How do I stop being so insecure about my girlfriends vibrator?
I even was the reason she got it but now I just fell insecure since I can't compete with it in terms of stimulation. Using it on her doesn't make it better either since it still isn't me that is making her cum but the vibe. I want to get over this but I'm strugglingf to do so.
use it
Tie a rubber band around your erect penis and then kill yourself. Ultimate middle finger jab to her cervix.
You'll never have a vibrating dick quit comparing yourself to a machine.
Do you feel dumb because calculators are better at math than you?
>>17163646
>calculators are better at math than you
OH MY GOD YOURE RIGHT
She can probably make herself cum faster than you can as well...but I bet you're not jealous of her abilities?
Using a vibrator is a completely different experience to actually having sex with another human being. It's an aid, not a replacement (for most women) and it's nothing you should be worrying about.
Why not trying using it on her?
>>17163640
Why don't you just try and do things the vibrator can't? Like satisfy her fetishes (If she has any...)
Just try and be romantic or some shit. That or "accidentally" break her vibrator, forcing her to have to crawl back to you and your pathetic realization that a vibrator was a better and giving your gf sexual satisfaction.
>>17163791
If my bf broke my vibrator on purpose I'd dump him because with that he's proven himself a selfiah piece of shit that doesn't care about my pleasure and my satisfaction, and I don't want a man like that. I want better. Thankfully my bf is not that sort of man and he has actual respect for myself and my property.
>>17163800
>>17163791
I forgot:
I'd also force my ex to buy me a new one or pay the money I paid for it at first, no pieve of shit gets away with damaging or destroying my property with impunity.
>>17163640
What. If you're the one using it on her, you're the one getting her off. It's just a sex toy. It's no different than handcuffs, gags, paddle etc. Would you get jealous that a paddle can sting more than your hand? Or a gun is better than you throwing something? Absolutely stupid. If you're the one controlling it, you're the one getting her off. No doubt you could get yourself off faster than she possibly ever could to porn, but that's not going to stop her enjoying getting you off, right?
>>17163806
Well if you're smart enough and avoid making it look like you broke it, then you won't need to pay.
Although damaging somebody's vibrator is still a mega dick move so I don't really advocate doing it.
>>17163813
If she or me was jacking myself while watching porn it would make no difference. I don't like using it on her
Because she has to focus a lot so she just lays there while I wait for her to cum. I feel kind of leftout. Haven't tried it during sex yet due to my issues. I understand that it's just a machine and that I'm not being logical.
>>17163692
If she had no issues doing it with her hands i would have never brought up the vibrator. I don't want to feel this way since I want her to have fun alone too.
>>17163791
We have no other issues really besides this thing and I wouldn't break her property. She isn't using it right now anyways.
>>17163640
What feels better? Getting a handjob from your gf, or giving yourself one? There's more to sex than just the specific method of stimulation. I'd rather my gf tease me and bring me to climax with a hitachi than simply use it on myself. I doubt it's that different for girls.
Or maybe it is.
>>17163800
What's your input on this?
>>17163861
Handjobs feel pretty much the same. I guess for me the orgasm is too much the focus instead of the whole thing which is why it bothers me so much. Probably low self-esteem too. I can't really tease her with it since she shuts down completely when using it because she has to focus so much. Which is another reason my feelings make no sense. It doesn't seem to make her cum significantly faster.
As I said in my previous post id never damage something she owns. Seems like a bad way to handle a relationship and doesn't solve the issue.
>>17163861
You're wrong as far as I'm concerned. i have a hitachi wand massager and I use it on myself. I don't really want anyone else to use it because giving constant feedback and instructions to my bf while I try to concentrate on reaching orgasm is too much for me, I cannot focus that way, I don't feel any pleasure at all. When I'm using it I subconsciously, immediately and instantenouslu command my hand to do the right movement move to the right spot apply the right amount of pressure soI can concentrate on my fantasies and the sensations and it's much easier for me to orgasm, I can actually orgasm if I'm doing it myself. Even the presence of another is distracting for me and can hold me back from orgasm. Plus I'm afraid not getting the immediate pain/pleasure feedback I get might hurt me on an incredibly sensitive and delicate spot such as the clitoris, so nope I'm not letting anyone with a machine near it. So when I'm with my bf I keep the hitachi away when I want some satisfaction alone by myself I whip out my trusted hitachi.
how big is your dick op? what are we working with?
also man, just go with the flow, don't think about it too much, you should fuck her with the didlo until she is about to cum, then stick your dick in there, then the last thin she felt was your dick in her before she felt that euphoric high
>>17164086
Im nearly 7 and like 5 in girth. I don't expect her to cum from penetration since the minority does but I love going down on her. Its not a dildo anyways just a smallish vibrator. My dick is too big for her according to her own words since it hurts her if I go all the way.
>>17164070
>Even the presence of another is distracting for me and can hold me back from orgasm.
Does this apply to sex too, or just masturbation? How common is this problem among women?
>>17164070
Thats how my gf is too though it's less her worrying about me hurting her but more because she needs a lot of focus to do it.
>>17163826
a dick move indeed
>>17163640
Who the fuck cares, you probably watch porn too right?
>>17164209
If your dick hurts her, you have harsher problems than the vibrator. If she likes you going down on her, great! Make sure she's returning the favor if you can't have fulfilling penetrative sex with her. The vibrator is another way for her to achieve orgasm, since she can't take your dick.
Nothing about that is an attack on your ability. It is what it is. She's a baby and can't take discomfort, and you were born with a big dick. If it causes you continued problems down the road, you will realize that you are sexually incompatible and that's something you need to think hard about later on. Sexual incompatibility kills relationships.
>>17163791
Any man can do things a vibrator can, like properly hold a woman and pull her in closer, kiss her neck, talk dirty to her, maker her wait and beg, offer her a warm dick that's hard solely because of her.
A vibrator is a one trick thing. It offers one thing a human body can't, out of the countless variables, and that's it. If someone feels like that's competition they severely sell themselves short.
>>17164209
There's stuff you can buy to tie around your dick to prevent the full length from entering. That way you can thrust away without holding back and she has no pain. I don't know what the technical name is but I'm sure if you ask in a sex store or even email a website with toys someone will know.
>>17164348
*vibrator CAN'T, obviously
>>17163640
>STOP BEING INSECURE
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START ACTING AND BEING A FUCKING MAN
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>>17164293
I understand her, I need a lot of focus too.
>>17164344
Its not to a degree where we can't have penetrative sex. It feels amazing doing that with her and she enjoys it too. Just if I do it rougher or go balls deep it hurts her sometimes. I never expected her to cum by penetration either and that's okay. Also she says she loves my dick and how it fills her up and I believe her.
The sex really is great usually so I'm not too worried about that. I'll get over this insecurity eventually since I don't want to be that kind of boyfriend and she tells me all the time I feel better. Right now I just feel really insecure about it.
>>17163640
Clearly, your girlfriend deserves better because deep down you know you can't give her what she needs.
>>17163646
>You'll never have a vibrating dick
I now have a new goal in life.
