art of charm podcast. Start from the fucking beginning. It goes over basic information about socializing and dressing and even body language.
You make the decision on how you want your life to turn out. Do you want to be a slave to your past or the master of your future? Choose wisely kid, you only get one life to live.
>>17165557
>>17165536
Calicali here.
They're not scum, you just have to know how to use them. Don't treat caligirls like people, because they don't even think of themselves as such.
This does not apply to any part of the world that I know of.
>>17165420
believe it or not, the average age for losing virginity is 17.5, so you are not all that much behind the curve. So relax. It will happen when it happens.
Meanwhile you do know that all your friends who brag about their sex lives are lying, don't you?
>>17165420
Oh fuck off. Life just starts at 18. You'll find a girlfriend you dumb kid.
>>17166715
Thats...just not true
For me life ended at 18 and ive been unhappy ever since, not saying OP shouldnt try because 18 is still young but dont go telling lies to him
>>17166119
>They're not scum, you just have to know how to use them
Tell us how, please
18 might as well be a baby i'm 29 and i feel like a kid compared to many of my coworkers and friends
>>17165420
Get a grip you're only 18
>>17165420
>18
Man, there really needs to an age limit on this board of at least 23.
You're only really fucked when you are 25+.
>>17165505
How can you be good at physics but not math??
>>17166097
Thanks for the advice. I am currently in the process of becoming fitter. Once I lose some weight and look a bit more normal i'm going to start improving my clothing and look.
Do you have any books that you recommend?
>>17166821
In physics I try to learn the concepts and there is a lot of material that helps me do that. Maths is a lot harder to figure out and I can't remember formulae so easily. With physics it feels like once you understand the ideas, the formulas stick in your mind too.
I guess it prob has to do with a weak imagination, because physics you can base on the real world but a lot of maths just doesn't make normal sense to me
>>17165420
Hey faggot, you are 18. Everything barely started for you, stop acting defeated.
And by the way, why are you obsessed with grills? They do NOT determine your social status, stop worrying about them. Improve yourself and dont be such a beta pussy, who relies on others.
Pic related is you in two years of sulking and denial if u keep up with this behaviour
>>17166918
https://www.reddit.com/r/redpillbooks/comments/3rk5zk/the_red_pill_mega_book_collection_v20/
I'd start off with The Art of War, How to win friends and influence people, an 13 things mentally strong people don't do. These books should give you a better understanding of social interactions in general. You gotta crawl before you learn how to walk.
Honestly I'd say to learn how to improve your current looks. You can begin forming those good habits while you loose weight.
Also go to college and get a degree in something worth a damn. No one cares if you have a masters degree in feminist basket tapdancing studies.
I choose mechanical engineering, fuckloads of physics and math.
>>17167308
The Art of War is so overrated. Von Clausewitz's "On war" is much better imho.
>>17165440
Stop feeling like you have missed something important because you didnt had a girlfriend, kissed somebody or fuck during school. Thats the past and you cant do shit to change it.
Better focus on getting fit, studying and getting a good degree, improving your confidence and your appearance (get a cool hairstyle, cool clothes, fix your skin if its shit also)...
>>17165420
Hey its all good man, I didn't get my first girlfriend until I was 18. Better late than never
>>17165420
My friend from college was a Korean chubby dweeb who chased girls all the time, but he ended up getting married to a white girl a couple years ago.
If your weight is giving you self esteem issues, then use this summer to work on it. Be active, go running, start lifting, find a summer job doing manual labor, etc. Work on making a diet because that's the other half the battle. Try to cut soda and fast food, replacing pop with water helped so much with that it was unbelievable.
If you haven't been to college yet, use this summer time to prep yourself into becoming what you want to be. You can totally reinvent your identity and try new things. I'm not saying go to every fucking party and get blackout drunk, but again, work on being active. Try new things, club activities, leave your dorm room door open while you're around, and so on. Do your homework and don't skip class though. Study groups are great to join as well.
I know a lot of people say "work on yourself and you'll find girls", but its true in a way. When you become that fun loving Asian dude that likes to have a good time, it makes girls interested and they'll be much more receptive to you. Best wishes in the future
Keep in mind that this advice is coming from a 28 year old kissless incel. You have a decade of time before you get to my level but I promise you you'll be okay if you take my advice to heart
>>17165420
I kissed the first girl at 18. We didn't see again.
Still virgin at 19, a friend joked about paying for a prostitute and I said "ok, let's go", my friend was joking but as I was serious, so he took me to a place he knew, and lost my virginity with a prostitute.
Eventualy with 20 yo, i was in a date with a girl (i don't know exactly how it happened). We went out, kissed, but a month later she just wanted to be friends, so told her I didn't wanted to be friends and never talked to her any more.
