Caught in the act.
All men masterbate. I get it.. As a matter of fact we all masterbate.
Is it so wrong as a wife to be upset when your hubs doesn't want to play with u, he rather play with himself?
Should I be offend?
Am I overthinking things and looking to much into it?
Story time; I went to the shops yesterday said goodbye to hubs and told him I would be gone for about an hour and to watch the kids. Now about 45mins before hand, before I even told him I was going to the shops he was all touchy and feely and told me he wanted to fuck me later that night. I was excited, I know he was to. He then told me he had somethings he needed to take care of phone calls, emails Etc.. So I left him to it. Anyway I was only 25 - 30mins at the shops in the end. I come home to find our bedroom door locked and the kids left outside to play, while he is playing with himself and watching porn (I think) and I can here coming out the door.
I felt let down, like maybe he didn't want to fuck me or that he found something or someone more fun. Should I of felt that?
It ended in an argument, him left feeling embarrassed and me left feeling worthless, an both left unsatisfied. To make things better he didn't even make any calls or emails...
Lmfao. You better hold onto your "hubs" because you're one stupid slut.
>>17159462
I don't know about you, but people can have more than one boner or orgasm per day, lady.
>>17159583
this, sounds like you got mad and decided not to fuck him, which ended up fucking you, so in actuality you fucked up, get the fuck over it and fuck him, the end.fuck!
>>17159583
Also, to further embellish on that premise, sometimes a guy just wants to get rid of the pressure of having a pair of full balls instead of waiting all day long to maybe have some sex where they have to work hard in order to please their hard-to-please partner (or wife in this case) and just wanted some relief. Unlike women, there's a physiological need to get off. Their hand will never berate them for not having good enough sex.
Maybe you should actually put out more and stop being so prudish.
Gotta be direct, yes you are overthinking things and looking too much into it. He was horny, he couldn't fuck you at that point, so he bust a nut while you were away. If you think that you're the only possible way for him to relieve lust, then... honestly, I think you're demanding too much. All of my relationships, we both masturbated when we couldn't have sex together, and it was perfectly normal and we never questioned each other about it. I never masturbated because I felt like my partner was worthless or because I found something more fun. Hell, I mostly masturbate thinking of my partner, even if I'm watching porn. Sometimes, it's a need and yes, it could be possible to just wait, but at the same time, why? It's not like you can't masturbate then have sex later.
>>17159462
husband and I both masturbate. sometimes together, sometimes separately. no big deal. we hug and kiss and snuggle a lot, have sex every couple weeks or so, and fap if we need to, or if one person isn't in the mood, or our schedules don't match up, or we're just too exhausted at the end of the day to put in the kind of effort we feel intercourse deserves. sex drives are complicated, they aren't always gonna match up like suspect fingerprints on CSI.
now granted, we are both pretty solitary people who lived alone for a long time and were single for long stretches. plus we both have health shit that fucks with our energy levels, so we kind of have to be forgiving about it. so maybe it's different for other people. but that's how it is for us, and we just don't make a big deal about it because we are both habitual fap monkeys.
however, if you were to ask him for sex and he said no thanks, then went off and fapped by himself, that would be a major problem. I would feel pretty rejected by that, I think anybody would.
>>17159462
Lmao. 90% of women masturbate in a relationship too. I don't see the problem. Are you a prude?
>>17159462
I'm gonna make this real simple for you OP.
If he never touches you and spends all day masturbating, then that's a problem. If you guys in general have a healthy sex life and he likes to masturbate sometimes, there is literally no problem.
Sometimes men like to masturbate, even when there is the option to have sex. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it just means he feels like having a fap.
If you make him feel bad about masturbating it will put up barriers in your sexual relationship, not remove them
If it interferes with your sex life, yeah it makes sense.
If the kids are young or got hurt because he was jacking off instead of watching them like you trusted him to, definitely (though doesn't seem to be one of your concerns).
What I wonder, is why do you say he would RATHER play with himself than play with you? You were not there, you were not an option at that time. What you're really saying is he'd rather get off than not get off. Some guys prefer jacking off before having sex, since it helps some last longer. Are you sure he wouldn't have been comfortable having sex later?
>>17159462
You seem to be assuming that he's jacking up as an alternative to having fun in the sheets with you.
I love steak. It's juicy, it's full of flavor, it's just amazing. But sometimes, I just want a boring old hot dog to eat. It doesn't mean I don't like steak anymore. Hell, it doesn't mean my appetite is gone, I'll eat steak later often. But sometimes, I just want to eat a nice cheap hot dog like the kind you get at a baseball game.
You get my point here?
>>17159639
>jacking up
God dammit, I meant jacking off. I think you still get my point though.