And with 21 yo, there was a girl I was chatting for like a year, I had the confidence and asked her out and turned out we love each other and i'm 24 and still with her, living together
1-you are too young
2-boost your confidence, and a friend is a good idea, tell him to help yo talk to a girl.
3-idk if you want to be with a prostitute but having sex (even paid) will definitely boost your confidence for some time
4-at 18 I still had a lot of fears and my mind was crazy, I thing it was the last reminders of puberty, with time I noticed the fears almost disappeared and my confidence boosted, even in those things that nothing had to do with girls or relationships
5-there are a lot of girls out there, really, just keep trying
6-there is facebook, twitter, tinder, etc. use them to gain confidence talking to girls, talking to strange girls will be easier, just talk to them to gain experience and confidence so you can then talk to girl you knon in real like
7-you have a lot of time ahead, you shall never surrender, you will see in a near future saying "i can't believe i'm on a date, i don't even know how it happened"
>>17165420
My advice would be to update your wardrobe and ditch ugly jeans, sketchers, and graphic tees. The better you dress (including haircuts), the better and more confident you will feel. Trust me.
23 and kissless virgin here. I'm attractive but I have bad social anxiety around a lot of girls. A lot of attractive girls have hit on me over the years but I get so nervous that I scare them off. Wasted potential is a bitch.
But thats not the only reason I'm in my predicament. I've had some health issues the past couple years that have kept me somewhat isolated from society. So I can't even really go out and try to get better at this right now. My prognosis is decent though, I'm optimistic that I'll feel well enough in the near future to get out there and start fixing this problem in my life.
I'm seriously considering seeing a prostitute for my first time just to get the virgin stigma out of my head. Then I can just focus on improving at talking to girls without being so obsessed with losing my v-card. Sex will come naturally when I get better at talking to girls I imagine.
>>17166097
good post
>>17165420
>18 yrs old and kissless virgin.
You're young bro, don't worry about it, I was also a virgin at 18. Try to put these thoughts aside for now. Start off by focusing on improving yourself, always strive of becoming the best person you possibly can.
First off, there's nothing wrong with you, you're just like everyone else. If you don't already have one, get yourself a hobby. Something you can focus on. When there's nothing on your mind your brain will start overthinking and bad thoughts will begin to accumulate until the point where you start believing that something is fundamentally wrong with you. Your hobby should be something that improves you in someway, I believe sports and art are the greatest ones because as you practice these you constantly improve yourself. Video games, TV series, anime, etc, these are not hobbies, they're entertainment, escapism and a waste of time to be completely honest.
>I am 95kg and 6ft.
You already got some bulk there bro, good height too, all you have to do is convert your excess KG's into muscle.
If you don't want to get into fitness that's fine, just eat less crap/start switching for healthier options, start walking/biking more. It's as simple as that, but it will take some time.
When around people, have a subtle smile on your face, give off the impression that you got your shit together, be funny, be happy. If you're not then fake it until you make it.
There's more things to life than girls, once you've been with a few you'll realize that. Don't pursue them, focus on your life and when a opportunity rises, you seize it. You deserve to have someone else just as much as someone deserves to have you.
Best of luck bro, don't just read all of this and fall back into your old ways, you made this thread for a reason. Put on some chill beats and reflect on what has been said in this thread, go take a hot, nice shower, clean your room, go to bed in time tonight. You won't change overnight, slow and steady wins the race.
>>17167372
>Keep in mind that this advice is coming from a 28 year old kissless incel
i'm genuinely interested in your story. what's stopping you from getting into relationships? because apparently it's not about your lifestyle
>>17167308
I was thinking maybe instead of Uni I might try get an apprenticeship in engineering of some sort. Currently applying to one but it's a highly competed course and I don't think i'll get it, but it's worth a try.
My plan was to do an apprenticeship then join the military (not as a grunt).
>>17167324
About skin, I have on my upper arms these weird red bumps on my hair follicles. Not spots, just bumps. Looks weird. Is this a deficiency of some sort?
About hairstyle, I never really tried anything other than either short all over or short back+sides. Was too afraid that i'd look like a dumbass otherwise. Are there any good ones you know that can look good on most people?
>>17167474
Thanks for the inspirational words. My best friend told me about this 'RSD' tour - some guys on youtube who are famous for talking about how to pick up girls and other confidence things. I'm planning on visiting so maybe I will learn something there.
>>17167959
Yeah, i agree, but 1 thing that really put me down was the fact that most normal clothes just don't fit me well because of the fat. My fat is distributed really weirdly over my body, and some jeans might fit all the way up to my thighs, then the top of my thighs and ass are too fat. Shit sucks so i am forced to wear slightyl baggier clothing.
